Testimony – God Restores a Broken Marriage

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1. This is awesome!! This is happening to me but my husband came back and left again, I feel it must be in the Will of God to let him go. Thank you Crystal for sharing, what an awesome Glory to God to allow this to be shared. It will truly bless a marriage. And I pray that your’s is blessed and covered by the Lord. I am so blessed hearing this. I am saddened to say it is too late for mines. But I have a peace about it and I thank God for who he made me because of it. I believe God is going to bless me with a Godly man who is loving and worthy. This is exactly what he want from you to share that God can get his full Glory. Bless his Holy Name!! God bless you Crystal and your marriage!!

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   1. Good day to everyone Please believe me when I say that I am so full of hope, and my faith has mightly increased since I read Crystal testimony. I am so joyful for what God has done for you. It gives me greater hope as I await his blessing on my situation as well. My story is a little different from most of the one that I have read thus far, and I have read pleanty. For almost three years I have dated brother in Christ. We talked about marriage so often that he was sure that when he officially ask me I would say yes. Needless to say, I said that I could not go through with it. He didn’t give up, but took it to God in prayers and fasting for about two months . When he finally saw that I was still saying no he moved on (unbeknownst to me.) After much consideration I called him and told him that I was willing to go through with the marriage be of the separate prayers that God answered on our behalf before we met. It was at that time that I founded out that he is planning to marry someone he doesn’t love. I am desperately praying that God will interve before it happens since we both still love each other . He doesn’t want to back out on this other person because of his cultural upbringing. I am asking for urgent prayers to God on our behalf . Thank you all.

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      1. Carleen, I sincerely hope that this worked out in your favor as mine is pretty much the same situation. My husband and I have been divorced for almost 10 years although we’ve been dating all throughout these years. Now he wants to move on and marry someone he’s been seeing for almost 10 years, she’s in another state, he’s spent mucho dollars making trips. I am asking for intercessors in my marriage reconcillation of almost 30 yrs. for us.

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         1. Never is too late my friend. God can wake up a marriage from the dead. He can and will. But now we are in 2017 but I have seen marriage to be restored after 10 year of divorce. Adultery is a deep sin and quite often ends in divorce because the other person is not spiritually strong to pull the other out of the pit. Your marriage could be saved if you had knowledge of that God can restore a marriage after a divorce.
            Sorry.

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            1. Listen we have to forgive and let go…..Some marriage’s is destroyed by unequally yoke and we have to be equal meaning both Christian…. I’m going threw something right now and I’m praising my way threw… Read 2 Cor 6:14-18 and that’s your answer.. I don’t know who this is, but I believe God allowed me to share this with you…to help someone… My wife did something I still don’t know what it is but God delivered me from her…. We tried and tried but the holy spirit didn’t allow it to go…. I love my wife but God first… 3 1/2 years no kids thank God….

            2. hi my name is April I’ve only been married 4 months but prior to my marriage my fiance cheated on me about 6 times, 6 times that I only know about. I still married him. but GOD revealed to me time and time again, showing me he is a cheater so I have to play my part I should not have married him. Now I have literally got him on my camera at our home talking to other women and talking just as though he wasn’t married. the conversation revealed he had been with them yes them different women. he had to take a trip to Florida to see his sick mother no I have peace and time with GOD to pray and see what I come up with. I’m not accepting no calls. I need time with GOD. I’m faithful loyal and committed now my heart is torn and make sure I do want a married woman is suppose to do, but I keep allowing men to do this to me. I know myself worth but I don’t act like I know. I really want to end this but I’m scared to be alone. worrying about where is will live but why? he didn’t care about me when he was talking to them women. Such a caretaker I am and nurturing person. I’m always worried about others but do they care about me for real? when I begin dating him he lived in a trailer with no running water, a little heater to heat up the area, needed new bedding covers, needed air freshners to make area smell fresh, motorcycle need a lot of work, never dined out weekly and here comes me did it all. Now I feel used. now he apologizes and tells me ill love you until I get it right. but if he never got caught I believe it will continued. I need to be stronger. Someone who will treat me like GOD loved the church. I know we all go through that’s life, but to continuously cheat on me. I’m tired. heart broken Crushed

            3. #Naisa. Wow. I am so encouraged. God is restoring my marriage after just over 10 years of divorce. It is the most painful thing I have ever had to go through in my walk with God. However God is breaking things off of me and although my ex husband has re-married he now wants to come back home to me.

               He is seeking the Lord and realises that he is in an adulterous relationship and I am therefore trusting God as he said he will restore.

   2. Hi

      I dont know if you will ever received this or read it. But please allow me to tell you this, Please dont give up on your marriage and your husband. It is not the will of God for you to let go. Dont give up. Persevere in your prayers. This is what is calles” false start” in the restoration process . Please read up on it. Please dont give up. God has nit given up on you nor your husband nor your marriage.

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   3. @Samantha Hertel, don’t know who is supposed to get this but I see it and hope she does also. Many facts in what you said. It is not the way to go and give up! GOD doesn’t want that for a marriage and a huge chance the husband doesn’t want that for us either ! Love hard and look deep inside and know you’re Awesome and you can make anything in the world better by being there and being you and love and care that’s not too much to ask ……oh and take him fishing !

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2. My husband also left me for another woman. I stayed faithful to my husband and to God, prayed and begged God to bring my husband back. But my husband chose to harden his heart and divorce me. I fathfully believed, trusted and prayed that something good would come of this. Within a month after our divorce, I met a wonderful, christian man. We got married excatly a year after my divorce, we have two beautiful children and have been happily married for 19 years! God has blessed me with something much better because I faithfully believed and trusted Him even when my situation seemed completely hopeless.

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   1. God is good and he answers the prayers of his people. He has a plan for us sometimes it’s difficult to handle the situation but if we have faith then anything is possible.
      I got married 6 months ago straight after we got married we weren’t getting along at all. My husband did everything to hurt em, he didn’t want me to see my smiley, didn’t want me to work and was demanding me to move elsewhere with him. I did everything to try to save our marriage but two months ago it came to that point where I had to move back to my parents. I then went to his work 3 to 4 times but each time he was very harsh towards me and told me it was over. At first I thought he was just angry and will come round to it but when he called me yesterday it broke all my hopes. He told me it over for good as he doesn’t think it will work. I have been crying since yesterday as I’m very much heart broken. I don’t know what to do, whoever is reading this please pray for my husband that the lord will soften his heart. His family are involved in all this they’re doing everything to break our marriage specially his sister in law and mother. Please pray that the lord will change them and they will help him save our marriage. Thanks Zeba

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   2. @Zeba Asher, I stumbled up on this site in my grief of my husband wanting out and telling me he doesn’t love me and he should have never married me. Crystal’s story on top of all this is almost identical to mine although they were married about 8 months longer than we have been. But although we all have slightly different stories, it encouraged me to still press in to the God of the impossible, if we truly give it to him, he knows our hearts he hates that they are broken and he can do miracles. I’ve seen more than enough in my lifetime to trust him and just know that I know that I know he will come through. So I encourage you to hang on I noticed this was like over 5 years ago so hopefully you get this and God worked a miracle in your life but I wanted to encourage you. Please pray for God to invoke that miracle very very soon. It hurts so much I know what everybody on here is going through. Be blessed and thank you for sharing.

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3. I appreciate this article and true life experience, for I have just experienced the same thing in my marriage, thinking and living life in my own bubble believing that our life was perfect. I am a Navy spouse and have all to often heard of the infidelities that occur in the marriages, but thought not mine, we are good and I am so thankful for a husband who is strong in the faith of us.

   Faith in us, that is where I messed up. My faith was misplaced and was proven by his infidelity. I too was crushed and hurt like no other and felt as if the world as I knew just ended, but by the grace of God and his lessons on sufficiency of Him and not man and forgiveness, our marriage is restored once again. He is deployed right now and I still haven’t been able to see him since this has happened, but I know that by my faith in God and prayer in the Holy Spirit we will stay strong, that seed alone has cleared away a rocky path and moved mountains for us to continue our journey together in our faith and love for Him and for life altogether and I hope and pray that oneday that this lesson I learned I may be able to help others get through, the same as I did. I will share to you my letter I posted to other sites that I felt needed to be shared.

   Soul Redemption

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   I was just writing a letter to my husband to share what I declare as my short list, a.k.a. bucket list, and well on that list wasn’t much. It wasn’t a list of skydiving or bungi jumping, just a few things that meant more to me then an adrenaline rush and they made me think. I sent it to him and he only responded to me by saying that those are good goals. While my goals is another story, this made me think a little deeper. Are these goals? Or should they just be a way of life? I like to believe that they should be a way of life and that my goals should only be a branch of the vine, if you will. So in the midst of my writing, I went back to this, this that you are about to read was in the middle of my thoughts. I then also realized that this isn’t just a letter to my husband, that it seems to be a written letter to God, or even a letter to anyone who is lost. After reading this to myself I felt so compelled to share this with everyone. So here it is.

   With the thoughts of a short list I have decided that I want to be able to use my skills oneday to help people. Not to be made or make it rich for my own selfish and greedy reasons. This I believe is a recipe for poison. I want to make a real difference in my daughter’s life. Set a real example. I want to leave her with a legacy, not a memory that led to misery or destruction of ones life or soul. I want her to know that there is a reason for our life. I just want so badly to be a good person. I don’t have a life right now that I can honestly say was all good and if weighed, the bad might tip the scales more. That thought leads me to more questions and how exactly will I weigh out.

   If I was to die tomorrow, how would people percieve me? Who’s life have I impacted? Was it a good or bad impact? Did I make a difference? Did I live a good life? The answer is no. Maybe a smidge, but not the way that I wanted to when I was younger and expected to live later in life. I am thankful that now, I ask these questions with good intentions and not while I am on my death bed, but my life in the last few years almost a decade has just passed me by. It is unfortunate that you met me when you did and not while I was on my way to doing good things, only showing you the bad and modestly giving you my good, but I let tradgedy get the best of me and beat me to the ground. Unfortunately this is the only side of me that you know. Yet you stuck around. I let this all wither away my soul until there was just a tiny morsel of hope left. I feel that (my soul) is getting stronger again and that good will come out of all of this. I do believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it shines brighter and brighter on me everyday. Time, same as death, is our enemy and I only wish now that I didn’t waste away so much of it.

   To be more exact, since I was fourteen I have done bad things. Things that are not holy, things that were against man’s laws and God’s laws. I did these things most of the time with a good heart, good intentions barried beneath the bad ones and there were many times that I let the bad intentions rule my heart. Maybe on the scales, the good will tilt more then the bad, only because I do have a good heart, but it wouldn’t be by very much since afterall, I am only thirty-six years old. I mean, do the math man. I spent more then half of my life spiralling out of control. Yet still the bad is what stands out to people. The perceptions of people are more of the ugly then the beauty it seems. I will admit that when all you see is ugliness it does make it hard to get passed that and to see the beauty of one’s soul.

   That was life before I truely gave myself to Christ. I once gave my life to him, but that was automatic since I was a child born from God and I saw the beauty in everything. Somewhere along the lines of life, that all disappeared. A lost little sheep amongst the wolves. Where in darkness ugliness is the face of everyone and everything. Life in Christ I see the beauty in everyone and everything. Like a nice soft-lit candle light, that gives the perfect hugh to show no flaws, to only hightlight the beauty of us all.

   If I were to use the scale or a moral compass such as the 10 Commandments, well I have failed miserably. I have broken each one of those multiple times. Every single one of them. How aweful is that? I mean now as I get older I realize that those things are bad and I try not to do bad things now. I am more aware of the ramifications of it all and… well it just doesn’t make me feel good as a person to do any of those things now. I know in the end we will all be judged on those simple little rules, but I am thankful that God is a gracious and mercyful God. That since the birth of Jesus who died for our sins bares the burden of it all. What a Great and Wonderful sacrifice that was and is. How one could even be so faithful and honorable to do that for the whole entire human race is beyond me. I only wish in my most imaginable dreams that I could ever be so holy.

   I am thankful to be reborn again. To be able to recieve the most amazing gift of everlasting life in Heaven with the LORD JESUS CHRIST. If it wasn’t for Him, I wouldn’t be able to live with myself or anyone else for that matter. For the burdens have become much to great for me to carry. I praise God for making me see now and for taking that weight off of my shoulders so that I may enjoy the fruits of the garden here on earth. For giving me the preview of what is to come in the everlasting, eternal life of heaven.

   Now, with all this said my life in Jesus is perfect and all is good, however the complications of life have a tendancy to still pull out the puches. One must still deflect and duck and gaurd oneslef to not absorb those jabs and blows. My weapon is my faith. My protection is the Love of Christ and this will get me through life unscaved. Believing is easy, but to be holy always seems to be more difficult, when it is really just that simple to do. You see for me it is always harder to be nice to the ones that love me most. I can be a real jerk at times, I can be… well for sake of a better way of saying this, just unpleasant to be around. I do this not to be intentionally mean, but because I have always felt a need of control. This is definately poisonous to the soul, because all this just leads to hate, regret, self endulgance, bitterness, a sense of entitlement, and the end result of that is only disappointment, disrespect of myself and others. It only is a blue print of utter failure. It pulls the curtain back of the proclaimed strong and to only reveal the weaknesses, which makes the control freak, such as myself to be even more angry, and then it all starts over again to lead to more vengeful feelings and another vicious cycle. A very, very dark road that never seems to end. Of course though it seems that it doesn’t have to be that way. There again like I said before, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Praise Jesus for that.

   Love. That is it. Love. Love is a natural feeling that isn’t taught. It was within us from the beginning. Now if you are a hateful person that only happened later in life. Not from birth and because of that we may need to relearn how to love again, but it definately was instilled in our hearts and souls from the beginning. After all we were created by a loving God. With Love you can forgive, trust, honor, be faithful, be loyal, be kind, to be giving, to be caring, to be sharing, to be humble and to remember that we are not strong. That we are weak individuals and need to rely on the strength of the Lord to carry us through life’s trials and tribulations.

   To say that we can handle it all, that we are in charge, isn’t really up to us. That we were created by God and for all things would not be, without God. Therefor, God is in charge and we must always give glory to HIM. That means the good and the bad. It must all go to HIM, as if it is a good will of our soul. To ask for forgiveness when we sin, repent and forget and to move on as to not remind HIM of our sins. To praise HIM always and forever no matter what. With Love you will always be empowered, you will always have that glimmer of Hope, and you will keep yourself in good Faith and this is what makes me Believe in HIM. See miracles do happen. Now I am not thinking about all of this to glorify myself or to put myself up on a pedestal, Lord knows that in man’s eyes I am not perfect. I am just glad and relieved to know that somewhere and somehow I am perfect to HIM.

   I love you God! Thank you for all that you do for me and for my family. Hallelujuah!

   and Thank you Josh, for helping me to reach a level in my faith that I probably wouldn’t of been able to do by myself since I overlook myself alot, by shaking up my world and forcing me to really look inside myself as a Christian. I love you.

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4. This is AWSOME ! I have a similar story! Me and my husband were married 6 years. Things were really tuff. We had 3 children within 4.5 years. We had been stationed over seas. No family no help and the stress and the list goes on an on of what all happened! Long story short we divorced after 6 years of marriage. I was 23 with three little children and married a man I really did not know. I ended up being in an abusive marriage for 17 years. My husband had 17 years of one bad relationship after another. There is just to much to tell all that happened within those 17 years! It was hell on earth for the both of us. My husband and I never did discuss why we had ever divorced but we just did. We didn’t have anyone on our side. After 18 years a part God restored our family and we are a family again! NEVER give up! We had no idea that we even cared about each other! The way GOD joined us back together is to long to write but is a miracle! God knew where we were supposed to be and HE put us there! What God has Put together NO ONE can separate . We may get off of Gods path in life but I feel so much comfort in knowing He gets us back on the right path! He is worthy to be Praised!!!!

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5. This was beautiful! I am not married, but I live with my parents, and while they believe, they have not until now to my knowledge accept Jesus Christ. They used to fight a lot, now not so much (other then normal couple bickering). But like Crystal I have ask God to please intervene, and what He joined, that nothing or no one, only be it by His will be separated. I remember once in August 2011, they went out to dance, and I stay a bit of the night praying for them , that there be no fights. When I fell asleep, I was woken up by a small voice telling me that it had tried but there were not fill by the spirit. Five minutes after I was awaken, I heard their car park in the entrance, and they came out fighting. I only know that I can only keep praying for their salvation and showing by my actions Jesus light. And that has been very difficult, because as a daughter, I must submit to their will and obey. Not easy when you are 24.
   I do however have a question, how do people know they are call to be prophets or apostle?

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   1. Dear Sendy,
      I believe we are all called to be missionaries, especially ‘in our own backyards’..a.k.a. in our homes, with family & those who we are around. We don’t have to go to Africa to be leaders of the Christ you plead to..You see, friend, we all either help those watching us..or we hinder those watching us. I went through the very same situation as you- with parents who did not have Jesus living & reigning in their hearts. Yet, I also fought the battle to be submissive. God miraculously changed my life & heart as an older teen. Whether God calls you to be an Apostle or something similar, I can promise you this: just remain open to anything and everything God wants to make of you. He gave us each the perfect guide Book..The Bible. This blessed Book has every answer for life’s questions. God’s Spirit is so faithful. He will continue to help you & show you what He wants you to be. He knows where & who we will impact in life..and while many of the Children of Christ may have different experiences & some different beliefs, God will be continually faithful to you..in His promises & in His leading. Ask God to give you a promise for each of your parents. Underline it; date it..& ea. time satan discourages you, go back to those promises. God promised me He would break through to my father’s heart..in 1997. I realize that’s a looonnnnggg time ago 😉 But I want you to know, my father gave his heart to Jesus 3 yrs ago & God has & is still helping him. Sometimes God works faster than that. Pls don’t be discouraged! Just know you can take your burdens to the throne of God & lay them at His feet. He never has failed yet! Oh, we are humans & so full of failure..but with the grace of our Lord, we can be exactly what He wants us to be.
      Keep shining for Him!
      Ur Sister in Christ, living fully abandoned to His will, His grace & His wonderful love!

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6. God is so good. I also had similar experience. My husband left me when we had been married for 9 years, with 2 little sons. He was involved in drug addicts and left us for 6 years. During those miserable years, he had affairs with so many women. Then I surrendered myself to Jesus. Praise Jesus who never leaves me for a single second. He has restored our marriage and now we are involved in church services. My husband devotes most of his time in the church activities. God is so real in our life. He saves us! Haleluya! God bless you all.

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   1. Hi Shannon, my husband left me and my 16 year old son too..about 6 months ago on our anniversary.. I have cried tears of blood..and have prayed to God daily..all day long..but I stlll do not see any remorse from him..He only blames me for his own actions..I still love him very much..but he has also told me otherwise..I continue to pray.but I do believe he is with someone else…and used excuses to leave me. I’m aware that Satan is out destroying families.but I also beieve he only has as much power as you give him..and at this point..I see my husband…allowing him to dictate to him..I am leaving this up to God..but..I am not as hopeful as I would like to be..and ad I feel destroyed inside…hope you fare better…

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      1. Hello, I need prayer my husband and I have been married for 19 years and I love him so much and on our 19th Anniversary he asked me for a divorce that was 3months ago, we separated and he been gone almost 3 months supposed to be coming home at the end of the month but he said to me Saturday that he wants a divorce, I was so hurt he came over Saturday night and I still submit to my husband. On yesterday he said that he loves me and I’m a good wife but he said that he need sometime to think about what decision that he’s going to make by the end of the month. I ask for you to please pray for me and my marriage. In JESUS NAME. Today he told me that he’s filing for divorce Thank you

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      2. Marta , I true believe that God can and Will restore your marriage if you work with God. When we work without God the husband or wife will leave again. You must trust the Lord with all your heart and do not doubt. I am separated since January and if you knew my husband you would say no chance. My husband is an unbeliever almost an atheist and friend with the world. And then came the adulterous woman to his life and he was seduced and enticed. A husband in adultery is in deep sin. He is spiritual dead and need the other spouse, strong in faith to pull him out of the pit. Remember that he is not himself anymore. With all prayer and petition you can have your marriage restored. It is a very narrow road and you must trust the Lord and have Jesus as your heavenly husband. You must surrender all to God. You must have a relationship with the Lord and change yourself first. We think we are the victim but we are not. After God change you He will start to change your husband and turn his heart back to you. It is a spiritual war. Family is the most important institution to God and the enemy the devil wants to destroy all marriages. God hates divorce. The bible says what God joined let no man separate. Also “For with God nothing shall be impossible.” That means nothing. Have faith, work with God and you will have a restored marriage. If you want your marriage restored do not go to a singles group or to a counselor . We need to be home with the Lord and have the Lord as your counselor. God bless you.

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         1. Praise God. He showed me Crystal testimony and your valued comment as well as others’. You’re such a blessing. Thank you.
            This applies to my situation.
            I’ll read your advice and pray without ceasing from now on.

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         2. You are so right. God is Love. I have been struggling since December 2016, when my husband left me after over 35 years of marriage. He moved in with a woman 25 years younger than him. We had a wonderful marriage, so I thought, but he changed. I have been praying and seeking ever since. I must keep praying, even harder, without doubt, and I know we will be back together. Divorce is in the works though and I am lost. But the devil will not win. I must be patient… blessings to all

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7. Hi….I’m Crystal and the above is my testimony……

   I cannot begin to tell you guys how much it means to me to hear so many positive responses…..I’m blessed and honored but the real honor goes to God Almighty because without him this would have had an entirely different ending:)
   Every day I wake up I give God thanks and praise for what he has done in an thru me….sometimes I cant find words to express my gratitude to him for remembering me in my helpless state and seeing it fit to have mercy on me.

   Michelle….hun….your words have touched and blessed me to the core and I receive that blessing from you in the name of Jesus:)…..I want you to know it is never ever too late….I dont want you to say that…..remember NOTHING and I mean NOTHING is too hard for God to do…..we are never so far gone as in that the Father can not see us and guide us back…..if you still want your marriage….if there is even a small tiny part of you that would want to be reunited with your husband, hun you just give it to God and he can multiply even the most minute feeling….You can’t do it but he can:)….My darling be blessed and encourage:)

   Elizabeth…..I am sooo happy for you…..you’ve proven that even in the mist of a mess…even when you cant imagine what good could possibly come….God is right there turning things around for our good….amen…what the devil meant for evil…God..hmmmm…..but GOD…..keep in your faith my dearest and stay blessed:)

   Jessica…..Praise God from whom all blessings flow…..Indeed he has come thru for you…..dont worry about the distance….there is no distance too far that prayer cannot reach….you are where you are but remember that your Father is EVERY WHERE…..where you eyes can not see his can….wrap your husband up in prayer…..ask God to continue to watch over him and keep him safe…ask him to guard even his very thoughs and rebuke any spirit of adultry,deceit,lust,mis trust,and such like off your marriage….Its is not the will of God that your marriage should suffer and go down the drain…..Keep at those goals….you have even inspired me to strive for excellence and accomplish something worth while in this life so that when I meet my maker…I would hear…well done good and faithfull servant:)

   Martette…This is beyond awesome!!!……after alllll those years…..My God…..see we plan but it is the will of God that prevails….God was able to reunite you guys even when I’m sure none of you even had a clue as to what would’ve happen:)….he is still in the business of making miracles….praise God for you two…pray to God daily for your marriage….Invite God to be head of your marriage…everyday….place it into his hand and ask his guidance…yours is a classic example of destiny postponed but not cancelled….be blessed my dearest:)

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   1. Hi Crystal,

      Your testimony is powerful and has just strengthen me. Going through the same, had an affair left the woman was separated for 5 months, prayed to God and my marriage got restored for about 4 weeks. Now she has changed her mind but am not giving up. I love my wife and our 2 girls. She want to be with OM who just wants to destroy my marriage. He is divorced and must not be born again. I have giving my life to Christ and wont let go but keep praying. I would like anyone to stand in agreement for me. My family is my life. The devil cant take my joy away. Work is so hard to focus but i trust God who did it before will do it again.

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   2. Hi Crystal

      I had similar experience too. I got married in 2012. My hubby left in 2014 for like a month but that one month was like eternity cz my hubby was a definition of perfection to a larger extent . Everyone could tell we luv each other. He spoiled me silly even though we had financial challenges and we were waiting on God for fruit of the womb. I called my pastor and we prayed violently. He came back after a month. I thought that was the end. The devil struck again in 2015 April and this time around I felt my world crumbling. He packed all of his clothes and told me to move on that he wasn’t coming back again. I wept bitterly. I would go to the bathroom at work and weep. I couldn’t tell any of my friends cz they wanted my kind of hubby/marriage. I took a break off from work to speak with God in prayers. Went for deliverance and during the program I received prophecies of him coming back and also that I was going to meet someone else that would luv me more than him. If he doesn’t come back in time, I would be taken by that person. I began searching every marriage site and praying seriously for restoration. I told God I don’t want any other man but my hubby. I was told a woman was involved. I started praying against strange woman also. I thought God wasn’t listening cz it’s was taking longer than I expected. I met two guys that wanted me desperately but I told God that I want my hubby not a new man. I was so lonely cz I had not conceived still. After 5 months he came back fully. The day he moved back, he still told me in the morning that I should move on but my God intervened by evening. It was indeed a miracle. Those months were the worst period of my life cz it got to a point I felt like leaving this world. My family made it worst by their constant calls. I kept reminding God that I asked him in prayers before marrying my hubby and he told me to go ahead so he has to do something. Still waiting for the fruit of the womb.

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   3. Crystal,
      Words can not express right now how your testimony has changed my life. Like you and your husband my husband and I had an argument 5 weeks ago and my husband went out the door and said he was not returning. Our communication has been almost nonexistent. He told me the same words that your husband did, he also said he wanted divorced. I believe he is having an affair with his business partner.
      I have been in nonstop prayer for my husband and our marriage, I have seeked guidance from my Pastors, and Elders. But by Gods grace I ran across your testimony today and where I was getting weary I now know God can do the impossible. Please agree in prayer with me as I want my marriage.

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8. Does anyone out there have any advice or scripture that helps when your husband has decided that he has decided to become of a different religion. I can’t find or don’t know where in the bible to look. Yes I have prayed to god about this, I was lead to Romans 14, maybe I just don’t understand what it is saying?

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   1. 1st Corinthians 7

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9. Ruby.

   I’m guessing what Crystal meant by “Hedges of Thorns” was this. Roses have thorns as a defense. Even though it is a beautiful thing we dont want to pick it because we will get hurt by the thorns. The first thing that came to my mind was, her marriage is a beautiful and sacred thing and praying a hedge of thorns around her husband was like keeping him protected from having anyone else taking what was given to her by our Heavenly Father.

   Well I hope that helps and I hope thats what Crystal meant. Be blessed. =)

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10. “hedge of thorns” is from the book of Hosea and is a prayer that was prayed for an unfaithful partner. It’s an awesome verse and should be prayed over a cheating spouse. God wants us to speak His word over our situations, and it’s also the number one line of defense against the devil. The bible has quite a few verses on marriage and unfaithfulness.

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11. Ruby….Hun I’m so sorry to repond so late….I just saw this:)…

    What Bobbie said is exactly correct…..here in Barbados we have ppl that line the top of their fences with brokken bottles….some grow thick hedges of thorns around their property….the reasoning behind this is that it acts as a very real deterent for anyone who would dare try to trespass on their property……
    When I prayed the thorns around my husband…I was invisioning an actuall thorn fence around him in the spiritual…..for me I was asking God to honor my prayer and set up a barrier around him so fiercely woven that no one would even dare try to touch him…..that demons themselves would even shudder at what they would have to go through and endure in order to get to him…..That any woman /man/inlaw/friend it doesnt matter who …..that would even try to breach that protective covering and seek to cause harm to my marriage would be extremly sorry they even bothered to try…..

    Ruby….dont give up…..at times my dear…we feel as thought we dont have the slightest bit of energy left to fight….expecially if we are being met by all types of negativity and shoot downs from our partner or who ever…but be sure that even when we can see nothing with our naked eye…God is already beginning to stir some stuff up in the spiritual…..

    Last Thursday God gave me a word even as I was lying in my bed and now I’m going to pass it in on to you and it’s this…

    Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not onto your own understanding…in ALL your ways acknowledge him and he WILL direct your path:)

    My friend you are loved….trust God…..Do not give up……Be encouraged

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    1. Hi crystal.

       I am a guy married for almost two years now and my wife walked out in me a few weeks ago our anniversary is coming up on the 5th of June I am just asking you guys to just seriously join me in prayer to tear down the strong holds of the devil. We met with a counselor last week and even though the session started out rocky she gave out to the counselor that she needs prayers ambecause the devil is trying to build a wall against me in her and she doesn’t like it and needs help. I know she loves me and I love her with all my heart . And I want my wife to come back home. She is staying at her sisters house but I’m not comfortable with her there. I have tried speaking to her praying with her but her hard is hardening against me. Please help me pray to break this wall down . The devil has been trying at us even before we got married and I know this is him at work . I have done some stupid things and we argued and had lots of fights but I really don’t think this is anything to separate over . I need my wife .

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12. Here’s the prayer for “Hedge of Thorns” I’ve been using (more posts to come later today)…

    Prerequisites:

    1. Salvation – This prayer can be used only by a Christian.

    2. Victory over sin – God warns that if there is sin in our hearts, He will not hear us.

    3. A clear conscience – First ask God and your family for forgiveness from the blame and hurts of your past failures.

    4. Pure motivation – The motivation for this prayer is primarily for the repentance and surrender of the person to God, then their spouse, for the salvation of their soul, marriage, and family (not punishment).

    5. Daily – The prayer MUST be done daily at a minimum.

    6. Do not rescue – The Bible says “we are not to rescue” until the mission is accomplished.

    7. Violence – These prayers are to be done violently with aggressive faith out of compassion for the lost.

    This last point is very important!

    Imagine someone evil torturing your child right in front of you before intending to kill them, holding you tied up in ropes so you’re powerless to help them.

    How would you react? Would you talk quietly or yell? Would you have compassion when you talk or would have aggressive violence? Would you approach the situation like a wimp, or would you give it your all like you were in the middle of a battlefield fighting for your child’s life with everything you got?

    That is how you must approach this – you have the authority as your spouse’s covenant partner, just like you have the authority over your child as their parent. You must stir yourself up as a mighty man/woman of war, just like the battle verse on this site says to remind God of the same thing for Himself. Think your spouse’s life isn’t in danger of being killed? Read the article on this site about losing your salvation.

    This is the boldness He wants us to have as His soldiers! Direct your aggressive violence in prayer against the enemy (the devil), not your spouse.

    This is NOT for the faint of heart!

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    1. Great prayer. Ive prayed it 7x in 2 days about to pray it again. Praise God my wife texted that she loves me a few minutes ago.You guys are all inspirational and i stand in the gap for all of you and proclaim victory by Jesus shed blood

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       1. Which prayer did you pray I can’t find it

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13. Hedge of Thorns

    Father,

    In the name of Jesus Christ and with the full power, anointing, and authority as my spouse, (name’s), husband/wife, I come before You to pray for a Hedge of Thorns around (spouse) and our marriage.

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that (spouse) will become confused, lose perspective, and that (spouse) will not find peace until he/she returns and surrenders him/herself to You, almighty God. Let the angels of God arise and block (spouse’s) path with thorns until he/she runs back to the Saviour in the Name and Blood of Jesus Christ. Ordain terrifying noises against all evil collaborators confusing (spouse) by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Your word says “Therefore I will block (spouse’s) path with thornbushes; I will wall (him/her) in so that (he/she) cannot find (his/her) way.” (Hosea 2:6 NIV)

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that others who might be looking for a relationship or already are in a relationship with (spouse) will lose interest immediately. I command the ways of all friends and relatives confusing (spouse) against Your Word to become dark and slippery by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Father, build a wall of hindrance around (spouse) so that he/she will be unable to carry out any ungodly activity by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Your word says “(spouse) will chase after (his/her) lovers but (he/she) will not catch them; (spouse) will look for them but (he/she) will not find them.” (Hosea 2:7a NIV)

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that You, Father, show (spouse) signs and wonders of Your desire for him/her to stay in our marriage. Let every moment he/she spends, awake or asleep, be flooded with visions and dreams that would lead to the resurrection of his/her marriage by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Let every evil anti-marriage linkage with our parents be dashed to pieces by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Lord, in the Name and by the Blood of Jesus Christ, renew (spouse’s) mind and give him/her a new heart by the Holy Spirit. By the Blood of Jesus I command our marriage to come alive. Let all satanic forces contributing to killing our marriage be paralyzed, by the Blood of Jesus. Let all the glory and virtues stolen from our marriage be restored seven-fold, by the Blood of Jesus. Every curse issued against our marriage or against our marital life, be broken, by the Blood of Jesus. Any power which says that we will not enjoy marital life, be roasted, by the Blood of Jesus. Thank you Lord for Your resurrection power working in our marriage and family right now, in the Name of Jesus.

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that (spouse’s) troubles will increase as You, almighty God, encourage him/her to return to our covenant marriage . Let all the good things that (spouse) is enjoying, thereby hardening his/her heart to the truth, be withdrawn by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Lord, walk back into every second of our marital life and heal all the wounds created by the enemy by the Blood of Jesus Christ. According to Your word, (spouse) will say, “I will go back to my (wife/husband) as at first, for then I was better off than now.” (Hosea 2:7b NIV)

    Heavenly Father, I ask You in the Name and through the Blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, to rebuke and bind satan, his minions, and hindering spirits on assignment against (spouse), the rebuilding of out marriage, and against our family. I ask you to build a “hedge of thorns” around (spouse), so that nothing but the power and truth of Your Holy Spirit can enter. I pray that through this hedge of thorns, any other possible or potential lover will lose interest and depart running away and not be found or sought after. I pray that any potential lover suddenly become ugly and disgusting in (spouse’s) sight as all sin is ugly and disgusting in Your sight – and that none will compare to the beauty of his/her covenant wife/husband, as Your Bride the Church is to You.

    I base this prayer on Your Word which says:
    “For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce & marital separation and him who covers his garment with violence.” (Malachi 2:16 AMP); “but if {they} do divorce, let {them}…..be reconciled…” (1Cor7:10-11 AMP); and live in accordance with Ephesians 5:21-33, one in flesh and one with Christ for we are His body, the Church, and His Bride; because we were created as “…one flesh” in the beginning. (Genesis 2:24); for You command that “what God has joined together, let man not separate, put asunder or divide.” (Matthew 19:6 NIV).

    I stand upon the promises and precepts of Your Word as it is written that the Father may be glorified in and through the Son. In the Name of and by the Blood of Jesus Christ I ask this in faith believing.

    Thank you Father, Jesus Christ, and Holy Spirit.

    Amen!

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    1. I have just prayed this prayer for my husband who left me 3 months ago. I thought he was a christian when we married but sadly he isn’t. I want to fight for him to come home and for his soul. I was wondering is it ok to pray this prayer over him? Thanks sarah

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    2. Thank you for this powerful prayer, I have faith this will work in my broken marriage.

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       1. Jane this is a poweful prayer ive prayed it about 20x in the last 10 days. Im standing in the gap for you and everyone else on here.I praise and thank God for His testimonys through many people on here and proclaim victory for all by the blood of Jesus our lord and savior.

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    3. AWESOME! I just prayed this prayer for my wife of 32 years who has hardened her heart towards me and left. I am still standing for our marriage, while she seems to be out partying and enjoying life. I’m praying for a hedge of thorns around her. We have 5 children. Please pray for our family.

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    4. Oh my goodness…I was so meant to find this prayer!! My unbelieving spouse left me a month ago and I have been praying for him to realize his need for Jesus, I believe and have faith God willbring my husband home!! I will be saying this prayer three times a day!! Thank you thank you!!

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       1. I will include your situation in my prayers for my marriage. Never give up, always submit to the holy spirit and if God is telling you not to give up, trust that. It means he’s got a plan, and his plans do not fail!!!

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    5. I Praying this over and over again, I’m Paying for all of You too, My Heart is very Heavy, I’m in need of Council and EnCouragement, My Husband of 33 yrs left 4 mos ago, Says he still Loves me, But we just can’t live together, He was doing a on line Bible study and met a Women who made him feel Loved AND Supported, Being I had eight kids by Cecerin Sections and I quess I was a not a caring loving wife. That was seven years ago, He said he was planning on leaving me then, But I had a Anerizm, and felt he needed to give our marriage another chance, Broke off his online Affair, But think his pipe dream of her stayed, After I threaten to leave him 5 mos ago, He Snapped and called the Women again, He s never seen her or even knows for sure what she looks like, He thinks that since she’s still not married, God must have Blessed her to HIM, He wasn’t Happy with me, But says over and over again that he Loves me, He Will always Love me, But we just can’t live together we don’t get along, Never really had a chance, Got Pregnant on our Honeymoon and baby after baby, Didn’t really have a chance to know my Husband and now I think he’s leaving me, He’s not talking to the Women anymore, Told me it tore HIM up to see me being tortured over him talking to her, So he stopped. All his stuff is at the house, He’s in a travel trailer on his Construction site, He said he wanted to be friends, But just seems to avoid me, I can see he’s still physically attracted to me and don’t want me to get close Than he starts getting emotional and crying, about how this is the hardest thing he’s going through and he Loves me, The Children are Hurt they think he’s going through a midlife crisis, because he’s making no sense, Please need some Help, I’m trying to hand this to Jesus, I feel good one day, But the next day I feel threatened and Great Fear come in MY Soul, Please could Y’all Pray for me and send some Helpful Advise my way, God Bless

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14. Dan,

    What you said was very important – it’s not that she doesn’t want to reconcile, it’s that her guilt is making her feel unworthy of reconciliation.

    Read the book of Hosea and in it are the steps for equipping you to help her forgive herself. If you can show her God’s unconditional love and forgiveness through you, and constantly reassure her she is completely forgiven, I think she will accept it and reconcile.

    One thing I would advise… once she reconciles, never ever bring it up again – ever! Otherwise, she may feel like she was never truly forgiven.

    I am praying for you and hope others who have posted will form a prayer circle for each other in this group too. I know when you’re going through your storm, the last thing you feel you have energy to do is lift someone else up. It’s hard enough to pray for yourself, but when you sow seeds into someone else’s marriage, perhaps God will create a harvest in your own as well.

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15. Dan…my dearest…even as I read your post I immediately stopped and lift you up before God…you and your wife….I dont have to imagine how how you feel because I know that pain only too well first hand….my friend DO NOT GIVE UP….turn the entire situation over to God…..I know that is easier said than done but believe that he knows your wife way better than you and he alone knows what it will take to turn this situation around….

    There is NOTHING ….NOTHING that is too difficult for hime to do…..ABSOLUTELY NOTHING….I cannot stress that enough…..he did it for me and he will do it for you too…..he is a just and fair God and what he did for others he can and will certainly do for you:)

    Look at me…..how do you get some one to love you again when the person said I never loved you to begin with eh!!!….and your situation isnt that…..it is that your wife can not forgive herself for what she did…..she is so turned off and so disgusted with herself that prehaps she thinks that you see her in that light or that you will eventually see her in that light…..

    Reassure her of your love but still…DO NOT BE A CONSTANT NAG…..let go and let God…..Sometimes we get caught up thinking that telling the person we love them constantly is the best thing to do……dont get me wrong…it is important that they know we love them and we are going to be here for them and it is our desire that our marriage will work and bring honor and glory to God….BUT…..we dont want our words to just sound empty and monotonous(spelling)..

    What I want you to do is pray the word of God over her…..declare God’s promises for your marriage …..pray a hedge of thorns around her and against any third party influence…..tomorrow is Valentines day…i dont know if you celebrate that but if you do and your budget can afford….send her a nice bouquet of roses or if she likes chocolate get her some of that….attach a nice card….not too mushy now :))))….

    My dear..do not loose hope…God is in the mist of this and what the devil met for evil…..of father is going to turn around for our good….

    Call on me any time my friend….be encouraged:)

    The word says the fervent (spelling) prayer of a righteous man availeth much….God is not going to turn a deaf ear to you….I believe with all my heart that he is going to show himself mightly on your behalf….stay strong and keep contact with persons that can agree with you on your marriage….stay away from anyone who would offer any negative advice…..

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    1. Crystal,

       Your testimony is something that i read over and over again, when all my hope is gone that my marriage would be restored as how the circumstances looks like now. My wife has told me that she has not been inlove with me for months and is now with somebody else, and as I type this she is packing her stuff to move out. This is something thats been going on for a month, and I have been praying and praying to God, that he would soften her heart and come back. But I do lose my hope sometimes and wouldnt know what to do. I ask for your prayer, for God to pierce through her hardened heart and reconcile our marriage.

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16. Robert…..
    ….I pray the favor of almighty God upon your marriage….I declare that no weapon formed against your marriage shall prosper…..I wash and saturate your union in the precious blood of Jesus…..Father you said in your word that you’ve given us the power to trample every demon under our feet and Lord I stand on that promise right now in the name of Jesus…..You said that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth…and right now I command every foul demon attacking Robert and his wife to bow and release your grip on this marriage NOW in the name of Jesus…
    I declare healing and I declare restoration in Jesus precious name AMEN.

    Robert you are a strong man and that is to be admired….how many ppl going thru their own trials would take the time out to pray for another persons marriage…..I pray the blessings of God which maketh rich and addeth no sorrow be upon you…
    You said something and I agree with you whole heartedly…when you are going thru your own trial and you take the time out to lift someone else in prayer…I believe that moves the heart of God and he hastens to our rescue..

    My brother do not give up and keep on fightening the good fight and I know you will be victorious…..Be encouraged:)

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17. Crystal,

    I was feeling troubled in my spirit today, especially after seeing my family this weekend and Valentine’s Day coming up. So I left my office, went downstairs into an empty conference room, got on my knees and prayed to God. Some from books, some from my heart, some just groans of pain – all of it in tears. I cried so much, my tears started to burn my face.

    As I’m reading a prayer from my phone, I hear an email notification. I would normally not interrupt my prayer time to check emails, but something told me that I should.

    And there, was your message to me… straight from God!

    After I cried more tears (this time of relief and encouragement), I finished my prayers. I felt in my spirit that Dan was also going through a spiritual attack, so I prayed for him.

    Lastly, I prayed for the man my wife is involved with and his marriage. I prayed as fiercely for his marriage as I pray for my marriage. My mind was screaming “NO” with every ounce of its flesh, but my heart yelled “YES” even louder.

    It is NOT easy by ANY means to pray for the man trying to steal my wife from me. And, even if he wasn’t in the picture, I know there are still other major issues that would have my marriage in the same situation.

    But the Lord commands us:

    “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; for so you will heap coals of fire on his head, and the Lord will reward you.” (Proverbs 25:21)

    When we pray the Our Father prayer, we’re also told that we will be forgiven to the degree that we forgive others.

    I can only infer that if I treat my enemy with mercy and grace, much more will be given to me in my situation. If I pray for a speedy reconciliation in my enemy’s marriage, perhaps I will also encourage God to move speedily in my own marriage.

    Thank you for your precious prayer – I have added it to my arsenal. I also seek the Lord as to who else I should pray for, especially those that have commented above. I started to pray for everyone, but He told me not everyone is ready/willing to have their marriage restored. So I pray for Him to guide and direct them, until it is time for me to pray for their marriage.

    Thank you to everyone for sharing and keeping each other in prayer!

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18. Robert…..you know each and everytime someone says to me that something I said at a given time….even reading what God did for me….each and everytime I get that…I am so moved to tears….

    I’m not accustomed to God speaking to me…either that or I just wasnt listening….I think it’s the latter:)….to think that God would use simple, sinful ole me to bring hope to a hurting person…to think that he would see me fit NOW to be a messenger for him …sometimes it is over whelming…

    I tell you I always attended church…I always paid my tithes but yet I never knew God…..it was only after my husband left me that I reached out to God and he reached back:)…Praise God….

    You know I made all types of promises to God that I would do when he restored my marriage and telling the world was one of them….I never knew how I was going to tell the world..but here I am on the internet the WORLD WIDE WEB……what better way of getting the word out:).

    Robert I believe that God is going to restore your marriage….I stronly believe that….I believe that God can harden Pharoh’s (spelling) heart….he can soften your wife’s heart toward you again…..she loved you before and she can do it again:)…

    Ask God to help her to see you in the light that he sees you in….dat he bring back to her memory the good times both of you shared….ask that she sees you even when she looks at her children….and continue to pray for that gentleman and his wife….lift them up in prayer…..if I were you….I would dedicate one full day to pray for both of them and the broken marriages on this forum….if God leads you to do it once a week or whatever then you do that…..
    Let that be a day of prayer for others…dont mention your own marriage during that time….God already knows about your marriage and what you want done and even if you dont mention it for one day he still isnt going to forget 🙂 …..Do this with a clean heart and watch what God is going to do for you my friend….

    You are such an inspiration for me and for others on this forum….keep up the posting my friend….God is indeed pleased with you and I believe he will grant you the desire of your heart:)

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19. Wonderful story, but am concerned about Elizabeth’s post. Her husband divorced her, but she gave up on her husband. She didn’t stay single or be reconciled as God commanded. She didn’t stand in the gap for him. We are to be holy and be obedient to God’s Word, not sow to the flesh to be happy. With 7 or 8 biblical scriptures claiming remarriage is adultery, Elizabeth could very well be in adultery, if the marriage btw her first husband and herself was the first marriage for both.

    Marriage is for life btw covenant spouses. The disciples were so shocked when they heard Jesus say remarriage was adultery that they said it was better to never marry at all. And Jesus also said that not everyone will be able to accept and receive His teaching on divorce and remarriage.

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20. Crystal,

    Where did you get the hardening of Pharaoh’s heart from?

    Everyone else,

    Since I will not be with my wife this Valentine’s Day, I will dedicate it to all of you in prayer without praying about my own situation. I believe God is using Crystal to share things with me and so I will try what she felt led to share with me.

    Let’s see what He will do for you tomorrow!

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    1. I want , I get my present tomorrow . This Christmas present , I will never forget. My husband comes back to me I went to the same church for 13 years, but I can not ask him to pray for me, because his answer is No. I have only God. To bring my husband back to me

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21. Robert….the text on God harding Pharaoh’s heart can be found in the book of Exodus Chapter 9 verse 12…..it is the story of Moses leading the Israelites out of Egypt:)

    Thank you for dedicating today to us…..we all need prayer and as much as we can…May God continue to bless you as you make yourself a blessing to others:)

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22. Crystal,

    Praise God!

    To My Brothers & Sisters in Christ (as well as my enemy)…

    Do you see how God is present in this forum using the example from above?

    I began my day in prayer for all of you and your marriages. Not one word has been about me or my marital situation. If I’ve started to have thoughts about my marriage, I’ve pray those thoughts out for YOUR marriages, not mine. Every tear I’ve cried so far today, I’ve asked God to place them in YOUR bottles – not mine. I am fasting from all food and water today for your marriages. I’ve prayed things for all of you that I’ve never even prayed for in my marriage. When I try to remember them, I can’t – I believe I was praying in the Spirit during that moment of prayer. I’ve prayed speaking in tongues and I’ve prayed the prayers Crystal has spoken over my marriage for all of your marriages. I will pray again during the afternoon and before I go to sleep. If the Spirit leads me to also pray at other times, I will be obedient.

    I believe God will reveal to us prodigal spouses repenting for what they’ve done, asking for forgiveness from their covenant spouses, softening their hearts towards their covenant spouses, reuniting and recommitting to their covenant marriages, and even some miraculous breakthroughs!

    I have never done this before. I am scared. I am deeply hurt beyond what words can express. But I am completely surrendering myself to Him for all of your sake today. I’m not asking for thanks or seeking glory – that belongs to Him. Please take time out today to thank Him for the calling He has placed on my heart and the guidance He provides through Crystal.

    Now I understand what Hebrews 12:2 meant when Jesus “saw the joy ahead of him, so he endured death on the cross and ignored the disgrace it brought him.” (GWT)

    I am so blessed and honored at the joy I see ahead of me for your marriages, that it allows me to endure the death of my own feelings and flesh for today, ignoring the disgrace I am going through.

    Thank you.

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23. Robert……The EXACT same thing that we spoke of concerning God hardening Pharaoh’s heart!!!!….it’s the very same word you got for yourself!!!!!…..Listen…this is no coincidence…..God is telling you something and he wants you to endure just a little while longer he is about to make your enemies your footstool…Praise God:)….

    Funny we show speak about fasting…..a situation came up in my life and this morning I felt led to FAST!!!!

    We decided at work that we were going to bring some eats and snacks to work for the day …….we have tons of food and just as I was briefed un expectedly about the situation…..as I was about to grab some food…..I felt a strong pull in my spirit to put it back and fast for the favor of God on my husband on an up coming job interview!!…..

    Well I did what I was told and I pick up the phone and called the exact same ppl I spoke about in my testimony….the Pastor,Prophetess and the Apostle and his mother and asked them to agree with me in prayer that God would show him favor tomorrow….that God would fill his mouth with word and even cause the interviewer to see my husband in the same light that he himself (God) sees him….

    Robert something is about to break thru….I know God is testing somebody and setting somebody up for a miracle….I dont why…..I feel he is about to trouble the waters some where on this forum in some life…but we have to step in….we have to step in and trust and RECEIVE…..

    You are doing a great thing my friend…..I even want to Praise God for this very site….look how God is using Mike in a powerful way to bring his ppl together and to dispense (spelling)his word in such a might way!…

    I’m feeling so good today 🙂

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24. Crystal,

    You’re going to make me cry at my place of work! Then I’ll have to go to the bathroom and get myself together so no one sees me crying (can you tell I have experience doing this lately?). You are right this is no coincidence! Although I can’t help but to be saddened about my situation, I am SO excited for the others who are reading this! My deepest desire is that God will touch other people’s live through these posts and that it will lead to their marriage being restored completely in the name of Jesus!

    In your testimony, when you mentioned books on warfare and prayer, God led me to a book called Prayer Rain – very powerful battle prayers with vivid images. These are some of the prayers I have been praying today.

    I want people to know I’m not being a wuss in my prayers for you – AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU! You have the power and authority over YOUR marriage… more so than the devil! You have the legal right to your marriage – don’t give it up to the devil like Adam & Eve did with their authority. You, as the believing spouse, have the authority to cover your unbelieving spouse with your faith! I’ve heard people say you can’t control your spouse, etc. Well, the word says we and our spouses are one – that means when God looks at you and your spouse, He doesn’t see the two of you… He only sees ONE of you. Therefore, what you do can BLESS BOTH of you! When you ask God to forgive you, you’re asking Him to forgive your spouse too. God is the same as Jesus, and He is the same as the Holy Spirit. You are the same as your spouse, and together you’re the same as your marriage – there is no separation. This is what marriage is – a living example of our relationship with God, Jesus, and the Spirit!

    I’m not saying you can’t hurt or be sad, or cry in moments of weakness – I do it ALL the time! But count it as suffering for Him just as Jesus suffered being whipped for us until his flesh tore off. Then, get angry – not at your spouse or the extra-marital enemy, but at the devil! Ephesians 6:12 says “This is not a wrestling match against a human opponent. We are wrestling with rulers, authorities, the powers who govern this world of darkness, and spiritual forces that control evil in the heavenly world.” (GWT)

    The more the devil bothers you, the more you should want to pray – be a thorn in the devil’s side! Imagine your prayers and praise as piercing the devil’s ear drums, causing him excruciating pain, causing him to flee (not walk, but run as fast as he can) away from you and your situation. Plead the blood of Jesus over evil things and visualize it as burning, melting, roasting, vaporizing every evil thing it touches like molten lava burning a foot completely off in a second! Then plead the blood of Jesus over yourself, your spouse, your children, your marriage, your family – imagine the blood of Jesus pouring over everything you pray about like a never-ending waterfall, completely soaking and saturating from head to toe, penetrating from the outside to the inside, renewing minds, piercing hardened hearts and replacing them with new hearts!

    It’s time for Christians to stop accepting victim mentality (like I do on a daily/hourly basis) and start seeing yourselves as Battle Warriors of the Most High God’s Army! This is ultimately what he is preparing us for when we come back with Jesus in the end times.

    Thank you Mike & Chris for being faithful and obedient to His calling through this website! May each of you be blessed seven-fold in all areas of your lives!

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25. It’s been nearly 7 incredibly long years since my husband left. The pain has been horrific as you can imagine, but God has taught me so much that I would probably would not have learned otherwise. I don’t know why my marriage has not been restored, but I’m learning to rest in Jesus knowing he will restore what’s been stolen from me one way or another. I’ve stood on God’s Word, spoken God’s Word and promises over my situation, fasted, taken Holy Communion, planted seeds…you name it. One thing though was that I never truly rested. I was always fretting, crying, anxious busy doing things to hurry my miracle along. That’s not resting and trusting God.

    My husband made a false start home a year ago. The other woman had dumped him, and he said he was coming home…was so sorry for all this….was going to spend the rest of his life making this up to me….he was saying all the things I had prayed for for so long. But it ended up worse than ever, and it sent me reeling.

    He now says he wants to try to get to know me again. Says he misses me and wants to start talking to me more. But I am so untrusting now after the fiasco of last year. It was a nightmare that I didnt think I could live through. My flesh wants to run and hide in order to protect myself from the anguish of more lies and false hopes. Our children are so tired of seeing me hurt by him that they don’t ever want me around him again. He asked me to come care for him this past weekend because he had hurt his leg pretty badly, and I made up an excuse not to go! If he had asked me to do this even a year ago, I would have walked across hot coals to his place even though he lives hundreds of miles away.

    At any rate, I’m trusting God to work it all out for my good and show me what to do. I just have to rest at Jesus’ feet knowing He is in control and that he is “perfecting that which concerns me.” I feel such freedom now that I’ve come to this place of peace. I’m sleeping now and not constantly panicking. When we rest, God works. When we work, God rests. Please, dear standers, give it all to God and don’t try to manipulate or constantly do works to try to make your miracle happen. Just rest in knowing that you are His beloved, and He will not withhold any good thing from you.

    Prayers to all!

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26. To Crystal – Thank you soooooo much for your testimony & ur account of the hedge of thorns!! To Robert – Thank you sooooo much for your hedge of thorns prayer! I am going to be using it! I wil try to keep my long story short. I found out on Tuesday last week that my husband of 7yrs had an affair 2yrs ago for 6mths but it broke off, without telling me about the affair he decided to make it work again without my knowledge & of the affair. We were fine again until Dec last year, I trusted God for a job for him which he received through faith & prayer. He then went on a 2wk course where he met a young single women who he is currently having an affair with, to cut a long story short he lied to me about staying over in another town for work reasons but during these w’ends & this time he was builing a relationship with this other women & tells me he loves her, that he does love me and our 5yr old daughter but is not IN LOVE with me anymore but loves her more. I have been wanting him to give me an answer about whether he is staying with me or not but he still hasnt given me an answer, instead he told me that he was going to the movies with her last nit – Valentines day & that he wil b spending the rest of this wk with me and our daughter… who know wen he wil go bac to her again as he is coming home today. My husband used to play in the worship team in church, he plays guitar & bass guitar & used to play skillfully unto the Lord & his name is David. NOt only am I praying for restoration of our marriage but I am praying for his complete salvation & relationship with Jesus, he has had many prophesies ova his life & I believe that Satan is attacking him through this adulterous relationship to keep him out of the church & playing in church. I have copied & pasted ur testimony crystal to read & encourage myself and also alot of the encouraging words spoken by u & robert. I have also printed out ‘Battle verses of the Bible’ and at the moment I am meditating & praying ova them. But I love!!! the hedge of thorns. I believe God has led me to this site to be encouraged and never to give up & to fight fight fight!!!

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27. Hi Crystal! Thank you for your comment, but I was not always like this. The Lord has really change my heart and is still continuously guiding me in my journey with Him. So I finally talked with my parents, and you know it is amazing on how God opens you to listen and how He changes your heart. My mother had previously talked to me about some of her problems, but I don’t know why I never paid attention, I have always felt a bit indifferent to their problem. I mean I was the one that regularly told my dad after they had a fight to just divorce my mother and end with everything (the fights, insults, jealousy,etc), it seem to me like the most logical solution. I always saw it as a end to all the violence that my brothers and I would have to listen too. Until I accepted Jesus. I am ashamed of my horrible behavior, and have ask forgiveness to my parents and to God, for I really had no say in this matter yet I was voicing my opinion.
    So, after talking with both my parents, their marriage since the beginning was constructed weak. They married because of physical attraction, wanting to build a home and have kids like most people and after reading a book by Joshua Harris ”Boy meet girl” , I was astounded by the different perspective presented!! I mean, my brothers and I, will one day leave the nest to build a home with our God elected partner, and then what of them? Very early in their marriage, there was much love, but little respectful behavior. So, I have been praying to God, to first for them to receive Jesus as their Lord and Savior and to really let Him guide their lives, and their marriage and to make Himself the center of their relationship so that they will learn to really love. Since last time, I posted my comment, God has send me a couple that rarely visits us because the husband doesn’t like to visit (he likes to receive people at his house- he told us so on Friday the 10th), but they have come to spen time with us, and consequently guide my parents. My mother especially has a serious case of resentment on her heart which as also cause a lot of bitterness in her marriage. It has been awing to see how God works in our lives. He does everything so perfectly!!! The husband had backslided from the Lord, but this autumn came and ask forgiveness to my parents for been such a poor example of Christ and this is a man that my dad respects and fells camaraderie with!! He will seriously listen more to him than me! How awesome is God!!! The Lord has also spoken to my mother through the book of Ruth (she has never read the Bible, and when she pick it up, she end up at the start of the book and it really spoke to her, because she was hurt by her mother in law deeply since the arrival of my aunt to Canada.
    But I know that God is working and nothing will stop Him. Bless be He, that renews our hearts and minds, and leads our spirit in Truth. Bless be the name of Our Lord most High.

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28. Thanks be to God for everyone who has said I have inspired them! Remember to give Him the thanks – I’m just a plain old person like you being pushed to the extremes of my faith and patience.

    I read the posts on here and, even though I don’t address them one by one as Crystal has, believe me… they bring me to tears for what you’re going through! I actually feel a pain in my heart and head when imaging what each of you are going through. You can imagine what I was feeling yesterday praying for all of you!

    I have to say, yesterday wiped me out mentally, physically, and emotionally! I want to address each and every one of you, but I am too tired.

    Instead, I will share what a friend wrote that I feel it is appropriate for ALL of you:

    ‘Words seem so inadequate — how do you deal with what you are going through? Only looking to the Lord.

    First, know that you are under spiritual attack! Only a spiritual solution can protect you, your marriage, and your family! Pray for that — and don’t stop! Always pray — it’s talking with God and sharing your heart. But listen to His Spirit — His Spirit will speak to you and give you comfort in your dark place. But you are right, there are times when we hear nothing and are alone in the darkest of places. And you must wait on Him. And keep praying and seeking Him. The story of Abraham and Hagar in Genesis 16 is a powerful example of listening to so-called advice during a time of darkness, rather than waiting for God to send the light (my favorite is Job). God will bring the vision He has given you to reality in your life if you wait on His timing. Never try to help God fulfill His word. Abraham went through thirteen years of silence(!!!), but in those years all his self-sufficiency was destroyed. He grew past the point of relying on his own common sense and relying on God alone. Oswald Chambers calls those years of silence a “time of discipline, not a period of God’s displeasure.” There is never any need to pretend that your life is filled with joy and confidence — just wait upon God and be grounded in Him (see Isaiah 50:10-11). It is a great gift to be brought to a point where you seemingly have nothing but God.

    Do we trust at all in the flesh? Or have we learned to go beyond all confidence in ourselves and other people of God? Do we trust in books and prayers and other joys in our lives? Or have we placed our confidence in God HIMSELF, not in His blessings? “I am the almighty God…” — El-Shaddai, the All-Powerful God(Genesis 17:1). The reason we are all being disciplined is that we will know God is real! As soon as God becomes real to us, people pale by comparison, becoming shadows of reality. Nothing that anyone does or says can ever upset us if we are built on God.’

    The thing that stuck out the most about what my friend wrote was that at this point in our struggle, we have to place our trust in Him, NOT his promises!

    I was thinking to myself, “How can I not trust in His promise that He hates divorce and that adulterers would NOT inherit His Kingdom?” If I let go of those promises, then what?

    But that’s exactly it – we’re only left with God Himself. He is His promises. Without Him, His promises are meaningless.

    It’s such a small mindshift, you might miss it. But when you change your mind and your heart to rely on Him, His promises are just icing on the cake.

    I challenge you to examine where your faith is currently – in the gutter, ahead of you, on His promises, or on Him alone? I struggle with this same thing several times during the day!

    When you pray, have faith in Him and trust in His promises – not the other way around. Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and… (Matthew 6:33)

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29. Thanks Robert for these words. It makes me feel so secure. & that must be what our Father in Heaven wants as he is our Father! our Daddy in Heaven who we can rely on completely! The more I have come to rely on God & his word, put my trust in Him, study & meditate on the word. The more at peace I have been feeling, my appetite is back & I am sleeping much better at night as well, whether my husband is there or not. He came home again yesterday and I treated him with love & kindness, I tried not to question him or to nag him, we spent time together, although I can see when he looks at me, he is confused, the fact that he hasnt come to a decision on what he wants do to yet tells me God is working. I spoke to him this morning about the w’end after next that we should go away together or if he is working to maybe go out for supper & play tenpin bowling & he agreed to that. also he has asked me if the other women can buy our daughter a present I told him no that she cant & if he doesnt tell her I wil tel her myself.& I know he doensnt want me talking to her so i know he wil tel her. She also bought him a valentines gift, a t-shirt which he doesnt like (was hapi bout that) & a mug which i told him to use at work. I found the items in his bag and was very upset but I gave it ova to God. I annointed all my husbands things with annointing oil on Tuesday nit – valentines nit. Right now I dont feel helpless at all in my situation. Despite everything happening rit now I know that I dont have to worry about what is happening in the natural because God is working supernaturally in my life!

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30. Sonnette……I feel your pain….I’ve been there and sooo many times:(….
    I feel extremly extremly unhappy for you…I read your post and I was shaking my head all the time SMH….you are so strong….I dont know how even me would handle something like that…..but you see….we CANT but GOD CAN….

    You are doing the direct thing that you should be doing…..when I was reading the last post about him wanting his girlfriend to buy a gift for the child I was soooo glad that you said no….sometimes we are so caught up with wanting to please the other person and do everything right in their sight that we agree to things that are just too wrong to be right….

    We agree to everything they want …. every stipulation and every whim they have no matter how ridiculous it is….we loose ourselves in trying to get them to come back….what we dont understand that there are still boundaries and we still deserve respect even if not love…..God doesnt and will not tolerate every single thing we throw at him and neither should we……yes there are times when we need to bend..sometimes even break but in such a case it would serve us well to seek guidance from God:)

    Sonnette I am soo proud of you and I salute you woman of God….you are brave and your attributes are to be admired.

    God is in the mist of this and I do not want you to give up….it is about to get worse but my sister it is going to get better also…..believe that….God is not going to leave you defenseless (spelling)….

    Do not stop praying for your husband….pray hedges of thorns around him day after day….God is our Father yes but remember what a father is willing to do to protect his child….how much more our heavenly father…..do not let your heart become bitter….pray for this other lady as well….my friend Robert on this forum knows a lot more than a thing or two about that….he would be happy to give you some pointers:).

    Do not be afraid to ask God to do some stuff in your marriage…do not be afraid to get radical and ask him to just move some ppl out of the way in what ever way he sees fit and he is going to do it for you….make sure you walk uprightly before him and he will plead your cause….be encouraged.

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31. Two things I wanted to share with everyone…

    First:

    I reached out to my spiritual parents yesterday (the Pastor and wife that God chose to make me born again in Christ) and during the conversation, they told me about 2 Peter 3:8 – “One day with the Lord is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like one day.” (GWT)

    Then, this morning, my Daily Bible app had the exact same verse for today. I know this was God trying to tell me something, but I don’t know exactly what. I know we must wait on His timing and, what seems like a long time for us isn’t for Him. Then again, what seems like a long time (1,000 years) may not be so for us (1 day). Maybe my marriage miracle feels like it’s been dragging out for a long time and maybe the manifestation of that miracle is right around the corner? I don’t know.

    I’ve always believed that while the past, present, and future is on a linear scale for us, for God all 3 co-exist. That means He’s already answered our prayer… we just have to catch up to it in our future. No biblical basis for this – just my own thoughts.

    I looked up in a study bible more on this verse and here’s what I found:

    “With Him who always lives it will be as easy to accomplish them at a far distant period as now. If it is His pleasure to accomplish them in a single day, He can do it; if He chooses that the execution shall be deferred to one thousand years, or that one thousand years shall be consumed in executing them, He has power to carry them onward through what seems, to us, to be so vast a duration. The wicked, therefore, cannot infer that they will escape because their punishment is delayed; nor should the righteous fear that the divine promises will fail because ages pass away before they are accomplished.”

    I’m still not sure what He’s trying to tell me. Maybe it’s not for me. Maybe it’s meant for someone else reading this.

    Second:

    I expressed to them that I felt this was such an exhausting struggle. They said that God is true to His promises, but the timeframe I want it in and the way I am applying the Word is MY OWN PERSONAL struggle with God. Then, the Spirit revealed to me Jacob wrestling with the Angel of God.

    Last night, I told God I was NOT going to let go of Him until he blessed me AND my marriage!

    This morning, I did not cry for the first time. I felt an anger rise up within me. But I channeled that anger into my prayers this morning. I pleaded the blood of Jesus as if it was a torpedo and a sledgehammer. Then, I got a hold of this revelation and used it MIGHTILY – if another man can interfere with my authority over my marriage, then that other man has given me authority over his marriage as well!

    Praise God… I used that open door to flood and saturate and suffocate all evil spirits, desires, and ungodly activity operating in his marriage! What a position of power I felt! I don’t know if that’s anywhere in the bible, but I went with what the Spirit revealed to me.

    Then, someone else reveals to me that during their marriage trials, someone told them what I shared with all of you a few days ago – stop the crying, stop being a wuss, take CONTROL of YOUR marriage. It was never taken away from you in the first place, so don’t give it up! Rise up and declare WAR!

    Then this person started praying for mercy for the external adulterer. That adulterer started apologizing to the offended spouse, and needed to go on medication because they started to go crazy and have suicidal thoughts!

    If any of you watched the first Matrix movie, you’ll see that Neo was able to dodge bullets. But when he finally took the offensive and believe in the authority and power he had, he didn’t have to dodge them – he simply commanded them to freeze in mid-air and fall. Then HE went on the offensive against the enemy and won instantly. The journey that took the longest was not the defeat – it was in him building up his faith.

    Maybe that’s what God is saying to all of us – what seems like a 1,000 years to us in our situation is really Him waiting for us to WAKE UP. And, once we do, maybe we’ll have our victory in 1 day?

    God bless you all 🙂

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32. Robert, first of all thank you for your prayers. Secondly, wow!! That last comment was just (cannot find the right word)! I never saw it that way, and you know, I do believe that you are right.

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33. WOW! I’ve been following this conversation for the last few days, thankful for all God is teaching me…I just have to chime in after that last post Robert! Last night I went to the Beth Moore Revelation Bible study at my church and she talked about 2 Peter 3:8. I, too, then got the verse in my daily Bible app…which I thought was so cool. (I love when God does that!) Clearly, God was trying to tell me something…bit wasn’t totally clear what. Then I read the same verse in your post just now…and you made sense of it for me.

    God has been asking me to really step out for Him more and more and today I took a huge step in obedience. At the same time, for almost a year, I have been clinging to a huge promise God made me, regarding my children. Ive seen absolutely no sign of it happening (if anything, all signs point to it not happening)…but like I tell everyone who will listen, it’s not if God makes good on it, it’s WHEN.

    I’ll be 39 on Sunday, and after spending almost 20 yrs spiritually lazy (I accepted Christ on my 19th bday), I am happy to finally be awake. I guess God was waiting all that time for me to wake up. Thank you for putting all that together for me Robert. Praise God that He is so patient with slow pokes like me!

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34. Crystal, thank you for being here for me & all the other ladies who are going thru this. I have decided that I want to be a prayer warrior for these other ladies as well as God leads me.

    Crystal I myself dont know how I wake up, eat, sleep, pray, talk to my husband, my child, live, without falling apart. With everything I’m going thru, it is difficult but I believe that God has been giving me the strength to carry on, to keep on fighting,praying, believing. My husband like I said I dont know for how long he wud b around agen is going away to stay with the other womens sisters boyfriend – says he needs to clear his mind, confused, needs to think…… (so he says) (whether she wil b around – ur guess is as gud as mine…) during this time i pray hedge of thorns around him! – he loves fishing, says they wil b fishing, once again i felt hurt, felt my world is falling down around me, once again i wil b left alone wit my daughter this w’end like all the other w’ends wen he has been with her, but the grt thing about this time around is that I had immediately submitted the situation and my husband to God, I immediately started trusting God knowing that even tho my husband is gone that God is with him until he comes home again on Mon.

    I am so greatful for your testimoni & all the posts of every1 on this site, it has given me a place to come to, to pour myself out.

    There is one thing I am concerned about & I am hoping that whoever reads this post can help me. Unlike Crystal I do not have a Prophetess, Apostle or good spiritually prayerful ppl to stand in the gap for me. after my husband & i got married we moved to another city & we never reali found a church family since we started living here. I have only been able to spk to a pastor & his wife that I knew this week, they spoke to me & prayed with me & sed they wil continue to pray for me but I feel i need 1 or 2 more ppl i can be in contact with who can really pray with me?

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35. Sonnette,

    As you know, I’m not one to address every individual on this forum. I don’t know why, but when I start to write, I feel too much pain and suffering like turning to a radio station that had a million voices screaming in pain and the volume is too loud.

    But I just finished praying for you and your husband, and you can count me in as a battle prayer warrior for you every day! I need you to keep pushing forward in your knowledge of the Lord and battle prayers. Read the articles in this site. God doesn’t want you to stay where phone at

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36. Sonnette,

    As you know, I’m not one to address every individual on this forum. I don’t know why, but when I start to write, I feel too much pain and suffering like turning to a radio station that had a million voices screaming in pain and the volume is too loud.

    But I just finished praying for you and your husband, and you can count me in as a battle prayer warrior for you every day! I need you to keep pushing forward in your knowledge of the Lord and battle prayers. Read the articles in this site. God doesn’t want you to stay where you’re at.

    Listen everyone – if you’re not growing, you’re dying. You may not notice it, but it’s the truth. If your marriage isn’t growing, it’s dying. If your walk with God is not growing, it’s dying. THERE IS NO MIDDLE GROUND – DON’T LET THE DEVIL TRICK YOU INTO THINKING SO! That’s what he did with Adam and Eve by saying they wouldn’t die.

    I prayed that the boat would capsize. That they would get bitten by an infestation of bugs. That this fishing trip would be one of the worst days of his life. I prayed in agreement with your hedge of thorns against him.

    I’m pissed at the devil and he’s going to feel God’s wrath through me by the blood of Jesus! You need to get to that point too – not against your husband or this other woman, but against the devil.

    You have the highest authority over your husband! More so than anyone else! Use it!!!

    God is blessing you RIGHT NOW – REACH UP and GRAB IT from Him!

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37. Thank you Robert – I cannot reali describe how i feel rit now but 1 word – Blessed! by your prayers. Thank you for being my battle prayer warrior!! 🙂 so happy. I was thinking to myself now as I opened this site that God must be with me as he led me to this site – i wud neva hav known that there r otha ppl out their experiencing wat i am experiencing & even overcoming!!

    – what you say makes so much sense – I believe God does want me to press in even deeper than I have & I will! I have printed out the Battle Verses of the Bible and I keep it with me everywhere I go in my bag I will reali get stuck into those verses this w’end & your hedge of thorns prayer! I fully agree with you on if our relationship with God is not growing its dying as over the years I have had ups & downs in my relationship with God but it should only be going up and to do this 1 of the things is to get stuck into his word. Also where my marriage is concerned it went up & down whereas I and the 2 of us within our marriage should have been working on it – improving it all the time!!!

    Please also agree with me & continue to pray for my husbands salvation as I believe that the devil wants to keep him from playing in the church & out of the church thru this adulterous relationship.

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38. Sonnette….count me in as well….I’m definetly in agreement with you:)…
    I’m so glad we have this site:)….hun dont mind that you dont have a pastor,apostle etc…it doesnt matter…for me it’s that they were ppl I knew at the time who just happened to have those titles but the titles arent important…..ask God to send GODLY ppl into your life….not just anyone off the road but someone you can talk to and who would listen and not take your business all over the place…someone that can encourage you and strenghten you in the Lord….I’m here and I’m willing to be your friend…you can call on me day or night it doesnt matter 🙂

    One thing I wanna ask….the stuff he tells you about going fishing with her and staying with her sister’s brother etc…..is this info he volunteers or do you question him?…..

    Christine……we’re two peas in a pod….I cant seem to keep off this site either….I get so much encouragement from being on here…..I agree with you totally about what you said about getting a bible verse and what not and recognising it to be a word to you from God….it is such an awesome feeling to know God is thinking about you and remembering you:) ..

    Also when you speak about know Christ all these years but still never really having that relationship with him till now…..girl that is also me…..I paid my tithes went to every service…I was even the worship leader at church but still I didnt know God…can you believe it!…

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39. Hello. Things were rough between my wife and I in Jan 2009. Was told the “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” bit. Told I needed to change but she refused to say what it was that I needed to change. For several months as I prayed and prayed for healing, wisdom, and understanding. The day she left in July 2009, I found nude pictures of her and her boyfriend (a married coworker of hers that she’d tried to get me to be buddies with) in a secret email account. I chose forgiveness. I wrote her and wrote her, praising and encouraging her to see what this temptation was doing to our family, me, our two sons (8 & 5), quoting scripture… She continued mistreating me, wrongly accusing me of this & that, eventually seeking a PPO through the court. Not even using half-truths, she completely fabricated events. I took the hint and left her completely alone. A month later I was served divorce papers at work – on my birthday no less. She divorced in July 2010. 8 days later, she married boyfriend #4. She changed churches, told several incredible lies to get others to see her as “justified”. Even getting her mother to go along with and also fabricate events & telling our sons – also to justify.

    Long story-short, our sons have been emotional wrecks. She even alienated one son into claiming child abuse and unsuccessfully got the younger one to do the same in April 2011. Incredible, incredible series of events. She’s done all of this while maintaining a Christian front or facade, which she uses to lend credibility to her sinful and hateful cause.

    A part of me desperately wanted to be the bad guy – to deserve what was happening. Because then it would make logical sense to me. My natural sense of responsibility would tell me to just suck it up, because I deserved it. I’ve read, & read, & read, & read everything I could find on relationships, marriage, infidelity, restoration. Her actions are so typical and uncannily predictable of adulterers or adulteresses. I have a private website of related musings (living4amiracle.blogspot.c). Those here are welcome to visit. I’ve been putting off writing the entire chain of events. Partly because of laziness, mostly because it’s just too painful to mentally revisit & write about. It could be healing, so, I should get on it.

    The book, I Do Again by Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs is very similar and inspiring. The romantic part of me wants to see the miracle of a Godly restoration of our family. I know reconciliation through Christ can make all things new and stronger than before. But I don’t see it happening. She’s married and continues to make things worse.

    I’ve maintained a close relationship with Christ Jesus throughout. These events have certainly been testing but I haven’t given up hope in some kind of resolution. I’ve had relationships with other women since being divorced, but it weighs heavy on my heart and mind. I feel like I’m cheating on my covenant spouse – especially when I think of our sons as they’ve expressed their desires of her and I getting along and being a family again.

    In hindsight, there are things I would do differently – having been through it all. But that wouldn’t fix her inner issues of esteem and poor judgment, choices.

    I truly believe that with God, all things are possible and I’m thankful for encouraging people like you that post here. You’re in my prayers!!!

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40. Crystal my huband volunteers this info. 2 me as I hav told him ova & ova not 2 lie 2 me no matter how hard it wud b 4 me 2 hear that I wud rather hav the truth. So wen he tells me he is going away I get the truth. Satan is the father of lies and my husband has been telling me a lot of lies in order 2 b with the other women.I wud rather know the truth 2 b equiped 2 pray than 2 b sittin wonderin not knowing.I hav been praying and asking God 2 bring into the light all lies.
    Also thank you 4 being my prayer warrior knowing u & robert are praying gives me so much peace. Don’t stop encouraging!

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41. I’ve been keeping everyone in my prayers this weekend. It hasn’t been a good weekend for me – running low on faith, strength, and patience. Had an argument with my wife. Things don’t seem to be getting better or staying the same – they seem to be getting worse!

    Reached out to the pastor and his wife and he told me 3/31 is still a long way away and God can do anything between now and then. Then I remembered about the 1 day vs 1,000 verse and thought to myself – that’s it… to me, the days are fast at hand, but God still has plenty of time to work things out.

    Then the Pastor said to stop worrying about it because that equals wavering faith, which means I haven’t fully put the situation in God’s hands, which means I don’t fully trust God – that He is able AND willing to carry out His word.

    I may be a battle prayer warrior, but I’m still human and need prayer too! 🙂

    God bless you all.

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42. I am 40years old and have been married to my wife for 16years.I am a saved and a believer but have only been rejuvanated after this crisis.On 2/2/2012 i went home to find that my wife had left with 4 of our children.I was frantic and started searching ,calling everyone she would not answer my texts or anything.24 hours later the police told me my wife and kids were fine but that she had left me and was not coming back.I was depressed and became an emotional wreck,could not work,eat ,etc.
    But God is good all the time and i saw one of my children as they were coming from school.I then received a Parenting Order which does not allow me to see the kids and in it she says she has wanted to leave me for a long time.I am praying that God restores my marriage,that i become a better father and husband.I am also praying for my wifes salvation as she is a Jehovahs Witness, please agree with me as God hates divorce.I believe that God can breathe life into our marriage again.

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43. Hi Robert, I have kept you in my prayer this w’end, keep us updated & let me know specifically (besides the obvious) what to pray for, we will pray for each other 🙂 I am going to be praying for you.

    Funny enough this w’end an I was chatting to a man – an aquaintance of my husband and myself and we got into a conversation and it turns out that he and he wife are going thru the same problems, he has 5 kids (2 out of school)and his wife works away from home, she doesnt want to come home & he suspects she is having an affair and he himself is in an adulterous relationship now. I believe that God is alredi using me as I prayed with him and cud minister Gods word to him and encourage him – and I told him that if he wants God to work in his marriage he wud have to end his adulterous relationship & repent.

    Oh Robert I am soooo sori my friend! At times I feel the way you felt this morning especially after I found out my husband was with the other women again ova the w’end… but as I was walking to work I also confessed Gods word over my marriage especially Hebrews 11:1 – in the natural these things my be happening but God is working in the spiritual! I am so upset with my husband I want to question him about her being around this w’end then I realised that my fight is not against the flesh but against satan so I have decided not to bring it up but to allow God to fight my battles now.

    Farai, you have come to the right place, have a look at the Bible verses on Faith & the Battle Verses – sum powerful stuff! – your situation may seem impossible but with God all things are possible!!! I am going to keep you in my prayers too. Keep us updated – we will all pray!

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44. Farai (and others who are married to non-Christians)…

    I am truly grieved in my heart for you! I have no idea how God can tolerate so much hurt in His heart for His children. I have no idea how Jesus was able to not give into the temptation by the devil when the devil showed Him all of the suffering that was in store for God’s children. A dear friend who is Christian, recently had his Muslim wife leave him. He also didn’t want the marriage to end. I showed him the verse which says “But if the unbelieving partners leave, let them go. Under these circumstances a Christian man or Christian woman is not bound [by a marriage vow]. God has called you to live in peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:15 GWT) The bible also says if a spouse commits the physical (not mental) act of adultery, we are also released from the marriage. However, God always prefers reconciliation (in either case), so I commend you (and others) who have a forgiving heart and want to remain as the light of God in the prodigal spouse’s life. Just pray for His wisdom whether it is His will for it to be your cross or not. I pray in agreement with you and encourage you to read the “Bible Verses About Family” article on this website – it has lots of good biblical scriptures you can stand on.

    Everyone…

    Here is my 2 cents on the ebb-and-flow of this cross we are bearing. We need to find a TON of scriptures in the bible that talk about what we want to happen. Next, we need to read those scriptures out loud whenever we feel down and out because our faith comes by “hearing” the word of God. Also, we need to quote them back to God so He knows we know our stuff – like we’re trying to convince a judge (Isaiah 43:26). We also need to find praise songs that we can “sing” to him when we feel down and out because He inhabits the praise of His people. In addition, I break down on average every 2-3 days (used to be every hour in the beginning). When speaking verses out loud, or singing praises out loud don’t work, go ahead and cry. Just call out the name of Jesus as you cry. Then call someone Godly who can uplift you. This is what I do with all of you, the pastor and his wife, my other prayer warriors, etc. This is NORMAL and not a sign of your weakness. If anything, it shows you are being strengthened and submitting your flesh to death for His sake. It may seem like a vicious circle with no end in sight, but this is what I’ve noticed to be the pattern in my walk. I have no doubt that God will restore my marriage – my challenge is the “when” since my wife is pretty much telling me that on or after 4/1/2012, she will go forth with having sex with this other person. I believe God is dealing with me specifically on this issue – having faith in His timing, letting “patience have her perfect work.” My thinking is “I know God will restore my wife to me AFTER she sleeps with this other person sometime in the future, but CAN He do it before that happens?” In a way, I’m terrified because you can see the reality I am creating in my life because of where my faith is. Yet, I know what His word says about adultery, so my challenge is that He will be faithful to His word and not allow that to even happen. Don’t know if this thinking is scriptural or not, but that is my challenge and where I’m looking to breakthrough.

    My sister sent me the following text today:

    Each day is a new opportunity for a chance to think about what God is doing for us: Do not be led by what your eyes see and ears hear- these things constantly deceive you. Have faith that God will do an awesome thing that even you cannot understand, see, or hear; God and his angels are always working behind the scenes on our behalf to do his mighty work. We cannot see them -we cannot hear them- but have faith. This magic is all happening around us all the time. The greatest of Miracles take the most time to transpire. Something strange happened yesterday. I was so depressed about my situation, sitting in my sunroom I was falling asleep. Then u texted me saying that u wanted me to pray for u bc things had gotten worse. I started crying bc I felt I lacked the strength to pray for myself let alone pray for anyone else. I called [my husband] over to me and said please call ur mom right now. I need u to ask her to pray for me and my brother. I don’t know if u know [my mother-in-law]. This lady is prayer warrior queen. If she can’t do it NO one can. She brings Down heaven and resurrects lazurus! Anyway. He calls her and guess what she is in the middle of doing??? She’s praying in the spirit on a Saturday for none other than ME!! She tells [my husband] that she’s surprised he called bc she was praying a heavy burden OUT if my life and crying. [My husband] puts her on speaker And hands the phone to me and says, mom [my wife] has a few petitions.. And before he could finish his sentence she is yelling in the spirit in tongues : doors be opened, obstacles be moved out of her way, let no weapons formed against me shall propsper!, all those tongues who have lied shall have to confess their lies! And all of this, [my mother-in-law] didn’t know why [my husband] had called. At the end of her prayer, I had told her the reason for my call and we prayed more. She and i also specifucally prayed for U and your family, for restoring broken bonds, for understanding, for reconciling, for love. She prophesied that i would have the right words to say to you to comfort in your time of need. I hope thats what i did today. Then she gave me psalm 20. I just want to share that with u too bc I think it’s appropriate for us both. She also offered to call you directly for her to pray for you if you want.

    I am now praying for everyone on this site every day. I don’t know why, but when I do, I feel a heaviness I can’t describe. In addition to praying in agreement with you where it lines up with His word, I also pray for Him to lift the burden I feel all of you carrying.

    Let me tell all of you something… God is NOT good with addition or subtraction. He is a God of multiplication and division! Deuteronomy 32:30 says 1 person can put 1,000 to flight. A thousand what? Enemies, spirits, and minions. So 2 people should be able to put 2,000 to flight, right? WRONG – 2 can put 10,000 to flight! I’ve counted about 25 people who have commented on this article. Imagine if 25 of us were praying for each other everyday, throughout the day? That’s putting 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 to flight!

    I don’t think there are that many of “them” against us and God. I wonder what kind of breakthroughs we would start seeing in each others lives!?

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45. Sonnette,

    You got it girl! Believe me, I know it’s easier said than done, but you’re doing exactly what you need to be doing for your marriage and for your acquaintance’s marriage. God is already using you to sow seed into another marriage so he can honor your harvest time. It’s not up to you to harvest – just sow the seed.

    You quoted Hebrews 11:1 – Now faith (as opposed to later faith, meaning we need to be having this faith NOW), is the bridge and the evidence. So, let me paraphrase it this way for you:

    Right-now-faith is the bridge to get you to the things you’re hoping for, to create the things you don’t yet see.

    Throughout all of God’s word, YOU must initiate and God will respond. You faith initiates God’s response. Don’t feel because it’s taking long that it’s necessarily your fault. You may be exactly where you need to be and He’s just busy working on the other person. You need to pray for whether this is the case for you or not.

    In my case, I know He’s working through other people and wanting me to overcome my faith issue (as described above), but I don’t see Him working on my wife’s end. Yet, that’s where my faith needs to be strong as well.

    You can do a certain exercise for 30 repetitions and not feel the burn/pain until the last 3 reps. Those last 3 reps are where your muscle started to experience growth. The other 27 weren’t wasted per se because without them, you couldn’t have achieved the growth in the last 3 reps.

    This is how I believe our faith walk works as well. Don’t give up!

    As for me (other than the obvious), please pray:

    1. That I can fully submit the situation to God and believe 1,000% He will restore my marriage before any further sin occurs.

    2. For Him to soften my wife’s heart towards me, harden her heart towards the other person (and anyone/anything else against our marriage).

    3. That every moment for her, whether awake or asleep, is completely flooded and saturated with loving thoughts and visions of me, our marriage, and reconciliation. She is praying for God to show her a sign, so I am praying in agreement with her, but for God to over do it!

    4. That any thoughts/actions of being outside her marriage to me immediately appears to her as ugly, disgusting, vile, makes her feel sick to her stomach, etc.

    5. Lastly, that nothing will go her way and that she will not find ANY peace in ANYTHING she does until she submits herself to God and our marriage.

    Thank you my beautiful sister!

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46. Ruby, I agree with u that Hedge of thorns prayer is powerful! I have even been using it to pray 4 other ppl as well in similar situations.

    Sendy u can count me in – I am in S. Africa & I think that wud b today i suppose but i wil b praying. Father God in Heaven I bring Sendy before u now Lord & I pray & ask Father that your Hand be upon Andy throughout the evaluation Father God, Keep him calm, Your word says that you have not given us a Spirit of fear but of Love, Power & a sound mind! I pray now that you will give Elena & family all a spirit of love, power & sound minds & I thank you that your word in Phil 4:3 that says that we can bring our prayer requests & petitions before you & that the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard our hearts & our minds. Thank you Father for a positive & full & complete evaluation that surpasses understanding!! I plead ur blood upon Andy, Sendy & the Family today. Father we know you work in mysterious ways, ways we cannot see or fathom or understand! In the mighty & powerful name of Jesus! AMEN!

    Robert I prayed for you last night as well as Farai – lets pray 4 each other & stand in our authority as children of the most high God!! Lets hold on to our daddy & not let him go until he blesses us!!

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47. Sonnette:

    Done!

    I prayed that God is causing your husband so much mental anguish, pain, anxiety, and grief that your husband counts EVERY second until he is reunited with you! That he will not have a moment of peace or happiness until he commits himself to you and God.

    Pray, fast, and pull out all the stops in preparation for your talk with him! YOU have the authority over YOUR husband, YOUR marriage, YOUR family! Claim it! Plead the blood of Jesus over him, his mind, his heart, over your marriage!

    Go prayer crazy so your neighbors think you’re insane!

    Amen 🙂

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48. Hey Sonnette…..Rob just brought your post to my attention…sorry I didnt see it earlier:)

    I just said a prayer for you and know my dearest that God is in control……we dont know what he has in mind but our Father knows..
    Right now I pray the favor of God upon you and your marriage….I pray that God would lift the veil that is on your husband’s eyes that he would come to know,recognise and step up in his role as a husband….that he would finally see the light and know that what he is and has been doing is wrong and he has a wife that loves him unconditionally….Amen….
    Dont worry about anything God is already there in the midst….be encourages my sweet:)

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49. Thank you to EVERYONE who prayed for me this weekend – it helped ME more than you know! Also, thank you to everyone who WISHED they could pray, but didn’t feel like their prayers would be strong enough or didn’t have the energy to pray for themselves, let along anyone else. I’ve been there and don’t want you to feel guilty – God knows your heart and He will grow you to become MORE than a conqueror!

    God confirmed several things (again) through people like Crystal, the Pastor and his wife (whom I consider to be my spiritual parents), my mother, my sister, others on this site – He’s just amazing! Things these people wouldn’t know… but God knew I know!

    Yesterday, I went to Costco and flipped through one of the Christian devotionals they had. Right on the page I stopped at, was this:

    “Do EVERYTHING in dependence on Me. The desire to act independently – apart from Me – springs from the root of pride. Self-sufficiency is subtle, insinuating its way into your thoughts and actions without you realizing it. But apart from Me, you can do nothing: that is, nothing of eternal value. My deepest desire for you is that you learn to depend on Me in every situation. I move heaven and earth to accomplish this purpose, but you must collaborate with Me in this training. Teaching you would be simple if I negated your free will or overwhelmed you with My Power. However, I love you too much to withdraw the godlike privilege I bestowed on you as My image-bearer. Use your freedom wisely, by relying on Me constantly. Thus you enjoy My Presence and My Peace.” (John 15:5, Ephesians 6:10, Genesis 1:26-27)

    Then, this morning, after my prayer, my daily bible app says “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor [in marriage]. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners [of adultery] and recovery of sight for the [divorced] blind, to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” (Luke 4:18-19)

    I added the words in brackets, but that’s what happens when you feel God’s presence upon you – you see His word as it applies to the situations He has you praying about. Someone here better receive that Word because it’s yours if you want it and there’s plenty to go around! 🙂

    People are hesitant sometimes to go full steam ahead and so they make escape clauses. For example, the Pastor told me that we prayed about it, it is done, God has heard, and He will bless. We can’t put a timeframe on His work, so even if it doesn’t work out the way we want right away, we have to believe He will work it out for the best.

    I may be wrong, but why would God allow my wife to commit further adultery if that is against His will? If I am His righteous, why would he allow the devil to defeat me in that way? So I don’t necessarily agree with “Well, I’m gonna pray that God will work it out before something else happens, BUT if it doesn’t I’m still gonna trust Him.” To me, that’s speaking doubt. I can either serve a God who works speedily, or one who is wishy-washy, but I can’t serve both. I believe whichever one I focus is the one that will answer me (according to the faith that operates within me), so I’m going to go with the speedy one! Here’s why:

    Ezek. 12:28: “Therefore say unto them, Thus saith the Lord God; There shall none of my words be prolonged any more, but the word which I have spoken shall be done, saith the Lord God.”

    Ps. 31:2: Bow down thine ear to me; deliver me speedily: be thou my strong rock, for an house of defense to save me.

    Ps. 143:7: Hear me speedily o LORD: my spirit faileth: hide not thy ‘face from me, lest I be like unto them that go down into the pit.

    Isa. 58:8: Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee; the glory of the LORD shall be thy rereward.

    Luke 18:8: . . . I tell you that he will avenge them speedily.

    Ps. 102:2: Hide not thy face from me in the day when I am in trouble; incline thine ear unto me: in the day when I call answer me speedily.

    Jer. 1:12: Then said the LORD unto me, Thou hast well seen: for I will hasten my word to perform it.

    Jer. 29:11: For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil to give you an expected end”.

    Rom. 16:20: And the God of peace shall bruise Satan under your feet shortly.

    Mal. 3:10: The Lord whom you seek, shall suddenly come to His temple.

    Heb 4:12: For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

    So instead of me praying “God, please restore my marriage before 4/1,” my prayer is now “God, I have full faith in YOU knowing you’re going to restore my marriage before ANY more adultery occurs.” Everyone’s situation is unique, but trust He’ll work speedily on your behalf, get out of His way, and keep motivating Him with your prayers of faith!

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50. As I say my last prayers tonight for my marriage and yours, I wanted to share a small testimony of God’s love in action.

    I went to the mall food court to eat dinner after work. I was pleasantly full only eating half the dish and didn’t feel like taking the left overs home, but the Lord prompted me to take it in case someone needed it.

    Sure enough, when I got off my train stop to go to my apartment, I saw a deaf homeless man I haven’t seen in more than 2 months! I asked him how he was doing as I shook his hand and wondered if he was hungry… he said he was indeed hungry. I then gave him my left overs and told him that God told me to take it with me so I could give it to him.

    He thanked God and asked God to bless me too.

    While I don’t think this is the case with this man, I often wonder about Hebrews 13:2. In either case, I receive his blessing upon me!

    Good night. 🙂

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51. Hey Guyz – I had an absolutely terrible night.

    Let my explain things to you – my husband has been playing at a tent meeting, bass, & helping set sound. The meeting is going on till this sun. I hear that on the 1st nit the prophet spoke on adultery, i asked my husband what he thot about the sermon? he said that he didnt listen… (dissapointing…) I havent been attending evn tho i hav wanted to but he tells me to stay away b.caus the otha women is there & its too much stress on him having us both there.
    Yesterday he took our daughter out to lunch and after questioning her it turns out they were at her place of work during her lunchtime – I told him neva to take my daughter to her again. he got upset.

    My husbands is a PK and I dont think he eva reali had a real deep relationship with Jesus, & he knows Gods word… I have been praying off & on for his salvation, he has always played in church its like 2nd nature to him. Rit now I believe i reali need to dig in with prayers 4 his salvation including our marriage & the adulterous relationship he is in rit now. The pastor whose tent meeting it is past away last year & it was his vision to have this meeting & his wife has run with it this year – apparently she is quite dynamic – I have been feeling I want to go & spk to her about wats goin on – im not sure if its just me that wants to go but i feel this urge to go spk to her… altho i knw my husband wud b upset at me for telling her wat is going on if he found out… (mayb i can tell her in confidence) i may end up going tomoro i am praying about that still. Reason being she prayed about sum1 like my husband coming to help with the meeting & she felt God sent my husband. (Mayb i can enlist her as a prayer warrior) I dont know….. (thoughts)

    Guyz last nit I was torn up by the conversation we had… He tells me he loves this other women, he is inlove with her and he wants to be with her, he feels strange when he cums home. When i told him i missed him ova the w’end he was with her he tells me he cant say the same.(hurts) He spoke along the lines of us separating… I told him I cannot accept it, I love him too much too let him go & I cant consider a life without him & that I have been compromising myself soooo much by letting him go off with this other women that I will leave him during this tent meeting but that he needs compromise with me now as well & be home next week of the 27th Feb & the Weekend of the 3/4 of March we need to go away for the weekend alone together. – he agreed to this (mayb 2 keep me quiet so he can go?) I also told him we need to go see a marriage councillor which he more or less agreed to but told me I have to get some1 he doesnt know as thru his musical ministry he knows alot of ppl. I told him i feel very uncomftorble about the fact that he is playing in church as he is involved in an adulterous relationship – he tell me that they need him & his expertise at this tent meeting – how can he turn them down?

    We ended up having sex as I have neva kept myself away from my husband as his wife in this area.This is how it always ends – with no answers. I felt so empty & lost wen we were done – felt there was no connection. I could not sleep and I did not sleep – I had so many doubts – I even had to take herbal drops to calm myself down hoping it wud make me sleep yet i stil stayed up having all these doubts & fears. Sneaked & checked my husbands cellphone & felt even more hurt by a photo of her on his wallpaper – he keeps his cellphone locked.

    I havent wanted to but thats it in a nutshell – i was so low on faith last nit. On my way to work stopped at a KFC for cuppucino – I wanted to fast only water but bcaus of no sleep needed the energy & felt beta – revived by coffee. Funny enough as soon as i got going after getting up this morning I started feeling beta & chided myself in doubting God even tho in the natural as you can see the situation is very bad. My husband wont b home again 2nit & i will be praying. Rit now I feel God wants me to press in no matter what the circumstances look like – God still wants me to trust him,believe in him, no matter what!

    Im so sori I probabli sound like such a victim – im sori i just need to offload & I hate puting my personal business on the line like this but this seems to be the onli real place where I get wisdom from Godly people who understand.

    God bless you all thank you Crystal, Robert, Sendy & others for praying for me in my time of need please continue praying for:

    1. That I find sum1 Godly for marriage councilling & my husband evn tho he has agreed to councilling goes thru with it.

    2. He comes home and sticks to his word & we can go away for that w’end together & revive our marriage & just hav a gud time together. that it wil b the start of reconcillition.

    Thank you all for being there 4 me in my time of need & so swiftly when i need you!

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52. Thank you, Robert!

    I with you on that – completely – and I’ll get on those specific prayers. Like you, I married for life and that is despite God’s okay for my exit. When I see & think of our sons, those feelings reaffirm what’s already in my heart because I know it’s in theirs, too. Even though she married her 4th boyfriend in a year (just 9 days after she divorced me), they’re still vocal about it.

    After 3 months, I exposed her to BF’s wife, and also to her parents as advised by Dr. James Dobson’s Love Must Be Tough. Unfortunately, I think that’s primarily why she’s so hateful towards me. Possibly not…

    Robert, you’re amazingly wise and are a solid character. Thank you for being here!!

    Sonnette, please don’t lose heart or faith. Understand that it’s a long process to commit to. There will be disappointment and false positives and false starts. RejoiceMinistries has been a solid source, too.

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53. Barry,

    You’re welcomed, but thank God with your praise and bless me with your prayers! 🙂

    I know words cannot express what you’re going through, but follow His prompting and He will not let you down. He will make you MORE than a conqueror!

    I so badly wanted to tell my wife’s parents about what and who she’s involved with (since they know him and his whole family). But my spirit led me to protect my wife from that shame – it’s between me, her, and God. Everything eventually comes out into the open anyway, so that’s the leading I’m following. I’m NOT saying you were right or wrong – just sharing my walk.

    Thank you and praise God for confirming my being a blessing in your life. It really helps to build up my faith! Know I am praying for YOU and everyone else on this site fervently!

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54. Sonnette……
    I’m going to say something to you and I promise you I’m saying it in love hun…..you may be upset with me for a while but know that I do love and care about you regardless:)
    I have read every post on this site including yours and your situation and I believe that for any of us on here to progress we should all tell each other the truth no matter how hard it may be:(
    Sonnete your husband is absolutely positively no good as a husband….he is a user, abuser and a cheat…..just like my own husband was….
    I am certain that you yourself are not without guilt in the break down of your marriage and you contributed somewhat but you are clearly making a desperate effort to make wrong things right…..even what wasnt your fault.

    That your husband in light of this is still running around boldly proclaiming love for this other woman and still have the guts of have sex with you (as is his right as a husband)….while telling you he doesnt want to be with you….while playing in the church band…while having a another woman as a screen saver on his phone etc…I could go on and on…..that someone can be so heartless and cruel is not beyond me sorry to say because I’ve been there.
    Some may be tempted to say leave him and get a divorce…I too might’ve said that had I not experienced first hand almost this said thing you are now going through…BUT love is a powerful thing….
    Sonnette this man needs a change and a drastic reality check that only God himself can deliver….YOU can not change his mind or his attitudes but GOD CAN…..
    Please do not beg your husband to stay and also dont try to guilt him into staying….if he wants to leave let him leave….he knows that you love him and he knows how hard you are are trying to make your marriage work….inspite of all his indiscretions you still love him and he knows that……if inspite of all of that he still wants to go then let him go.
    Sonnette…..I dare say this maybe what he needs to get his reality check…..this might be the move God wants to bring him completely to his knees…..DO NOT give up praying for him….I honestly do not see his actions as that of just a cheating man…there is something deeper influencing (spelling)and behind this….I’m sure he was a wonderful loving caring husband before and I KNOW God can restore all of that….BUT….you have to allow Him to do his work….it will be painful my dearest but LET GO AND LET GOD…..Do not let his saying his mistress will be uncomfortable stop you from attendings those services….if she is uncomfortable then that is her business …she shouldnt be with another woman’s husband to begin with so let him and her work that out….I believe that he heard exactly what the sermon was on adultry but he is just to ashamed as he should be…
    Do whatever you can to draw closer to God…..CONTINUE to pray for him……he is not so far gone that God can not shake him up….look at my own husband and look what God did…..
    Trust God to work this out and just move out of the way..even if it is allowing him to leave…..my own up and left whether I liked it or not but where is he now….PRAISE GOD…..leave your husband to him and he is going to straighten him out….you’ll be surprised at his turn around…..
    You are incredibaly strong and I believe it is because of God that you’re able to bare all of this…..your situation is not the worse there is…..if God can raise the dead and breathe life into man…then my dearest a cheating husband that just needs a good few spiritual slaps in his backside is certainly no match for him:)))….My darling you’ve come too far to turn back….dont give up….be encouraged:)

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55. Sonnette,

    Your husband is in a sinful “fog”. These situations are so emotionally and mentally traumatic, the innocent spouse is also forced into their own kind of fog where thoughts are usually righteous, but there is a better chance for poor judgment and choices because of the circumstances. It really is a tragic situation and without God & Christs loving example, it’s extra-difficult.

    I was there, foggy and tempted while considering moving forward with a few inappropriate relationships many years ago – 10 years into my 17 year marriage. It’s ugly and I reasoned and rationalized my way into those situations with my own anger and bitterness. Thankfully I came to my senses before any real damage was done. I realized how easily I slid and fell, how imperfect I really am. I came to appreciate my learning experience and re-valued and re-ordered my priorities in life and put my wife on a pedestal. Which is probably why it’s so difficult for our sons and I right now.

    The fog – yours and his, does clear. But it takes time, patience, and some sunshine. 🙂 Please know that I’m praying for you & your husband…

    Barry

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56. Lord, let Your axe of fire fall on the root of my marital problems and cut them to pieces, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ. If ever the fire between us dies into a suffocating smoke (or fog), I pray that You would clear the air and rekindle the flame with your life giving breath, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ!

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57. Sendy,

    WOW! That is an AWESOME praise report! Thank you God, thank you Jesus, thank you Holy Spirit!

    And your words to Sonnette, truly spirit-filled. I receive that “New Beginning” in my marriage, I grab onto it, I won’t let go no matter what – like a pit bull dog with a bone!!!

    Anyone else receive that?

    We’re not here by chance. You were ALWAYS meant to find this post, at this very point in your life, with the specific people that are on here! I was too. God brought us here for several reasons and He’s building us up – iron sharpens iron.

    Let us continue to pray for each other vigorously! In my own personal walk, I don’t see much different in my house, but when I look out the “window,” I can see a heck of a storm driven by God & His angels swirling all around the house! I know it’s just a matter of time before the windows shatter, the doors bust open, and the roof is ripped off from my situation!

    Do you feel it too? I tell you… several people praying for me have told me they’ve now come under attack, and I in turn pray for them too. The devil is getting nervous and he’s stepping up his efforts – we need to do the same IN FORCE!

    A grain of sand doesn’t do anything on it’s own. But together, they hold back the oceans!

    Is ANYTHING too hard for the Lord?!

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58. Someone just reminded me of a story I shared with them – they felt so inspired by it, they said I should share it with everyone else too. So here goes…

    Many years ago, I went on a vacation with my family and girlfriend (of course, before I even knew my wife). My girlfriend and I were having fun swimming on the beach. But at one point, we were a little too far out from the shore and got pulled down by an undercurrent. I remember reaching out to my girlfriend and trying to pull her towards the shore, since I was closer than she was. Every time I would get pulled under water, I would try to push her up and forward so she would be closer to the beach. But our feet weren’t touching the ground and it was physically exhausting. I could feel my lungs filling up with water every time I went down – like a glass being filled a few ounces at a time. I could feel the weight of the water in my chest starting to weigh me down.

    At one point, I called out to God in my mind and told Him I was tired… very tired. I could only manage to go down one more time but if I couldn’t get back to the beach, I was ready to give up the fight to live and I would allow myself to drown peacefully. My head came back above water and I was able to take one more breath before the undercurrent pulled me down again. I was ready to release my breath and my life when my big toe was able to push forward against a few grains of sand – like a feather caressing your skin. But those few grains of sand was all I needed to somehow get my head above water again and move forward. The next time I went down, I felt more sand under my feet and was able to continue to move forward, push up above the water, and so forth until I dragged us both to the beach.

    We collapsed on the beach, coughing and emptying out our lungs from the water we had breathed in. We stayed there probably for about 15 minutes or so – just sleeping on the beach as the waves kept washing over our legs.

    How many times have you felt like giving up on something in your life? Your marriage? Maybe even your life?

    Yet, just as all we need is faith the size of a mustard seed, those few grains of sand at the tip of my big toe were all I needed – all that stood between life and death for me and my girlfriend. Had I given up that day, my children would’ve never been born and neither would their children (and so on). Who knows the ripple effect it had on her life.

    Sometimes we’re so close – to life, to death, to our miracle, to nothing other than just another day – but we feel like giving up. We can’t see the reason to move forward. Maybe we’re still out there swimming. Maybe we’ve passed out from exhaustion, but don’t realize we’re already safely on the beach – God is just giving us a period of rest to rebuild our strength.

    You don’t need a lot to produce a miracle in your life. Patience, however, is the water for your seed – and that, unfortunately, does require a lot.

    But often it’s the easiest things in life that are the hardest to do.

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59. SENDY!!!!

    Praise be to the Lord God!! We serve an awesum miracle working, Living God! Right now I just want to praise God!! – I feel soooooo blessed to have been a blessing!! That is absolutely wonderful news about your brother I am soooo hapi & excited I actuali started crying here at my place of work!!!

    Sendy when I was 18yrs old my parents got divorced, i dont think they eva reali loved each other & i think they got married for all the wrong reasons… They have been divorced now for a couple of yrs.
    I have 2 younger unsaved brothers and I have always prayed off & on for their salvation, I live in a different city to them & dont see them often but ur account of your situation with your brother tells me that i need to continue praying for my brothers & family’s salvation & my mum & dad – its only myself & my eldest sister who is saved. I also lost my other younger brother to TB in January 2011 but praise God I & my sister encouraged him & he did give his heart to Jesus before he died.

    Sendy thank & thank you for your words of encouragement, I havent been attending church altho I have kept my relationship with Jesus, my husband & I moved to a different town a couple yrs ago & visited many church here but neva settled on 1 – I have decided that I am going to start attending church regularly with my 5yr old daughter again & she needs to attend sunday school.

    I am soooo excited about what God is doing in your brothers life!! wow God is soooo good!

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60. Sendy I read ur post again… im not done with you – you said something very profound. These were your words to me: “Ask Him to show you His perspective on your circumstances (for His ways are not our ways and He will give us what we need)” Well can I tell you something God has already shown me his perspective and given me what I need this morning as soon as I got to work! im excited! Well what happend was I decided to fast & pray today – then i searched Fasting & Praying on this site but instead I got to a this page on this site called: Trials and Tribulations – The Testing of Your Faith. I started reading it: its about why Christians saved by the blood go thru trials & tribulations. – Very interesting reading & a very long article – im stil busy reading it. every1 should read it – just search Trials & Tribulations – The Testing of ur Faith.

    Anyway a colleague – young saved guy comes & sits nxt to me & asks me “what you doing Sonnette?” so I tell him: “Im just reading this article on why even us Christians saved by the blood goes thru trials & tribulations” well this guy knows nothing in fact none of my colleagues know what im going thru…He says to me: “Sonnette funny because this morning i was watching a sermon by Grassroots Angus Buchan – well Angus Buchan is a South African farmer & popular preacher of Gods word. he says “the sermon was about snow & that where he farms he gets snow every couple of years & it spoils his crops – the crop is inferior. But he also said that even tho this happens the snow does something else – snow rejuvenates the soil & kills any insects & germs in the snow & then the next year you get a very very good bumper crop!”

    Wow! isnt God good 🙂 God has shown me his perspective in my circumstances! God is there – he is working in our situations I think we just have to learn to see the signs 🙂 I also remember now that when I 1st found out about my husbands adultery, that night i cudnt sleep i was just praying – God showed me a wound on a leg a pussy sore then he showed me this pussy sore oozing now & that, that was where I was, then he showed me the pussy sore scar after it healed & then the scar completely healed & blemish free. God showed me that the sore was starting to ooze when I found out about the adultery.

    Also I read ur url the bibleriches.org website – very interesting – will look at it more indepth when I get home & im gona download the Chris Tomlin – I lift my hands mp3 onto my cellphone to listen to whenever i need to 🙂 God has used me in ur life & u have been used in my life Sendy 🙂 God is sooooo awesum I am soooo overwhelmed! He is rit here with me in this storm!

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61. Barry

    thank you for your words of encouragement & prayers it has really lifted me up today reading your post. I am trusting & believing that God will bring my husband to that place he brought you – to his senses! To complete salvation!

    I’m praying that the blinkers & blinders will fall off my husbands eyes. That the hedge of thorns im praying around him will allow nothing thru but God’s word as Gods word is sharper than any two edged sword!

    I’m starting to slowly come to a place where I’m realizing God loves me & cares for me & cares for what Im going thru and he is rit here with me!

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62. Crystal

    Thank you for being so brutally honest with me even tho u knew it wud hurt me. The funny thing is that wat u were saying I felt in my heart & i believe the Holy Spirit was ministering the exact same you telling me thing is – I just didnt know how to assimilate it on that terrible nit.

    My husband just phoned me now – normally I phone him every morning when I get to work & also to make sure he is coming home which I did not do – I did not phone him this morning – 1st thing he says was why havent i phoned him he hasnt heard from me….. he sounded a very leeeeeetle bit sore I didnt phone him he mustv been waiting for my call to tell me his not coming home 2nit again as he has to re-rig the sound. I told him – fine. I know alredi even if i protest he wil go ahead & do as he wants & get angry with me for insisting he cums home.

    U know Crystal u sed my husband is a user, abuser & a cheat & that was what I was feeling! it was what i was realising – I knew i had to start being honest with myself – u putting it into words has helped me see the reality of the situation. & that is exactly wat i was doing make the wrongs rit – well im gona stop doing that Crystal – i have been trying to make up for the wrong i was doing but the thing is it has not been reciprocated – u rit – even wat wasnt my fault.

    & yes i have decided not to beg him to stay anymor or to guilt him into staying – i have made that decision. I thank the Lord for some1 like u Crystal coming into my life who has been thru this! Crystal I am letting go & letting God!! & i feel such peace about that if u read my post to Sendy u wil see how God has been so present in my life today! 🙂 its almost like a new beginning.

    I have decided to go to the services from Fri nit til Sun when it wil finish I told my husband i wud b there – he tells me to not cause any trouble – I told him the only reason Im going is because every1 at work has been encouraging me to go – his seen all my colleagues there & because i want to be in the Gods presence. Im taking my daughter and i am going to give her a firm warning not to go to the other women. Im not going near her either & iv decided to stay as much away from my husband as i can as i know my daugher wil wnt to go to her daddy.

    I feel strengthend again & wil continue praying for my husband – I know God is with me! Thank you for those words – thats exactly wat i am going to do – giv my husband ova to God – i know God wil do the work & create the change in him. Like Barry sed he is in a fog – he cannot see wat his actions is doing but i trust God to show him the reality of his actions. I felt so ashamed of my last post & bearing it all – but it was a good move – i needed to not only b honest with myself but with u too so i cud c the reality of my situation.

    Thank you for the encourage & God bless all of u! God is gona work mightily! – soon our posts wil b testimonies!!

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63. Robert,

    Thanks for ur posts on the material & sites, music to listen to etc & every1 else – i have lots to do to keep myself occupied in Gods word! & lots of meditating to do – esp those verses on God working speedily in our situations.

    U r sooo rit about the conversations we hav as he does bring up the other women & how she has made him feel loved etc. wat she bought him – how she makes him feel – & u know wat – its hurts! so i have decided not to allow that subject to come up because u r soooo rit I have always ended up the loser in those conversations!

    Matthew 7:6 – “Don’t give what is holy to dogs or throw your pearls to pigs. Otherwise, they will trample them and then tear you to pieces.” U know Rbert the last time my husband and i were intimate.. the fact is – i actuali felt used. so i have decided that until we reconcile it will be purely platonic. u rit he doesnt appreciate it.

    Where the councilling is concerned Im not too sure. I think he may have agreed to it because of presure, maybe guilt, to keep me quiet so he can go again… who knows but I feel i shud not reali pursue it until he reali wants to reconcile – it may be a waste…

    Well thats it 4 me. Yesterday & today was truly days of enlightenment 4 me!
    I feel ready to pick up my weapons & stand in my authority to fight this fight as i know God is on my side – i can see him working in mysterious ways!

    God bless u all!! u hav all been such a blessing to me – i am exactly where im supposed to be.

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64. Sonnette…..Can I call you Sonn:) or Nette…LOL…Ok yeah the Nette is ridiculous LOL…
    You are so special to me you dont even know it:)….I am so proud of you girl and I love you to bits (big hugs and kisses)….
    Dont you ever feel ashamed of anything you post on this forum….no one here is judging you hun…not me not Robert not Sendy,Barry,Christine no one….
    You have no idea how your posts has helped us even in our own struggle….your strength is so rare and is to be admired I myself dont know how I would’ve made it…..
    If you’re ashamed about the sex thing dont be…I myself did that same thing just under slightly different circumstances but sex is sex nevertheless.
    I know God is going to make that change in your husband dont you worry…easier said than done I know but we are all here for u untill he comes to his senses and even after he comes….
    I wish we could all on this forum go to lunch some time LOLOLOL….ROB you pick the place…SEndy you buy the milkshakes…..and BArry…you pay for the treats……orange coconut for me LOL

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65. She remarried so there is little to no hope or expectation of a reconciliation. The primary issue I’m forced to deal with now is her hatred & badmouthing to our sons (10 & 7) & other family. Lies & projecting of guilt. Thankfully the boys know better. The latest is her is having our 7 year old baptized this weekend. Not such a bad thing. But he was already baptized with me at our old church last month. Her reasoning? Because she didn’t see it. So she’s inviting all kinds of family out to her church. I’ve been in discussion with that particular pastor & I plan on being there… He just described it as unusual.

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66. Barry,

    So are you’re saying God can’t reconcile your marriage, or you’re at peace with not reconciling it? I just want to make sure you’re not letting the devil tell you it’s too late. Did you see the website Crystal posted about that couple who were divorced for 7 years? As far as the other Pastor, if he thinks it’s “unusual” then tell him to pray asking for God to reveal the truth as to what has been going on. But I would attend it anyway – that’s your child. Not sure why she didn’t attend the first one but I don’t think it’s really important. Just make sure you don’t fall into the trap I feel she may be setting you up for. Even if you’re in the right, you may end up looking like the bad guy. Not exactly sure what that means – but be on your guard and plead the blood of Jesus over you and the situation.

    Everyone else,

    Shortly after New Year’s, I asked God to show me a specific sign that He heard my prayer and was going to answer it in the way I had hoped He would. The sign was for a pigeon to land on my window sill. And guess what? I never got the sign.

    I prayed intensely yesterday night, fell asleep thanking God. Woke up this morning, prayed again – super intense!

    As soon as I said “Amen,” I heard something outside the window. When I lifted up the shade, there were 3 birds (not pigeons) looking at me, then one by one, they flew away. I put the shade down, and thanked God in tears for His sign. During my praise, I heard something else by the window – a different bird, looking at me, and then flew away.

    I asked God for 1, he sent me 4 – what a God of abundance!

    Now, I haven’t seen any real change in my wife, but OUR prayers are working… PLEASE KEEP PRAYING, DON’T LET UP!

    Then, one of my prayer warriors called me saying they felt down and under attack. Well, God and I fixed that up right away! My mother called to tell me her situation at work that we prayed over was turned around – praise God!

    Later in the day, I started to feel under attack. I immediately broke out in violent prayer (think of the language in the Psalm I quoted yesterday) and look what happens…

    Sendy comes to the rescue with her beautifully Spirit-inspired prayer! It made me cry! (But then lately, most things make me cry 😉

    But it was sooo beautifully written, it didn’t even give the enemy a chance to plant a stronghold in my mind or heart.

    Our prayers have momentum, they’re working, they’re creating results, they’re manifesting signs and wonders…

    Keep pressing forth as I am in agreement with all of you too! God is here… RIGHT NOW.

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67. Trust me !! NEVER GIVE UP!!! My husband and I were divorced for 18 years as I said before. We both had gotten married to another person. We can not even begin to tell you how we got back together after all those years. Our children are grown and now we get to enjoy being grandparents together. Who would ever had thought? Certainly not us!! It was truelly a miracle !!! Never give up hope!! Now it’s like we had never been apart!!! God bless you all!!!

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68. Martette,

    It’s wonderful to hear from you again… Thank you for your encouragement – it is music to our ears! I pray someday, you will be able to share your story of how God reunited both of you.

    You never know who’s life God is waiting to change THROUGH YOU and the blessing He’s created in your life!

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69. I would love to tell you all our LOVE STORY!!! There is someone else who is wanting to hear our testimony as well. So once I get it all wrote out I will share it with you all!! We promised God we would not keep quiet about what he has done for us !! God Bless!!

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70. Robert, keep your vigilance up!!!!
    But rejoice!! Members of the body of Christ are starting to confirm!!!! ALL GLORY TO OUR HOLY GOD,
    This happen to me on tuesday, remember that my brother had the meeting with the doctors. I had decided to fast ( which I really hate) and was just wondering on how, how would God be ale to move, how would my little faith be able to do anything! I gave Him what I could, but just felt so alone and ready for reality, when I went to check my mailbox, and saw a letter for me. When I opened it, it came with the usual stuff, but there was a post-it attach to it. This woman from GFA (gospel for asia) just left me a little note, letting me know that it was her privilege to pray for my brother, my increase in faith and my parents. I had send my prayer request in July. I kept receiving their mail, but never a note or something the like, until tuesday, on the day that my brother had his evaluation, when I needed to step up in major faith. She had no way of knowing when the letter would arrive, it was send by post. I don’t even know her! Yet the little note arrive when I needed it most. Robert, I don’t think this a coincidence, but keep praying and seeking our Lord’s will. We must keep praying in Agreement and Unity, because just as the Lord is working the enemy will try desperate and stronger attacks, but who can against us when we have brothers and sisters the most AMAZING and INCREDIBLE and POWERFUL LIVING GOD backing our back. Most Exalted One, this is Your Fight, Your Word and Arm will prevail Against Anything and Anyone, may we be Your vessel, as clay in Your Hand, may we be molded to Your desire and Utility in this coming storm, and like eagles enter the storm without fear but rejoicing For Your Winds will guide us!

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71. Got sum great news now guyz! 🙂 – I contacted a church about marriage councilling on Wednesday this week and the lady I spoke to said that she would get a Pastor to get back to me. I neva expected sum1 2 get back to me in fact to be honest I gave up on councilling as I thought that mayb it wud onli b gud to go once my husband wants to reconcile…

    I have been praying for God to send us a Godly couple to council us, who have been through what we have been thru & come out of the experience victoriously. Well I got a call from a Pastor today and we chatted for a while, he said that he personally would not council us because he has only been married for 2 yrs but there are two specific couples who have been divorced & remarried that he thinks would be good to council us – he told me that there are numerous couples in the church who have had various issues for cause of breakdown in their marriage like substance abuse, infidelity, financial reasons and that they are now a living testimoni of God’s restoration power. He spoke alot about the things we have discussed & believe in on this site.

    I felt so much joy just speaking to him – he was speaking our language guyz! I told him I wasnt sure if its the right time for us to get councilling & he said – your husband needs to be confronted with this – he needs to know the truth – what he said made sense. He will be getting back to me sometime nxt week as he wants to speak to these couples to ascertain who would be the best to council my husband and I.

    Please cover this in your prayers guyz!!! that God send the right Godly couple to council us and that my husband agrees to going & that God will prepare his heart in advance for the councilling!
    God bless u all! all my luv!

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72. Ohhh i love this, I just send it to my pastor!! And Sonnette so glad that you did proceed to councilling, and God does want you do that, here is what I receive today in my devotional
    Divorce and Adultery

    Matthew 5:31-32

    John Calvin reminds us that “the bond of marriage is too sacred to be dissolved at the will, or rather at the licentious pleasure, of men.” Many issues can drive spouses to despair and contemplate an unbiblical divorce. That is why we must seek help for our marital troubles at the first sign of trouble. If you need counseling, make an appointment with your pastor today. If you know of another couple who is having problems, encourage them to seek counseling as well.

    For further study:

    Malachi 2:10-16

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73. Robert,

    I love those little signs!

    I do honestly believe God can do anything. All things are possible, even reconciliation and a full restoration of marriage, with God.

    When I break it down, there are a couple of issues of mine that I have to work on with myself. One is my own anger & bitterness towards what occurred. Not just the infidelity, but the character assassination and lies since. After having been failed by my wife, some family and even my own children to some extents, I have great difficulty trusting other people in all areas of my life. I know that’s not good & I’m working on it. The lying & dishonesty make it difficult because it’s still happening. I really don’t want to be around a person like that and a small part of me is afraid of being failed again.

    I would love to experience reconciliation because I know a Godly restoration makes all things many times better and stronger than it ever was before… I want nothing more than that. Our sons feel the same way. Everything I’ve read – others’ testimonies and some of my own experiences of restoration in life assure me of that. It’s such a beautiful thing!!

    Martette,

    Thank you for sharing that!! 🙂

    And thank you, Crystal, for sharing THAT!!!

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74. I blocked my prodigal ex-husband from my phone yesterday. It was a heart-wrenching decision that I’m still struggling with. I prayed for a couple of weeks about it, took Holy Communion over it, prayed in the spirit, and asked God for wisdom. I really felt led to put an end to his nonsense and block him.

    He left me 7 years ago for another woman, who ended up dumping him a couple of years ago. I had prayed the hedge of thorns prayer and stood on God’s Word and proclaimed the demise of that relationship, but it took that long for it to come to an end. I thought he would come running back, and he did make a false start, but his heart was still hardened towards me. He still blames me for everything, even blames me for that adulteress dumping him. The cheating spouses always say the same things because the devil knows no new tricks.

    This past Thanksgiving when he came to visit the kids (he lives a couple of hundred miles away), I thought there was a huge breakthrough with him. His heart seemed softened, and he wanted to spend time with me. I didn’t pressure him or pursue; I just followed his lead. We had a nice holiday, but when he returned for Christmas, it was a different story. He was running around with a married woman- a classmate he had reconnected with thanks to faceboook- and lying to me about it. I stayed quiet and poured my heart and tears out to God. We did end up spending some time together, but he spent most of his time texting or facebooking on his phone and saying things to hurt my feelings, and there was zero affection.

    After Christmas, when he went back to where he lives, we have stayed in touch, but most of our phone/text conversations only served to torment me. He was always going on about all this new stuff he was buying for his apartment, which to me meant he had no intention of us ever being together. He would contact me only when it was convenient for him, and he would talk about the women he worked out with. He was texting a married woman he works out with (why does marriage mean NOTHING anymore?), and also a couple of 20-something year olds he works with. He would even tell me about going out on the town with those 20-something year olds (He is 41). He would be very sweet sometimes and tell me he missed me, so it kept me in a constant state of confusion and torment. It became intolerable to the point that I didnt want to hear from him anymore, so last night I sent him an email, then blocked his number. I’m sure he is going to be very angry.

    I don’t know if I made the right decision or not. Part of me feels like I gave up, but part of me feels at peace because I’m no longer his doormat or the recipient of his emotional abuse. I will continue to pray for God to touch his heart, and will cast all my cares on Him and rest in knowing that it’s all in God’s hands and that He’ll work it all out for my good.

    I’ve been praying for all the marriages here. Proclaiming your rights to a restored marriage and that the mountain of adultery will be removed and cast into the sea forever. It’s time for us to take back everything the enemy has stolen. He has been caught and must now repay at least 7x what he has stolen from us!

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75. Hello everybody,
    How have you been doing?? How has the Lord reveal himself to you these days?
    Sonnette any news on your husband? How did the service go? Was it this weekend that you went away with your spouse? And you Robert, how are you?? How is your family?
    Everything on my side looks as in standby, but my mum told me today that she would like to go next Sunday to her friend’s (the couple that has been coming at our house to spend time) church to visit 🙂
    Had some trouble with my brother, and well ask forgiveness but it was very hard. Especially when he was at fault. But everything is ok now. Have a bless week, and please brothers and sisters lets keep our walk strong!

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76. Hollis,

    If the Lord let you to do that, he knows what is best. And if you are sure that this is the action he wanted for you to take, then just obey. He always has the best for us in mind even if we might experience pain or discomfort over it. How have you been since you blocked your husband? Has he tried to contact you by other forms? Have a bless week sister.

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77. Hi everyone. I get an email the INSTANT anyone posts to this forum and I read ALL of them IMMEDIATELY. So, even if I don’t post, trust in knowing that as soon as I see a post (especially with a prayer request) I read it (and pray if there’s a request to do so). I love all of you!

    Yesterday, the Spirit inside of me was going haywire! I don’t know how to describe it – it wasn’t a bad feeling. It was like it was bouncing off the walls with so much excess energy! I was doing some heavy prayers yesterday morning (for all of you and myself) as well as fasting through breakfast and lunch. I was also under heavy attack, so I kept praying throughout the day. I thought maybe this might be my breakthrough. But, at the end of the day, everything appeared the same with my wife. I was so EXHAUSTED and disappointed – not in God, but just that I had to go through one more day of not seeing her smile at me, not holding her in my aching arms, not feeling the electricity of her kisses throughout my body, not smelling her sweet scent… so many things.

    I slept for 12 hours. Today, I’m still wiped out – just trying to recuperate. I’m not depressed as I have been in the past – just weary and tired from fighting the “good fight of faith.” I’m getting ready to go to evening church service shortly. Hopefully I will be recharged. But for right now, I’m just curled up in the fetal position under His wings, resting.

    Sonnette, if you can, you should really try to watch the video! It talks about 2 Chronicles 20 – God’s battle plan for us is to:

    1. Fear not (meaning when you do feel fear, don’t run away from the situation)
    2. Hold your peace (rest on His peace)
    3. Remain at rest (stand your ground; you don’t need to fight the battle – He will)
    4. Keep doing what you know to do (prayer, fast, praise, etc.)
    5. Let God fight the battle for you (watch God setup ambushes for the enemy and watch them destroy themselves)

    Sendy, thanks for checking in on me, sharing what’s been going on in your life, and for caring about us in the midst of your challenges too! 🙂

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78. Sendy,

    Thanks for your kind words. He did try to contact me Friday night from a hotel phone. His job requires a lot of traveling (hence the opportunity for his affair), so it’s common for him to stay in hotels. The call came at 1:30 am from a number unknown to me. I didn’t answer it, but I called it back out of curiosity. Sure enough it was a hotel. My curiosity continued to get the better of me, and I called the hotel back to see if he was staying there. Indeed he was, so it was in fact he who tried calling me from the hotel. It gave me a sick feeling because I so want to think he was reaching out, but I’ve fallen victim to similar schemes from him many times. He is very double-minded, and I continue to demand that Satan release him in Jesus’ name!

    I’ve had a very sad weekend because I miss him. Even though hearing from him always caused me such anguish, I still love him and miss him

    I am continuing to pray for all the broken marriages here and believing God that he is retiring all that has been lost.

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79. Dear Hollis

    I feel your pain and I know Robert does too, for the last 2 mths its been my daughter and I alone at w’ends. W’ends are the worst as before i found out about my husbands adultery we used to take our 5yr old daughter to the beach for swimming almost every w’end. I know that my little darling misses her dad & our family trips to the beach. I also think that she is too young to understand. My heart bleeds for my baby. At least this morning I cud tell her daddy is coming home tonight… I pray that God will reveal his plan for your life to you, that he will give you direction & peace.

    Father God I bring Hollis before you and Lord U are our Great Comforter & Redeemer, our strength. Give Hollis an extra portion of your strength, reveal your plans for her life to her, do not delay Lord, reveal your perfect plan!
    Your word is a light unto our paths and a lamp unto our feet. May your word perfectly direct Hollis, may there be no doubt in her mind of your plans for her as your plan is to prosper her & to give her a hope & a future & not to harm her!

    In Jesus Mighty Name. Amen

    What I love the most about this is that it tells us that God does not slumber nor sleep!! He is always watching over us! No matter what we are going thru He knows! He knows how you are feeling, how alone you are feeling, how much it hurts inside you. I have come to a point that I now tell God how I’m feeling, if it hurts inside I tell God exactly how I feel as he knows anyway. Tell your daddy Hollis, tell him how u feel, dont hide anything away.

    Know that I love & care for you, wish i lived somewhere near you & we cud spend our w’ends together 🙂 Sonnette

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80. Hi Sendy

    I have been fine, standing on Gods word. My husband wasnt home this w’end. I dont know how its gone at the tent meeting & i dont know if he has had his meeting with the Pastor from Kenya. To be honest with you I should be studying w’ends as Im doing a BCompt degree over 5yrs, im in the 2nd yr, I take 3 subjects every semester. & I work full time. But I cant study, I havent touched a book since this happend, I just cant get into it. All i can think of doing is getting into Gods word & praying.. I stil have sum time but I wil have to dig up the determination again.

    No its not this w’end past that we went away. Its this w’end coming up. I havent made plans yet & as I said my husband wil b home again this evening. I will have to speak to him about it again. Also Im waiting for a call from a Pastor this week for councilling. Please pray that my husband will still be open to the w’end away & the councilling. I am trusting God in that area.

    Im so hapi ur mum wants to go to church this w’end & im soooo proud of you for apologising to your brother even tho u werent wrong – u are showing the mind & attitude of Christ!

    Thank you for always encouraging & checking in on all of us. 🙂 thanks for your love!

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81. Good morning my sweets…..love you all:)…

    This is the very first word I ever preached and God brought it back to my memory and I felt led to share because it is also a word for somebody if not every one on this forum….ROB….Hollis…Sonette…Barry…..

    I couldnt wait to get in the office so I can share this word for today and it is this

    But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run, and not be weary, and they shall walk, and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31).

    Read it re-read it and meditate on it for today my friends because God is speaking…..
    A shift is taking place in the spirit world ppl….get ready:))

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82. Crystal!!

    Yowweeeee!!! Thanks for this word! I love it & will most definitli meditate on it.

    But guess what… funny feeling I have… a feeling of assurance, a feeling of peace, a feeling of serenity & normally knowing my husband is coming home tonight would make me feel so nervous and i dont feel anxious… thinking about what do I say to him?

    I dont feel that way… its totally weird but I know its the HOly Spirit.
    You see this morning when i came to work i was thinking somehow i need to convince my husband that we must go for councilling & we must go away for a weekend away together but he has a very rebellious spirit rit now… I wasnt sure how to bring it up again… but u know what? I will bring it up with him because i know councilling wud b good for us but im not scared what his answer will be. Wateva happens now I trust God totally!!!

    You see I googled “God restores a brocken marriage” and I came across the Rejoice Marriage Ministries website & wow its a really great website and there are great resources like their daily devotional specifically geared towards healing the broken & daily encouragement for ppl going thru what we are going thru. And there are pages & pages of testimonies! & every Sat new testimonies are posted. I’m sure this is one of the sites Robert mentioned…

    Guyz have a look!

    The website also speaks alot about prodigals – like the prodigal son in the Bible (your spouse being far away from God) & in the testimonies ppl always mention their spouse as a prodigal and they encourage you to pray for your prodigals salvation 1st – which is what i have been feeling urged to do.

    Thanks for ur word! I am so ready for the shift! 🙂

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83. Sonnette, Rejoice Ministries is an amazing site. The Lord led me there nearly 7 years ago when my husband left home. The Steinkamps got me through some very dark times and have blessed my life immensely. Sadly, mr. Steinkamp passed recently, but the ministry lives on.

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84. Sonnete….WOW!!!!…..you have the peace of God…..that no matter what the outcome you know and feel that God is in complete control…..God is doing some work on the inside of you….I am soooo happy for you…this is fabulous…..

    Hollis & Sonnette…..Rejoice ministries is absolutely great!!!…..funny enough I was thinking about that site only yesterday and I was gonna post it on the forum….that site ESPECIALLY played a major part in my getting through my marriage breakdown….up to this morning I was reading their daily mail…comes straight to my phone…I was so dependent on them …everyday I looked forward for their email and it always seemed to speak to my situation and at the exact moment…praise God for those ppl.

    Hollis….Do you see how God is working through this site!!….he is just confirming one thing after another for us….we had and receive strength from each other here….Imagine that is the word you got this weekend and it is the same word I got THIS WEEKEND too…LOLOL….LORD I love you so much…you are too wonderful for words…..When God confirms stuff like that for me about something he’s telling me….in this case through Hollis…..it just makes me feel so good….to know that he still remembers me and is still using ppl to speak to me:)))….

    Guys I love you all very much and I would never stop praying for you all…..Rob and Barry I love you guys….you two are special boys on this site……a pillar of strenghth for us girls:)
    Dont stop doing what you are doing and I pray on you the blessing s of God which maketh rich and addeth no sorrow:)

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85. Well, I’m still wiped out from this weekend… I have to be on guard against my heart hardening but it’s starting to get difficult. It’s like I’m a car, running for so long and at such a high intensity, I’m almost running on empty and about to overheat. When I start to think about it, this Saturday isn’t what drained me. And my problems have been going on since 2006 – they just came to a head on January 1st. So I’ve been running this race for a long time too.

    Then I look at what Hollis, Sonnette, Barry, Farai, Ruby, Jessica, Martette, Dewi, Lucena, and Dan have gone through – I have NO idea how they have the strength to live! And Sendy… while she is not directly impacted (and I pray she never will), she lives in a home ruled by darkness with her being the only light of God. I think about what if I was one of them looking at my situation – how many would rather be living in my “mess” than their own? Then I think of the immense pain I feel towards my situation, multiplied hundreds of times by the situations of others like you, and how heartbroken God must be to experience it at His level, times millions of people… yet He loves us so much and is so patient. I’m grateful He’s as patient as He is – MORE than any of us deserve!

    Since I feel like I’m about to come up for one more gasp of breath before I allow myself to drown (from my previous drowning story), I’ve decided to let myself die for today.

    Today, I am fasting and dedicating ALL my prayers and tears again for all of you – none for me. I pray for His miracles and breakthroughs in ALL of your situations. I have a list with each of your names and what you’ve asked to pray in agreement about. For those that haven’t specifically asked (or as I’m led by the Spirit by those that have asked), I’m also praying for other things to help you pick up your crosses, hurl them away from you as far as you can, so you can be waiting for us at the beach in Hawaii drinking your milkshakes.

    Be blessed!

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86. Robert, this came in today, and the Lord always fulfills his promises to his children 🙂
    Restoration from the Shepherd

    Daily Devotional for Tuesday, February 28th, 2012

    He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. Psalms 23:3

        Your Shepherd knows your every need. He knows you will grow weary in your pilgrimage with Him. He knows there are times when you need rest. Your Shepherd knows just what you need to be refreshed. At times you need to lie in lush meadows or beside quiet streams. Sometimes you need to be held by your Shepherd. At other times you need to enjoy the pleasures the Shepherd provides. The Shepherd will not always replenish you in the same way; His response to you will always perfectly correspond to your present need.

        As you follow your Shepherd there will be times when your soul becomes exhausted, perhaps because of trials you are experiencing or temptations you are resisting. The persecution you face or the burdens you are carrying for others may be wearing you down. You may be weary from the discipline the Shepherd has brought upon you. There will be times when you feel you can go no further in your Christian pilgrimage. Your Shepherd knows when you have reached this point, and He always has a remedy! There are many ways He can strengthen you: through His word, through others, or through your circumstances. He knows what you need even better than you do.

        Have you grown weary? Does your soul need to be refreshed? Don’t attempt to recover on your own. Only God knows how to heal and rejuvenate a soul (Isa. 40:28-31; Matt. 11:28-30). He will do it perfectly, sometimes in surprising ways. Ask Him to restore you, and then be prepared to respond to what He does next.

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87. Interesting… no comments since Tuesday. How is everyone?

    I’m still exhausted. Tuesday was one of the biggest attacks on me yet. I’ve reached a point where I just don’t care what happens to my marriage… or myself. Not in a way that I’m going to disobey God, but I’ve just given up other than praying because I feel nothing I do matters. One friend told me I have finally surrendered to God’s will completely. I would have to agree. I say “Let Your will be done in my life and my marriage, not mine” probably about 100 times a day.

    However, another friend said I needed to pray for 3 things for the next week:

    1. For God to reveal His will to me about my life
    2. For God to reveal His will to me about my marriage
    3. For the Hedge of Thorns around my prodigal spouse

    I’ve already revealed the “Hedge of Thorns” prayer I use on this site. In separate posts below, I will reveal the other prayer for His Will, plus another prayer called “Enough is Enough.” These are the 3 prayers I have been praying since Tuesday for myself and all of you.

    It’s a very sad and lonely place where I am now, spiritually, physically, in every way I can think of. Yesterday morning, at 5:27 AM, I instantly woke up from a deep sleep and blurted out 3 question sentences. I wish I could remember them word for word, but the basic message was this “Do not My people know each other, yet not pray for each other the way they’re supposed to? Don’t they understand the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much? Then why are they not doing so for each other?” (James 5:16)

    I have no idea who that was meant for other than me (because I’m sure it applies to me in some way), but I’ve never had that happen to me before and I did ask for His will to be revealed to me. Oh well, I’ll file that in the “things I probably should know but don’t know what to do with” box and ask for Him to reveal the lottery numbers next time.

    Sorry for sounding so sarcastic. I don’t mean to depress anyone or bring them down. I just feel like I’m laying down in the street… naked, cold, being rained on, and just telling God to do whatever He wants with me, my life, my family, my wife, and my marriage. To edit my post otherwise would be a disservice to anyone reading this WHEN (not if) they encounter the same feelings. I told God, as part of my covenant with Him restoring my marriage, I would document everything for His glory. I’m guessing/hoping He’s using this to give people hope when they feel they’re in the same place and see Him bring me out of it. Because I can tell you – I am NOT feeling more than a conqueror. I am NOT feeling like His yoke is easy or His burden is light. I am NOT feeling loved.

    Anyway, I still need to pray for tonight (I pray 3x a day) and thank you all for being in my life. Thank you Crystal & Sendy for your latest words of love and encouragement. I worry that the silence means everyone else is being attacked too. I hope I’m wrong.

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88. Thank you, Robert! I’m here. Just get busy from time to time. I’ve always felt God’s perfect will for marriage (and everything else) is directly expressed in the Bible. His words there are the #1 source of any indication of God’s will for us. However, there are sinful people and circumstances that affect us and carry us outside of His perfect will. We still need to roll with it and continue following Christ’s example.

    An issue of mine right now is kinda crazy and it makes me feel like such a hypocrite. There have been periods when I’ve walked the straight and narrow and some when I’ve succumbed to fleshly desires. I’ve dated off & on since my wife divorced. From what I’ve researched Biblically, I’m justified to marry someone else. Because after all, my wife left & divorced. She has always claimed to be a Christian but I’m wondering if it is safe to conclude we were unequally yoked and if I am without obligation towards her because of her actions of lying, cheating, leaving, divorcing & remarrying someone else.? When I look at & think of our sons, I feel like I shouldn’t be with anyone other than their mother. Odd because it still makes me physically ill to my stomach to look at her or even think about it.

    I feel she’s lost – completely. But I married for life. At what point not stand anymore? Am I obligated to honor my vows to her for life despite a legitimate & biblical “out”? I feel prepared whether I am, or not.

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89. Hi everyone! I just wanted to give a little of my own experience of what I had to learn. I had to learn to love God my savior and be IN LOVE with him more than my spouse! I know to some this may seem odd but sometimes we put God on the back burner when we are so consumed with these trials. If you love Him more than anyone or anything else you will have a contentment that you have never had before. He has to be above all !!! So the best thing any of us could possibly do is ask ourself how much we love God and really trust Him! Love him above all others and put Him in the very start very middle and very end of your day!!! Surround your home with scripture about His love and you will start believing it and them you will start to be able to trust Him! Fall in love with Jesus!!! Seek he first the kingdom of God and his righteousness THEN all these things will be added in to you!! God bless everyone!!! Put Jesus first in your life and everything else leave in His hands!!!!

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90. Robert, how well I know this pain! It’s all part of the journey, and you will be ok. I have to echo what Martette said. You have to get to the point where you truly release it all to God, knowing he has your best interest at heart and will work it all out for your good.

    You must rest in knowing that God perfects that which concerns you. Let your hope be in God, not your spouse. I thought for years I could control my ex’s decisions, but we all have free will, so you must learn to rest in knowing that God is restoring your life, and it will be better than it was before. Rest in knowing that you’ll be ok no matter what happens with your marriage. When we rest, God works. When we work, God rests.

    When you get weary–and believe me—I’ve been there, done that more times than I care to count…center yourself and just start praising the Lord. The devil hates that. But never mind the devil; he is already under our feet. Remember, he has already been defeated. We don’t have to fight him any longer. Jesus already did that and won. We need only to STAND. Stand on the truth that he is a defeated foe. Stand on that little imp’s head because he has already been made YOUR footstool. Offer a sacrifice of praise when you’re falling apart and worn down because when the praises go up, the blessings come down. I’ve been known to start praising him for my comfortable bed, clean air to breath, food…the most basic things because it felt like everything else was a catastrophe. Lift your hands and praise him! Sing songs to him. Worship him for being him. Pray in the spirit when you feel defeated and dont know what to do. Read the Psalms where David encouraged himself when he was down.

    Let your hope be in the One who saved you, not in what your spouse may or may not do. Make peace with the fact that this is where your life is at the moment. But things are always changing, and take comfort that God is taking you from the pit to the palace just like he did Joseph. Joseph was in prison one minute, then in an instant he was the ruler of Egypt!

    Keep telling yourself—outloud—that you are His beloved in whom He is well pleased. You are His beloved disciple and His delight. He didn’t withhold his most precious thing from you, His Son, so please know He isn’t going to withhold anything else good from you. Know who you are in Christ and that He will make all things new (and at least seven times better!).

    Continue to pray that hedge of thorns and for God to touch your wife’s heart. But you have to let go and give it all to Him. Cast all your cares on HIM, put your hope in HIM that you’ll be ok no matter what, and rest at His feet knowing you are highly favored and have all the blessings of Deut. 28. Favor surrounds you like a shield!

    Praying for everyone here!

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91. Robert, since the day that I read your commentary, I had been trying to write to you but I don’t know what to say. God  knows what he is doing and how He must work, and sometimes when find ourselves in darkness as the result of our sins, but other times, he is the one that bring us in darkness because that’s where he will be able to mold us depending on how we surrender ourselves to Him. We can become soft clay  in the Potter’s hand and take the shape  he wants to give us, or a harder clay, where the potter will have to break us before shaping us. But You know what, our shepperd is always guarding his sheep, and in darkness you can be sure that he will be even more closer to you because there is nothing that can surprise him or defeat him, since he already conqered all forms of wickedness and he will not lead you astray.

    Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. Psalms 23:4
     
    I had a hard week, no difference in my family, but bless be the Lord there have been no fight. On my end, I always experience doubt. That is my greatest weakness, because I am a science student and I am naturally curious. I need to know and study and decompose and explain stuff.  Even when accepting Our Lord,I tried to rationalize everything and explain what was happening with what I already knew. So, I had an amazing  day on the day  that my brother’s first diagose was said, but on the day after I felt so weak, so blah in prayer. I  mentionned it to one of the members of my church and she told me to keep praying because it might be  the enemy that did not want to have me praying   but also to know that God knew my heart and even if it was a small prayer, he would still listen to it. I started my fast, though I tweek it a bit for my circumstances, but I am doing it because I want to do it, not because I felt call to do. And this week I was just bombarded with temptations left and right. I had no idea chicken could be so seductive OO
    I also kept receiving (which my pastor found funny because I think I am the only one that notice, that we receive twice the same devotional on wednesday and thursday. So he told me that God really wanted me to understand that message) The theme?
    But blessed are your eyes for they see, and your ears for they hear.” Matthew 13:16

    So I have been  questioning myself if fasting has been the right thing to do. I mean when will I know that I have to end it, and maybe deep down, am I doing it more as a ritual or something? I cannot say that my eyes see or my ears hear apart from rare times, like this wednesday that I was going to go buy a rice cooker, I have one but the one I was going to go buy was even better (same brand) and super cheap. Instead of 200$ it would cost be 60$, and was lightly used. I had prepare everything when I suddendly felt this guilt and I remember that I had told God multiple times that everything that I had was His so I was uncertain if he was telling me something. When I remember again a verse about seeking the council from the wise not the exact wording but the essence of it. So I called my mother because I told myself, I will be honoring her opinion, setting an example for her and seeking her council. I end up not buying that beautiful machine (;_;). But I think that this was a moment that I heard from God, what do you guys think? Another trouble that I was having is that there is much controversy on the name Jesus. The correct name should be Yeshua. And I found many articles concerning the study of the name, and how properly traduce Jesus means Hail Zeus. This apparently happen theoretically because of the conversion of romans (who where deep believers of greek gods). So again I enter in huge doubt, it is quite sad, I would like to have more faith and that my foundation be unshakable  but bless be Our Lord, I believe he gave me the answer to my concern the prophet Daniel had his name change to Belteshazzar which represented one of the gods of this society when he was taken by Nebuchadnezzar yet the essence of Daniel, who he was was never lost. He was still God’s chosen prophet. He knew who He was, just like we know to whom we are praying, by whose blood we have received salvation through grace, by whom we are redeem and who is our Eternal High Priest, the Son of God sitting at the right hand of God the Father and whom sends us the Holy Spirit to dwell in us.  So in view of this I decided to end it today, my fast (not anything else). And as I am writing a verse came into mind  “I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same beareth much fruit: for apart from me ye can do nothing.” John 15:5
    But I don’t see how this applies other, than I was doing the fast out of my will and not his?

    Sonnette, how is it going, this is the weekend right???

     

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92. Sendy, I’ll look more into that Yeshua/Jesus thought.

    The very next day after I posted last, I got this in my email which really hit home –

    “For that righteous man, living among them day after day, was tormented in his righteous soul by the lawless deeds he saw and heard – if this is so, then the Lord knows how to rescue godly men from trials and to hold the unrighteous for the day of judgment. 2 Peter 2:8-9

    In the simplest of terms, “standing” means honoring the vows you made on your wedding day regardless of your circumstances. In the world’s view, it is “I will love you, if you love me.” This is not what God expects of us in our covenant marriages. In a Christian marriage, we vow“to have and to hold, until death separates.” God was a witness to the covenant vows you made on your wedding day and these vows are not to be taken lightly:

    If you make a vow to the Lord your God, do not be slow to pay it, for the Lord your God will certainly demand it of you and you will be guilty of sin. Deuteronomy 23:21

    As Christ loves us unconditionally, we are to love our spouses unconditionally regardless of how they treat us, including separation and divorce. If your spouse walks out on you, this has no bearing whatsoever on your part of the covenant. You and your spouse are “one flesh” until death separates – PERIOD! During your time of separation from your spouse, you need to be praying that they turn from their sinful ways and return to the Lord. This is your duty and responsibility to God and to your mate! I have encountered countless individuals that spend their time searching scripture for escape clauses from their marriage vows. As explained elsewhere in this book, do not waste your time searching for excuses. Your time would be better spent searching God’s Word for his promises for your marriage. God only blesses obedience to his Word. It pains me that many in the Body of Christ do not seem to understand this principle. God will never bless disobedience to his Word.

    The book of Hosea is a perfect illustration of how “standing” works. Hosea’s marriage to his unfaithful wife, Gomer, is used as a metaphor of how God loves us unconditionally regardless of our waywardness. Gomer leaves Hosea to enter a life of prostitution and worshipping idols. Hosea is faithful to his wife in spite of her actions. He prays for her daily. Finally, after many years of sinfulness and debauchery, Gomer is brought to the slave market to be sold. She is broken, haggard and thin. She stands there naked but no man looks at her lustfully. In the crowd is Hosea, her husband. He bids the top price for her and takes her home. Hosea nurses Gomer back to health and daily reads God’s Word to her. Through Hosea’s faithfulness to his wife and to his God, Gomer is restored to health, God and to her children. What would have become of Gomer if Hosea had “gotten on with his life” as the world tells us to do? What will become of your spouse if you do anything less than what Hosea did for Gomer? What would become of us if God were not faithful to us in spite of our waywardness?”

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93. Barry Barry oh Barry! how your devotion has spoken to me & blessed me today! its what God has been ministering to me this whole week & weekend, it has been confirmation for me over & over & over again! I must STAND! No matter what the circumstances!

    Sendy, Crystal, Robert, Hollis & everyone else who has been following these posts let me give you an update of what’s been happening in my life:
    Well my husband & I eventually had “the talk”. He has refused to go for counseling & for a weekend together. He wants to be with the OW. He asked me to get a place for myself & my daughter which I agreed to as we are living with his parents at the moment & it was our intention to get a place of our own anyway. It will be good for me, a fresh new start as I STAND! Where my husband will live I don’t know as yet he hasn’t volunteered any information to me as yet.

    What I do know is that God is on my side  as I found the most wonderful little place for myself & my daughter – it’s got the most awesum seaview! & I know that when I pray STANDING – looking at that sea view I will feel so close to my Saviour! So I will be moving into my little place at the end of March.

    God has been ministering to me as before work one day last week I was reading my devotional & it spoke about how the Israelites worshipped our God in heaven & how all the other nations in the Old Testament had their own false gods they worshipped. It said that when Jesus died for us on the cross – when the New Testament came into being all that changed as Jesus became a Saviour for everyone – no matter the religion, creed or race. This devotion spoke so loudly to me as my boss was speaking to myself & another lady in our office one morning about having a 15min prayer time in the mornings at work. This devotion confirmed it for me – so I want to go ahead with it this week – please pray for willing hearts in the office to attend these prayer times – I know God is going to answer many prayers!

    I felt so convicted thru this devotion to live my life completely for Jesus its true what Marlene says “Seek first his kingdom & his righteous and all these things shall be added unto you”. I am going live my best uprightly, righteously, always making Jesus the centre of my life. I made that decision no matter what decisions my husband had made concerning our marriage.

    I have been concentrating on praying for my husband’s salvation, I spent Saturday & part of Sunday digging into Gods word on Salvation, I found some lovely verses on the Restoration Marriage Ministries website to pray for my husbands salvation so I’m inserting my husband name into these verses as I pray – Gods word is sharper than a two-edged sword! My husband is so far away from God, he is double-minded & is living a lie, has told many many lies to live this adulterous life but let me tell you that satan is the father of lies! He is a defeated foe! Let us not forget who we are fighting against here! We have to put on the Armour of God everyday for ourselves, our marriages & our families! Ephesians 6:10-17 Put on your Armour!

    God bless you guyz – hava God-filled & God blessed day!

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94. HELLO ROBERT and SONETTE,
    i have a special message for u guys from God…i have been following ur messages in between as i get time(Robert-i hope u remember me-thanking u for the hedge of thorns prayer)…its not exactly something new,but its very important and the Holy Spirit wishes to remind u guys about it..

    Well,there are different ways we can pray,but the prayer that catches God’s attention is praying with FAITH! THE FAITH that GOD is ABOVE ALL,HE is in CONTROL and HE can DEFINATELY TURN THE SITUATION AROUND,TIME is NOT A MATTER FOR HIM!(Hebrews 11:6)

    i know that u guys know this already,but i also know what it is to pray with INTENSE FAITH(fervent prayer-James 5:15,16) and to pray just SIMPLY CRYING out to God but LACKING FAITH in the HEART!

    please read PSALM 13…u see David begins the prayer by crying out to God,but He ends it with words of faith!! He rejoices in his heart for God’s miracle! If u read the many psalms written by David,u will see in all of it he cries out to God about whatever is troubling him KNOWING THAT GOD CAN DELIVER ME and GOD ALONE can deliver me! And he always ENDS his prayers with words of faith and thanksgiving!

    let me conclude with a small experiance i had some time back-i heard of a matter concerning my relationship which shocked me and i couldn’t accept it to happen..i prayed that night very INTENSELY/FIERCELY to GOD for that not to happen with FAITH that HE is in control and HE can turn it around!GOD turned the matter upside down in a way beyond my imagination!
    (that was only one the matters i had to deal with,my relationship is still in the moulding process in the hands of the GREAT POTTER JESUS!)

    conclusion-NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR GOD!(Jeremiah 32:27)

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95. I’m a believer of Jesus.2yrs back i started talking with a guy through mobile messages. he is a catholic. we have not met each other. i alone had seen him through Facebook photos. i started loving him due to his good character. one day i told him.actually he is not in love with me.he has never asked me to message or think about him. but um always thinking and praying to Jesus for him.the thing is God has planned good for both of us. bible tells that ‘ Jesus fulfills the desires of the heart and He said ask and it shall be given to you’ . i have a question like um i selfish to get my wish to be done first and not thinking that guy wish?. i could not able to force God to fulfill my wish. Jesus cares for me a lot. i love this guy’s heart.then another thing is bible tells that have faith that you have received everything whatever you ask in prayer. if i think that surely i would have this guy in my life.will it be nice?.i know Jesus would give this guy.but um thinking that even Jesus has a heart and that guy even.i should not be a selfish one. um really confused what to ask Jesus and what not to….. do pray for me to Jesus and let me to know what He tells on this issue.please.

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96. Ruby, thank you for that word, I had not checked these posts for about 3days but on Sunday I had actuali clicked to go into another site & came across your post. Thank you at the time your post really spoke to me. I feel that since I found about my situation God has been repeating the same things ova & ova to me & FAITH is definiteli 1 of the 1st thingz I feel I was ministered to by God when I 1st found out. I believe God brings us back to the basics of our faith over & over again! When get this light bulb experience moment every time we go thru our trials & tribulations & in most cases that light bulb moment was something we learnt about when we first became saved by the blood of Jesus – & once more we hav to put what we have learnt to practice! Here is Charlynnes Cares devotional for today…. its back to the basics! 🙂

    The Torn Curtain
    There are many events in the Crucifixion story that stand out as significant in our Christian faith. The ‘Torn Curtain’ is one such event. In the temple in Jerusalem, there was an area known as the Holy of Holies or Most Holy Place. In this area resided the Ark of the Covenant and the Mercy Seat. It was where God resided as He sat on the Mercy Seat to judge the Israelites. Once a year, the Chief Priest could enter the Holy of Holies behind a thick cloud of incense seeking atonement for the sins of the Israelites. So fearsome was this event that a rope was tied around the ankle of the priest so if he was struck dead in the Holy of Holies, his body could be retrieved by pulling him out using the rope. Such were the events that occurred on the Day of Atonement, also called Yom Kippur.

    The Holy of Holies was separated from the Holy Place by two overlapping thick curtains from floor to ceiling. At the time of the Crucifixion, the moment Jesus gave up His Spirit, there was a great earthquake and these curtains were torn from top to bottom. Jesus’ death ushered in a new access to God…that all believers could approach God directly for the veil of separation had been removed. Mankind now had direct access into the Holy realm of God. Of significance was that the curtains were torn from TOP to BOTTOM showing that this was God’s action, not man’s. Symbolically, the torn curtain represents Jesus Christ’s torn (broken) body by which He gives His followers direct access to His Father.

    But Jesus, again crying out loudly, breathed his last. At that moment, the Temple curtain was ripped in two, top to bottom. There was an earthquake, and rocks were split in pieces. Matthew 27:50-51 (MSG)

    The torn curtain…probably next to the event of the resurrection and the empty tomb, is the second most important event in the Crucifixion story. For with the torn curtain, an action initiated by God Himself, mankind acquired direct access to God. No longer was it necessary for mankind to need to be ritually cleansed by a priest by a blood sacrifice and then have his petitions presented to God by a priest. With Jesus Christ’s death upon the Cross, Christ as our Great High Priest became our perfect, unblemished sacrifice presented once and for all time to God for the atonement of mankind’s sins. No longer did we need to have the blood of lambs or goats to atone for our sins. Jesus Christ’s death on the Cross ushered in the New Covenant between God and mankind, allowing believers direct access to our Heavenly Father. Now clothed in Christ’s righteousness, you and I can come before a Holy God and sit at His feet and worship Him, presenting our petitions directly to Him. The curtain that kept mankind separated from the throne room of our Heavenly Father has been destroyed by God Himself. God welcomes you and I as believers to come into His presence, clothed in Christ’s righteousness, for we are no longer covered in sin, but are forgiven sons and daughters of the King. How awesome is this! Direct access to our Heavenly Father!

    We have a great high priest who has gone to live with God in heaven. He is Jesus the Son of God. So let us continue to express our faith in him. Jesus, our high priest, is able to understand our weaknesses. When Jesus lived on earth, he was tempted in every way. He was tempted in the same ways we are tempted, but he never sinned. With Jesus as our high priest, we can feel free to come before God’s throne where there is grace. There we receive mercy and kindness to help us when we need it. Hebrews 4:14-16 (ERV)

    When Christ came as high priest of the good things that are already here, he went through the greater and more perfect tabernacle that is not man-made, that is to say, not a part of this creation. He did not enter by means of the blood of goats and calves; but he entered the Most Holy Place once for all by his own blood, having obtained eternal redemption. The blood of goats and bulls and the ashes of a heifer sprinkled on those who are ceremonially unclean sanctify them so that they are outwardly clean. How much more, then, will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself unblemished to God, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may serve the living God! For this reason Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance—now that he has died as a ransom to set them free from the sins committed under the first covenant. Hebrews 9:11-14

    At this Easter season, let us remember that we serve a risen Lord who is Jesus Christ. He is the sinless Son of God. Remember God’s action of tearing the temple curtain from top to bottom so that we might have direct access to our Heavenly Father. The temple curtain under the Old Covenant separated mankind from God. However, as believers in Jesus Christ and the work He did for us on the Cross, our Great High Priest under the New Covenant has opened up our Heavenly Father’s throne room to you and me.

    Praise be to God that we now have direct access to our Heavenly Father to be able to petition Him with all our needs, especially those dealing with our marriage and family problems.

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97. “Just Let go and Let God take over.” I have been “seperated” from my husband for almost 4 years, 3 hours away, 4 kids on my own all week. I See my husband on weekends only. He drives 3 hours every weekend to see me, I have never gone back to our old home, I never looked back. He still lives there, he driven to see him. I make him come to me, our children. This has worked well in strengthening our marriage. Before I left him, the “other woman” was his controlling mom who hated me. I had to wait 20 years to escape. I got my chance, I left with the kids and what I could put in the car. I cried the whole way to our vacation home 3 hours away my step-dad died and left me the money to buy it. God provided my way out. My husband and I have slowly built a marriage just us, not his mom. His mom saw the error of her ways since I left. She struggles to stop her controlling ways even from 3 hours away. My children and I and my husband had our lives ripped apart because of “the other woman” I had to let go, and walk away and God has taken over. Some could not believe I could do it. Some said it was not God. No one knows but the person in a painful controlling and abusive relationship. I followed God. I let go. I let God take over. My marriage has been restored completely. It took a LOT of prayer, and Lots of Faith. You think you are kissing your mind, but its just You letting go, and God taking over. Your mind then is restored, your family and marrriage gets stronger, better, more blessed, and you are much stronger, I am too, if you are obedient to Gods call to walk with Him, and Him alone, God will give back to you His best and God will bring restoration that no man can know or understand, God comes through like no other, and all will See, All will know, All will then believe as you then open your mouth to give power-filled testimony of what the Lord has done. Great things He has done. You can See his Will as you speak His Word, and you can too and will overcome even as I have, and my children and new and wonderful husband of 22 years have All come through stronger and healthier in Jesus, and Very Blessed too. Thanks Be To God, Great things He has done.

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98. Kim,

    Thank you for your testimony! It is such a blessing to me! and I know it will be a blessing to all the other ppl that have been posting on this site. Thank you for being obedient to God by giving your testimony 🙂 What an encouragement!

    U started off by saying “Let Go & Let God” – that has been my mantra for a while now… I know im on the rit track. Everytime somebody posts something encouraging I feel its been confirmation after confirmation of how God wants me to stand & trust in HIM no matter the circumstances!

    I know that one day soon I will rejoice & sing Gods praises as I give my testimony.
    This morning in my devotion I confessed Gods word – & i told God that I will build my life, my marriage & my family on the solid foundation of God, He is my rock & my support! He is my joy & my strength today as I trust HIM to remove my husbands heart of stone & give him a new heart of flesh. Ezekiel 37:26-27 What struck me the most was about these verses is that it says God says ” I WILL ” “I WILL give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you, I WILL remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I WILL put my spirit in you and move you to follow me decrees…
    Gods word is soooo amazing!

    God bless you all
    PS. Sendy, Crystal, Robert, Barry, Marlette & all the other ppl I think I missed out on quite a few others, how are you all? What is God doing in your lives? 🙂

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99. Hello,
    I was involved in a 2 year relationship with the woman I love. We were intimate only a few times in the beginning but decided that we want God to bless our union. She and I have never been previously married nor any children. I am 39 she is 36. We live in the same building but not the same suite. 1 month ago she ended our relationship and immediately began a relationship with a very not nice man. She then moved him and his son into her apartment the next week. I read scripture and pray and talk to Him often. I have since cried out to Him many times. Before meeting her I asked Him that the next lady whom I open my heart to may she be the one He willed for me. Then there she was! I was going to marry her and if it was His will have children with her. It has been 1 month and I just wanted to say that reading these posts boost my faith that He will intervene and soften her heart and bring us together. I know I am not married yet but again thank you so much for reaffirming my belief that God will help soften her heart to me. There was never any abuse of any kind in our relationship. She was my princess. This man she is with is very bad. I know I am not supposed to say anything negative about others but he is a very not nice person. Anyways, thank you for all the posts and knowing that there are others who know what believing and praying and keeping faith in Our Lord can and will do! God bless you all. Praying for you all. May Jesus Christ keep holding our hands through our trials and tribulations.
    -Dennis

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100. I am in the middle of this same storm. I have been with my husband for 6 years. I am saved, he is not. My husband said the same things the me is weekend, almost word for word. He left today. I am broken and spilled out.

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101. Forgiving one another is the hardest thing to do and the most beneficial. As God’s chosen people we are to forgive all grievances we have between one another because of the example set forth to us by Christ…
     “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
     “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.”
     “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
     Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary:
     If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
     if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
     In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
     Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

     God has said,

     “Never will I leave you;
     never will I forsake you.”
     So we say with confidence,
     “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.
     What can mere mortals do to me?”

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102. Barry,

     You asked at what point do you not stand and I came across the following scripture during my own research. I’ve wrestled with not sharing this with you because I’m the last person who wants to remove hope from anyone. But the Spirit said it’s not my job as to how you interpret it – only that I share it. So here goes…

     “This is what you must do if a husband writes out a certificate of divorce, gives it to his wife, and makes her leave his house. (He divorced her because he found out something indecent about her and she no longer pleased him.) She might marry another man after she leaves his house. If her second husband doesn’t love her and divorces her, or if he dies,her first husband is not allowed to marry her again. She has become unclean. This would be disgusting in the LORD’s presence. Don’t pollute with sin the land that the LORD your God is giving you as your property.” (Deuteronomy 24:1-4 GW)

     Now, the Spirit also brought to my attention the following related verse:

     Jesus answered them, “Moses allowed you to divorce your wives because you’re heartless. It was never this way in the beginning. I can guarantee that whoever divorces his wife for any reason other than her unfaithfulness is committing adultery if he marries another woman.” (Matthew 19:8-9 GW)

     I’m going to share more in a separate post, but don’t let the devil make you feel guilty, like a hypocrite, or anything else – that’s what he uses to distract you. When you feel that way, you need to tell the devil to “talk to the hand” – if he has any problems, he needs to talk to God about it. If you’re not strong enough at time to say that, then you need to just ask God for forgiveness, cry and ask Him to help you, or anything else – just be yourself with God. Share your anger with him, share your hurt, share your feelings of betrayal, abandonment, and anything else with Him.

     That’s what He wants from you – to be your best friend.

     I recently read a book called “Heaven is for Real” (http://www.amazon.com/Heaven-Real-Little-Astounding-Story/dp/0849946158/). Whether you choose to believe it or not, it is a moving story that really helps put into perspective the pain, suffering, hope, and deliverance we all experience and hope for. I highly recommend it, as well as another book I’ve recommended before (I think) called Praying for the Impossible (http://www.amazon.com/Praying-Impossible-Miracle-Charismatic-Classics/dp/1577945131/).

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103. Sheeba,

     Having been Roman Catholic myself in the past, I can tell you straight up – you would not be equally yoked with this person. Yes, I know the bible says we can have the desires of our heart. But that applies to us – not to other people or against their will.

     Now, here’s where I’m stepping out in faith…

     Since the bible says me and my wife are 1 in God’s sight, and I’m the head of my family, and I have authority over my wife (Ephesians 5:22-24, Matthew 19:6, Genesis 18:19), I’m believing that my prayers can override my wife’s will. BUT, that’s because she’s my wife – this person is not your spouse (yet). Time will tell if I can apply God’s word in this manner or not, but I’m believing it with all my heart and I can’t accept it any other way since I’ve found specific scriptures on it (like a dog that won’t let go of a bone).

     I’m not saying this to discourage you, but rather give you options – you can pray for this person to be saved (God may be using you for that purpose) so that you’re equally yoked. You can choose to pray for a husband and trust God in whomever He delivers to you (whether it’s this guy or not). The Holy Spirit may present you with other options – I don’t know.

     But what I do know is, if you’re not equally yoked AND you’re not married yet, you’re LUCKY! Marriage is hard enough when people have a common foundation to work off from, let along coming from different beliefs.

     Dennis,

     I prayed the same thing before my wife showed up. A lot of what I said to Sheeba applies to you too.

     I’m not trying to discourage you – you need to grab a hold of God’s word as your Spirit receives it and run with it! Just always remember to be open to how He wants to do things. I’ll post another entry giving everyone an update on my situation, that illustrates this point – sometimes the very thing we try to avoid is what God will use to work on the other person.

     So far, God has NOT allowed anything contradictory to His word. For example, my wife has said she wants to get a divorce. I asked God if I should give her the divorce, let her go on her own and come back to me if it was meant to be. God’s word is VERY clear on divorce – marriage is honorable in EVERY way; I hate divorce says the Lord God of Israel; what God has joined together let not man separate, put asunder, or divide. So I won’t divorce her… if she wants it, she’ll have to do it. Yet, no matter how many times she’s said it, she still hasn’t gone through with it. Another fear of mine is that she will do something to further an adulterous affair. And, while she still talks to the other person, God has not allowed anything else to happen.

     For that, I’m very thankful and grateful!

     Just be open and trust God. It’s ok if you melt down and don’t trust Him and get angry at Him and tell him how you feel and what you’re scared of. He surprised the heck out of me even when I thought it was truly over! He is being faithful to me and I’m sure He will also be with you.

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104. LG,

     My heart goes out to you – I am SO sorry for what you’re going through! I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy (yes, even though he is helping to make things worse on my end I know it stems from my wife). Instead, I wish for God to crush him like the dust blowing in the wind. But that’s another post… 😉

     Please read all of the comments on this post from the beginning. There’s a reason you found this website and this post specifically. God is speaking to you.

     But here is something you should know:

     “If any Christian woman is married to a man who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to live with her, she should not divorce her husband. Actually, the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and an unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise, their children would be unacceptable [to God], but now they are acceptable to him. But if the unbelieving partners leave, let them go. Under these circumstances a Christian man or Christian woman is not bound [by a marriage vow]. God has called you to live in peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:13-15 GW)

     The key words are “he is WILLING to live with her.” Your husband is not willing to live with you at this point in time. He may stay this way or change his mind.

     Whether you choose to fight for your marriage or walk away, I believe God will honor you either way. But just be aware, the fight is not easy because you’ll be fighting against the strongest enemy out there – yourself.

     I will keep you in my prayers – please continue to keep us updated on your challenges, successes, setbacks, etc. so we can lift you up and pray in agreement with you whichever path you choose!

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105. Robert,

     I have been thinking about you & praying for you sooooooo gud to see your posts! I cant wait for your update, read my post to LG – its part of my update! Let me know how you are doing my brother I have missed your posts.

     Sonet

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106. Martette, Hollis, Sendy, Barry, Sonnette, Ruby, Kim & Crystal…

     Thank you ALL for your prayers, words of encouragement, support, and just plain ol’ wishing you would know what to say but find it hard to do so!

     I love you all and pray one day, we can all get together, meet, and give each other a great big hug!

     UPDATE:

     Here is a message I sent to my prayer warriors last Wednesday (only those who know me and/or my wife personally)…

     As you know, I’m nearing the end of my 90 days to save my marriage, where my wife is ready to move forward with her life without me.

     Yes, I know God operates on His own time schedule; yes, I’ve “let go and let God”; yes I believe He is able and will preform what His word says; yes, I know what I’m asking for is in the Bible – I’ve written all the verses I could find. But I’m also human. I haven’t seen any improvements to let me think anything is going to change at all (at least any time soon). I wonder if the signs I’ve seen were really even signs at all. I’m at a very low point spiritually, emotionally, and probably physically.

     I love my wife, I love my family, and I desperately need your prayers tonight!

     I recently read a book that talked about God answering the prayers, not of the sick or dying, but of the friends of the sick and dying. One such incident was Lazarus. Another one was of the paralytic…

     “And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy, lying on a bed: and Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy sins be forgiven thee. Arise, take up thy bed, and go unto thine house. And he arose, and departed to his house.” (Matthew 9:2,6-7 KJV)

     Jesus saw the faith of the paralytic’s friends and was moved by it. I’m at a point where I’m afraid to hope, and afraid not to. I need to borrow the strength and faith of some other believers.

     I need you.

     Please dial into the toll free number below from 8 pm to 8:30 pm Eastern time so we can pray in agreement in the presence of the Lord.

     I don’t know what else I can do in faith, so this is my last effort. I don’t want to talk about the situation (it’s too painful) – I just want to offer up our prayers to Him and hope He is moved to take action.

     Thank you for your support.

     RESULT:

     Thank you all again for those who dialed in and prayed with me, as well as those who wished they could’ve but weren’t able to.

     Things hit rock bottom this past Sunday. As much as I tried to avoid it, we eventually got into a big argument. She stormed out of the house for about an hour and spent almost the entire next day out of the house, leaving me alone with the kids. She told me, unless we had something to talk about regarding the kids, we didn’t need to discuss anything else with each other going forward. When she came back, she asked me if she needed to spend the rest of the week out of the house and I said it was up to her – I don’t hold onto grudges.

     With the kids being occupied, she asked me to go upstairs so we could talk. I cringed because lately, we always end up arguing, getting frustrated, hurt, etc. You have no idea the amount of stress I’m under, nor the emotional and spiritual toll this has taken on me. My eye twitches all the time because of the stress.

     Then she said she was going to give “us” more time. Spending time alone today, without the kids, made her realize how much she missed them. Then it made her realize how hard it must be for me to be away from them all week, for almost 6 months now and the responsibility of providing for all of them on my shoulders. I added I missed her just as much – not just the kids. She said while she still doesn’t feel differently about us, she feels she owes it to herself and to me to give us more time to see if things will change. She also asked how much longer did I think I it was going to be before I would be able to transfer back down to our home state. I told her I felt it wouldn’t be much longer now. I asked her if she would honestly pray together vs. just praying to appease me and she said yes, but not every day – she’s not like that.

     Praise God!

     Here I am, wanting to avoid getting into an argument at all costs, and God uses the very thing I’m trying to avoid to reach out to her – how awesome is He!?

     Please, continue to pray in agreement with me and lift us up in your prayers – specifically for God to give her a new mind and heart according to the Holy Spirit, and that God protect our marriage in EVERY way.

     • “Create in [her] a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within [her].” (Psalms 51:10 KJV)

     • “Marriage is honorable in every way, so husbands and wives should be faithful to each other.” (Hebrews 13:4 GW)

     IN CLOSING:

     I wanted to share this with you because I pretty much gave up. And, while God hasn’t restored our marriage yet, I finally have confirmation He’s been hearing our prayers!

     Thank you for being a blessing to me and my family! I pray that God smiles down on each of you and your own personal struggles. Thank you for sowing good seed into the ground of my marriage, so that my marriage may have a good harvest and in turn may yours too. My prayer for you today is this:

     “Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” (Luke 6:38 NLT)

     Thank you ALL for being in my life!

     P.S. – Sonnette, what are you doing up this late/early too!? I am SOOO glad to hear about your progress – PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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107. Robert there seems to be a huge time difference between us. I live in South Africa. and it is 10h30 in the morning rit now & i am at work!! so no, im not burning the midnight oil!

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108. Robert, thank you for your words, thoughts and prayers. I was raised in a Christ centered family. I know that scripture very well…”the unsaved husband is sanctified by the saved wife”. I cannot imagine it is God’s will for any divorce. So many chruches tell people that going through this, it is because God has something better planned for them. That contradicts God’s word. he hates divorce and he never lies or changes. I do not understand why they teach that. I have seen no Biblical truth that God approves a divorce for any reason. It is a sin. Thankfully He forgives our sins. Everywhere it is written to forgive, love, be patient, longsuffering. My husband has become so negative and discouraged. His heart has heardend and turned to stone. He has no signs of guilt, shame, concern or a conscience. He has become very Jekyl and Hyde, almost bi-polar symptoms. He sees none of it. He believes nothing is wrong with him. We use to do Bible sudy together. He has struugled with his Faith and belief in God. He has not had an affair, that I am aware of, but he has struggled with lust(adultery in God’s eyes), anger, bitterness, resentement, pride, grudges- love hate love hate- extreme t extreme. I watch his moods change and his personality change in seconds sometimes. Something aout it makes me feel as though a demon is inside him. I don’t know but I do know that Heneeds Jesus so badly and does not know it. Very much like a sick person who does not know they are sick, so they do not get the medicine, help they. I pray God does not forsake him for what he does not know or understand. He had an unhappy childhood. Very little love and no Jesus in the home. He blames God for all that has gone wrong in his life. I, as King David did, soak my pillow and bed everynight with tears. I seek God in everything I do. I do not pull out of my driveway without praying for my safety as I travel. The stress and strain of the past few monhs has sent me to the ER with bloody vomit(possibly e peforated ulcer in my stomach-no medical so it has been my prayer for God to heal it). I, my family and I are the only Christians in his life. He is a restaurnat manager and there are no Godly influences there or in his family. No matter what happens, his salvation matters most to me. I pray day and night and in between for God to do a work in his heart and life. this has been my prayer for years. A part of me says, “just throw in the towel your prayers have done nothing.” Then a conflicting spirit says, You cannot divorce him, he is your husband, you are one flesh in God’s eyes”. Broeken and spilled out is such an understatement. My chest literaly feels like a bus is on it. I weep for hours, deep breaths are very hard. I just tremble and shake. I am petite and get cold easy and even with this warm weather I cannot get warm. I shiver, tremble, cry, shake, vomit and then I do it all over again. Sleep rarely happens. A nap maybe then I awake gasping and trembling, weeping. I feel utterly abandoned, forsaken. I know God has not done that but it sure feels that way. I believe I have called on every promise from God in prayer. I have pled the blood of Jesus over him for years. I pray the blood of Jesus over me as pray. I pray for my own life, well being, encouragement. I always ask God to increase my Faith. No matter what, God is my rock, my strength, my deliverer, my fortress, my defender, myy life, my everything. Jesus in my power and strength. I would have no doubt succomb to suicide from this deep pit of pure sadness, grieving, mourning and sorrow. I am alive because jesus loves me. I so very proudly accept your prayers. I have been blessed by your kindness and Faith. Thank you.

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109. Sonnette, I too sincerely give you my thankfullnes for your words and prayers. I will add you all to mine.

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110. The Need for Self-Discipline…

     Brethren, [Sisters too] I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.
     All of us, then, who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained.
     Join together in following my example, brothers and sisters, and just as you have us as a model, keep your eyes on those who live as we do. For, as I have often told you before and now tell you again even with tears, many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is set on earthly things. But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.

     “Lord, give us that hunger to know You; And deliver us from the pride that makes us want to use You. Let our prayer be today, And Always; ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’ Amen.”

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111. Right on, Kim. That hit the spot this morning. Thanks!

     And a big thanks to all of you who contribute here. Robert, false-starts are a reality. Tread carefully & stay the course. You’re a great inspiration, brother.

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112. “Whom the Son [Jesus Christ] sets free, is free indeed”…

     “Though I [Kim] am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible. To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some. I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I [Kim] may share in its blessings”…

     “God has heard their [our] groaning and have come down to set them [us] free.”

     To God Be All The Glory, Great Things He Has Done [And WILL continue to do].

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113. “There is now therefor no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For God has not given to us a Spirit of fear but of power and of a sound mind, and perfect love (Jesus Christ) cast out ALL fear.”

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114. dear ROBERT n SONNETTE,am soooo HAPPY for u guys! i was upset about ur conditions,n am glad God has started His miracle un ur lives!…my prayers have been weak,SORRY,am dealing with certain issues with my parents…but GOD HAS BEEN SO GOOD TO ME-He has been encouraging me in different awesome ways…NEVER STOP PRAYING and NEVER GIVE UP!

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115. Yesterday, she starts talking about how she wishes we would’ve had more children. I shared with her that I also felt the same way. (I didn’t share that I had prayed to God about it too – specifically that, if it was His will, to place upon her heart to have more children and I would be in agreement with it.) I told her we could get her tubes untied and she said we would have to do it soon because she didn’t want to have kids when she’s too old. Then, later on in the day, she says she’s not going to get pregnant because she can’t see herself doing “that” (sex) with me. I didn’t respond or press the issue any further.

     Today, she clarified that she’s not giving “us” more time – she’s giving “herself” more time. She’s pretty much already made up her mind, but what she wants more time to think about is whether or not she should sacrifice her happiness to stay in a marriage for the greater good. Either way, she wanted me to know there’s no way we would ever be a couple again, even if she decided to stay in the marriage.

     As you can imagine, this is all very confusing, frustrating, and draining! But then I remembered when we first started going out, she said she wasn’t looking for a relationship – she was only looking for a friend. I told her that wasn’t a problem and was a complete gentleman & friend until she let me know she was ready to move forward. Maybe God is repeating the same “pattern” all over again? I don’t know, but I have to choose where I’m placing my faith, so that’s where I’m placing it – that regardless of what she’s saying or calling it, that it’s really God working behind the scenes and that I shouldn’t place any importance on the “name” but rather the “actions.”

     Aaarrrggghhh!!!

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116. FYI – here’s the covenant I made with God when all this started, sealed it with the blood of Christ, and asked God to honor it, bless it, sanctify it, and consecrate it.

     If God restored my marriage, I would:
     1. Share my restoration testimony with others (just like Crystal did on this forum)
     2. Share the love of Jesus with others more (especially when teaching my classes)
     3. Have more children if He placed it on her heart
     4. Do whatever ministry He called me to do, as long as he made sure she was in agreement
     5. Do whatever I could through prayer and actions to restore broken in-law relationships

     I’ve already been doing all of them except #3 and have been trusting God to do His part.

     So when you give me thanks, or tell me I’ve been an inspiration, or are happy because of what I’ve shared, or even tell me you’ve missed my posts… I turn it all over to Him for His glory!

     I am grateful to be able to give Him the praise, honor, and glory. I pray so hard, so intense, and with every ounce of faith I have in the moment to give her a new mind and heart towards our marriage. Sometimes (too often), I barely have the strength. But I hope God uses what I give to Him to restore my marriage and avenge me against the enemies of my marriage.

     Someone asked if that was being really genuine with God – giving Him something in exchange for Him doing something for me. At first, I felt bad about it. But then thought no – His word is based on giving and receiving. We have to initiate things with Him and He responds. He’s given us permission to sow a seed and expect a harvest. I don’t know if I’m right or not, but I’m staying the course unless He reveals to me differently.

     I pray that God will continue to resurrect our marriages this Easter through the shed blood of Jesus Christ.

     Thank you all for allowing me to be a blessing to you.

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117. Kim,

     thank you for your words of encouragement – God is speaking thru his word thru you to us. I love that verse which speaks about God not giving us a spirit of fear but of power & of love & a sound mind – I had to say it ova & ova to myself when I found out because I was soooo scared of my husband leaving me and being alone – But Praise God I have been able to let him go in order for God to work out his salvation in my husband so now I trust God completely.

     Ruby,

     Thank you for your encouragement it means soooo much too me & dont worry I will neva eva give up on God – believe it or not this situation has strengthened me & my relationship with God soooo much & I have learnt soooo much of Gods word. I can alredi see signs of God working thru my husband whereas b4 he wud neva admit to missing me or saying he luvs me he does now.

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118. Robert, Heaven is For Real has been on my end table for months & I’ve yet to read it. I guess it’s about time I read it, now. Thank you!!

     From what I understand of healing marriages involving these circumstances, several false starts such as you described aren’t uncommon.

     When my wife and I communicated or interacted (mostly out of necessity), the nicer I was, the more cruel she became. There were a couple of times I grew tired of it and threw it back at her. I realized my words had little to no effect. She’s confused, frustrated, ashamed, etc and it’s easier on her to place fault on the spouse – even if she had to create it. I’d said enough and resolved that my actions would represent anything I had to communicate.

     Joseph, upon seeing his brothers who betrayed him for the first time in many years, was angry because he felt they hadn’t changed a bit. He got passed that somehow. I’m curious how…

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119. I notice whenever my wife speaks to the other guy, she becomes cold and distant towards me. I keep praying, asking God if he will bless me if I go have a talk with him, but I get no answer.

     I hate this!

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120. You are all in my prayers. All though I know many scriptures of encouragement, they are not giving me peace right now. I wish I could lift you all up with wonderful words. I cannot even lift my self up right now.
     You are in my thoughts, prayers, all of you.
     In Christ’s Love, Lynn

     Jesus loves me this I know, for the Bible tells me so.

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121. I pray night and day and in between. I study the Bible daily, multiple times a day. I was not raised in the secular world. I was raised in Bible school. Daily Bible study and worship. True deep intimate relashionship with Jesus. I know nothing else. The Word of God is programed in me. It is in my blood. I truly know His words. They are just not giving me any peace at this time. My heart feels gutted out. I know Jesus loves me and He lives in me, I just am so very broken and spilled out that joy currently escapes me.

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122. Hi Everyone!
     Robert, I can only tell you to keep strong and when your faith does get down let God know and also remember that it is in our weakness that we are strong. Sometimes I wish people would stop telling me this because I don’t think they get the complexity of my problems but the Lord as giving me a living example in my house of someone that even when her faith was low and she kept asking herself if our Father had not listen to her. God knows how much my grandmother cried and weep for me for 6 years. Every time she prayed our Lord about me, she says she would have a vision of me showing her the devil horns hand sign. And I believe her, because my grandmother cannot read or write, yet the first time that I went to a pagan meeting, that same night she told me that I had come back dirty, foul. She had no way of knowing where I had been by reading my notes. And I admire her devotion of prayer to my family, because she keeps praying for all of us. Something in your message trouble me however because you say that your wife when she meets the other man comes back cold and distant toward you. I notice this in my mother last summer. We had an amazing time together out, but the moment that we parked in front of our house, I literally saw a ripple around her and her whole countenance change from happy to angry and resentful. I did not know was happening or what it really meant back then, but now I do. I am ready take the Sword of the Spirit no matter how small it is in my hands and pray for her. When I asked a few weeks back if anyone lived in Atlanta, it was because I was going to pass through and would have love to me any of you. I spend two difficult weeks in Salvador and Guatemala, but guys, GOD never gives up and He is always at work!!!! ALWAYS and I was bless to my able to see this. Long story short, my mother whenever she prays, she would do it to Mary. Yet, in those weeks, she asks us to pray to God together (and we got into the habit of praying all the family before driving or leaving a place) and I learn that my father who had stayed in Canada, was willingly participating in prayer with my grandmother for us. My grandmother was amazed because before he would start blaspheming or would get sleepy and leave. Robert, you and Sonnette names were constantly coming into my mind whenever I prayed. Keep strong brother, for the Lord knows your plight but He knows the timing.

     Father, we come before Your throne of Grace
     weak and tired. Our tears you have heard and known
     and the troubles of our hearts are no mystery to you.
     Give us rest Beloved Father and let us learn to lean on You and find
     our Sabbath in Your loving arms. Just as You have heard the cries of Israel’s children during the reign of the Pharaoh and deliver them, so Lord we called upon You on this Passover to deliver us from the enemy that reigns on our Spouses and family. Make your Word come alive and renew us and Your living water take our thirst away and that of our family. Lord make your Light disperse the darkness that we found ourselves
     in and our hearts always offer a song of Joy and Wonder. Upon your Word we stand for this promise. Jesus, Lamb of God, gives us the strength to keep taking our Yoke with You by Our side and to daily die to our sins just as You died for us. Fulfiller of the prophecy and Light of the World,
     intercede for us upon the Father. Lord, may You always be our first and last thought and are hearts be fill with Love as the Bride we are in Your eyes, and our Love for You only Mature for You as our
     Journey with You continues. Holy Spirit, fill me with Your wisdom and as the road become shakier and harder, guide me always and help me prevail against my adversaries. Put the Words of God in my mouth and heart to fortify me and fortify those you place in my path. Your Power rebuke the enemy and take away his darts and lies, for you live in me and Your light always will show me the sight of your extended arms.
     I plead Your blood Lord of Lords on every heart and mind in the Household of Robert, Sonnette, Crystal, Kim, Barry, L.G and all others in this forum
     Fill their life with Your light and be Invited into their abode. Holy Spirit, purify and cleanse their mind and spirit so that they be receptive
     to Your teaching and the Truth. Lord, Great is Your wisdom and love, and we are forever thankful for the Grace that you have bestowed upon us
     Lord Almighty we give thanks and sing glory to Your name forever and ever. HOLY HOLY HOLY IS OUR BELOVED GOD.
     Praise be forever lift up from our mouths and hearts to You.

     In your Beloved Son’s name, Jesus Christ,
     Amen Amen

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123. Hey everyone. I’m sure with Resurrection Sunday coming up, the devil is working overtime to distract us from celebrating.

     As I mentioned earlier, I blocked my prodigal ex husband off my phone due to all the hurt he was inflicting over and over for years on end. I have trusted God that if and when my ex’s heart is touch by God, that he would find a way to contact me. In the meantime, I’ve had to protect my heart and sanity from his hurtful words and actions. Soon after I blocked him, he tried to call me from a hotel room when he was on the road, but it has been silent since then, which has been a couple of months. Until today. He left me a voicemail from his office phone this afternoon. He had sadness in his voice and asked me to please talk to him. I don’t know what to do. He has pulled this many times before, and I’m too afraid to let my guard down because it has ended in heartache 100% of the time for going on 7 years now.

     I figure if there is a real change, he will continue to pursue. If not, then I’ll know it was just more of the same.

     My hope is in God, not what my ex does or doesn’t do. I know God will take care of me and our children no matter what, and he will bind up my wounds. He wants an abundant life for me. I would like for it to include my ex, but I have come to the peaceful acceptance that God will take turn this situation around for my good no matter what my ex does. I made my ex and our torn marriage an idol, so I had to release it all–truly release it–to Jesus. Now I can concentrate on The Restorer, not restoration. I can focus on the Lord, not my situation. I have come to a place of rest. Yes, it still hurts if I dwell on it. But after 7 years, I’ve learned how to redirect my thoughts and combat the enemy’s attempts to destroy me. It’s a miracle in and of itself for me to have come to this place considering what shape I was in just a few years earlier. I nearly grieved myself to death over my broken marriage and my husband’s adultery. God has taught me a lot, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

     Robert, I wouldn’t advise speaking to the other man. It’s a trap of satan. I wrote a long email to the ow, and my ex had extreme hatred towards me for it. It’s been 3 years since I sent the letter, and as of last December, my ex was still harassing me about it. However, I do think it speeded up the process of their ungodly relationship being destroyed, but it was not my place to intervene in that way. I feel like I played God, and it backfired. I feel my ex will forever hate me for it, even though his reasoning makes no sense. But, as we know, listening to an adulterer talk is like listening to the devil himself.

     Happy Easter to everyone! Praise Jesus for His finished work on the cross!

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124. You guys are awesome! Thank you Lord!

     I had a disturbing dream last night regarding incest. When I looked up the meaning, here’s what it said:

     “A dream of incest is a warning that you are contemplating some discreditable action; resist the temptation no matter how strong the pressure or how promising the proposition. It will turn out to be a matter of lasting regret, if not remorse, if you give way.”

     Based on everyone’s responses, I think God is telling me to leave this guy alone and let Him deal with it.

     Thank you all for being the voice of God for me when I couldn’t hear Him myself!

     I love you all in Christ 🙂

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125. Robert where did you read the dream meaning?

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126. Often the best way to dialogue with someone on a controversial topic is to respond back with a [Revelation story] question.

     The LORD sent Nathan to David. When he came to him, he said, “There were two men in a certain town, one rich and the other poor. The rich man had a very large number of sheep and cattle, but the poor man had nothing except one little ewe lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his children. It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms. It was like a daughter to him.
     “Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come to him.”
     David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan, “As surely as the LORD lives, the man who did this must die! He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity.”
     Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man! This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more. Why did you despise the word of the LORD by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you despised me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’
     “This is what the LORD says: ‘Out of your own household I am going to bring calamity on you. Before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to one who is close to you, and he will sleep with your wives in broad daylight. You did it in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.’”
     Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.”

     “Even now,” declares the LORD,
     return to me with all your heart,
     with fasting and weeping and mourning.”

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127. I am in a storm much like Dennis is. I asked God that the next woman that he brought into my life would be the one he had made just for me. I had just recovered by a miracle from a heart attack and stroke that had occurred in the same week that happened a year before. I was researching Slavic culture and “stumbled onto” a blog written by a Russian woman who had immigrated from Russia to America. On her blog in the right margin were some photos of womens faces. I clicked one thinking that the photo would enlarge, instead I was directed to a website that allowed women from Russia and Ukraine meet men from the West. I explored the site for two days or so and then I saw a picture of a normal looking girl that you would find next door. I clicked on her photo and read what she wrote about herself. She said that she was a Godly woman that was raised with traditional family values and that she was seeking a Godly man whose focus would be family and not his job and that her chosen man would have to love and obey God and be the loving father and husband. I wrote her a short note. She replied and asked if we could chat. I had a little time before work so we talked for a half hour. She enjoyed our talk so much that she asked if we chat again the next day at the same time. These chat dates turned into an everyday event. We talked everyday for an hour at least for nine months at which Yulia decided that her search was over and that I was the one she wanted. I felt the same way about her because during our chats each day we found that we were a perfect match. We shared the same values and ideas on family and raising children and we both love God. In August 2008 I flew to visit her for two weeks. Our love only intensified during our visit I knew that God had given me my bride at long last. I returned from my trip and the next week lost my job. I was devastated, How was I going to file the paper work for Yulia’s K-1 visa without me working? I searched for a job six hours a day six days a week and after three years I was blessed with a new job at half the pay I had before. Yulia and I communicated by email for those three years. Sometimes i would call her on the phone and have short conversations with her. English is not Yulia’s best language so our phone calls were short and rare. I would send her a short text message each night so that she could read it in the morning to know that she was in my thoughts. I was the best husband to be that I could be for her from 6000 miles away. Now this spring I was planning on being her birthday present for her 30th birthday in May and spend three weeks with her to talk about doing her visa paperwork and to spend time with her to practice being a couple. Sadly She informed me that she needed her man there with her and that she needed her kisses and hugs and was with another man and they wanted to marry in a few months. Now I am in an intense battle to have God restore Yulia and I’s relationship before she marries this guy.I do not think that God is a part of this new relationship. I did nothing wrong except be too far away to hold her and give her the affection that she needed. I love her and her family more than words could say and I feel as if my huge loving heart has been ground into Hamburger. I am praying that God would soften and turn her heart back to me and that our beautiful loving relationship be totally restored. Yulia would sign her email letters to me using my last name, and in our spirits and hearts we considered ourselves to me married to each other and the ceremony would be a formality I was planning on marrying her in the park on a sunny spring day this year. Now I am fighting the fiercest spiritual battle I have ever fought in my entire life to restore this relationship. Ukrainian men are not the best husbands and they have a bad history of treating women badly. The country has a 70 percent divorce rate. I do not want Yulia to be a single divorced mother in a country that is hard to live in to begin with. Please pray with me for God to finish the work that her started in our relationship.

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128. Just spoke with a friend of mine and he shared 2 wonderful insights with me:

     1. While initially I prayed for my enemy and his marriage, then started to pray battle prayers against him, it’s been placed on my heart to pray again for him. God has revealed to me (through my wife) some very difficult things this other man is going through in all areas of his life. While I don’t take joy that he is facing some great trials in his life, in a way I feel vindicated by God. My friend said when we pray for our enemies, we’re actually helping ourselves – removing hardness from our hearts and bodies(emotionally and physically) that can harm us in the long run.

     2. At this point in my walk, I keep getting mixed signals from my wife. I give God the glory for the positive signals and experiences, but just give it up to Him as to which direction he wants it to go. In a way, I’m scared to lead into it with any meaning, so I just leave it in His hands. While I don’t enjoy my wife trashing my feelings and heart, I still have His love in my heart for her. My friend said it’s a taste of our walk with Jesus. No matter how much He loves us and it hurts Him when we trash His feelings and heart, He loves us enough to still be there for us – to give us the freedom to reject Him. It’s certainly a very scary thing! The Bible says we need to be like Jesus with our spouses – willing to die for them so that they may be spotless.

     I hope this has spoken to your heart in some way as it did to mine.

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129. It certainly has spoken to my heart, Robert. Thanks! When my sons are with me and we’re saying our bedtime prayers, I also pray for the enemy and it sounds like God is seeking your enemy’s attention and your wife’s, too.

     We have no control over others. It helps to us do more preparing than planning in these situations and always try to keep yourself in His perfect will as He outlines in the Bible… Hard to do sometimes. You’ve been spot-on, Robert, and I really don’t think you needed any reminding of that.

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130. hi Guys Just a note to say don’t give up. Thank you all for praying for me when the nights were dark and your words were strength when I was weak and hurting. My wife and I are talking ,am seeing the kids regularly and I praise God that he answered my prayers.I am still praying that my wife returns home and my marriage is restored .I will be praying for all of you just to name a few Robert,Sonnette,Barry, Kim remembering that he cares for us.I thank God and praise his Holy name .Be courageous he always comes through.God bless all of you

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131. Hi All

     Farai your comment put a smile on my face 🙂 Praise God he is truly awesum & mighty.

     Today in church during worship wat stood out for me & spoke to my heart was words spoken by the worship leader about Gods STEADFAST LOVE for us & I’v had a song in my heart “Great is thy faithfulness” but the words in the song say “the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies will never come to an end” I’m sure you all know it. Remember Gods love is steadfast for us. His love sets us free. His love is more than enough for us his children. We serve a God of signs & wonders & great miracles. Is anything to hard for him? He hears our prayers and every one of them will be answered in his perfect timing!

     I have come a long way since my 1st posts – I can truly say I have the peace & joy of the Lord despite the fact that my husband is living in adultery with the OW. I know that God is gona do amazing things in my husbands life & that he will come 2 his senses & escape the lies of the enemy & be filled with the gift of the Holy spirit. I trust God completely because I know like I know like I know I serve a GOD OF THE IMPOSSIBLE!!!
     B blessed every1 and yes let’s keep on praying for each other & fight the good fight! Let’s battle it out knowing we serve a great & mighty & sovereign miracle working God!

     God bless u & may the peace of God which transcends understanding guard your hearts & your minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.

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132. HI I’m Ana, I am here to share my testimony and also asking for prayer for my broken family…

     2 years ago my boyfriend of 5 years and I broke up. We like everyone one else argued, said things horrible things to each other. LIKE BAD!

     When we broke up I felt super lost, cried everyday, never ever ate, cried cried cried cried… cried.

     On a prayer application on my smart phone I placed a prayer, about ofcourse my broken heart, and feeling towards the situation, asking god to please bring back what is faithfully mine and begging god to reunite our love.

     In that app god brought an angel to my life who I consider she is my sister, she I believe is the foundation to mine and gods relationship, WHY? well because she told me to have faith and pray because through god all things are possible NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR GOD EVER!!!!

     When we broke up their was a female holding him from me, keeping him busy and occupied, I would call my fiancee and try to fix things, text him and he always told me he didnt want to try things out, he didn’t feel the way I did, OFCOURSE I CRIED, but inside I believed and I prayed hard, for god to remove anything and anyone distracting him from realising his true love for me.

     WHEN I TELL U GOD IS GOOD, BELIEVE ME GOD IS NOT ONLY GOOD, HE IS AMAZING AND POWERFUL.

     I am proud to say four months later god reunited our love, and we now have an 18 month old…
     DONT EVER GIVE UP, GOD WILL RESTORE WHAT HE HAS GIVING YOU.

     STATUS UPDATE: Him and I are currently fighting do to a deep depression issue I went through, also I let the devil take over my life, and my emotions and I ignored every calling god placed in my heart I just kept ignoring god trying to call me back to his heart. I believe god removed him for a little while that way I could work on my and god’s relationship while god works on my heart and my fiances heart.

     I have texted him, telling him I miss him and to return home but he has not replied, he has not called, he has not contacted me at all, I feel like he is hurting as much as I am, and ofcourse pride is in the way, and maybe another girl is trying to keep him busy, but I AM RELAXED NOT PANICING because god place a promise in my heart and he confirmed that promise.

     I have faith that my family will be restored, our love will be revived, our relationship will be happy again IN JESUS NAME I CLAIM my fiancee will be back soon.
     I am just waiting on god to touch his heart, place the right people in his life to help him see and realise his family is here, loving and missing him like crazy.

     YES I DO STILL CRY, BUT I AM HUMAN NOT A ROBOT all I have to do is believe and have faith in our father, and he will take care of the rest.

     PRAYER CHASNGES THINGS, PLEASE BELIEVE
     GO TO GOD AND TALK TO HIM AS IF AS U DO TO YOUR BEST-FRIEND, HE IS RIGHT NEXT TO U LISTENING TO YOU PRAYER, HUGGING YOU, HEALING YOU, RESTORING YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIGE WHAT EVER IT MAY BE GOD CAN DO IT FOR YOU AND HE WILL, MATTHER 21:22 SAIDS “PRAY WITH FAITH, & YOU’LL BE GIVEN WATEVER YOU ASK FOR”

     Take it from someone who was and is currently in your shoes, when you feel like nothing is possible, trust god, let go and let god show you what he is capable of doing.

     Thank you guys for your time and pray for my family as I will also pray for everyone.

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133. Hi everyone 🙂

     Yes sendy it has been a long time since I posted I think the last time I posted was around easter, in fact all the regular posters have been quiet. But I know that God has been doing something in everyone of your hearts & lives as you have all sought His face as I have been doing.

     To all you precious ones reading my update all I can do is testify to Gods awesumness & goodness in my life. My husband still lives with the “other woman”. He fetches our 5yr old daughter for school everyday and we spend time together once a week on a sat or sun when he visits. These visits are very pleasant as God has taught me to love my husband unconditionally, not ask too many questions and not to become angry and accuse but to love my husband as Christ Jesus loves me. Psalm 141:3 Prov 13:3. God has been refining me, his Holy Spirit has taught me about forgivness as I felt so much bitterness and hurt & especially betrayal. God taught me through his word as I felt an urging by the Holy Spirit to look up the topic of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a decision that we have to make through a decision of our will and it is motivated by obedience to God. We have to learn to forgive by faith until the work of forgiveness (the Lords job) can be done in our hearts. Phil 1:6
     Through forgiveness Jesus set me free from the anger, bitterness, resentment & hurt that previously imprisoned me & made me feel so helpless. Matthew 18:21-22 Prayer is one of the best ways to break down the walls of unforgiveness in our hearts as I began to pray for my husband and the other woman God gave me a new heart to care for that person. Luke 6:7; Matthew 6:14-16; Mark 11:25.

     Jesus suffered and was betrayed and he died but He is alive! He was victorious over death and sin as I believe I will be victorious in the restoration of my marriage as Christ also restored us to himself.

     I also started keeping a journal in which to write down verses, answered prayers, prayer requests, how I felt & what God taught me – its been very therapeutic writing down my feelings and thoughts to God.

     I have also been trusting God in my work situation and God has been so good and given me favour in my work.

     I started tithing in April when I started attending a new church it has been sooo wonderful I also joined a cell and its been wonderful making friends and worshipping God and I’m looking forward to a couple who will be ministering in the prophetic on the weekend of the 3rd – 5th of Aug & there is a womens camp coming up & I’ve joined bookclub and my daughter made wonderful new friends at church 🙂 But what I really want to tell you about is how God has blessed me financially! On wednesday this week I received an email for a refund for a substantial amount of money. I was sooo happy and excited! But God wasn’t done with there…. As I received another refund & this time from the tax man for another substantial amt & that came on Friday in the same week! My huband also received 2 amts from the tax man which itself was a testimony as I could testify to him how I started tithing in apr & he too could share in Gods goodness. I really believe that when I started paying tithes in april there was a release of finances in my marriage as God not onli blessed me but my husband too financially & yet onli I tithed. I am still trusting God to be completely free from debt and to own my own car as my daughter & I walk home.

     As I have spent more time in prayer and his word He has revealed more & more of himself to me. Gods word says “Call unto me and I will show you great and unsearchable things which you do not know” Jeremiah 33:3. I have also prayed for an extra measure of faith which God has given me as I am so happy and joyful. God truly satisfies us!

     I am also studying toward my degree at the moment which is another testimony as last semester I received 1 distinction and a good pass despite my marriage situation.

     God just wants me to continue to trust Him and in His perfect timing and He doesn’t want me or you to worry or be afraid or discouraged as we wait He wants us to be happy and blessed and joyful and content and satisfied!

     Be blessed and stay in His Mighty power! All my luv to you all.
     Sonet

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134. The devil is after marriages and marriages that will change the world’s perceptions about love. Love never fails because it never stops hoping. The views about love and Godly relations are distorted in this day and age. Its all about ease and unforgiveness. When it gets tough, we run to where it is easier. I almost made the mistake of settling for a man I know is not for me because my ex moved on. We both knew the relationship was Godly but because of the attacks of the devil we let go of the relationship. Since then God has been reshaping and molding me to be the woman He has called me to be. All the promises God had said into our lives seemed to have been perishing.

     I thank God for these testimonials because I know God will restore His initial plan for our lives. I know my ex is distracting himself with the other woman. He has been called into great purposes even ministry but the devil wants to steal and distroy his life. I am guilty of lack of disbelief even when God has revealed His plans to me. All I want is to persue Gods purposes for my life to glorify Him. These testimonies have equipped me and m ready to go on a prayer warfare again for my soon to be husband.

     I thank God for all of you.

     don’t think your postings are for nothing because they help people like us. I am 24 all the way in South Africa and u just turned me back to God.

     God bless you all

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135. Grace and Peace,
     My ex husband divorce in march and I am believing God to restore my marriage . there is a woman that came into this life and now there is just so much hatred in him towards me last night he told me never to speak to him in life again and in the last week when we speak he would curse me and we have 10 year old kid my kid is hurting very much and so am i. I am feeling very hurt and would like to pray for God to help and have his way in this situation to bring peace and unforgivness SAVE my husband and restore is love for me and also remove this person from his life if he have to. Thank you

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136. Hi All, its been awhile… Mths since my last post… How pleased I was 2 see all the new posts esp the 1’s of encouragement as well as KimItem (ur posts were an encouragement in my deepest darkest days & stil is) & sadness for those of you who are going thru the storm.

     I want you all to know my husband came home in feb, God brought my husband home, my h (husband) left the ow (other woman) & we are a family agen. The ow stil phoned my h & was in contact with him & its been sooo hard but the contact has becomning less & less until I heard that the ow has a boyfriend recently. As hard as its been I hav had 2 completely trust in the Lord. My h & I, our marriage its stil a daily fight… The fight, spiritual warfare doesn’t end wen your h comes home, it intensifies… We hav gud days & bad days & today my h told me “He is so over this” we are struggling 2 work thru our differences my h wud rather jus forget it… He doesn’t want 2 go for councilling & I hav not askd 2 go agen. Today my prayers & thoughts have been Lord why do I hav to be the 1 to always say I’m sori only 2 b told “I’m ova this” it hurts… But God has called us to stand for our marriages & to neva give up & to wait on his perfect timing… Not ours… We desperately want our marriages restored but God wants us to give us new marriages ( I know I don’t want my old 1) so despite what my h & I are goin thru rit now I know God is not done. God has not given me a spirit of fear but of power, love & a sound mind & I entrust my h, marriage & heart 2 Him. God has also led once agen 2 Jesus & all that he endured, Jesus understand he knows wat we are goin thru & jus as he leaned on the Father knowing he was to be crucified so we can lean on the Father like Jesus as we go thru the storms knowing like Jeus there is victory & marriage restoration & healed families on its way in Gods perfect timing as we trust Him daily as he continues to mold & shape us& our spouses. God bless u all as we stand in faith!!

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137. Thanks crystal reading ur comment giving me some strength my husbanf left 3 weeks moged snd got his own place and say he wants a divorce and that he moved on snd I should do the same. That he meet some one and he likes her. We havebfour beautiful children, I dont want to lose my husband I pray all day and night. His heart is so cold to me. I keep trying to figure out what did I do wrong. I was happy at home no desire to cheat .I love my fsmiky. My heart is so broken all I do is cry.I pray one hour im ok the next it starts again. But crystal reading you story gave me strength . Please pray for me.

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138. Each one of us are in the same boat. We are going through a rough time in our marriage. The days where we just don’t know what to do. We can cry and we feel like giving up but remember Jesus the heavenly Father clearly tell us in his word hat all things work together for good to those who love God. So let us proclaims this in our life and marriage. Instead of blaming and pointing fingers let me urge you to pray and let healing flow through your life and your spouse. Let the love of God just embrace you. Run to him and find comfort. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 Nothing about us is to small for God. Everything in your life is important. So is your marriage. Firstly, forgive yourself and your spouse. Ask the Lord to bring back the spark in the marriage. You fell in love and you cant just fall out of love. Marriage is something we have to work on it. I also learned it the hard way but God loves me, my husband and my marriage. I am committing my marriage into God’s hand. So for all of you… Jesus love you and your marriage. Pray and commit and surrender.. Praying for all of you today. Amen

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139. I am going thru something similar Crystal and just by chance I came across this page online today. Today when I woke up thinking “Ok God I trust you just please let me get over this and move on because I can’t stand the pain no more. Me and my kids have suffered enough!” Thank you my Almighty God for bringing this to my eyes So I could see I can’t loose faith. And thank you the Crystal for sharing her story. I have had so many things tell me don’t worry this is just a test he is coming back he loves you too much to move on! But the devil never sleeps and is at me day in and day out! But I try so hard to follow God’s guidance and everytime I feel week I go to prayer and pray pray pray pray! I have never been so close to God and I thank him daily for doing this in my life because I love the feeling within me now that I have been walking so close to him! Thank you from the depths of my soul, God is always waiting to show me his way!

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140. Crystal…thank You JESUS for your story. It was exactly what I needed to read at this very moment. My husband has been having an affair for 3 Months. He says he wants to pursue a relationship with her and leave our 24 year relationship and children. I have been praying that God brings him home. My family prays for him too. Once I gave it All to God I know he will be home. He says he loves her. God loves us more. I am going to look for spiritual warfare scriptures too right now. He is always in my prayers. And I know he will be home. I have asked God to forgive me for my sins and my part in this too. My marriage will be saved. The Lord is working it right now. Thank you. This is what I needed to read. It came at the right time. God bless.

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141. Thanks for sharing your story Crystal, I’m also praying for my wife to return to me, one dayafter an argument she packed up, anthreaten to leave, I wasnt working well due to an injury at work, so I sold the house. Now she blames me. I never.wanted this, all this happend quick. I know the enemy was behind all this. 25 years of marriage gone. I’m going to church regularly, I was blessed with a great new Job. I’m seeking all types of info on christian restoration of marriage. I pray a lot. I pray to restore me an my wife to Jesus first then our marriage. Please pray for my wife an I ( David & Jennie). I’ll pray for all.of You! Thanks David

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142. My wife left me two days befor Thanksgiving. She took pictures of the kids after picking them up from school then told the kids that she had some erronds to run an never came back. Yes we had some sin in our marrage. About four month prioor I always had a fantasy to share her with another man. She being a christion refused so I kept on pushing until one day back from the city I dared her to stop a strip club and let some men hit on her. She did and she met a man that romanced her and she loved it. She hooked uo with him four more time over a two monthperiod. The I startted pushing her to find a boyfriend locally where we live. Soon I was asking for a girlfriend of my own and she said ok. i soon start chatting with a fwew girls over the internet and was tryig to set a date. While texting my new girlfriend I accedently texted it ti my wife instead. In the email I was going to send some money to a girl whom I had never met but started to like. That was it for her, she saw a train wreck about to hit our marrage and she left. Now my kids live my brother or sister while im working week on/week off. She was so mad that i let her degrade herself and be used. She left me a long letter that sounded like goodby for a long time. She told me that she need time to find her self again, and that if we had any chance at all that i would keep my stuff in my pants. I am proud to say that even through all of that I never once cheated physically on my wife. But as the leader of my family Iled her to sin and feel responsible for her having sex with another man. i was ready to try being a swinger. Her leaving was the best thing that could have happed. I cried my eye for the first three days and texted here a lot. I dont know where she is but im sure she got on an airplane and the the state. She said that some day she will come back home. I have been devastated by “some day” Please pray for my family and my wife returning home to her 6 and 11 year old. Thanks

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143. Thank you all who have prayed for me and my wife. She sent me in a text ” i will be back. Im not completely sure when but i will. You know that. Hold on to that. You know I still love you…But im dealing with a lot of hurt and i need time. im not going to respond to anymore texts..they are all goin to say the same thing…theyll tell you nothing that you dont allready know.” I think god is at work here preparing me and her for us to some day join again. Im gonna start working on being a more Godly husband…the way man was supposed to treat and care for women. I have a lot of work to do and praying. God bless all who have read this and prayed for us. Thank you.

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144. It was a terrific testimony Crystal. I was in my marriage 23 years, same thing, one day he told me he wanted a divorce. So, I was so hurt and offended, I told him to go and get one….he tried to come home twice, but I was mad and rejected. Anger has cost me a lot of things. Long story short, The Lord will not leave me alone with Ross. This morning He woke me up to listen to an rerun of TBN of 1987 with Cavin and Patti. Pretty cool stuff to learn how Patty regained Cavin back. She had a prayer warrior teach her to call out in Jesus name to his spirit man and read him the Bible, quoting the promises of God to the devil when her hope would shrink, and of course she found a prayer group that agreed with her.

     Even though we have been divorced since 2005, I have begun fighting for my marriage again today. Please keep me in your prayers! God bless all of you!

     I can’t wait until I am able to post my testimony on here for The Lord!

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145. Hi David, my situation is similar to you. My wife has an affair with my good friend. She left me and our 2 kids (3 and 7) for a month already. I think she is going to pick him instead of her family. My wife was lovely, she is lost. I am helpless. I want my wife back. God, I need your help. Please pray for my family and my wife to return to her family.
     Thank you.

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146. Felix, my heart and prayers go out to you and your wife. I understand exactly how must feel. The amount of responsability you have taking care of your kids without your wife is something that i am still having to deal with as well. I hope that you have some family to help watch your kids while you still work. Dont give up on her and dont stop praying. I put a picture of me and my wife on our bed, kneel down at our bed side with a bible and pray everynight that God brings her back to me. My wife said if we ever have a chance of getting back together that i need to give her some space for now and not smother her with text messages and phone call. And that is exactly what my heart is telling me to do; smother her with text and phone calls because i love her so much. I sent her a christmas card via email today because i know she checks her email. Maby you could do the same as a way of showing her you still care for her. I am so sorry Felix dont stop praying.

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147. To everyone hurting in their marriage and reading these comments:

     I too feel I was meant to read this testimony. I had an affair on my husband. He didn’t give up on me and I came back. After 7 mos he went out of town for work, sent me a text saying he couldn’t forgive me for what I’ve done and wanted to move out. He revealed to me he was talking to someone new and had no intention of stopping. He said he does not love me, I’m disgusting to him because of what I had done and that I needed to move on. It was devastating because I was already full of guilt from my affair and I felt like I was getting what I deserved. That was the enemy talking. I have recommitted my life to Christ and have completely surrendered it to The Lord. I’ve asked for marriage restoration and for comfort and strength. He kept telling me to be patient and kind. I read this testimony and was crying to God yet again and right then and there I got a text from my husband asking if I was busy. I said no and he called. He said I don’t know what’s going on with me but I’ve got mixed feelings and I’m confused. He asked if we could talk tomorrow night. I agreed and I truly believe God is answering my prayers. I told God I would do things his way this time. I want to renew our vows and be the couple we should be for “Him”. I have a fantasy as I know many other women do and it entails of my husband and I reading the Bible, praying, and attending church together. I have faith that our talk tomorrow is about my husband wanting to work it out. Please pray for me as well!

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148. I feel the pain everyday. I wake up and got to sleep with the same prayer. Although I have not been able to sleep much. My husband left one morning for work and we chatted during the day but come to find out he wasn’t coming home that evening. Turns out he left his family for a young girl and her 2 kids. It devastated my daughter and I . It has been a year half and still not sure what happened. Please I pray for my husband home. I don’t want this life for my child. She does not deserve this. I dream of waking up in his arms and our child to be happy again. It breaks her and my heart having separate holidays and lives. I want to be happy again. My half is missing, I dream of my husband coming home everyday.
     I have tried to date but it just makes me feel worse. I have no connection towards people. I try going out with friends and just feel like a third wheel. Even when I’m at relatives homes I don’t feel like I’m there. I don’t feel complete or feel like I’m ever awake. I try to keep my daughter busy with things but I never enjoy. I feel like I’m just going through motions. I keep holding on to faith and praying that he will return.

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149. Praise the lord,crystal.I have the same problem but I faith and believe God will do Mighty things. My husband of 2nhalf years left me immediately after my father’s death. My inlaws never liked me because I am not educated like their son so they persuaded him to either chose me or them. My dear husband had to made a choice n he chose his biological family.He packed all my belongings and gave me to go and never cm back. I believe God had purpose for ths to happen because I used to go to church but my faith was small.Now I have given my life to Jesus Christ and I believe our dear Lord is watching and saves us from any kind of Troubles if you just believe in Him.AMEN.

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150. I want to thank Crystal for her testimony! My husband and I have been seperated for 3 years do to his affairs. I have been wondering what I have been doing wrong, your tetimony help me to understand it, and now I know I have to put it in the lords hands and leave everything alone!

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151. My husband left me in May. I have been praying and praying that God would send him home to me. I research scripture and have others praying for us and I look things up on the Internet and that is how I ended up here. As I read this testimony it was if I wrote it. Every little piece of this story is mine. I even sent it to my friends that thought I wrote it. The testimony has given me new hope and even more determination. I have been told that the lord will not heal my marriage because my husband is a non believer. How can that be true. God dislikes divorce and if I have faith which I do and I believe and I do then there is nothing God will not do to heal this marriage. What better testimony to my husband and my family and friends whom say there is no hope. I sometimes feel forsaken only because the divorce process has started only for alimony purposes, but as the hearing date for that approaches I feel like time is not on my side and I know that it is Satan talking to me. I know my husband is conflicted. He has a girlfriend and has since July. But he talks to me on and off. One minute he hate me and says leave me alone and I do but then he will turn around and contacts me just to chit chat that’s how I know God is speaking to him. I ask for signs and when I do I stumble on verse that gives me hope just like this has. Please Pray for me and Brian and our marriage. I know that this will be a powerful testament to my family and friends and all those who say its hopeless.

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152. Crystal story was a very inspirational to me. Her story was so close to mine in so many ways. My wife of almost 19 years left me and my three children. The things she said to me was so out of character and hurtful it was scary. She told me she hated me, faked it for years, hoped I find someone else, should have never married me, felt like a prisoner for the last 17 years, my heart dead to you, etc.

     I took Crystal advice I prayed for Godly people to get into my wife life, prayed for her heart to soften towards me, I prayed for the hedges of thorns to surround my wife and I, prayed for the restoration of my marriage. Sought out my Pastor for help, bought mustard seeds, sought out book on how to save my marriage etc.

     My wife would talk about coming home a few times, then the next day change her mind. She would call me and tell me about her day etc. She finally went to counseling, but stayed for 9 min. Said she loved me but was not in love with me and haven’t missed me since she left.

     Our relationship after that was very strained, no communication at all buy phone or email. Hardly ever talked when we say each other. I remember crying pleading to God to restore my marriage, asking for Jesus to wash his blood over my wife and I. Praying in Jesus name for my marriage and asking Jesus to take and save my marriage.

     This last week was the most brutal in our separation, my faith was being tested and I went out to buy some mustard seeds and put them in my kitchen window. The next morning called to ask to come home, pleading to work on our marriage, go to church with me, and be the wife she should have always been. I went and got a U-Haul and had her move back yesterday.

     Just know as soon as you ask God to fix and restore your marriage, he starts working on your spouse. It will take time and patience, something I didn’t have, but I learn through prayer and reading the bibles that anything is possible.

     The devil will plays trick on you, don’t fall for it trust in the God. Also trust in your spouse and give God time to work on their heart. It will take time, but with love and God nothing is impossible, trust your heart. Most importantly trust in God, he hates divorce. Pray for your spouse and repent for any sins you have done in your marriage.

     Matthew chapter 21:22 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.”

     Take it from me its true PTL and anything trough Christ is possible.

     David

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153. Mixed Emotions
     When I first came across Crystals story I was so hopeful one because I was looking for signs that I should keep doing what I was doing and that’s my story so what better sign. I have been praying and praying and have a lot of people praying and its hard to keep my faith when it seems to get worse each day. Then I had a Christian tell me I am setting myself up for disappointment because we are not puppets we have our own mind and will to do what we want and it sounds like that is what my husband is doing so there is little hope the Lord can turn that around. So I ask how do you believe the what the scriptures say about marriage and nothing being to hard for God and moving the mountain. I’m so confused and lost as I head to an alimony hearing this coming Monday.

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154. Thank you Crystal for sharing your testimony,to all those fighting for their spouses,be sure of one thing,The lord hates Divorce and you are on the right track, don’t let the enemy steal the promise God has laid in your heart about a restored marriage.Pray scriptures for your spouse daily and also put on the amour of God on yourself daily.Pray and fast as led by the holy ghost and keep praising and giving thanks to God for prayers answered.The bible says we should cast all our cares on the father for he cares for us and also Rejoice in the lord always,so lets be doers of the word.I am also standing for my marriage and I that God has given us victory over the enemy.Please you could check out this website for encouragement.www.rejoiceministries.org.God bless.

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155. Thank you for sharing your testimony, it gives me encouragement to know that a woman can fight alone for their marriage. Despite what the situation looks like, with God all thing are possible His love is amazing and this is why I won’t stop fighting for my marriage. How can I give up on my marriage, if God has never gives up on me. If God has never given up on me, why should I give up on my husband, on my marriage?How can I stop fighting for a marriage when I know that the victory has already been won because God has won the battle, only God can determine the beginning and the end of anything not me not my husband not our family or friends, only God has the power to determine anything. Our lord is clear in, His word that he hates divorce.
     I fight for my marriage because I believe in Gods word, I believe in his promises to prosper us not to harm us. For the devil is liar and what is done in evil God will turn it into good for his purpose. I believe that God will mend the deep wounds of my marriage and this is why I hold on because love cover a multitude of sins. In
     1 Corinthians 7:10-11 ESV To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. I believe in this scripture that God will reconcile Jason and I.
     I love my husband deeply and I want better for our young family I want my children to know what a marriage is suppose to look like under Gods law.
     God can soften the hardest of heart and mend hearts which have been completely broken. But only if you allow him in, I struggle so much with letting go because I am so use to relaying on me to fix. But the only person who has the power to fix this is God.I might not see his hands move in the physical but I know he is moving on the spiritual. I believe with all my heart that God will heal my marriage and restore it with agape love, love that transcends beyond our understanding. Though my husbands heart is completely harden towards me due to the mere fact of the hurt I have caused him with my lack of disrespect and so much more. I hold on to the truth I hold on to the word of God on my marriage on my family.
     I praise God for the work He is doing in me, for he has called me to change to die of my old self and have him transform me to the wife and mother He wants me to be. I praise God for the husband and father my husband will become when he submits his life to Christ. I praise God for the ministry which will be birth out of this storm this valley of the shadow of death because it has drawn me closer to the one one person who loves me the most the one person who is in the midst of my marriage my marriage my family. I praise God that my testimony of reconciliation will minister to thoughts who are struggling in their own relationships that my husband and I will be able to counsel other couples. I praise you oh God thank you. As I draw closer to you, you draw closer to me. I pray that my relationship and my love for you will be seen in the relationship with Jason. You called him to be my husband for me to be his helpmate. And I thank you.

     I offer a pray for those who are struggling
     Oh Heavenly Father we come before you with an open hearts and we thank you for what you are doing in our lives. Though it might seem impossible, you sustain us you give us hope and unconditional love. Father God I call on your holy spirt to invaded those broken marriages those heart which are so broken and mend them in their brokenness. I pray father God that you give us strength father to continue to fight and push through pray that you give us discernment and wisdom. That you guide closer to you and hold on to your promises. That we do not let go but grab on I ask father that you build our faith and trust in you on a rock and not on sand that we are obedient to you. That you surround us with godly people who will encourage us and pray for us. Father God I pray for our spouse that you meet them where they are at now that you touch their hearts, that you would convict them with the Holy Spirit. I ask father that they submit their lives to you that you bring to your kingdom. Forgive them lord for they relay on their own understanding. Remove them from ungodly people and break and break any strong hold. In the name of Jesus I bind up the spirit of unforgiveness, pride, selfishness, bitterness, and resentment. Show our spouse what love truly is by reminding them who you are. I ask father God that you restore these marriages that you give theses marriages pure love for each other agape love , love with out motive or expectation, love that is genuine. I pled the blood of Jesus on each married couple, that they are covered in your blood. Guide them father. God be with them for your word says that no weapon formed against us should prosper, that you will never leave us or forsaken us. We believe in father and we praise you, you are an awesome a God a God who can mountains. Let your will be done in the name of Jesus I pray amen.

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     1. This is so beautiful. Thanks for these amazing words. You truly are a believer that God can do anything . Seeing this testimony was written more then a year ago I would like to know if you have experienced a restored marriage since ?

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156. This will be my third update. Today was suppose to be my limited divorce hearing. When my husband left I had no income and have been unable to work for the past few years. I was lost didn’t know what to do so I was advised to file for a limited divorce. I made sure that meant I was not filing for and actual divorce. In the state I live in there is no such thing as a legal separation. You have to be separated for 1 year then you can file. A limited divorce sets up alimony or child support before the finale divorce for those that need it. We had a pendelite hearing in October all we did was set up temporary alimony. Today’s hearing would have been just like the final with testimony and such and the final alimony would have been set. Then in May my husband could file for the final because I will not. Well because the judge didn’t realize that it was only a limited divorce she wanted to go forward with the final. I was totally opposed to this so my lawyer requested a postponement. It was granted and it will not happen till October. This was good news for me as it gives more time for God to shake my husband up. I have been praying and praying both for me and my husband along with the marriage and I take this as a sign that he is working on this. I will not let Satan discourage me any longer I will keep praying and leave it all at Gods feet. I have always been a very inpatient person and sometimes my actions cause more issues. So I will be still and let God do his work. Please keep praying for me and that my marriage will be restored and that the bond that he seems to have with another women will be broken.

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157. For further help and encouragement Savannah and all the other ladies and men posting, like you I too have experienced a broken marriage, like you I was desperate and could not believe I was going through. Please click on this link HopAtLast.com or google RMIEW to find Hope and Encouragement and may you find the answers you so desperately seek as I did.

     God Bless
     Sonet

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158. Reading this testimony gives me hope that one day, my husband through my prayers will be able to realized his love for me. The story is very similar to me., except that it took 5 years for my husband to leave me, saying that he’s not happy.. and denying that there is a 3rd party involve. Im lost and looking for answers,. I’m hurt that he left and how easy for him to just forget the dreams we have. I don’t know what he wants or what to do,. i love him so much. At some point I’m don’t know if I should let him go or fight for his love. I know I should fight, because just like Jesus, he never turn his back on those that doesn’t believe in him. Please help me pray, that my husband realized that he loves me and come back and restore our marriage.

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159. i am Jane from Canada, i married to my lovely husband will live happily for three good years. December 22th 2012 will went out for shopping after doing all will have to will came back home not know that a lady will met at the shopping place exchange contact with my husband,three days after she called my husband, after my husband receive her call he surd ling change his behavior the next morning he take some of his wears and package them on his luggage he told me that his traveling with his director i ask him when will you come back there was no good answer on him so i kept my mount short because i have never experiences such character on him he went out and take a taxi i was expecting him to come back home the next day not know that he went and stay with a lady that exchange contact with him at shopping place he was there

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160. I too found this website when my husband left me back in December of 2013. I got recommended to try the restore your marriage website by Erin Thiele. It is a great biblically based tool for marriage restoration. But I feel God revealed to me something during my struggle. I hope it will help some of you. It’s not a very popular subject and makes people uncomfortable because it can turn your world upside down especially when there’s children involved. I was my ex’s 3rd wife. I never really thought much to that because its everywhere around us. Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage. As I started growing in Christ I started to realize the husband I was fighting for was not my husband. I feel in God’s eyes the first marriage is the covenant marriage. Now this was hard for me to grasp because I have two children with this man. But with God’s grace I became strong and I decided I’d rather do what God intended for me to do, not what I want to do. I was not meant to be someone’s third wife. I don’t know what the future holds for me relationship wise but I’m not really worried about it. God has made me so content with just him and my children and I know he will guide me as long as I seek Him. I hope this helps some of you. If it is a covenant marriage you’re fighting for don’t give up. It’s God’s will to restore your marriage and bring back sevenfold what the enemy stole but first you must realize it’s spiritual warfare and without God it’s impossible.

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161. My Story Three years ago I married a man that I loved and wanted to share my life with didn’t know he would look at me difference and say the things to me that as a wife I never wanted to hear from my husband. He told me he cheated that he don’t love me the way I love him. Move on,never coming back, that hes trapped, hes miserable,he with me because he owes me that to be with me because I been there for him. I have tried number’s of time and prayed for God to take my life attempted suicide and God keep me. Sit here to today because of God mercy and grace. My faith wasn’t strong as it is today. I am a stronger woman today than I was when I first married my husband three years ago. I am praying that God touch my husband and changed hes life. I pray for him my marriage and myself that God heals us. I am a forgiving woman and I don’t hold grudges. I had to ask God to send Godly people in my life to help me through my pain and there been Ungodly people as well. If this help someone I am still going through it it hard I pray all day long for my husband my marriage and myself. Thanking God for keeping him our marriage and myself even were not living together still married helping me to pray for all above nothing that he is able.

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162. My wife of almost 30 years & 6 children has left & filed for divorce. We both are believers & I cannot give up on her or God. She harbors so many hard feelings toward me she says has over all the years of our marriage. There is no cheating, drinking, drugs the normal things people split over on either part. She says you are never home, you have abandoned me emotional. I have been the sole provider for our family all these years. I dearly love this woman with all my heart and have all these years. She lost her best friend to cancer last Nov. & has not been the same since. She now goes to there home 5 times a week & helps take care of his kids. She says there is no infidelity. She is telling me she is never coming back and that there has been to much water under the bridge between us and will not do any more on our marriage. Please pray for our marriage to be healed by & for God to get the glory.

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163. Its so encouraging to know about Crystal, how God helped to bring her husband back, restore all the happiness what the enemy has taken away from her.Its such a touching testimony shared which helped each n every broken heart not to give up but to rely upon our God who is so merciful and compassionate, who can never see us cry. Brothers & sisters my advice to all the broken hearts not to wander ur minds to find someone else but to cling on to Our mighty God to fight against the battles.
     God Bless each and every person who is involved in encouraging n sharing. Thankyou.

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164. God is Good all the time and all the time God is good I’m going true the same my husband did also gone same time Found a sms on his phone send from him to the lady when I approach him he also said what Christal husband told her and I did what christal did the very same and its now a month that things become different we start talking he come hear a lot now I am so inspired by this message today I believe an I receive in the mighty name of Jesus what he did for Christal he can do for me I claim everything back that was taken from me in Jesus power full name there is non like u lord the song that sing Restore my life again I’m really amaze with this testimony I also said when my married been resore I want give my testimony to the world out there I want to serve God like never before no more pain no, more tears, no more depression Jesus is the way Amen

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165. I am really moved by Crystal’s testimony. I too am going through a separation form my husband for five years now. I do know that it is spiritual warfare in my marriage and I have totally surrendered my marriage to The Almighty Father Creator of Heaven and Earth. He is in total control now. My husband is the only man that I have ever loved and love with all my heart. I know that God Almighty has a plan for me and my family and I feel a joy within my heart. I have asked HIM to do with me what thou will. In Jesus Name. AMEN

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166. it was nice to read that story, i myself am going through a bad time now,and hoping and praying with GODS help he can fix my marriage and help my wife no to give up on what we had, and our kids can and will have a mother and father together and the family,i do really miss them so much every day,and find it hard that every day my wife will find it hard to forgive me and will lose all interest and wont want me back,i so really want us to be a family and be more stronger and have GOD helping us in every day life.I HOPE AND PRAY AND BELIEVE IN GOD IS WORKING TO HELPING ME IN MY MARRIAGE. THANK YOU LORD GOD.

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167. Hello Crystal,
     At this exact moment I have so much pain, my wife left me for someone else but everyday I pray to God for the restoration of my marriage, I know bad things happened in our lives. I am now fully devoted to God through all this I became a born again christian. I have faith and believe that God to will restore my marriage I’m daily constantly praying for my wifes return. I now see that without God we are nothing, please keep me in your prayers with Gods help I will also oneday testify about His glory. Amen

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168. This is scary. My wife delivered the same news to me on almost the same date except in the year 2015. I have done a lot of what Crystal has done. I do not know any prayer warriors but I do enlist the prayer group from my church and have prayed day and night for her return. I too have promised God that if he restores then I want to use my marriage as an example to lead others. As of Christmas we have started slowly to talk and I pray to God to guide my conversation with her. Now we have a date to talk again in four days. I know God is moving on this matter, not necessarily on my time line, but toward positive results so far. I will continue to pray for my marriage as well as others. Thank you for sharing as I was feeling down today and came across this site in searching for more answers from Godly people.
     May God Bless
     Bryan

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     1. God can restore marriage, I can vouch for that. I did things that were wrong in my marriage, I will admit that. But my wife hit a “mid life” crisis and flew to Texas to see her x b/f from High School. She said a week with him in a hotel……
        The whole time she was gone I prayed, prayed w/o ceasing……God brought her to her knees, turned her around, stepped into OUR marriage and now we are STRONGER then ever. We attend church regularly and now that God is ruler of my home and my marriage we are unseparable.

        Hold your head up, pray w/o ceasing. If you need a prayer warrior PLEASE feel free to contact me

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        1. Hi Jim
           Thank you for your testimony, it is encouraging. I am from SA and have been standing since the beginning of this year, please keep me in your prayers, my husband is with someone now and has announced that they will be getting engaged this year, I am not sure what’s happening now. Please keep me in your prayers

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        2. Hello I wish that I could rejoice and I wish I could even say that I believe in who people say God is. My heart is broken and I feel that God has forsaken me. I wish sometimes that I would die because you see it was not so much my husband that broke my heart as much as God who did. His words are not alway true…he said seek and he shall find knock and the door will be open, he said all you have to do is have faith the size of a mustard seed…I have been praying for my husband for 16 years and the more I pray the worse he gets. Alcohol is now the love of his life. I prayed day night hourly, I called the prayer line sometimes continuously. I prayed and prayed and now I dont have the strength to pray anymore. Please some body help me. I have suffered the greatest broken heart …. i have been serving God for 37 years and now it seems like it is all just stories to give us hope.

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           1. I think it’s possible that the enemy has chosen you as a target because of your long service to God. Remember, alcoholism is a spirit of addiction. It’s not that your husband doesn’t want you. It’s that he is being taken hostage by the enemy. He is literally killing himself with an addiction and no addiction is logical.

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        3. Hi Jim. Please include my marriage in your prayer. I also need a prayer warrior like me. My husband left me 3 weeks ago and live with his mistress. But he keeps on coming back and visit her beloved daughter. It really breaks my heart everyday to see him crying and begging for me not to deprive him from his daughter. But all he wants was his daughter not me as his wife.

           Please include me in your prayers in your war room. I needed it badly because there are times Satan will defeat my faith. I became discouraged and hopeless. There are promise that God gave me about restorations. I just couldn’t help to be impatient.

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        4. Hi Jim,

           My name is Lyma and from Kenya. I need you to help me pray for my marriage that is on the rocks right now. I have been encouraged by your testimony. I broke up with my husband last year on the 19th of April and he chased me from our matrimonial home. It’s been one year and he has never talked to me not even sms or email but I still trust that God will restore my marriage. He remained with our three daughters and am not allowed to talk to them even on phone, he has only released them twice to come and see and this he only does when he feels like. My kids have been crying for me but the man’s heart is hardened and behaves like he feels nothing. Pray along with me and help me claim my marriage back in Jesus name. I believe that with God all things are possible, it doesn’t matter what people think or say. Our marriage is crowded with relatives and he seems to be paying much attention to them as he says his relatives do not want me back in his life. This has been my husband for 15 years and I don’t believe God planned for us to separate after 15 years of marriage.

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169. I am praying everyday 5 to 8 times a day for the Lord to restores my marriage with my husband, and nothing happened, it like God don’t want to answer my prayer, my husband is drifting away from me everyday and there is nothing I can do. I believe in the Lord and he is my all. but it seems as if he is not listening to me. I want me husband to come back home and love me the way he used 20 years ago. its like Satan is winning and I am losing. don’t know what to do. please lord save my marriage and lead my husband home to me and my children.
     I pray in Jesus Holy Name Amen

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     1. Hi Suzanne,

        Don’t worry . Have faith & pray. Nothing is impossible with God & you just need to trust it will be done for you.

        Remember Jesus never fails!!

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     2. Keep ur head up God still have it and his hands no matter how it my seem jus have faith nd believe nd God that it is already work out

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170. Crystal, thank you for this encouragement! praise God for your restoration!
     My husband left me last Sunday & I don’t know who he is with or where he is staying. I pray every day, I have talked to my pastor & have asked for prayer from a few prayer warriors. I will bookmark this site so that I can pray for your marriages like Bryan…you are seeing God work in Your marriage too & that is amazing!
     Satan was defeated and he cannot have our marriages, our husband’s, our wives or our children! God is working in our lives, we are covered by the blood of the Lamb & our spouse are too! Please send an update on your marriages and receive the daily blessings he sends us!

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171. Thank you for the miracle blessing story. I am also in a situation where my husband has decided to leave me but I believe and hope and trust in Him to see me through and it is my desire that my marriage be saved and restored. please I need prayers also. thank you…

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     1. My Husband walked out on my son and I when I was 8 months pregnant. I’ve been devastated ever since. The hardest thing I face is the reason why he did this. He blames me for him leaving and is now occasionally spending the night at his ex wife’s house saying he loved her and never loved me. I wonder if that’s true (which I know it’s not) then why did you even begin a relationship with me in the first place? I didn’t have to be dragged into this mess!
        This whole situation is very confusing. I need prayer for my husband to come home and for this other woman to leave my husband alone.
        She knows we just had a baby and yet tries to hurt our marriage. I hope you can see where my confusion is.

        Also FYI I prayed for every one who asked for prayer in this comment section. Just want y’all to know that.

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        1. God honors the covenant wife. That is the first wife your husband has married.

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172. This is similar to my situation. My husband had packed his stuff and moving it today. He claims he is battling demons and his career is more important then our marriage. I am standing for my marriage, it is hard especially when he says he wants a divorce and to go marry someone else. I don’t have any prayer warriors to pray with, he destroyed the relationships with my family. I don’t know what else to do anymore. Your testimony raised my spirits and gave me some hope. Thank you

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     1. Hi Shantelle,

        Cry out to God, stand on His promise that nothing shall come between the two of you! Begin thanking God for bringing your husband home! Begin blessing your husband with Yhe Word!

        Thanking Hod for your restored marriage! Hallelujah , Your soooo awesome Jesus! Thank You Father God and Holy Spirit!

        Begin singing and dancing to the Lord!

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173. My wife has had an affair with 2 different men. One while we are separated. I’m trying to put trust in god that he’ll restore my marriage but it’s been difficult. I have people praying for me and I pray constantly but the devil is busy. Even when she says mean and hurtful things I pray. God has moved on some things I’ve prayed for. Just waiting on him. It’s in his hands

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174. Hello, I am a believer-wife struggling with my 8 months marriage with unbeliever (but believes in Jesus too), 6 months pregnant. Over a frustration, anger, resentment, and a fight, my husband beaten me with belt, kicked me and stormed out of the house after damaging things around. I am staying with my parents. Things have not been same once I became pregnant (it was always his choice) and we started living in this new flat for 2 months. He is not showing any remorse though I miss him each day. My parents have told me to stay apart till death as he would create more trouble in days to come. I contacted God’s man told me that this marriage was not God’s will. Its my second marriage and this man knew my past but yet in love married me. I don’t believe God has not approved this marriage. I believe God will restore my marriage if its His Will else I don’t seek another divorce.

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175. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Crystal. It gives us hope to know that God really does care and will restore in His time. The things your husband said have been spoken by nearly every departing spouse. Satan dies the same evil over and over, but we somehow open the door for him. Please pray for my beloved husband to open his heart fully to the Lord, surrendering fully to Him. I took him for granted and he left after 40 years. I prayed for all who asked here for prayers.

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176. Thank you for this powerful testimony! I have been a terrible husband to my wife and a bad role model to our children. My wife and i are separated now. During this separation God has really been dealing with me. I have been dedicating my life to his word and prayer. I have faith that God will restore our marriage! God has a plan for us all. Plans to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us hope and a future. Glory be to God almighty!

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177. Hi Crystal, I am Crystal too. I am desperately looking for God’s help to bring back my husband to me. Surprisingly I was looking all over the internet for prayers to restore my marriage and I came across your testimony. As I was reading your story I felt that God helped in finding the answers in your story. My husband also left me on 29th of November 2015, and till now we are apart, and tomorrow 29th of May will be 7 years of our marriage. I love my husband alot and he also loves me, but satan is trying to keep him away from me. Please pray for me and my husband James so that we can once again live togather happily. And I will pray for you Sister and also for other.

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178. Please pray for my marriage it 40 days since my wife left the house along with our 1.8 years old son.I am married for 2.6 years after my marriage i quit the job to try my luck in the middle east because the salary was earning was very less and i never had a house of my own so i thought if i get a job in the gulf i can save and also have a house of my own i prayed to the Lord before i quit my job and my inner voice was telling its a good decision and i will prosper by Gods grace but nothing happened i was unable to get a job abroad ie in Gulf nor in my own country i feel like an illiterate having so much experience . so many people tried to fix me a job but nothing happened and even while i am typing i am jobless its been 21 months without a job.
     we were blessed with boy baby within a year of marriage. my wife is a nurse by profession and she quit her job because she was above to join a hospital in Gulf and that never turned up .My wife and her whole family started to think i am not willing to work and not trying for a job which was not true . she stopped having physical relationship with me since one and a half year and then stopped talking to me we were living like strangers and so many time i literally fell on her feet begging to talk to me but she never cared at all . Only joy what i had my son with whom i used to feel happy . I never forced my wife for physical relationship thinking it should happen in true love and i knew all this situation was due to unemployment . it was 24th June 2016 i had a couple of drinks in the night and i saw my wife praying i got angry and i asked you do not want to talk to me but you are praying to god and in anger i raised my hand on her. next day i reconciled with her we hugged we went to church we prayed she told she will go to her parents place and she went with our son . After 2 days she called and told my mom she is coming back to take her belongings from the house she came took her belongings and told never in her life she will return back . I was out of city doing some technical course . I went to her place and pleaded her to come back she told she will not divorce me but she will never return back .I asked her pardon she told i ruined her life that hurt me a lot because before marriage when we were in relation she had one more boyfriend and when i had caught it she told sorry and i had forgiven her and now she is saying i have ruined her life . and her brother threatened me that if i come to meet her then they will take legal action and her whole family supports her decision and she has told her friends that she will never return . she has blocked me from every means so that i cannot get in touch with her . I am in a helpless situation the pain i am going through since then is un explainable i cannot concentrate in my job hunt my health is effected with constant chest pains i am totally broken i want my wife and son back i also need a job and i also need your prayers

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179. Your testimony bring joy and hope to my heart. My wife has left our family (3 kids 4,6,10) I been praying to God and crying for his help, I ask him to please talk to me. Today has been a low spiritual day for me wife birthday and I can’t Hugh her or kiss her and wish her a happy birthday, my kids cry asking when is mom coming back and it breaks my heart.
     Please pray for my family kids, wife and me. I know God will restore our marriage in his perfect time, it’s just hard waiting.
     Thank you all for praying.

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180. this was a beautiful testimony. The issue I’ve been having is that no one wan’t to pray for my marriage with me. Everyone, especially other believers, keep telling me to give up and move on. My life is empty without my spouse. I love him and can’t imagine my whole life without him. I don’t want someone else. It’s been 3.5 years since he left for another person. We were together many years and I’m still standing and praying for our marriage while he is living with ow and acts as if I’m a stranger. I know the person he is now is only a shell of who my spouse use to be. I pray and war every day but I don’t see any movement from my spouse. He will not talk with me and I’ve not seen him since he left. I suspect the ow is not wanting him to because she knows how close we were. We are in divorce proceedings but it keeps getting postponed. It’s so discouraging to have all the strong believers I know constantly tell me to move on. I begin to doubt and feel ashamed at my insistence on fighting for a marriage no one believes in …maybe not even God? I keep asking the Lord to let me know what he wants from me and to give me a small sign of His will for me and my marriage. The argument most believers have is that God can do anything but that he can’t take away free will and my husband has free will. Should I give up? I can’t seem to stop praying but this has become too hard….

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181. Hi crystal it was great to read what god has done for you.it gives me so much hope that my marriage will be saved through prayer.my wife left me 2 years ago she said she loved me but was not in love with me.i wont go in to the whole story but we were so in love we dated for 10 years then got married we had our ups & downs like everyone.my wife was always bothered by her weigh so she wanted to walk so i walked everywhere & gave her all the help i could but it never bothered me as i saw her heart not her size.she then lost all her weight & started hill walking with a club but soon after that she changed.i no she met someone but i never said.anyway she left & blamed me for all.she is gone 2 years but up on to 3 month ago she kept coming back saying she wanted to try again but would stay a few weeks & was gone again.then i would hear that she was dating someone.she came back in june & i thought we were getting on well till i came home one evening to find her watching those filthy movies & when i ask her about it she up & left.i dont no what happened her as she was always a good person & we went to church every sunday i dont no her any more with all her lies i really dont no what happened my wife my my girl.i built my world around her & i cant get the words to describe my love for her.its 3 months since i saw her but she is dating someone & i seem to go around with a broken heart every day.the only peace i get is if i go to bed at night & sleep.i do cry alot but i also pray alot for i never would have got this far on my own without god.im glad i came across this site as it helps to no that god can do anything & that he is all power.i pray alot on my own as i dont have anyone to share my prayers with so maybe if u didnt mind you could say a prayer for me & my wife.godbless & thanks for making me stronger in faith.

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182. Hi. I had a similar situation happen to me. After 1 week of marriage my wife left me for another man. I was devastated. While this was going on i read the book, the love dare and i was seeking God more then ever. I remember crying my eyes out every time i lookied at our 1 year old daughter. I got plugged into a church and i prayed to God that if he helps me save my wife i would give him my life. Not long after that, my wife was going to church. She became part of the worship team and i am still in charge of the power point and opening and closing the church. That was 8 years ago. Now we’re facing another crisis. My wife has told me she doesn’t love me anymore. Im not affectionate, and unromantic, and don’t do date night. I realize that i don’t want to be that guy and that i am not perfect and she should be strong for the both of us when I’m weak, like i was strong for her when she was weak. This is so hard to go through this. i pray but i feel like God is not moving. I love God, and i am praying but its so hard to wait on him to work his miraculous powers in this storm.

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183. Hi Edgardo!

     It sounds like your wife is yearning to know and experience the love you have for her. She might not be as mature as you are in her faith and you will need to take the lead!

     I had a VERY difficult marriage with an unbeliever and the videos I heard on love and respect changed my paradigm. I encourage you to listen. Your wife would LOVE to know you are trying to meet her needs through research! James Dobson featured this author on the radio and he said it was the greatest response from a program that has ever been aired. It was especially loved by the men, because it was an excellent source explaining to women about how God created men! So there will be a benefit for you if your wife will listen. Don’t share with her about that morsel. You will be listening for learning about how to love your wife. He’s very funny and animated in his teachings. He’s so fun to listen to. He name is Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. The Book or Tapes are called Love and Respect. The Love She Most Desires and The Respect He Desperately Needs. You can find a You Tube Video to hear a segment or overview but I recommend you watch the videos together. Maybe have friends over too! Make it fun! It is entertaining and very helpful!

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184. Crystal, Robert and everyone else

     God has led me to this site for I am going through what everyone else is going through.

     My husband (of 30 Years) and I have separated. 2 years ago he was talking to another woman from work on the phone and through text. I mean 4 to 6 hours a day and I found the phone bill. He was very remorseful when I showed him the phone bill to the point he cried and told me he was sorry. I made it very hard on him for the next 2 years to the point that he wanted to separate and now he says he has entertained the thought of divorce. I do not want to lose him he is my best friend we always shared everything until things started going bad.

     3 weeks ago rededicated my life to the lord, and now everything is going crazy. Yesterday I told him that I will no longer be trying to get back with him that I gave it to God and he will be taking care of it. I told him not if we get back together but when we get back together that God can fix this and he told me God had a lot of work to do. I am surprised at how strong I was when I told him and all day today. But I really gave it to God.

     I am a control freak, I want to know when, how and why and I want it now so I am in territory that I have never been in before. I just read anything I can find, I read my bible, this blog and I have turned praise music on today why I work.

     I will be praying most of all these prays through out the day and night for quite sometime. I will be praying for all of you and I ask that you do the same for me.

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185. My husband and i have been separated for almost 2 months. He told me one day that he was not happy anymore and was leaving after a confrontation. He left to his mothers house. He is having a relation with another woman and now she lives with him. He does tell me he thinks of coming home everyday but feels nothing that went wrong will change. I am standing firm in my marriage and praying him home. We have three daughters who miss him so much and cry to him that they want him to come home. I pray the Lord opens his eyes and heart to the truth. I also have been searching and reading anything that is biblical to restoring Marriages. Pleas pray for my husband and I. Pray for me to have the strength not to give up and continue to fight this battle with Jesus by my side. I love my husband very much and just want him to come home and my marriage restored. thank you

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186. I thank God for using you Crystal, in the name of Jesus!!! this testimony was right on time for me! I am growing weary with the neglect and emotional abuse my husband is putting me through. We come from different cultural backgrounds as well as his family not approving of our marriage, the enemy is trying to destroy are marriage in many ways. My flesh and the enemy is telling me he want change let it go but the holy spirit is telling me keep faith and to hold on….

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187. I have not spoken to God in many years…my husband of six years left two weeks ago, Christmas Day to be exact. Our marriage has been a roller coaster. But, God brought us together when we first met…why would he take him away from me? Yes I admit, I wasn’t a good wife, I brought my past and childhood into the marriage, I verbally abused him and sometimes slapped him. But, I never meant to hurt him. I was calling for help and love. I have been a lost soul for many years. On the other side of things, He’s a very cold man, but he’s a good person. We both brought a lot of baggage into this marriage. To make story short, he left and told me we were done and he’s not coming back. He has been thru a broken home, a wedding and a funeral within the past two weeks. I know that is a lot to take on, and I wish I would have been there for him like a wife should be. But, he kept me out. However, I still love him and I want to restore my marriage. I have admitted I was wrong, I have apologized to him and his family. But, he has blocked me or changed his number, doesn’t reply to emails nor texts and I have no clue where he is. We are both military officers, so finding him and getting him to talk to me is not a problem. But, I don’t want to do that. I have faith that God will help him find his way back to my son and I and that we will be able to fix our marriage. I just need one more chance. Please pray for my marriage. This situation has really opened up my eyes and realize the God is the only solution.

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188. Hi
     I just wondered if there was an update on Robert’s situation? Crystal thank you so much for your testimony it has encouraged me. I was raised in the church and gave my life to the Lord at a young age. I prayed and prayed to get married and was married late on in my 40’s. My husband is the only man I have been with. I am so heartbroken, I came home in November and he had moved all his things. We had been having problems there was an ow involved. This is both of our first marriage and it has been hard we got pregnant then lost the babies, I lost my job and now this too all on 2016. I ask that you would pray for Luis that he has a radical encounter with the Lord and come back to our marriage. My hope and desire is to have a family before I’m too old and for my husband to really know God and not religion.

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189. God is so GREAT! Crystal your testimony is blessed! That a very strongly encouraged to whom who want to fight for our marriage and family. I am so encouraged too from your great testimony.

     I want to share my situation,I having the same storm now,or maybe is more worst than it.
     Me and my wife already married for about 3years,is still a very new married we had. We have a very adorable child that God gave it to us. She is 2yrs+ now. One thing we are believer of Christ. We didn’t really submit ourself to the Lord,we just do whatever we want without ask before the Lord. Ended up,my marriage has been destroy by the devil. The devil use many way to attack us,especially when we had arguement that time. I open up for the devil. I speak something hurt her with the word “divorce” to my wife. For more than 3 times I spoke it to her. And now my wife finally make up his decision to divorce with me. When the time she made this decision,I was gone crazy and don’t know what to do.. I was like I lost everything in my life.. she left me with my daughter together. I am so regretful and I just want to hold back this marriage and my family. But her heart was so harden. She can’t forgive me. I tried to repent before her and ask for forgiveness but still isn’t work. I am so lost.. and devil try attack my mind. I have a mind of suicide thought. That time I really want to give up my life what I did until I ruined my own marriage and my own family into disaster. There comes a very soft whispering on my ears side. “Don’t give up”. Suddenly I am awake! I believed that is a voice from God. First thing I do,I called my pastor to guide me for I am a very new Christian. I told everything to my pastor. And finally I know the truth and set me free after on that day onward.
     I repentance before the Lord for forgiveness. And God is a forgiveness God. He still with me all the time I am fighting back for my marriage and my family. I started to read the Word of God,and pray daily. Invite the Holy Spirit will guide me to reconciled back to my wife.
     With His Words and promises that I able to cling on and never give up. I praise be to God. All things I can do through Him who give me strength (Philippians 4:13)
     For I don’t know what the outcome is but I still trust the Lord until the end. Because Jesus Christ is the beginning and the end. He is the final say. Being confidence that he who began the good work in you,he will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus (Philippians 1:6)
     Even now I am still waiting for the Lord. I know all things is POSSIBLE for him. (Mark 10:27)
     Now my situation is still seems hopeless. My wife and daughter was left me about 7months,she already hired a lawyer and open file for divorce with me. And she was asking me to sign with her. I told her I still need this family and you. Let me to ignore you and I believe Jesus Christ will restore back our marriage. Is look strong when tell her this. But my heart was so afraid to losing her and don’t know how to endure it. She was so mad when I ignore her and she said very harsh message to me “you will lost your daughter and will never see her again” that moment my heart was like broken into pieces (can’t describe the feeling) I keep pray in tongue. And I don’t fight back as according to the Word of God,
     Do not resist an evil person.If anyone slaps you the right cheek,turn to them the other cheek also. (Matthew 5:39)
     I be patient and wait for God who acts in behalf for me. I will lost everything now just temporary. I know God know what I am being through now,when he tested me I will come forth as gold (Job 23:10)

     Today 1/3/2017 , I surrender it all to the Lord. For what I cannot change now,let go and let God who work for me. For now on I really need more help with Holy Spirit for not letting me give up on this difficult situation. I hope that my worst turn to good and share our Almight God glories. Amen.

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190. My husband of almost 16 years left me in December. We have 3 kids and he says he wants a divorce. I believe it is the devil working through a midlife crisis with my inlaws not helping the matter. My husband and his family all need Christ. Please help me pray that he will not be able to get a divorce from me and that somehow he can pass through this trial with out any more harm to himself or the children.

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191. to God be the glory , it is very strong testimony dear Crystal , i think you for that wonderful testimony and i think my God who make me to search Avery website for solution to restore my marriage we were happy, just but because of another women our family broke there is a lot to tell the world and am heartbreak now ,this testimony real inspired me . i was giving up, i left my two baby girls to my mom to take care of them and come to Asia just to forget and make my master degree now i do not know it was it was a mistake or not ,now i can not even able to study well ,i wish, i God will resort my church marriage against , i have great hope to our lord Jesus Christ ,since 2016 we are separate ,now am iger to hear from our lord so that one day i will testify like that , and was my promise to God , your prayer only to me ,

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192. This has been encouragement. I read her story everyday. My husband left 2 WEEKS ago and refused to talk to me. He has a new phone number and I have no contact with him. He has sent messages through his grandmother that it is , he is not coming back and wants a divorce. We both said harsh words to each other out of anger. I had to surrender my husband and my marriage to GOD. I am praying for God to soften my husband heart and to restore our marriage. I know his family is probably happy and encouraging him to divorce me…but I known GOD has a better and other plans. Continue to keep us in prayer as this is a difficult time right now. I claim my marriage in Jesus name.

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193. I just want to take this time to say thank you for sharing this beautiful testimony. I’ve been through this and was struggling and asking God even on tonight what he wanted me to do because my husband walked out November of 2015 and has not come back home he only stops by every so often any calls and texts at random times and I asked God what did he want me to do because I’m praying fast it trusted God of stood in the Gap and he’s still gone. And so tonight as I asked God that question he in return directed me to this website where I read Crystal’s testimony and her situation everything she said 95% of what she went through is exactly what I’m going through right now so I think you because it has encouraged me to stand and not throw in the towel and I’m not going to give up much much much love to everyone on here and they’re encouraging words be blessed

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194. Hi Crystal, thank you for the encouragement. My husband and I have been married for 18 years this year we have a daughter who is turning 16 and a son who is eight. I am Hindi speaking person married to a Tamil. We have always had problems in our marriage and things happened we sought spiritual help we were told that the problems stemmed as a result of what my husbands family were doing sometimes we believed and other times we did not. The temple eventually asked us to go to church for help. My husband assaulted me and left home taking my kids to live with his mom. With everything that was happening to me spiritually I thought I was loosing my mind. However I accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as my saviour much to the disgust of many of my family. They used witchcraft against me and my husband and children. My husband together with his mom tried to get me out of our house, cell my car that I purchased on his name, I lost my job and they had my children. I was begging for money to pay my expense as my husband left m with all the debt. On 4th August 2016 everything was revealed to me in a church full of people what my mother-in-law had done on my wedding day in the Hindu rituals that were performed she used witchcraft. This session was also videoed, a copy I have on DVD. Since I have given my life to Jesus and so have my children. The Lord deserves all the praise and glory because he has sent any army to support me, HIS army and the Lord has blessed me by giving me a job, my son and daughter have returned home, we are still in our home, I still have my car taking the kids to school and getting me to work, with the little I am earning I can pay my debt and provide a meal for the kids and I nothing lavish. By the grace of my God every time my husband has gotten a lawyer, the first did not take his case and the second when I saw her in court I put my Bible on the table and told her that she was the Devil Advocate and she was not going to destroy my life, today she is in hiding because she defrauded her client. My husband told me I used witchcraft and when I told my Pastor he just laughed. That is the power of the Lord Jesus Christ. My husband has since heard the audio of the session in church. Every time we make progress towards each other something negative happens. I still give God all the praise and exalt His Name because I believe and stand in faith on his Word that what he has put together nothing shall put asunder. I know that my husband, children and I have been proclaimed for His Kingdom and my children and I stand on His Word and promise for our lives.

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195. I am in the heat of my own struggles and marital strife. I am in the depressed and despondent stages of the aftermath of my husband telling me he has been cheating on me for five years. Although he states it’s over he has still said he wants to leave me and our 5 children. I am beyond reproach. I am praying with every fiber of my being to restore my marriage. I have put it in God’s hands and have complete faith that Jesus will heal and restore my marriage. I’m just very sad and scared and feel so alone right now. Thank you for your testimonial and hope that with God’s grace and healing hands my marriage will also be restored. In Jesus name. Amen.

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     1. Look at what your marriage to be, not what it currently is. Start with yourself and perhaps 1 or 2 close reliable God fearing believers in Christ Jesus a group to encourage others and pray against the schemes of the enemy he wants to destroy, steal and kill all marriages. Pray for these woman and men being used by the enemy and drawn away by their own evil desires and lust. God said you can make it! You win, satan asked permission to bring this to your door and God knows you can handle it No cross, no crown! turn this back to God and give Him Glory, satan doesn’t win, he’s not even in the fight. Picture a boxing match. God and Satan. Satan is in the ring jumping around shouting throwing his arms up ready for the fight… so he thinks. The lights go down God walks up and the entire room is lit and the crowd explodes with shouts of joy and praise and then someone yells hey satan is down the fight didn’t even get started. Actually it did, you see we see with our physical eyes and we should have been looking with our spiritual eyes. God already won, which means We already won. But were not God, we have to get into the ring and fight.. This sometimes looks like prayer, fasting, believing, trusting, declaring and proclaiming! Reminding ourselves who we are and whose we are! Professing loyalty and assurance/reliance on the one who never fails!!! Guess who walks away with the Belt???? You do, hey whats your title (your name) proclaim it

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196. Hi Crystal.

     May the lord bless you and your marriage. I am going through similar situation in my life right now. I am a christian but never read the scriptures or followed gods way and in the process allowed the devil to enter my family and marriage. The evil came in the form of my wife’s family member and her friend. They always acted good and i did not realize that they had already taken my wife away from me. My wife always acted as if she loved me and my daughter, until i caught her lying and came to know she was having affair. I have also felt attracted to other women but i would never have gone to the limit which would cost our marriage, it could be my inner conscience or the lord himself who stopped me. Since 6 years of our marriage, we always had issues, but deep inside, i loved her with all my heart. But i feel she has changed, her heart has become like stone, not able to forgive, love, repent. It is as if she had turned blind, she cannot realize the wrong she has done, as if she never felt it wrong.

     I realize my mistakes and the sins i committed and confessed my sins. i have turned to the lord, started reading the word of god. I realize the importance of word of god in our lives. It helps and guides us to stay away from the devil and also fills us with peace and love. I look to lord to protect my marriage, at times i feel down, i feel she will never change, the same echoed by my family members but i refuse to submit her to evil. I will fight for her through prayers. I forgive her for all the wrong she done and look forward to receive god’s will for me.

     Please remember me, my wife and our 4 year old daughter in your prayers. Amen.

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     1. the love conveyed in your statement you realized your mistake and sins you confessed and turned to the Lord. Believe that your wife also will come to realize her mistakes and sins will confess and turn to the Lord, He does not have respect of person. He shows no partiality. If and He did, do it for you He can do it for your wife. Faith moves mountain. Matthew 17:20- Tell that mountain to move

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197. My situation is a little different. We are not married but have been together for 3 1/2 years and engaged to be married. The last couple of weeks I could really feel the little changes in our relationship, which I completely understood, it has been a tough year for us. I was sentenced to some time in jail for a crime that was not mind. I had work release and saw my partner nearly everyday, but it still left him home alone in the evenings. We followed this routine for 8 months. Now he tells me he can’t get past the fact that I was not there. We started with nothing. we both came from broken marriages and literally has nothing when we started out. I helped him through a very difficult divorce, we have a beautiful place to live and we love each other’s children. On Saturday he told me he just doesn’t feel the same anymore, all he can remember is that I was gone for those 8 months. I have been a good partner, I love him like I have never loved anyone in my life. We are in our mid forites, I waited a long time for him. Yesterday I also discovered he has been texting another person, he said he met her in the park and not they text all the time. So of course yesterday was not a good day for me and texted him and her and so on. He and I did talk for about 2 hours last night. He told me he just didn’t know if he could try. I begged for one more chance. He said he would not leave our home at this time. I love this man so much. God brought him to my life when I needed him the most, I don’t want to lose him. Today I have been calm, cool and collective, just asking him to accept the love I am going to be showing him over the next few weeks/months. I need to make him proud of me again. Please pray for me and Andy.

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198. This testimony brought tears to my eyes..am also undergoing the same predicament,maybe much worst because my husband is having an affair with his first cousin. I just discovered about it last Dec 2016 but it seems they started it last 2013. I asked for prayers from our pastor and his wife, they advised me that I should stay and pray for my husband. They made me see the movie War Room and a friend also recommended Fireproof. There are days when I feel so down and defeated but there are days that I feel I can fight the demons inside.

     I want to let go and let God made the impossible in our life. I want him to forgive me and my husband . I want him to see that God loves him so much and He is a loving faithful and wonderful God who sees our heart.

     Pray also for the other woman that she sees the need to repent and turn her back on the wicked way and that she may repent also and mend her ways.

     I also promised that I’m going to give a testimony when God restores my marriage for I know many will find solace and inspiration when they hear my story. Wanting also to establish a women’s group that will pray for one another.

     God is the God of restoration and He is also the great Healer i know he will restore our marriage in HIS time.

     God bless

     May

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     1. Hi May..

        Sad to hear your story as it exactly same as mine.. i just discovered my hubby infidelity 1 month ago.. he has been forced to break up with her but he keep told me has no feeling towards me, he no longer love me and cant stay with me.. he’s asking for divorce, while i still insist for marriage restoration and all my surroudinh has been advise me to left him after all hurt and pain. I’ve been strugling everyday.. mentally and physically, as he always come home late and keep updating his instagram that he still love the new girl.. my heart is torn and in pain

        I’ve been surrender my hubby and my marriage.. and met marriage counsellor by myself as he dont want cooperate..his sister also support his decision to divorce which it also break my heart..

        God did it with love and will fight the battle for me..
        I keep pray that God will open up his heart and restore our marriage and let us to be compatible again.. He will do the supernatural way to save our marriage, in Jesus Name i pray.

        Now i still waiting patiently, and will share my testimony once he’s back to me.

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199. Let us all pray for the restoration of each other’s marriage. Just like you, my marriage is also torn apart.

     My husband and I have been together for almost 7 yrs (been a couple for 5 and more than a year married). He left 3 months ago saying that he is battling depression and my family and I are causing it.

     The first week, he suddenly told me he doesn’t love me anymore and I found out that he is having an affair with his employee a week after. He ended it, but still refused to come home.

     He promised to work on himself and then work on us but he keeps changing his mind. Last April, he said that he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore , or any hope for our marriage. A week after that, people have seen him with the same woman. It’s been almost a month of no communication.

     There had been an anonymous complaint in the office about their affair and their jobs are at risk. I just found that his family and relatives has blocked me off. I suspect that they are thinking that it was me who filed the complaint. It feels so unfair because I had kept my silence amidst all the pain they’ve cause and still blames me.

     My heart is continuously torn. However, everytime I am almost giving up, God gives me subtle hints not to.

     I am in this Journey with God. Although things may seem to have been getting worse, I remind myself that God loves me so much and will make all things right at the end. I just need to put my faith and trust in Him.

     I will pray for all of you and hope you do the same for me and my marriage. God bless!

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200. My husband and I started our rocky. We have had a very rocky road. We are both incredibly young. I’m 18 and he is 20. He is pretty set on a divorce. My heart aches but I felt as if God has told me that he’ll bring him back to me. Not too long ago my husband and I got married. We haven’t even been married but seven months! We have a beautiful baby girl and one on way. He lives over a thousand miles away with his family! I have always been a believer in God, but I was definitely not faithful to Him. And I feel that is why God brought us apart for this amount of time. I needed time to grow with God. Our marriage was pretty bad. I do believe God spoke to me, but my parents say that I may just be putting too much hope into my marriage. They are also believers as well, so I feel a bit discouraged… that maybe it is me giving myself false hope? But I pray for protection and guidance over my husband daily. Every time we email, he is always so spiteful… I often wonder if his heart will ever change. But I do believe God will do things if I just pray and believe that He will do it. My God is a powerful God ! I believe he has big plans for me and my family! I believe God spoke to me saying that I will be able to share my story with other young couple and tell them that there is always hope through God. People say “God doesn’t force anyone to do anything- we have free will,” and “You can’t force someone to love you.” And they are absolutely correct! However, God changes hearts… and that is maricalous! It is my job to give it to God and pray for my husband. It is my job to be the stronger one right now. It is my job to pray for protection over my spouse. He lives with his sister who does witchery… and that is scary stuff! Meaning if he is already weak-willed, that the presence of a dark spirit will cause him to fall deeper into sin. I pray to God that He will protect my husband from all harm that could possibly be done, to our marriage, during this rough time. I even went to the court house to file foe divorce…I had to find a way out. I didn’t wanna burden my husband any longer… but God said no. I went there and they said “Well, honey, since you’re pregnant you can’t get a divorce.” I thought immediately that this had to be a sign from God. Aand since he has not lived where he does from more than three months he also cannot file. My husband is in a faze where he is blaming me for a lot of things he has done wrong during our marriage. By saying this, I do not mean I have never done wrong to my husband… because I absolutely have. However, that’s the exact problem here… I realize my wrongs and I am willing to accept what I have done wrong. He is not. Not yet anyway. I still pray for him. Someone told me thatit may actuallyseem like it will get worse before it gets better. And I do believe that is what’s happening at this particular moment in time. God provides me peace every day to remember that He will never leave me nor forsake me. Our God is a faithful God. My husband has to realize that this isn’t about us anymore. It’s about our God and children. We have to seek God and believe that He will change the person’s heart and believe me when I say that I definitely have my days where I feels like giving up… but then I remembere that God never gave up on me. And I refuse to give up on my husband in his time of need. God calls me to be humble and meak and to seek out prayer in my times of need. And since I made an oath before God, this means my husbands needs are also mine. I have to be selfless and pray for him even when I feel he’s done wrong to me.

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201. I am truly encouraged by the testimonies. Can I ask you to pray for my marriage. Things were so bad in my marriage for many years that I eventually had to divorce him. But I love him and want him back. But I want him back under different conditions. I want my husband to first repent and receive the Lord Jesus as his Saviour. I am trusting God that this will happen now as I pray and that he will come back to me in Jesus Name

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202. This is so encouraging. I am in a similar situation, only my husband divorced me and then came back and now we are in counseling and he just said he doesn’t want to do this anymore. I am a Seer/Prophet so I have visions and when they are for myself I have to get them interpreted by a person who can interpret visions. God told me that when he came back i would not have to revisit this situation again, but it is happening right now, and i am devastated. I believe my visions – they come to pass for everyone else that i have them for – i just am so broken from the back and forth of his unstable ways. Our family is on the line and he is the missing link. I am a Intercessor and i pray all the time. I am the priest in my home warring and fighting but I can’t continue to keep fighting, so i gave it to God and said to have his way, i can’t do this any longer.
     I know God is working on my behalf and I have the faith to believe in him to do exceedingly above all i can think or imagine. I am just exhausted when it comes to me fighting for my family. I want to testify and help other marriages and broken blended families but, my mate is lost. He is Saul kicking against the pricks and he just won’t surrender and let God have his way. He goes back and forth with his faith.
     Your story just gave me extra strength, even though i am still hesitant, I have a Prophet, my Apostle and my First Lady praying for me. I am going to trust that their prayers and mine will combat the enemies plan to restore my marriage.

     I thank you so much for your testimony it has helped so much you just don’t know. TO God be the Glory!

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203. Thanks to all persons who shared there brokenness and especially relying on God to restore their marriage. My husband walk away from my marriage of 21 year approximately a year and half ago. He kept denying the affair until he was caught with the woman. she then made her self known by sending me a letter. she said, she will never let go and to stop holding on upon someone who want to move on and somethings is not meant to stay together. We did not have a fight or anything like that he just got up and moved in our basement apartment, stating he need space. we both attended church, active member of the congregation. i never saw this coming. We never discuss separation, divorce nothing, he still pay bills, groceries and sometimes cook and send upstairs. although he sleep with this woman and comes home every morning. He still to a church He left a little money on the joint account. Your pray has help me know how to fight for my marriage. God has the final say. But i still has a long way to go. still hurting, but praising God through the pains.

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     1. Arlene our story are very similar! It’s been four years since my husband walk away.I was blindsided, didn’t see it coming! We had a great marriage I thought and so did everyone that knew us.
        We did everything together, went to bed laughing and joking. Woke up the sane way. Everyone admired our relationship and came to us for advice.
        We been divorce for two years now and it’s still hurts. I pray every day for God to lead and guide me in everything I do. I have no prayer warriors praying with me, I just pray for God’s help and strength! He did me so bad no one wants us together.
        I’ve been in a spiritual war just God and myself! Just so you I still love my former husband, I pray for him everyday for him to confess and repent to God, that God save his soul! God has bless me to not be bitter, have hate, resentful, angry or mad at him! I was only confuse, miserable, hurt and still hurt! God has been good to me in my struggles!!!
        My former husband is a preacher, the pastor said he didn’t committ adulty, change God word to benefit them and turn a blind eye on the situation. A lot of members has left! Had a membership of about 300 members, now it’s maybe 20 to 40 at times. Only one other church still associate with the them now out of 7 that use to. The church is torn apart!!!
        I pray everyday for people around the world praying for lost souls, confession and repentance !!! We have to continue to trust God, read God word and keep the faith!
        May God Bless you all!

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     2. I have been going through same thing. He lives in my basement. I know he had someone else. We have not been intimate for 8 years now. he comes and goes, like a single man. I’ve been waiting for God to do a miracle, this is very painful but deep inside i dont want to give up.

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     3. You’re on the right path. Your footsteps are ordered by the Lord. Get Godly counsel and information i.e., the word of God, books, magazine, devotional etc… that will help you along this journey. Isn’t it sad the way the world tries to make wrong seem right and make right what’s wrong. The other woman that’s clearly in the wrong and accepting less that what God has even for her belittle herself and allow man to cheapen her but guess what he couldn’t if she didn’t already think cheaply of herself. All lies of the enemy. You see God has tasks for each of us and the enemy also has tasks for those willing to accept them. Zechariah 5:5-11 the main thing I want you to know about this scripture is the woman representing wickedness is taken away/removed. God will use evil to get His purpose fulfilled but evil cannot use God. Trust Gods plans and speak LIFE. Ask God to show your husband himself through the eyes of God and then allow God to let him see the contrast of what he is intended to be and what he is currently walking in.

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204. Hi Crystal

     Thanks for your Testimony, You words describe what i’m going thought right now.
     My Wife hast turn in part away from Faith to the World, she said she doesn’t love me, she doesn’t feel attracted to me anymore, She lost faith God can Change that. I feel the pain you said.

     But i’m Believing there is nothing impossible for God.
     Thanks for Sharing, it is so refreshing for me to read it.
     and also Thanks for prays

     Blessings

     John

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     1. She hasn’t lost faith that God can change, shes following after her own desires. You Know that God can change all things, so seek God and ask Him to reveal to you things you would never know on your own Jeremiah 3:33 and start/continue praying. The enemy wants you blinded to the truth so that way you won’t know how to pray. God wants you not to be ignorant. Ask and he will instruct you in all matters. God has plans ask him how you can assist in His plans, the devil has schemes and God wants you to want him to destroy them.

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205. My wife of 20 years left me 7 weeks ago in June of 2017 and said she was not coming back. The pain was excruciating, I cried like never before. She moved to her Mother’s in VA we live in FL. She left and would not talk to me or return a text message for 7 weeks but I kept praying that God would soften her heart just enough to allow us to at least talk. I was a mess and could barely run my business. After falling to my knees on many occasions praying to God to bring her home or at least have her contact me contact me. She finally did text me and from there we have been discussing getting back together. None of this would be possible without God. All the glory goes Jesus Christ my lord and savior.

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     1. Praise God!! Hallelujah I am so blessed by this. Keep trusting and continue to seek God daily. Love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it! We are the body the church and Christ won’t live without it. Have this attitude when it comes to your wife. You are her covering. Pray for her always, seek God concerning ALL matters concerning marriage, her soul, her faith in God and importantly LEAD by example. You have the best teacher…Christ

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206. My partner for almost 3 years left us with my daughter and she’s living-in with his work-mate. It’s been six months since we ended and today I learned that the girl is pregnant and they are about to get married. I want the father of my daughter back, I love him and I wanted to give my daughter a whole family. Father God, Jesus, Holy Spirit please help me. Amen.

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207. I want to thank all of you for sharing your stories of faith! My husband of 8 years left this week and until I read Crystals story I was looking for ways to be one step ahead of him so I could support our girls financially. Not remembering through the pain who the true healer is! Thank y’all so much for putting me on the right track with God our Father!! Please help pray for my husband and protect him from evil and to please forgive me for all of my sins! Amen!!

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208. I want to thank all of you for sharing your stories of faith! My husband of 8 years left this week and until I read Crystals story I was looking for ways to be one step ahead of him so I could support our girls financially. Not remembering through the pain who the true healer is! Thank y’all so much for putting me on the right track with God our Father!! Please help pray for my husband and protect him from evil and to please forgive me for all of my sins! Amen!!

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     1. My husband and I’ve been married for 15 years. We have 2 boys, an 8 years old and 4 months old. My husband has an affair with this woman over the internet that she lives in Laos. He fall head over heels for her like over night. Even got his passport too. This all happened after I had my newborn on July 27th, 2017. I found out about his affair on September 15, 2017. That’s when he admitted he doesn’t want anything to do with me or the kids. He moved out and got his own place. He changed his phone number and stop coming to see me and my babies. I’ve been standing for my marriage and pray so hard about my situation. Honestly, there’s time when I got scared and weary about the situation and asked God… why is this happening to me… feels like all hopes are lost. However, I come to a point in my life where I am fully surrender my husband and my marriage over to God. I lay my husband at the foot of the cross and walk away from it. I know He will restore, rebuild, and fix what’s broken.

        After reading Crystal’s testimony… I know I will receive the same glory gift as well. Just have to wait on God’s time and if He can bring back Crystal husband… He can do the same for me and whoever are in the same situation.

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        1. Pk Pink,

           I pray that Gods heal and restores you marriage. Crystal, thank you for your story. I too am going through martial issues and my marriage of 10 years is on the line. My I cried, gone through the aspect of regret as I gave my husband and ultimatum for us to seek counseling or leave as separation would occur if he didn’t. To my surprise he chose to leave as he stated that he was not happy. He committee adultery and it was heart breaking and over the years I could not let it go especially how it all transpired. Instead to starving my insecurities he fed them and the lack of trust changed me and my attitude became reactive. We are not separated for six months yet and now he is flaunting his new relationship all over and we live in a small state. He was not romantic to me and now all romantic now. He has asked me to stay out of his life and not contact me and that he will be filing for divorce. However, I have faith that God plan to hinder and stop divorce in favour of divine restoration and reconciliation will be done in Jesus name. My husband is a baptized Christian but has back slide and wants to drink, party and have a good time.

           Like Crystal story he has said that he doesn’t love me, need me anymore and a lot more hurtful things. Now he doesn’t communicate with me at all and just has harden his heart towards me showing resentment. I have repented to God the part I play in the marriage separation and has apologized. Now I plead the blood of Jesus against his adulterer and stand in faith that God will drive her away. I pray that his stop committing adultery and rededicate his life to Christ. I pray hedges of thorn bushes around him that all lovers and other women will loose interest in him and he will return to his wife and realize that life is better and more rewarding with me.

           On this forum I want to again say Lord Jesus, I surrender my husband, my marriage and my heart to God my father. Your will be done as I stand on your word that you rejoice at reconciliation.

           My story is a pretty long one but I have given a quick summary. In Jesus name I pray that the silence between my husband broken and he starts to contact and communicate with me as soon as possible aligned with God timing.

           I believe that we all can bind and pray for each other and I have faith and trust that all our marriages will be restored in the name of Jesus.

           I stand in the gap for my marriage and God divine will be done.

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     2. I stand with you, the enemy is out to kill and destroy marriages. The marriage is a representation of Christ love for the church and God never walked out and so plead the blood of Jesus over your marriage and over your the soul of your husband. Hell is not meant for man so pray for his eyes to be open to the schemes of the enemy. God will destroy anything or anyone who destroys the Temple of God and that’s us! Don’t ever give up! Hope sometimes hurts but it is rewarding! Build yourself up in your most Holy Faith Jude 1:20

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209. Hi everyone,

     I’m in a bad situation. My husband of 16months packed up on our marriage almost 6months ago.

     Discovered his many lies and cheating on me, but his heart so hardened and he won’t even admit he was wrong. We fought a lot and argued over the phone because we don’t I’ve in the same city.

     I know that the physical distance in our relationship also contributed immensely to our constant fights and eventual separation now.

     But he’s now telling me his mind is made up about our end and that it’s never gonna change or him get back together and have us rebuild our marriage.

     He was once married, yet won’t learn from his mistakes.

     I’m so broken. He’s the one who was majorly wrong – despite that I have my own mistakes, thus contributed to our problems as well. But he won’t even admit he was wrong or own up to that responsibility of being sorry or apologising to me.

     It’s so painful. Much more when I’m now already broken and have started pushing for our reconciliation despite all he hurt me. But he’s still too proud and stubborn, and won’t even listen to reason.

     Sometimes I wonder if he’s OK and not under strong spell or witchcraft attack (given his VERY VERY STIFF AND HARD HEART and EXTREME SELFISHNESS).

     But I love him and don’t want our marriage to end, hence I’m now the one standing in the gap for us through prayers; and I mean fasting and warfare prayers and also involving some men of God I know.

     Some days I feel so tired, exhausted and it’s soooo frustrating.

     Please, join me in prayers for God to restore my marriage and transform my husband and I.

     And if you have some advice and words of encouragement for me, please give me. I really need all support I can get.

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     1. I hear in your broken heart and my words of encouragement is to, as hard as it may be, surrender your husband and your marriage, and your heart to God. Do not allow a root of bitterness grow in you. that’s what the enemy would want.
        Trust God and seek him because he does all things right
        Your faith is in God and not in your husband and not in yourself.
        Stop trying to figure it out God has already worked it out! and every single time you feel yourself being pulled… Pray fervently and earnestly.
        God wants, I mean really wants to help you. He cares for you.
        Wisdom is my sister nd understanding is my nearest kin Proverbs 7:4 seek His face. You are a stander and so am I

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210. I found out Feb 17,2016 that my husband was having an affair with a woman at work. While it was his first physical affair he’s had it was the third time he’s been intimate with another woman during our 8 year marriage. But I didn’t see it coming. He was the security leader at our church and in December he was offered a pastoral position while he was in the affair. Immediately upon him telling me about the affair I heard God whisper to fight for my marriage. My husband was so caught off guard that I wanted to work through it that he ran from both me and God. 7 days later he decided he wanted to “stay” in our marriage but didn’t want anything to do with the church. 7 days after that I found out he was still talking to the other woman. 7 days after that he told me he has broken it off with her.

     Throughout this time God helped me realize my portion in all of this. While I will never say any of this was my fault, as a person, I had become bitter and angry. We just had “stuff” happen in our marriage that had created issues.

     Before Christmas that year we had our biggest fight and my husband told me we were going to counseling or he was leaving. He admits now counseling was a ploy to try to convince me we had tried everything and our marriage was failing just so he wouldn’t have to tell me about the affair when he left me.

     Two months after he decided to stay we had started to get into an unhealthy rhythm of ignoring what had happened. We didn’t talk about it. He didn’t want to go to church still and counseling was out of the question. And I knew in my heart things weren’t getting better. We ended up talking one night and he told me, again, that he wanted to leave but he was afraid to leave our girls. He didn’t love me and didn’t want to be married. He said he knew he had never fully surrendered to God and that he wasn’t ready to now either. But yet I heard God to tell me to keep fighting. The next morning he told me he was sorry and that I deserved better. He knows what he’s doing is wrong but he doesn’t want “preached” at.

     Almost a year has come and I’m still waiting. We moved to a new state. My husband is home, wearing his ring, telling me he loves me but he is still running from the Lord. True restoration hasn’t happened because he hasn’t fully surrendered. There hasn’t been true repentance and no signs of true remorse.

     Right now it’s like I’m living in a fog of clarity. I know who I am in Christ. I know what I’m fighting for and who I’m fighting against. So for the last 11 months I’ve given my husband space but I’ve been fighting for him through prayer and I’ve been serving him through life. I’m drawing near to my father who, in my struggles with doubt and fear, minute-by-minute reminds me he’s fighting for my husband for both of us.

     I recently had a vision where I saw my husband on a stage sharing his testimony. I saw my three beautiful daughters on a stage singing praise and worship. I have a hope for my future and I believe the God of my future is speaking back to me telling me to keep fighting and to be patient. Which is so hard. I’ve never been more broken. And waiting is almost unbearable.

     I look forward to the day when God restores, redeems and reveals. To Him be the glory.

     Please keep us in your prayers and I look forward to the day I can send another message praising God for a miracle.

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211. Hello everyone,

     I first came across this site in July 2017 after my husband left our two young sons and me for a woman that he had been seeing. This is the third time that he has left our family for her. Apparently he, his mother and the woman planned for him to leave our family and go live with this other woman. He gave me cues that things were great in our relationship but in fact, he had quit his job, changed his address, set up bank accounts, rented a storage unit for some of his things that he told me he sold, and rented an apartment out of state with the woman. I was devastated again, and our children changed as most of you may imagine. His lies and deceitful behavior toward me and our children were unimaginable. I could not imaging how someone could be so heartless and devious. I was hurt for sometime and I had a lot of negative feelings toward him, but I knew that in order for me to move on then I had to forgive him.

     I also thought about what would be best for our children, and perhaps their father was that person. Then I came across this site, I read the comments and prayed for guidance, healing and peace. Then I decided that this situation was not right for my children or me. I came across the hedge of thorns prayer. I used the prayer earnestly and he returned to our family about one month later. This prayer works! Please have faith and believe in all good things.

     Now, she is back. She has been contacting him and he has responded to her, according to what he has said to me. I imagine that he is being dishonest again but I am not sure. I am tired of the back and forth. I want peace and happiness in our family and in our relationship once and for all.

     I am asking for your prayers and advice on what prayers I can use to finally put an end to this situation.

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     1. This is an update. As of three weeks ago, about 7 months after returning to our family, he has left again. This time he left us a note and has gone back to the other woman. He has had no contact with me or his children. He does not provide any support for the needs of his children. Perhaps God is sending me a message? Perhaps I did not pray hard enough? Did we do something to deserve this? Again, I feel lost and so alone. I don’t know what we did to deserve what he did and is doing to us. I don’t have anymore to give. I don’t know what prayers to say. I just cry.

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        1. Dear Sally, I have been through an adultereous relationship. Your spouse is also facing a battle spiritually keeping him confused.
           2Cor 4:4
           The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. You have to keep fighting and standing for your marriage and forgive your spouse. Keep pleading the blood of Jesu over your marriage and draw strength from God. Marriage Restoration and surrender is worth it in the end. Do not give up dear sister!!! You can do all things through Christ. Cry to God and He will answer you.
           James 1:2-4 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces [a]patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be [b]perfect and complete, lacking nothing.
           You can message me if you need to agree with you in prayer

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        2. This is a year later, but wherever you are in your life know that you did not deserve what he did to you. None of us deserve what these adulterous and sinful men do to us. Pray for your restoration and healing. I hope you are in a better place my sister.

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212. I want You all to capture and look up the “hedge of thrones prayer” this prayer is so powerful. It’s the ultimate prayer to bring back your spouse or even child from the enemy. I have Seen MANY testimonies about this prayer. Pray it day and night, as many times as you can. But first make sure you repent and bring our lord and savior back into your life!! And I mean really back in your life. Yearn for God, like your yearning for you spouse!! 2 days after consistly said This prayer my husband came to me and said how much he loves me and misses me. But he wants us to take things slow but get back to where we was. I stepped Out in him so it made him very angry. So at the very least i will Accept taking things slow. Because i know god is working it out! God is soo good. And just as Crystal i too intend on using my situation as a testimony!!!!! God is good. Stay in prayer , And as i said Yearn for God as much and you are yearning for your spouse. Stay in your word, read the Bible, connect with people who can agree with you, stay in worship. And most of all stay AWAY from naysayers and doubters!!!!! Because they will discourage you… believe in Gods word!!!!! Trust in him, have faith and be patient !!!

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213. I am speechless and crying over this letter. I am going through a rough marriage right now, been separated for over a year and a half. He had moved in with another woman but when I found out and confronted him he moved back to his parents. That hasn’t kept him from seeing her still. I have forgave every time he’s asked for forgiveness. This past December we were trying to work out in our marriage. He hasn’t had a job in over a year and I had no one to watch our daughter one day. Well I just found out a few days ago that the only day my husband had our daughter all to himself while I worked, he took our daughter to the other woman for her to meet. This got me extremely upset because once again he betrayed my trust and disrespected both my daughter and I. The other woman has no shame in posting pictures of them together and letting social media they’re in a relationship. It hurts me to see all this.

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214. This article has given me encouragement. I struggle because I left my husband and now it’s been 6 months and I want him back and he says baby steps. The long story, I was unfaithful and I hurt him but I stayed and we tried to work it out but there was constant fighting and yelling with our children around and so I left. I packed up the kids, dogs, and left while he was at work. I killed his spirit. Now as the divorce nears and we haven’t talked at all in 6 months I hesitate because I feel as though there is a piece missing and it has been since he left.

     I have been praying and seeking God’s advice while searching for ways to open his heart to me through God. I am scared that now that he has talked to me I have scared him away with how much I love him and miss him. how do I proceed when he won’t answer my texts or phone? Please pray for us. I know God can work miracles and open his heart.

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215. This testimony gave me encouragement.. I’ve been married since July of 2014. My husband and I were inseparable. I have 3 children and I’m not able to give him any natural children. He always said that doesn’t bother him because of the relationship he’s grown with my children. He claims them as his own. Well about 8 months ago I noticed we started to argue more than we ever did before. We were having trouble getting along as well but we were still very much in love with each other. Well so I thought… In November we got into an argument which was really a misunderstanding and he came home from work and told me he was leaving me. He came home that night but went out with his mother and purchased a car which added another car note that we couldn’t afford. I had been trying my hardest to let it go. I wasn’t working anyway so he told he it’s always been his responsibility to worry about the bills so he would take care of it. Then we got into another argument in February.. he left again.. came back home after 3 days then in We got into an argument and I told him to leave. I was so afraid of being abandoned that I couldn’t trust that he really even wanted to be there. Well since then he told me he’s never coming back. We live in Georgia and a week after he left the house he told me he was gonna go visit his brother in Kansas for a while… come to find out he got a job out there.. I ask him what he’s doing and he says he doesn’t know. He just knows he doesn’t want to be at the house. And he’s not sure if and when he’s coming back. He calls me everyday and even gets angry when I don’t answer. However if I call him he barely answers or makes me feel like I’m bothering him. This has me so confused and emotionally drained because I’m fighting for my marriage but he won’t even entertain a conversation about coming home. My children are heartbroken.

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216. Hi everyone, i hope in this situation we are all facing we can find some light. I too, experienced the same things and is still going through it at this very moment. I had been with my husband for almost a decade but we only got married recently and i thought everything was perfect when God has called my attention and decided to test my faith and obedience in him. My husband and i are currently separated (almost 2 months now) and am currently pregnant with our first child. Ive resorted to almost everything and after reading so many articles about marriage restoration, going to different counselors, heeding the advice of older married couples around us, it only made matters much worse.

     Just recently, i came across Erin Thiele’s book called “How God Can and Will Restore your Marriage” through browsing the comments section here and i thought i should give it a try.
     After reading the material, i reread it over and over again until i came to accept the fact that what happened in my marriage was basically because of my disobedience to the Word of God. For the ladies and wives out there like me, i truly suggest you get ahold of this book because it can change your perception in ways unimaginable, ways that will not be suitable to your preference, ways that are out of your comfort zone, but if you truly want to restore your marriage and truly believe it is God’s will for you to save it, you can start from here. I also believe they have a separate book for men. Together, we can all start anew and build a stronger foundation for our homes and family in accordance to God’s will through his words. He will speak to you directly.

     I believe God has his perfect timing for everything, even when we don’t see God’s actions in the flesh, we can rest safely knowing that he is fighting the spiritual battle for us when we had laid all our worries and fears on him.

     Let me share with you some of the passages i had also acquired from Erin Thiele’s A Wise Woman Book.

     Your battle will be won or lost in your mind. “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, and we are ready to punish all disobedience, whenever your obedience is complete.” 2Cor. 10:5-6. Don’t play into the enemy’s hands. Don’t entertain evil thoughts; take your thoughts captive!

     No matter how bad things seem, God is in control.
     Our comfort is knowing that God is in control, not us and certainly not Satan. “Simon, Simon, behold, Satan has demanded permission to sift you like wheat; but I have prayed for you, that your faith may not fail; and you, when once you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.” Luke 22:31-32.

     It may take some time to see the changes in our spouses lives or victory manifested in the flesh, but we must continue to hope and pray for the things that are not seen. Have faith in the Lord no matter how rough the situation may seem. Only God has the power to change things.

     Rejoice for the Lord is working through all of our problems right now. I will continue to pray for everyone in here. May Godbless us all and i look forward to reading your restored marriage testimonies like Crystal here soon.

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217. I am in tears reading this testimony. I am going through a very rough time with my husband who does not want to save my marriage. Unfortunately I was unfaithful at different stages of our relationship and I cannot tell you how much I hate myself for hurting him. I want to save my marriage so badly but he says he cannot forgive or does not even want to forgive me for what I have done. He is very adamant about leaving me, and I just dont know what to do. We have been together for 10 years…married for 5. I know I only want him 🙁 I dont know what to do, or what God is telling me to do. We still live together but he is actively looking for apartments to live elsewhere. I am so afraid, confused, and scared. I really have no idea what to do. He says he loves me, but cannot see a future with someone who did this.

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     1. Anna Maria, I’m praying for you. I know exactly how you feel. I m in the same situation. I get confused if I should keep fighting for my marriage or just give up and take it as a consequence of my sin. But I keep praying to God because he’s a God of miracles.

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218. My marriage is falling apart. I am doing everything in my power not to give up. Everyone tells me I should let her go. I even hear whispers, but I tell them God has promised our marriage great things to come. He will provide. I’m praying every day. Morning, night and every hour with tears of sadness. Your testimony has given me hope. I will keep on fighting and not give up on her. I love her so much and I know God is doing what He needs to do. Thank you.

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219. My wife left me 6 months ago and said she would never come back, unless God changes her mind completely.
     I have asked her insistently to come back and she’s been so rude to me.
     I just pray that God changes her thoughts and behavior.

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220. amazing!
     this gives me hope.
     my husband has been messaging an ex girlfriend as well
     but he says he cant stop
     and is on the phone for hours
     in front of me.
     but im not giving up
     i know the Lord is working in his time
     i just have to be patient and keep praying

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221. Your words give me hope that anything is possible even the restoration of a broken marriage. I am the cheating husband for years my wife wanted me back , truth is I wanted to be back but I couldn’t get over the shame and guilt of stepping out of our circle. I moved in with the other woman and we had a child together, all while still very much wishing I could go back to my wife. I actually tried twice to no avail, couldn’t handle the pressure and quickly returned to the other woman. The other woman knows that while I care for her she is not my heart. Recently I came to God and now know that I don’t have to be ashamed anymore, or carry that guilt but my ex-wife has said she can’t trust me and is now seeing someone else. I know she still loves me and wants nothing more than to be with me but she can’t let herself be hurt again. Jesus has changed my life and I believe that he will restore our marriage and we will be able to share with the world our story of how God can do anything even save a wayward man like me.( I love you Tamra )and thank God that she came into my life. I will spend the rest of my life loving her the way I should have all along and I know how now because Jesus is with us! Thank you Crystal for sharing that even the most crazy relationship trials are nothing to the power of Jesus. I BELIEVE!

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     1. Wow, I could have written most of this about myself. I was the adulterer and caused enough pain to last anyone a lifetime. God has since opened my eyes and heart and am working on restoring my marriage. I am ashamed of what I’ve done but wish for nothing more than to be the righteous person I once was and do right by my partner.

        Things are much better but there is still a long road ahead. I made a promise that once my marriage is fully restored, and it will be praise God, that I will leave testimonies wherever I can to the greatness of Almighty God. Hard part is having patience in His perfect timing.

        God Bless all that are standing for their marriage.

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        1. My marriage was broken and we even had a divorce and for 40 days. But Jesus restored what looked broken. True repentance and only through the power of the Holy Spirit that restored our marriage. Repentance and true forgiveness that led to reconciliation and remarriage to same Person. You must have your vertical relationship with Christ before your marriage can be restored.

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222. Hi Brothers and Sisters in Christ!

     Psalm 27:14 (NASB)
     Wait for the Lord; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the Lord.

     I came upon this site a few months ago in despair for my marriage restoration and until now it still is a working progress of the Lord and he is perfecting it until the day he comes!

     Galatians 6:9 (NASB)
     Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.

     Anyway, reading Crystal’s Testimony had encouraged me to seek the Lord closer and also through this site, PTL! I was led to another site and tools that are and still helps me in this journey i know we are all familiar with.

     If you have troubles with your marriage and already sought God but still feel you dont have a deeper and intimate relationship with him, theres no harm in going and trying Restoreministries.net

     Its founder Erin Thiele, also author of the books which had helped me understand better my situation, that what we are going through right now is a spiritual battle and we have to have the right tools as aids, had gone thru the same things as we are going through right now and together with the many ministers, will guide you in overcoming this test for it to become a wonderful TESTimony of the Lords wonderful works.

     Theres nothing else to lose but we have so much to gain once we seek intimacy with the Lord and obey willfully his principles. I can guarantee you, no matter how much you are hurting right now, (I still didnt have a restored marriage, yet, but i know it will happen soon!), you will learn to have peace beyond understanding and contentment in your current situation because you will become closer to the Lord.

     I can say so much but i want you all to experience this firsthand so i urge you not to waste any of your time and devour into Gods words as they explain it to you, one after the other and how these will help you not just restore your marriage but establish it in a rock foundation.

     God bless you all!

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223. Wow! this message by Crystal mirrors my situation in the bits of detailed she has described. I have cried so many days and nights because my wife tells me she does not life or love me. She has turned her kids and my son against me! I love all of the kids just like I love the one we have together. She has allowed her mom, sisters, and friends to influence her to be against me. Even when I tried to move on, God would not allow me to. God has had me to pray for my wife! I love my wife and I want our marriage. This has given me the confirmation that all I have been doing to fight for my marriage are the right things. I pray for her, I have other ministers praying for us, and I am constantly letting her know I love her despite all the other things.
     I believe God is working on it even now!

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224. Hello Josua, good to hear that you are now Christ follower. Trust God, pray for your wife. Be good to her, but don’t force her. Do not give up no matter how the situation will be. With time she will understand how serious you are and will accept you back. Always be apologetic to her. God will work out everything. Trust Him.

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225. I am just going through this. My husband of 17 years tells me he wants a divorce, then says he wants to work on things. He said he needed some time to pray and talk to God. I pray this is true and God opens his eyes. He didn’t come home last night like he said he would. Please pray for me and my 3 daughters. They will be devastated. Pray God brings my husband to clarity. To leave the woman he has been seeing. The only reason I feel I don’t end it is for my girls. Please pray for me!

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     1. Keep praying and have faith. I went thru similar situation. My husband of 16 years asked me for a divorce on May 2017. He was having an affair with a neighbor. He asked me to leave the house because he was the one paying the Bill’s. For 10 months I could not recognize the man I married in 2001. My 3 children and I had to witness him spending time at her house with her kids, even spending the night. When he would come home he all I would get was rejection and verbal abuse. He even stopped giving me money. Didn’t care if we had food. I asked God to bring him to his senses and restore our marriage by God Almighty’s Grace, he has came to his senses. We placed our house for sale, he broke his relationship with her with me present. 4 months later we were still having problem, he continued to stay out late but promised it was with friends and not her. The devil continues to try and break my marriage telling me I’ve been thru enough and he is never going to change. But I was being ungrateful not thanking God how far we have come. I was asking and asking God to continue to change my husband and was forgetting to thank him how much he has done for me. Last week I refused to let the devil win. I’m never leaving my husband. I continue to pray for my husband and this week I’ve seen big changes day after day. He has promised not to go out again. And has begged me not to leave him. He is praying with me for our restoration. GOD can make all things possible. Dont give up and keep praying. Philippians 4:6-7 “Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

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226. Today marks 8 months married and 4 months separated, 3 months since we last saw each other, 2 months since we talked and 1 month since I declared God has restored my marriage. I need all the prayers I can get. I’d like to know where I can find an apostle and a prophet/prophetess. I live in Missouri, but I feel hundreds of miles away from my beloved wife who told me its over and we’ll never be husband and wife again. I gave my heart and marriage to God on March 14 this year. I pray I’m welcomed home very quickly. Please pray for myself and my wife Clare.

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227. 2 years ago, my husband stumbled upon a movement called the Hebrew Israelites. SInce then he has become cold and callous toward me. He treats me like a possession, like I should be seen and not heard, or have any sort of opinion. He won’t listen when I talk to him about our marriage and how I feel.
     God gave me a word over 2 years ago that my husband would come into relationship with Christ. I have prayed and prayed for this. I believe the devil brought this false religion is as a distraction or a ploy to stop God’s plan. I have tried to fight the good fight but it’s been a long hard journey. I have to admit I’ve given up a few times. This article is very encouraging. I just don’t know where to start in fighting this spiritual battle for my marriage and for my husband when everything and everyone around me says leave him. Please help.

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     1. I pray that you get close to God, build up your relationship with God,
        Put him first in all you do, desire to get in his presence.
        God is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Ps. 34:18)
        Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart (Ps. 37:4)
        And as you delight yourself in God you will find peace, contentment, love, acceptance and Joy in his presence. Which will give you the strength to wait as God moves on your behalf and changes your husband…
        May God Bless, Do not give up hope!

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228. Hi,
     My situation is a bit complicated. I have been separated for 4 months now. I was the one who left, I took my one year old daughter with me. I left because my husband was very critical of me, yelled a lot and I basically got to the point where i did not feel appreciated. To tell you the truth, it;’s the third time that I am walking out and he has always come back. I fear this time he may not as he has indicated that he will never come back and the biggest thing is, he has actually moved on to someone else. I realized it happened right after I left, so I am almost sure that this relationship was somewhere in the background and came to light when I left. You may ask yourself why would I want this marriage restored? I am not even sure myself. I feel like my husband was hurt that i left him and cast himself wholly and souly in this relationship to kind of bury his hurt and pain of me leaving. He was married before with 4 kids, by the way. I do want to be reconciled as I realize that I have done things to push him away and make him feel like he does not want to save it. I am deeply sorry for all the hurt I have caused him and I think I spent too much of my marriage complaining instead of appreciating him more. I am praying that he comes to his senses and that the Lord touches hiim as I am praying for him daily. He needs the lord himself as he does have abusive ways. Any advice for me? SHould I just move on and maybe wait for a divorce or what?

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     1. Hi,
        I have a similar situation. He doesn’t have another partner but is reaching out to his ex-girlfriend. He is cold to me, and tells me we won’t work. He yells at me sometimes. I find Christian music lifts my spirit. I pray. I just seen him, we have two kids together. I had thoughts of moving on. I am waiting patiently, If he wants a divorce he will file. I am praying and “getting a life” of my own without any emotional or physical attachments to other men. I deleted my Facebook, we used to share one, and I made my own, it was like sharks smelling blood in the water. I know I could move on with another man, but it is not what God wants. My husband is not a Christian but believes there is a God. Only God knows if I will save him. If I can not, he will file divorce papers, and I will accept them. I am patiently praying, jamming to Christian music, and staying kind. When you feel so angry and want to let him know turn that music on girl. Listening to Hard Love by Need to Breath right now <3 I will say a prayer for you!

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     2. DON’T GIVE UP!!! If you want your marriage, fight for it. Fast and pray and tell God what you want. Cast your cares upon him for He loves you and hears all of your prayers. Don’t be afraid to tell God what you want. Also, be willing to do the work necessary to make the marriage work the second time around. While the two of you are separated, take that as an opportunity to work on becoming a better wife and whatever areas that might have caused strain in the marriage. That way, once the marriage is restored (and it will be restored), you will be in a better position to make it work. Also, if your husband tells you that he wants a divorce, you speak just the opposite. If you dont want a divorce then let him know that you don’t want a divorce and that you want to fight for your marriage. Meditate on scriptures related to marriage, reconciliation and forgiveness. Your marriage is worth it. Keep fighting. God will see this and your diligence will be rewarded. Once your marriage is restored, give God all the glory and be willing to share your testimony with others who may want to throw in the towel. Your testimony will give them hope. Hang in there and don’t give up.

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229. Hi my Name is Lisa, I need prayer warriors to pray for my husband and our marriage. We haven’t talked in several months. Our marriage seemed fine..we had our ups and downs like all couples do. The day we got approved for a home loan he blew up and shut me out. After a month of him ignoring me I left. When I did he changed the locks and said he wanted a divorce. He hadn’t talked to me since. He won’t discuss reconciliation or divorce. I had been praying for his salvation for months before all this happened. I feel Satan is trying to destroy our marriage to keep my husband from God. Please pray for him and our marriage!!!!

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230. Hi, my name is Sunnie I NEED prayer warriors PLEASE!! To be honest i’m truly broken and in need of help and healing. I made a HUGE mistake and got divorced 6 months ago, only hoping it would wake my husband Russell up and try harder.(Not that I was perfect, I made A LOT of mistakes in my marriage.) Instead things have backfired. We were together almost 9 years and married for 7. He was really hurt by me and my daughter. So unbeknownst to me, he started talking to an old friend because he was lonely. Now he’s already saying I love you and that he’s getting married. We have a 6 year old son together and I want our family back together. My daughter is refusing to go back. I’m so torn and hurt and just want my marriage back.

     Please pray for us.. I ask that EVERYONE and ANYONE pray too, before it’s too late.
     Thank you, God Bless!!

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231. I’m a widower, I waited seven years to remarry. But in the remarriage, its been unbridled adultery, lies and deception. She was also a widow, she refused to bear my name after our marriage, she still bears her late husband’s name. Secondly, she was having an affair with her Pastor before I met her. When we got married, my wife and the Pastor were still very close, he even sometimes comes to our house. When I got to know what was between them, it was the last straw. There are other signs of adultery with other men. I finally walked out of the relationship about a year ago.
     I’m in my mid fifties, my children are in university, definitely leaving home soon. Definitely I can’t be alone for the rest of my life, I will like to remarry again. What is your advice?

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232. Hi my name is jay. I live in key largo FL. I was married 38 years. Eight years into the marriage I sinned and broke my vow. We had three young kids so she forgave me.
     We raised our kids and they all grew up well. But three years ago I walked in the kitchen and she said I’m leaving you and I’m not going through my golden years with you. I failed to mention three years before she left I got disabled on the job and lived the next five years on opiods. She did the best she could but she had to go. I beg and pray night and day for God to bring her home. She recently got married. I think more for support.
     I tell God I don’t want to live anymore and I want to come home. He won’t take me home. I don’t want to live. I want my wife back. Please help me.

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     1. Please keep your head & don’t think like that god has a plan for you.. I’m going through something in my marriage is well but I’m giving it up to my god

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233. This testimony gives me a glimmer of hope in my despair. My husband and I tried for over a year to get pregnant and I’m now 3 months pregnant with our first. A few weeks ago he called me from a trip I Europe and said he wanted to separate and can never love me romantically. It’s now at the divorce stage of discussions. There’s a high chance he cheated on me during his trip too. He’s been emotionally abusive during the 2.5 years we’ve been married but he is broke from past experiences and still has a wonderful side to him. I’m literally in despair that he doesn’t want me anymore. We are separated and it kills me. The thoughts consume me 24/7. Can you pray for us as well as encourage my faith? I constantly tell him I don’t want divorce but he says I’m delusional bc it’s over. How fast have your miracles been? I know this is a spiritual battle but I don’t want to lose my husband in it. Please pray he has a change of heart. Any words of encouragement would help me right now. Thanks!

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234. Hi,
     My name is Nyssa and this testimony gives me a little sliver of hope. I’m 3 months pregnant with our first child after struggling with infertility. We had our issues but Matt was never open to couples therapy. He said I was the only one who needed it. A few weeks ago he went on vacation to Europe to visit his daughter. I was on bed rest so had to cancel my trip. It looks like he had a fling there. He called me from Europe and said he wanted a separation and that we would never be together again and he could never love me romantically. He blamed all the marriage problems on me. I went into major depression and it’s effecting my pregnancy.

     We went to couples therapy twice but he refuses to go anymore because he feels the counselor is on my side. That’s not the case it’s that he refuses to see anything from my point of view. I flew back home to Texas and we are still fighting. He isn’t open to saving the marriage at all. I pray constantly for Satan to leave us alone but nothing seems to work.

     I’m trying keep hoping for a miracle but most days it doesn’t seem possible because he is so closed off. His family and best friend think he has a mental disorder and self medicates with alcohol and drugs. Even despite all the pain he is putting me and our unborn child through, I want to save our marriage and make it better than ever. PLEASE say lots of prayers for us that God can work a miracle quickly. If not, I have to go back to Chicago next month and pack up my stuff. I just can’t understand why he chose to do this AFTER we got pregnant. I need prayers for a forgiving and compassionate heart and to keep my temper in check. Pray Matt has a forgiving heart as well and gets a desire to save our marriage. Thank you in advance.

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235. I need prayer please. It happened five months ago my husband had given into temptation. He was off working and she well details are not necessary. He tried physically. And then moved on to messaging other women. I prayed daily for him to come home. Even made myself a war room. And had my supporters and prayer warriors. 30 days later he came back to me. I was excited the love of my life was home. In the mix he found Jesus and started church. But I am having a hard time moving on and letting him in. I love him I deeply do. But the fear of that pain again. Can I really bare it?

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236. Hi I need a prayer worries to pray for my spouse to return to me .I did some thing wrong and I just left her and came but I also know that she is having an other relationship behind my back..its been a year now and she has not forgiven me and she is in an other relationship.I really love her and want her back so please any prayer worriors who could help pray for my spouse to return to me

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237. Prayer warriors, like Crystal, I too have been operating in faith the size smaller than a mustard seed. I am currently separated and my wife left me. She stepped out of the marriage and is currently seeing someone else. We have two small babies also which is what I am mostly worried and scared for their future. My prayer request is that my family, myself and especially my wife to be washed over by the blood of the Lamb and also for me to keep a daily reminder that through him all things are possible and to keep my walk in faith. I am trying so hard to cast my fears and worries to Him but it is one of the hardest things to do when nothing feels like is going right and my family’s future seems doomed. If you can, please pray for us. I thank you all in advance.

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238. I want to first pray the blood of Jesus surround all of the people who have posted before me with marital issues. I pray that they will continue to seek him and trust in his plans in the midst of their struggles. I would also like to request prayer as my marriage is in a dark place. My wife and I have had issues for years, I have never cheated on her but I never stepped up and took a more active role in our family like she had so desperately wanted. Now, even though we are still “married” and living in the same house, she has told me she does not love me and does not care if I die. She said she hates me and will only be fake for the kids sake and that nothing I say or do will ever change this. I am so heartbroken and crying as I type this. My was not a christian, so man good things have happened in the past year.. she started listening to christian music, she started going to church, she went down to the front of the church and publicly accepted Christ. But I fear that Satan has stole that away as she has not changed her insults, bad language, or the way she thinks, and now has completely written our marriage off. I believe with all of my heart (and even before she took steps toward Jesus) that God has a plan for her life.. I believe he wants to use her in a way that will reach others. I also believe that he will restore our marriage. I believe he allowed it to be completely broke down so he can build it back up with him as the foundation and for his glory and I also know that it has drawn me closer to him and now I can’t wait to escape to my quiet place at lunch and speak with my father. It’s only been a few days since my wife told me this but I am trusting in the Lord and I encourage everyone to do the same. This is the same God that closed the mouths of lions, protected 3 boys from a fiery furnace, raised people from the dead, parted a sea, sent his son to die for US and then was resurrected. The bible says “…What God has brought together, let no man separate” and I refuse to let Satan, who has already been defeated destroy my marriage. To GOD be the glory and when he restores my marriage and uses it for his glory and changes my wife and I’s life for his divine purpose, I WILL TELL THE WORLD OF HIS MIRACLE!!!!!

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239. Good Afternoon all,
     I’m lost, I’m heartbroken and I’m devastated! My husband told me almost a month ago, he wanted a divorce! He doesn’t want to try to work on our marriage! He’s had time to think about it, it wasn’t a easy or quick decision for him. Counseling isn’t an option because we went through pre-martial counseling and I didn’t hold up to my end of the bargain so he feels counseling would be pointless! He feels any changes that I make will be temporary! He doesn’t feel that he would even be open to allowing me to try to make the changes so staying wouldn’t be fair to me. He feels he will eventually want his cake and eat it to. He doesnt want to hurt me or our son with infidelity. He’d rather end things on a good note vs bad. What truly ended our marriage was my family coming to stay at our house due to some home renovations needed. My family coming to stay with us put the nail in the coffin! My sister was extremely disrespectful to my husband, she even called him out his name. I didn’t kick her out because she’s the caregiver of my grandfather, who has Alzheimer. My husband feels “my” family will always be my priority and I FAILED him during this situation! He’s extremely hurt, he continues to express how he wants a divorce. He’s going out more! He said that his love hasn’t changed but he’s checked out. We are currently still living together, sleeping in the same bed and we are still sleeping with each other. He’s told me several times,he doesn’t want to confuse things because his feelings/want hasn’t and will not change! He doesn’t want to force me to have the “Talk”, he will wait until I am ready to discuss divorce and figure things out.

     I am constantly in prayer, I’m back in church stronger than ever. I’m rededicating my life to Christ (baptizism). I’m trying to block out the negative and doubtful thoughts that Satan is throwing my way! I want to save my marriage! I am COMMITTED to saving my marriage, It’s very hard to keep my faith when my husband is saying all these discouraging things! I know anything is possible through Christ! It’s just a struggle to stop all the doubts! I’m fighting for my marriage that my husband continues to say he doesn’t want! I need all the praying hands that I can get during this difficult time in my life! I pray every day for a VICTORY! I need God to intervene with my husband, he needs God fearing people in his life, to help lead him down the right path!

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     1. DON’T stop praying and believing! God still does miracles and if you give him the situation, your entire life, and have faith in our amazing Lord, I believe he will restore your marriage. On Monday September 3rd, my wife told me she did not love me nor did she want to be married to me. She refused to sleep in the same room so I slept in the living room. She was very adamant that she hated me and wanted nothing more than for me to be out of her life. Every time I brought up anything about God or having faith that he could restore our marriage she shot it down and became angry. I put everything I would in praying. I first made sure that I confessed EVERYTHING and came to the lord with a clean spirit. I cried out to Jesus and gave him everything and claimed the victory over Satan and his demonic forces that were coming against my marriage. I refused to give in. What I began to realize that Jesus was drawing me closer to him through this situation. I began to feel his presence more and more when I would pray to him. Well GOD BE GLORIFIED! On September 8th on our anniversary she told me again that she loved me! I am not promising it will happen in 5 days like my miracle and I am not saying it will take 2 years.. I just want you to know that God can do ANYTHING and if you have faith and honestly give him EVERYTHING and draw close to him you may be surprised what happens
        God bless and I’m praying for you

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     2. Fast and pray, rebuke all negative thoughts, feelings and emotions

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240. I walked away from the Lord and married a non believer even though I could feel God say no. I believe he has many narcissistic behaviors andalso a drinking problem. Due to the toxicity, I asked for a divorce in June. But, then God began to expose my sin and fault in the marriage so I sought to reconcile. I asked my husband and his children for forgiveness for my part but my husband said no…he wants a divorce. I began the Armour of God Bible study, watched war room and made myself a war closet. Daily, I go in and fight for our marriage, our kids, and my husband. The house sold and he is moving back to his town and I’ll have to move back to my home town to be near my family. My depression is too much and I need support. I am praying for reconciliation because I know God is capable! But, it seems like the answers I am getting is not for reconciliation… Every scripture and visual I get is about forgetting the past and moving on. I don’t want a divorce but my husband has shown no desire to work on our marriage and seems smug that I’m hurting. Any perspective would be welcome. Everyone believes I need to leave so I have no support or prayer for reconciliation. Thanks!

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241. Hello,
     My husband and i have been married for 23 yrs. 21 of those years we have been in the church & my husband has had an affair with ministry. I say this because my husband will treat others in the church with encouragement, love, empathy but i do not receive the same. During this time we have seen numerous counselors, read marriage books, went through prayer lines, deliverance ministries, marriage seminars all the while my husband participating, but as soon as these things were over he would retreat back to his old self. I have seen God close several ministry doors because of the condition of our marriage. However, he refuses to see it as that and only blames the reason the door was closed(such as someone having an issue with him) God has even told him in the last 2 yrs at 2 different times he has killed the marriage. Only to do nothing about it. He has people in the the church so fooled that I have no support system. I have even been told by a person in the church that i needed to grow up. But my husband can openly admit that he doesn’t value me and if he was to step down from ministry he would be stepping out on God. Now i am not going to say i am miss innocent in this. My mouth, pride , and anger has many times gotten the best of me. However, when you see others being loved on for you only to get the opposite, well! I have my good days and my bad days. But its hard. I have recently June 22, 2018 given him until Oct 8, 2018, to get accountability for our marriage, step down from prison ministry and read this book by Ken nair or i was moving out. He refused and has done nothing. If i move out my world will be upside down. I work part-time, would need to go f/t, the only place i would be able to stay isn’t positive & is 45 mins away from my work now, not including having to take all my stuff and dog. Now how is this even fair? My verticle relationship has increased with the Lord. I just have health issues i am dealing with also, so i am feeling overwhelmed in this fight! Appreciate the prayers!

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242. After a very long separation, my husband has recently asked for a divorce. He has even sent me a form to speed up the process. I believe he’s trying to marry someone else, however, I really would like to restore my marriage. I was the one who asked for the separation years ago, and I am constantly regretting my decision on a daily basis. Please pray that the Lord finds a way to restore our marriage, family, and guide us on our journey.

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243. Hey prayer warriors, my name is Joseph and my wife name is Rosie and we have been separated for over a year now 15 months to be exactly. But am believing and trusting God for the reconciliation and restoration for my marriage because in the book of Joel the Lord said he is going to restore all the years that the locusts have eaten.
     Crystal testimony have been an inspiration and encouragment to me to let go and let God do it because he can fix our marriage and make it better than what it was before.
     Am from North Carolina and my wife is from Michigan so I know it was God that brought us together two people from two different states.
     She left me on June 17,2017 last year and came back to visit on July 14, 2018 – July 18,2017
     Now although she went back to Michigan I still know the power of prayer and “The Word of God” is not bound by geographical locations.
     God can reach and touch people heart no matter where they live.
     I take complete ownership for my marriage separation and ask your prayers for my wife to forgive me and come back home soon.

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244. Hello everyone on September 20th 2018 my husband and I got into short argument and it was about him talking to another woman and with that topic was brought up he denied everything and he insisted to leave Neglected three kids his marriage for a chick he just met I’ve been crying I have an eaten I haven’t slept I just feel lost I’ve been crying and reading scriptures leaving it in gods hands I just want my husband back we’ve been together for five years but married 2 and he has done nothing but cheated and lied to me but I know it’s something that can be fixed I still love him the same way when I first met him I just need prayers please!!!!

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     1. I will pray for you from my heart. I am in a similar situation but its 17 years my wife tells me she wasted 17 years of her life. I have faith in the Lord. please keep praying keep the faith God will help us both I truly believe. God Bless You

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245. What hope is there for me? My husband left without warning that he was even unhappy with me a year and a half ago. Less than a year had gone by and he’d already divorced me to marry the one he left me for. I’m still in agony and pain, living a life that his choices created for me. I hate this life and miss him and us so much. I still pray and ask God to restore, but have very little support. Seems even Christian friends think a marriage license in the natural, man created, not God blesses no way, still trumps our God blessed marriage. I can’t believe God even looks on them as married. I believe God still honors our marriage and will restore by a miracle. Can I hope? Can I be guided to prayer warriors who will stand with me?

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246. Where to start , my ex emotional abused my for years , I can’t even believe some of the things he did to me , let alone understand them . I truly struggled for years with my faith vs leaving our marriage. My ex humiliated me over and over forcing me to stand outside his mothers house , being ignored like I was worthless to a mountain amount of lies including lying about my fathers adddress which prevented me seeing my father for 20 years , finally when I found my father he passed away with my ex refusing to help me bury him . In all of this I’ve tried hard to forgive my ex , understand he is angry and quite childish.

     My ex then used our child to embarrass me at his graduation getting his new girlfriend to follow me , once again I knew my ex had to care to even want this level of hurt , but what I never understood was my ex did everything he could to get a Divorce, he treated me like well rubbish , he had no respect and would rather I died then leave what was a lie . I have no idea if my ex was faithful, but I know he did much worse from the start refusing to accept my worth in the relationship or even his children’s respect.

     My ex often gets our child to lie to set me up just to humiliate me , why woukd he ever do this? My ex lies even to this day about the abuse he put me through, the problem is now I can’t tell my brain to feel nothing, I can’t even look at my ex , I have no respect for him, his taken everything. My ex even got his Mum to lie regarding a house , both were trying to get me to give him everything, because for them both this is now about money , I am no longer worth even breathing . Hw can two people who believe in God , go to church, do this . I ask God please help me to forgive a man that lied about my own father , took every chance to allow me to speak to my Dad , while I was going along to his families home being ignored and treated pretty discussing, his mother or sister woukd take turns to ignore me , or say something creul of course my ex woukd always act like he never saw it , he woukd never say anything until I asked and even then I was made to stand outside , like a dog . I had no self worth , I died , I don’t even know who I am anymore but all I know is. Deserve better . Why then can’t I move on, why do I need my ex to acknowledge what he did to me .

     My ex has done everything you can think of , yet I love him , I ask God to help him , when I am in so much pain because of what he has done , and his not even sorry for it .

     From the start this man never once asked me my needs I had no one st my wedding his family took over , I so wanted them to accept me , yet that killed who I was , just another tool for him to abuse . I know my ex can’t move on completely, he drinks to cope with what his done and yet he never ever just accept and acknowledge it because a part of him know that I will be able t finally find happiness. I regret being married, allowing him to take my trust and destroyed it , believing God will heal him , all to see this man is completely disrespectful and woukd rather someone dies then allow them the decency of the truth.

     I have so many questions, my faith been tested far to much , not one piece of stability from childhood until now . There is only so much you can take

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     1. I am praying for your healing….I too was married to an abuser and he never hurt our child and we have been separated for 5 years but now he has a new girlfriend…at least thats what our 7 yr old tells me. He said its his cousin and that our daughter is confused but I know its a lie since every week he is taking our daughter to her house. Now I want him back I dont want the split co parent family. I want my family. Im praying for you…go to Youtube and google affirmations for a broken heart….play it while u sleep….great healing therapy….says things like I am healed…I am full of love I am beautiful ❤

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247. I left my husband on July 5th that night so it’s been a little over 4 months. I got with another guy not long after, it wasn’t anything serious at the time I’m not gonna lie he treated me better than my husband had I felt in a long time gave me more attention and made me feel important and loved. We both agreed to end our short lived relationship maybe lasted a month because we both had just got out of a serious relationship me and marriage which I am still married and him I believe was with her for 6 years. ( they aren’t married ) He ended up going back to her actually. I believe they are together now. My husband texted me one day in August and said there is someone who would like to meet you meaning his girlfriend. We have a 17 month old and a child on the way so he kinda had to be in my life. I ended up not meeting her that day. I can’t remember why, and I’ve still not met her. She comes with him to pick up and drop of our son most of the time, but I’ve never actually met her. I do not believe they were talking before the separation but I can’t be certain. Maybe a week into this new girl being with him I literally begged I mean I was in my hands and knees crying my eyes out kind of begging for my husband to let us try again and he said even if he wanted to he wouldn’t, the only reason he would come back is for the kids and he said he wouldn’t do that because it isn’t right. Which I agree. So I still was trying to get him back when I would see him or I would send little text saying have a good day or be careful. One day his girlfriend messaged me and asked if I was gonna keep trying to get him back and I said yes. Maybe 2 hours later I get a text from him telling me he never loved me he doesn’t love me nor care about me to quit chasing him that he wasn’t coming back or taking me back. He told me many times in the messages that day he didn’t love me. 3 days before this we went to the baby doctor for our unborn child and he told me when I asked that he just couldn’t right now and that he would always love me, but now he is completely and utterly in love with this new girl and beyond happy. I’ve been praying and praying and praying for my marriage to come back to life. I know there is still hope. Just like Crystal I’m not giving up on my marriage. I’ve asked God to forgive me for my sins and to show my husband something he can’t ignore to seek him and to come home to his family. My husband does seem happy now, he looks very happy, but he is still my husband. We aren’t divorced we are just separated and honestly have been for very long. Oct 7th made 2 years of marriage the 22nd will make 3 years together. We were best friends before we became a couple. I’m asking for pray to restore my marriage and bring my husband back to me and our family. I ask that you pray that he forgives me and that his heart is softened towards me and that he realizes divorce isn’t an option we got married for a reason pray to remind him why. Please.

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248. In March of 2018, I found out my wife had cheated on me. I instantly thanked her for telling me the truth and forgave her, telling her we could work through this and that I loved her. During the next few days and on one particular day she was screaming yelling and cursing at me really hurtful words which turned into an argument and I left to my parents house because I needed time to process everything. A couple days later I came home and the guy she cheated on me with was inside my house with my wife and children and she had him change the locks so I couldn’t get in.

     I continued to stay at my parents while my wife was lying about continuing to see him and eventually when I found the truth out I filed for a divorce. I sought the Lord heavily, after about a month I could not divorce my wife. I eventually found out that she got an incurable STD from him. I went to war for my wife, praying like I never had before, searching everywhere for prayers like the women in the article. After about 2-3 months I forgave my wife again of everything, and moved back in. Over the course of the next few months my wife was regularly going out multiple times a week and not coming home until 5 or 6 o’clock in the morning sometimes not until the afternoon. She would regularly show up with bruises all over her body one time even on her neck. We had regular arguments about it and she would not stop.

     Eventually I left, again, back to my parents house. She is currently sleeping with other men and bringing them around our children which I have 70% of the time. I’m still going to war for my wife although not nearly as heavily as before, maybe 10-20% in comparison. I feel drained and broken in spirit most days. Jesus never gave up on the church and if I am to follow his lead I won’t give up on my wife. This is a spiritual battle. And I need to exhaust every avenue.

     About a year before she cheated God sent me a dream showing me that she was going to cheat on me and after a period of ten years (10 is a time of testing) her and I would be reunited. In the dream I saw her in the future and she was beautiful, more beautiful than I have ever seen her and she looked at me with so much love in her eyes it still makes me teary when I recall it. God has remained faithful to his word and has strengthened me through this whole thing and following his lead I have remained faithful to my wife.

     This article made something jump out to me about the “prayer of agreement” which when recalling my dream I believe God left a clue in regards to that prayer for me.

     Thank you and may God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ bless your marriages.

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249. In June, my husband of 13 years said he loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. He wanted to still care and take care of our family, but wanted out of the relationship. He traveled for years with work and now finally had a job at home, but still traveled a little. During this time, he has tried to get the love back somewhat but his determination is not there. I’ve prayed and improved myself, and he admits that I’ve come a long way and now it’s just him. It’s no longer me. He says he’s done trying. He now has stayed away for the last 2 months seeing if separation will help feelings come back. The last time he was home he was going to end it and tell our three precious children he wanted a divorce, but he couldn’t. I’ve prayed and prayed and prayed with others for his mind, body, soul, and spirit. For the scales to fall off his eyes that satan has put over them. This is a man that used to tell me that he would never leave me no matter what I did. This is a man that brought me to church as we dated and served the Lord through music, but now he has a different attitude. I know he loves the Lord and I know he still seeks him. Now he’s gone for five more weeks, missing Thanksgiving for the first time with us. I need your prayers that during these five weeks the stronghold on his heart is shattered and the lady he’s talking to actually tells him to come back home to his precious family that God has given to him, but most importantly pray he surrenders his all to God.

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250. My husband of 28 years and High School sweetheart left me a month ago out of the blue. I was totally blindsided. We have always been close and best friends, but this last year has been a very difficult one. He lost his job of 19 years and his boss made it very personal. At the very same time our oldest daughter moved back home with her two children 7 & 2 along with our youngest daughter who still lives with us and her 2 year old daughter. On top of that my husband and I had to start caring for my mother and grandmother who had been left by all of the other family members to go “live their lives”. We both work full time. He had gotten a new job , but has not been satisfied, the stress of the kids living with us was constant because I was also babysitting every night while the daughters worked and then the weekends were taking care of the kids and grandmothers. He started to express that he couldn’t take it anymore, but in a group setting with our daughters and it just appeared that he was venting like I was at the frustration. Long story short I found pictures of another woman and confronted him and he had been “texting” another woman from work who had persued him and they were working out at the gym together. He was going to the gym three nights a week for the last three years. He has been on a weightloss journey and looks great. However, this woman saught him out at work and they started working out together. He told me about a month ago when I confronted him with the pictures that he didn’t love me anymore and that I broke his heart putting everyone else first which was totally news to me. He was along side me helping with the family the whole time and when he came home from work or gym each night I would make sure to spend time with only him. We are both Christians and I think he feels so ashamed that he cannot forgive himself because his father cheated on his mother and he swore he would never do that. I have told him I have forgiven him and God can make something beautiful out of this. He does not see it or want it. He is so closed off and within the month has sought out an attorney for a disillusionment. I DO NOT want this and want to be with him. I am praying and believing in complete restoration. The Lord also laid it upon my heart this morning to start a 21 day fast. I am praying to draw closer to the Lord, to gain insight and for forgiveness for my husband and that any evil plans of satans and his demons with be stopped in it’s tracks and this woman will be removed from his life. In the name of JESUS I plead the blood over my husband and my marriage and plead the blood against this woman and every evil tool of satan and that this disillusionment would not succeed and our marriage restored.

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251. Hi Crystal
     I just want to thank you for your encouragement. Your testimony gave me so much hope,as I’m currently going through the same experience. I am a christian but in my opinion I was one of those Luke warm Christians. I gave my life to Jesus on Saturday and I started fasting and praying to get my wife back. I also asked two men of god to pray for full restoration for my marriage. I believe that god is working in the background and I agree 100% with you when you say that your minds constantly playing games with you telling you that its impossible she wont come back because it tends to make you look at the nature of the situation in the natural. It is an extremely painful experience and I have never cried so much. I’m so touched by gods word and if i can so it myself have became a prayer warrior. I firmly believe that god will fully restore my marriage as well as my wife’s feelings for me. I constantly battle to stay quite when she tells me that she will file for divorce regardless of gods healing. It does touch me and it is definitely testing my faith but when that happens I call the two guys that helping me for encouragement. I love my wife to bits and I just refuse to let her go and I will keep praying until something happens. I just hope that god does not get tired of me asking him for the same thing because I know that he also want me to completely leave it in his hands to allow him to work the situation.

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252. I’ll admit my current situation is entirely my fault. I was an abusive husband both physically emotionally psychologically and spiritually. I have no excuse and no one to blame but myself.
     My wife and I have been married for 7 years. We are both Christians who love and serve God. We dated for 2 years before getting married and are the best of friends. When we got married things were good. Although we had to live long distance because of her job, I didn’t mind. I had faith in God. Still do. I will admit she always had a jealousy problem. But to me it was her one and only fault. I guess it got to the point I got tired of it. So we got into so many arguments because of being constantly accused of cheating. Which I never ever have and never will. So when she finally resigned and came home, things were good again. But the problem started to escalate, to which I started to become very abusive. I know what I did was absolutely wrong. But she always forgave me. This would go on once a week for 2 years. At one point her dad intervened and that it would be best if she went back to work overseas again. So we both agreed. Our relationship got a little better. We both were busy but secure. Not so many jealous tirade so less fighting. It would only happen once or twice every two months. Although those arguments do tend to be bad. We would fix it after a few days. What I tend to do was ignore her for a few days to cool off. Cut off contact until I was ready to talk. But her approach was to talk it out. I did promise her I wouldn’t ignore her anymore, but I still did. Till a few months ago we got into another typical argument of jealousy. This time I ignored her for the longest time of 5 days. So when I finally decided to talk, that’s when she said she doesn’t wanna be married and wants to divorce. All of a sudden she’s numb, no feelings of love or intimacy. A complete 180. It’s like I’ve never met this person. So she cuts off communication for 4 mos and comes home from her work overseas only to tell me of wanting to file for divorce.
     I know what I’ve done and perhaps this is ultimately my punishment. But I still love her and don’t want to lose her. We are both Christians and still believe in His word. Although my wife seems to have backslided so very far. I wants us to get back on the right track. I keep praying for God to change her heart. I don’t know what else to do or say to her. She’s always been my best friend. Now I’m just a friend to her. I pray to God to fix this relationship. And pray for strength to carry on. I need your guys’ prayers. I need biblical advice. I pray for God to be the one to direct my wife’s every decision. I want to surrender everything to God

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     1. Action speaks louder than words. Why can’t your love melt the ice of the water you caused to freeze? You are full of excuses. And you sound narcissistic. Until you go and get help you’ll never get her back. With God all things are possible. But if you can’t love your own wife how can you love God? You need to find yourself and ask God to change YOUR heart, to give YOU a clean heart and renew a right Spirit within YOU. She may miss the you she fell in love with yrs ago. But not recognize who you’ve become. Silence for 5 days? How many times per year? This woman wants to BE loved not have a husband who tells her he loves her. You’ve got to do things differently my brother. You’ve exhausted your hand. And now she’s through.
        Get yourself a Spirit filled Pastor who can in turn lead you to the river of life. In hopes that you will get filled with the Spirit of God. And prove yourself to be the leader and provider that you’ve been ordained to be. Stop focusing on her and telling God what to do with her. Stand in his presence and declare: It’s me Lord standing in the need of prayer. Repent and confess your wrong. And he will forgive you. And wash you, and fill you. And you’ll never be the same. She’ll know
        I’m praying for you.
        God Bless You. For he is able!!!

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     2. You need to ask God to work on you first. Then you will be the man she loves again. You cant iove her the way God intended til you put God first. Same with her, she must put God first. Hard lesson I’m learning right now. It’s very painful. God bless and prayers for your restoration. I’d like to ask for prayers too. Thank you for sharing.

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253. In October my husband of 16 years told me he had a girlfriend and promptly moved out. He has traded her and her children for our son. We are heartbroken and I don’t even know how to pray. Please pray with and for us. I want my husband back. I believe that God has a plan for us and that HE CAN bring healing and restoration!!! Thank you!

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254. My husband told me on Tuesday that he wanted a divorce. We have been struggling these past couple of month due to my trust issues but I was blindsided. On Sunday he told me that I was his everything. Then on Tuesday he told me that he wanted a divorce and that he was going to send me papers. This was my fault. I got jealous and told him I wanted a break on Sunday and didn’t call or text him until he told me he wanted the divorce. I had a mixed array of emotions for the next couple of days. Until Friday came and an idea popped in my head to drive down to where my husband lives. (We live 2 hours apart). I just had this sudden desire to go see him. I no longer felt pain, just an overwhelming sense of peace. I told myself this had to be God. On my drive down there I called 3 godly woman and asked them to pray for me and our marriage. When I got here, he wasn’t home. My heart was crushed and I wondered if I was fooling myself for thinking he would be here to embrace me. I got slightly discouraged but I decided to stay and wait. And hoping I’ll see him the next day. As I lay here, I began to feel that sense of peace again. I started looking for hope/inspiration of others that had their marriage restored and I came across this one. This story is so similar to my story. Even the part where she enlisted the help of 3 powerful prayer warriors. Thank you so much for sharing this story. I am going to trust Jesus and WHEN he restores my marriage, I’m going to share it with the world.

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255. My wife and I have been married over 20 years, I got caught up in the technology of my phone ended up having a affair it took my wife two weeks to move me out , that was four years ago , I’ve prayed almost every night since then , all I know is to keep praying and believing god will put us back together, I’m so lonely and miserable without my wife my best friend

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     1. I just read your comments. I understand completely. I was married 20 years. He left with two words on the phone “we’re finished”. He had been ahving a second affair. This time with a woman in his office. 30 years youngr than himself. We lost everything in the divorce. The lawyers got it all. And she took the rest. I have been alone since 2015 when the divorce was final. I hope everyday he will call me and tell me he is sorry for what he did. Just to ask forgiveness will be a helpful path to revocery for me. I dont think i will ever recover from what he did

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256. Please pray for my husband and me. I had an affair,because I was weak and not walking with God. I was not strong enough to stop it. I am ashamed of my actions and wish I had never met the other person. During the affairtime, I ran from the other person, lied to him because I did not want to see him or talk to him. But, satan weakened me and I would again talk to him or text him with inappropriate messages. I love my husband and have asked both God and my husband for forgiveness. I confessed my sins to a pastor who prayed for me and my husband. A few days ago, my husband told me he would never forgive me. God, I ask that Jeff cry out to you and be healed. Please pray for our healing and for a restoration of our marriage.

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257. My wife of 8 years blindsided me with a divorce a few months ago. She said she has been unhappy and couldnt go on any further. She is now in an a affair with a woman and were not even divorced. She said that she doesnt care what anyone thibks not even God. I am praying for her salvation. I am deeply hurt in many ways and want to quit altogether but i have this never ending hope that we can be restored. I will not lie though, my faith is taking a major hit and i feel sometimes as if i cant go on. I dont know what to do besides prayer and fasting. I have enlisted prayer warriors and i pray multiple times a day for her. Im frustrated, weary, tired, hurt and discouraged. Please pray with me.

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258. Mrs. Crystal, Thank you but I really don’t know what to do ? I pray for my ex fiancé but he has gotten worse leaves comes back now supposedly got married left him in Colorado while I came back to Fort Worth. He cheats all the time I was the only one lasted long 4 yrs on and off and he doesn’t stop or protects himself please help us!!

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259. How do one recover from the rejection? After being there for him trough cancer? And he just packs up his bags and decided to live with the x in law’s? My husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2015. That time we weren’t married yet. I stood by him. And thats during the time of his treatment we got married in 2016. We lived completely in faith. For I also lost my job back then. I can testify of how many times GOD provided and sending people to help us. After a lot of prayer and fasting and trusting God. GOD HEALED him. And he could start working again. Things went well. Except for my husband going back to old ways. Growing futher away from God Until one day 2018 December after a small argument he packed his bags and just left. To my surprise he moved in with his x family in law? He treats me like I am worthless. It hurts to think of how many nights I sat up with him when he was in pain. Caring sometimes carried him to the bathroom because he was to weak after treatments back then. Being strong for his sake. Through that time. And today he could act like it never happened. Like God and me never mattered. I pray for him every day. Doing the spiritual war fair. Asking God to help me get over the betrayal. Pray with me so that this hardened hart of him get worked on.

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     1. Sorry for what you are going threw I’m going threw a similar situation although I am a very religious person I just didn’t go to church regularly because of all the hipacrits and after almost 10 yrs with my wife she kisses me good bye on her way to work fri. Feb 15 2019 with no warning comes home full of pure evil that I have NEVER thought was possible in her and packs up and leaves although I am not PERFECT by no means I have NEVER MISTREATED or DISRESPECTED her not talking about in the heat of an argument I cherished the ground she walked on and treated her as the Child of GOD that she is with that said 5 months ago she came to me saying that she was fighting between her heart and mind that she didn’t know if I could give her what she wanted out of life and up until this point we had NEVER argued but I messed up and became complacent trying to please and satisfy her that I lost myself and wasn’t putting GOD 1ST so since she’s left took me a cple days to pick head up and started putting GOD 1st which is where to many ppl to think go wrong the ILLUSION that we are in control is just that an ILLUSION So I have been PRAYING not just for MY MARRIAGE BUT EVERYONES THAT IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS Hold your head up and may GOD BLESS YOU

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260. My husband and I met under miraculous circumstances 18 mths ago. Though we lived 9000 miles apart, God brought us together and blessed us in marriage. The issue of leaving and cleaving soon arose as He shared Everything with his Mum, once he left home and wouldn’t open up to me emotionally. A pattern of lying and cover up developed. I wrongfully became more suspicious, less trusting and monitored his communications which I told him. The more I tried to talk the more he retreated. We eventually got to a point where I was angry and he couldnt handle the outburst nor my silence.( 3days). The next day he left without warning and didn’t contact me for 3 weeks. He had returned to his parents on grounds of anxiety and was never returning. We finally started to talk and he agreed I could visit. The reception from his friends and family was hostile but he was initially fine. He suggested talking about compromise options for our future which we did. Within 24 hrs he changed, on grounds of anxiety re our future, ended the marriage and told me to return home. I haven’t heard from him since then, 3 weeks ago but apparently he’s living a singles life over there pretending he’s not married and finding new work etc. I know we both love each other but why he refused to work at marriage I dont understand. His parents support his decision saying he’s happier over there.. Our personalities are too different. I would appreciate your prayerful advice.

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261. My husband never seemed fully committed to me. He came from an abusive mother and alcoholic dad. His views on many things looked like an Archie Bunker rerun. Nevertheless. I love him deeply. We have 6 children..6 grandkids. It was me that fell. The worst. He would be gone working. Fir weeks at a time. Now combine this with his nonchalant ways in our relationship…I became devastated. Crying all the time. Then satan showed up. I HATED living like a single mom while he was gone. I wasn’t strong enough to do that. Repeatedly told him so. He was tempted by the money. The hi income. But satan did the same with me. While he was gone. I allowed shopping to be my panacea. So now we were both money-holics. I’m so ashamed of my behaviour. 3 times I maxed out his credit cards. Took my mother’s money. Even took money from my brother. This last time was terrible. We split for a few months. Then he let me back in. His mistrust if me ruled out existence. He also has an addiction to playing poker. And he was planning a trip to NY for a televised game. I had made arrangements to be off work. Then only days before we were to leave. He decides to tell me. The dates are wrong. I blew up. I was tired of holding onto the marriage. Tired of trying to hold onto him. We got I to a huge fight. We slapped each other. Then he saud he was done. That the relationship was too toxic. He was “moving on”. That life with him was ‘ my way or the highway’s. I moved into an apartment in subsidized housing. Since that day in Oct 2015. I have done nothing but pray for my husband. Asked God for forgiveness for MY sins. I have forgiven my spouse. For all that hurt. I lift him up to Gad non stop. I’m constantly praying for him. But I am Very Lonely. I write him letters. He doesn’t respond. His family is very dysfunctional. The mother is still abusive to the child that never left home. I pray always fir the generational curses to be broken on both of us. But the loneliness is unbearable. Ts been so long since I’ve had living arms around me. I pray hedges around him. That the scales be lifted from his eyes. That God send a laborer to him. But it’s like nothing happens. I get NOTHING from him. He feels justified in rejecting me. Never realizing or admitting g that it was the original rejection that broke me to begin with. I am hurt and lonely. I do go to therapy. Am on meds for anxiety and depression. But we were high school sweethearts. 40 years together. This is nuts!! Please. Pray for both me and my husband. Our marriage, relationship..and family. I never thought I would ever wind up alone and ths lonely. In fact. I worked HARD at preventing that Very Thing! I do apologize to God for putting my husband before Him. Put I was to naïve to know better. I just want my Love of my life back. I can handle many things but not this. I need my husband’s live. His respect. His caring… Praying is good. But the loneliness is terrible

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     1. My situation is almost the same except its my wife of 38 yrs left due to my selfishness. I s ince have repented and realized that God is the only way. Ive ask repeatedly for forgiveness from my wife, nothing yet but i know God is working things out. But at times i get all depressed and wonder how much longer before God moves her back in my life. I love her more than maybe i should, i do my best to put God first but its so hard and lonesome. I will never give up, but i cant take this much longer, shes been gone 18 long months, i cry everyday, i cant think, and have no close friends to go to. I just have God, i know He has a plan, but He moves slow sometimes and this gives the devil a playground in my mind. All i know is God is on my side.

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262. We’ve been together for over 20 years married for what woulda been 15 years when I found out that he was having an affair with someone younger prettier and of course our boss for some time now! I had this gut wrenching feeling that something was up and low and behold it was true. I caught them they denied everything but it all came crashing down. I was devastated and still am! It’s been a year of praying battling for our mates but he continues to keep her closer than his wife. I found out that he bought her flowers for valentine’s and I got nothing. We have 4 beautiful boys and he was my high school sweetheart. He’s all that I’ve known more than half my lifetime and I did all that I could do as a wife and mother of his children. I never left his side when things got rough and he was at his lowest point of his life with his own demons and struggles. I did what every wife could do and stick by his side and I got blind sided by another. I broke down and asked myself why I even tried to take my own life for this man! He doesn’t know my worth up until this day. Over a year has passed answer and I’m still trying. I just live my life for my boys and still make it a point to try and not to disappoint him in any way but it’s just not enough I ask myself each day what am I not good enough for you! What am I missing?. I pray each day read books on marriage but I think he should be also at the mercy of God as I am. Please pray for our marriage! I am weak scorn, broken and I’m down on my knees!

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263. I’m not going to lie, this all seems like a joke. My wife left me last year for another man that she met at her work. We are both saved believers. I have had my home taken from me, one of my dogs taken from me, my entire reputation tarnished by lies, and this entire time I have been praying for God to restore my marriage. I have had family members stop talking to me and friends leave me because of a bunch of lies. I am now divorced. It has been over a year since she left and no communication whatsoever. And quite frankly, stories like this really tick me off. I have cried and prayed day and night for my wife to come back. I have read the bible more in this past year searching for gods help in my hurt, and I have went and found every book on prayer I can find and tried to implement them into my life and still no progress on my wife coming home.

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     1. It will not happen on your time but on Gods time . Pray and leave it to God . Wait patiently for the Lord . Wait . Gods timing is perfect . He uses are time of waiting to draw us closer to Him . To get to the place where He and only He is first in your life . He loves you and will give you your hearts desire . In the time of waiting ask God to show you areas you need to change and or improve in .

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     2. Christopher i am so sorry for your loss and pain. I am very familiar with you desperation to have you wife home. What I have found in my 29 years married, 7 years stand and 2 years divorced is that God’s timing is not our timing and that it was time for me to work on my spiritual growth. I am so thankful for that time with The Lord. Standing is about you and your spouse retuning to Christ and his righteous. Hang in there my brother it will all work out for your good. Praying for a supernatural healing and restoration.

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     3. Keep praying. Satan is a liar. The bigger the struggle, the bigger the testimony. Remember Job’s struggles. Praying for you. God IS faithful.

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264. I read the testimony above last week because at that point my husband and I were separated. It was not a mutual decision. I was away for a couple months for work, I came home and he said he was staying with a friend because he didn’t miss me anymore, I was gone too long and that we would have to ease into things in baby steps. I gave him all the space he needed ad he still pulled more and more away over a 3 week period. Every day since I read this article, I followed everything Crystal did. Finally on 4/13/19, just 3 days ago, my husband sent me an EMAIL of all things, telling me had made the decision to end our marriage with no explanation other than we had grown too far apart. I’m sure you can imagine the devastation! Even in the face of that, something told me to keep praying. I went to church the afternoon, I was sobbing during Mass because I could not help it. I was brought to my knees! Anyway, I still decided to plead the Blood of Jesus over this and I told God that I still believe He wants to save our marriage, I will settle in and wait for God’s time and ultimately I surrender to His will. Well, that night I slept at a friend’s house. I woke up at in the middle of the night and asked God if I should still keep praying. I looked at my phone which has a picture of Jesus on it, and I saw that it was 3:33am. That number to me is a sign of the Holy Trinity, so I sat up and began to pray. fifteen minutes later, I get a text from Husband saying “You Awake?” He asked ion he could come over to talk!!! I said yes. I got in my car and drove home. When he arrived, he sat down and confessed to me that he had been having an affair with a friend of ours. It was all sex and alcohol based and she also played on the fact she knew we’ve not been able to have a child so far. They got an apartment together 2 weeks before I had returned home from my job overseas. There were SO MANY LIES involved! I was DEVASTATED. She left her husband for my husband. She’s been married twice and it turns out that she stole both of her husbands from their wives and now she was trying to steal mine!! Anyway, he told me that he woke up suddenly at 3:33am (the same time as me!!), he was suddenly terrified at the reality of losing me, he prayed for guidance and then he remembered he still hadn’t read the final letter I gave him. After he read the letter is when he texted me asking if I meant everything I had written. I said yes, and then he asked if he could come over. He was home by 5am on 4/14/19! This was truly a MIRACLE!! One of the many promises I made to God was that I would share my story once he restored my marriage. We have a lot of healing to do, but God is with us and our 20 year relationship is worth more than this disgusting affair.

     When I tell you that this has been the battle of my life, I am not exaggerating. There were times like I felt I was doing battle with Satan himself. (and maybe I was because when I told my husband that he seems like he’s out from under a spell, he said “Wow, every time she and I argued, she’d say “Shh – Don’t break the spell”) I prayed like a warrior and I plead the Blood of Jesus everyday since I read about it, ad I followed the steps that Crystal took, and I am here testifying that God is great! God is real, God answers prayers God is with us and THE BLOOD OF JESUS IS POWERFUL! Amen and thank you for this site and Crystal’s testimony.

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     1. God is good!!! I am going through the same thing. My husband has been out the house for a year now staying with this woman he works with. I’ve been constantly praying too. I finally told him yesterday that I was going to move on with my life and move out of the house we rented. I really don’t know why these married men go stay with these women and act like they never was married. This woman knows he’s married but she still carries on with him. We’ve been married for 19 years and together for 27 years. I would rather try to work my marriage. God knows I’ve tried so I don’t know what else to do. It’s not easy at all.

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     2. UPDATE: My situation was worse than I could have imagined! The devil was really hard at work! After endless conversations, doctor’s and therapy appointments, it turned out that this woman is a narcissistic sociopath! She had been drugging my husband (in the drinks she would serve him or food she would bring over) to start and continue the affair. She had complete control over him, had him isolated from all family and friends and he was living in a zombie-like state. She kept announcing that HER husband (who is wealthy) was going to die soon (professional opinion is that she was trying to set that up) and every time my husband said he wanted to go back to me, she would threaten to harm me. It even appears that she tampered with our car after my husband came home. We were very lucky not to get into a very serious accident! Anyway, this has been quite the traumatic experience. When I said before that I felt like I was in spiritual warfare, I had no idea how true that really was. I am SO GRATEFUL for this website and for Crystal’s story which inspired me and gave me the guidelines on how to plead the Blood of Jesus. The day after my husband came home, he said it was like he had been rescued from a nightmare that he couldn’t get out of, and each day that passed, his mind became clearer and clearer and he is absolutely mortified by his actions during that time. He is taking responsibility for his actions and we are keeping close to God. We have been going to therapy and went on an amazing Christian marriage retreat, all of which have helped immensely. We still have a lot of healing to do, but with God’s help and continuing to plead the Blood of Jesus, we will have a stronger marriage and faith than ever before.

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265. I don’t know if this comment section is still going. I need everyone that comes here for testimonials and support to just pray for my husband Tony. He’s been gone 28 years and we’ve been talking now 7 months. That’s all I have to say for now. God is working it out!

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266. This spoke to me. With out going into detail I hurt my partner. I did not cheat but I did lie and do something to hurt him. He said he is not in love with me anymore but I know that it’s a lie and he is just hurt. I have been literally in bed calling out of work for 2 weeks . He finally started talking to me here and there and more and more through out the past couple days. I know he is hurt I can tell, I know him better than anybody has ever known him, besides God. I just really really needed this today and it made me break down in tears, it gives me hope.

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267. My name is Phil, we would have been married 22 years in July. Last November my beautiful wife took our 16yr old and 9 yr old son and moved out and we are now divorced. I have made mistakes in the past and allowed my anger to say and do things that was not respectful. My wife had cancer and survived, major back surgery, our last son was born at 1.9 pounds and survived. God has been with us. I pray many times in the night and night that God may soften her heart and help us to find the love for one another we once had. I love her and those boys more than anything. Please pray for us.Thank you.

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268. My husband and I are from different countries, and we got married last June before he went to Australia to study (he is 38 and I’m 34). I quit my job and followed him there, but we had to go back to his native country at the start of this year due to his father’s health. It was difficult living with his mother as he has always taken care of them and are very dependent on him, which I don’t mind but he doesn’t know where to draw the line between myself (his wife) and his mother. She refuses to let me help within the house and puts me in a bad light in front of my husband.

     Aside from those, my husband’s stress has been escalating since — worrying about my pass to stay in his country (I couldn’t work without a work permit so I didn’t know how else to help him), renting because they already sold their house, starting a new demanding job, not being able to buy a house yet as he just started working, his father’s worsening dementia. It seemed like he was doing it all alone, and one night over an argument on helping around the house, he zoomed in on my small legs and it was all a blur but just because I mentioned polio of my father when he was little (which was a threat but he didn’t have it), he accused me of lying to him all along and was so angry.

     I decided that I needed to go home to my country first as I was staying illegally in the home they were renting, he was worried with the finances and I had to find a way to get checked so I can prove to him that I didn’t have polio or any of the other diseases he suspects. When I got back home last March, we were still talking on the phone and sending texts, but after a heated argument over the phone, he stopped altogether. He was very cold and in fear of him abandoning me, I started telling him that I’ll make plans aside from going back to where he is so we can start a life elsewhere and since the application for my longterm pass seemed impossible. He was angry and wouldn’t talk to me, and I got angry too and we exchanged some hurtful words, which I deeply regret.

     I continued texting him, to which he was very cold but still replied with sentence or two. He said he needed time and space to sort out his life. A week ago miraculously, my pass was approved and I paid for it immediately thinking he would welcome the idea of me coming over so I can work and help him, but he got angry again that I went ahead without asking him and said he didn’t want me there for now, didnt want to see me for now, that he doesn’t trust me or anyone, doesn’t want mine or anyone’s help, doesn’t feel anything anymore, he’s in danger of losing his job but didn’t want to tell me anything else.

     I asked him what he meant because to actually stop this pass for us to be together seemed like a major decision. I asked if he wanted a divorce or annulment, and he said “if that’s what you want,go ahead. I can’t answer any of your other questions right now”.

     Needless to say i’m at a loss. I’ve been crying out to the Lord every day and night and I’ve asked my Mom to pray for me. I also pray for his mother to become a good influence as he doesn’t talk to anyone anymore but her (he doesn’t talk with his siblings either and has withdrawn from friends since returning). Can anyone please help me in prayer, and if you have any insights as to what i should do? Everyone except my Mom and my best friend is saying that I should just forget about him and move on by myself, but I know in my heart he is just hurt and very problematic and I was not blameless either. Please, please, if anyone can give me some Godly advice I would be so grateful. It feels like I’m drowning everyday and only God is keeping me afloat through people who care about me. Thank you!

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269. My heart pains from reading these stories and my prayer for everyone who’s going through the pains of loosing a loved one is; may your faith not fail. God knows and sees everything but remember this my brothers and sisters not everyone of you are in God ordained marraiges some of you might be unequally yoked. This is why I strongly encourage what the author of this testimony did which is to join forces with someone who has a prophetic gift to find out what is God’s perspective on your situation….God wants to speak to us and guide us but it’s a journey and I pray that you all come out stronger than you were.
     God bless you all.

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270. Me and my wife are married since 1995. We had good and bad times together, but always pulled through. That all changed in December 2018 when I found out my wife had a affair with another man. Confronting her, we talk it out and I decide to forgive her. But since then, nothing want to work out. In February she told me she do not want to go on with our marriage, as she never loved me the way she should. It was devastating to me. We never got separated though, and I start praying everyday to God to fix my marriage and give my wife back to me I so much love. It went ok for a while, but everytime we going through a bad experience or something bad happen to us, we are back at talking about seperating. Till today we did not separated yet, and I continue showing my love to her at the best of my ability, helping her, trying to won back her love. I pray every day, sometimes 3-5 times a day to God to give me back my wife and to save our marriage. I will continue praying till she leave me and it is the end. I know God gave us Free Will, and will not force her to love me as I love her, but I still believe he can do miracles too. He can wake up the dead, let the blind see, let the paralyzed walk, so I still believe he can let her love grow for me and can fix things. Please Keep on praying if you are in the same situation, and include me in your prayers too.

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271. My name is Devin and my wife took both our daughters and left me and has already began to be with someone else rather quickly. When this happened i started doing all the things Crystal did by seeking god and praying that he bring her back. I claim my marriage my wife my children my home back in the name and blood of Jesus. This gives me hope that God does restore and that with God even the impossible is possible. I am praying for my wife and having this faith with God! Amen and thank you Crystal for the testimony.

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     1. God has already answered your prayer. stay faithful do not give up and keep pleading the blood over your marriage. your wife will return in Jesus mighty name! God bless you and your family 10 folds.

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     2. In Jesus Name I pray that she gets touched deeply in her heart and reconsider her decision. I pray that she returns home and have a blessed family… In Jesus Name, Amen

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272. Good evening my name is Claude, thank you Crystal for sharing your testimony with us, my wife has also left me along with my two sons, she’s had an affair with someone soon after we were divorced and im constantly praying that she returns its truely an unforgiving feeling to be heartbroken in this way, i pray that the holy spirit guides her back to me someday, ive put all my faith in God thank you.

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273. I read this when my husband left me and said the same things her husband said to her. I read this stuck by it in Nov 2015 to May 2016 and believed and put faith into my prayers. I cried each day. Those few months felt like years. And one day just like that. He restored my marriage. In March on 2016 I tried to end my life. The pain was unbearable and I just wanted the hurt to go away. I struggled daily. I always reached out for others to pray for me. When all along I had it in me to change my life around. I wanted God to just make it better in a hurry without examining my self and taking note where I went wrong. One day in the behavioral facility I was transferred to, I looked outside and heard Gods voice say “ Let me show you what I can do”…. I had peace that day and I was able to go home after 4 days after being hospitalized. It didn’t happen in a matter of days. It happened May 31st my whole life got twisted upside down. You see I prayed for circumstances to occur in my spouses life and to bring him to his knees. I prayed it a lot not knowing exactly what it would entail. My husband was sent to jail for a horrendous crime and in 1 week exactly. My husband changed his life around. He went from a heart of stone to a heart of flesh. I saw him cry for the first time in years. He didn’t look dark anymore. I could see the light in him again. Within that one week he read the Bible prayed like he never did before. You see God hears our prayers. He examines our heart. He gives us only what we can handle. In 1 week the DEA dropped his case. Which rarely ever happens. The person who filed charges against him confessed it was a lie and they released him before his attorney knew. No one will ever convince me it wasn’t Gods hand that moved in his circumstance. He came out the man God Intended him to be. It’s been two years since that awful but bless full day In our lives. I thank God it happened just as he intended it to. My Husband is a God fearing man and we have a new profound love that only Jesus gifted us. I’ve been with this man for close to 20 years. We are so in love we attend church together and the love I have for him is so pure. I give God all the honor and Glory for restoring myself my husband and marriage. Don’t give up. When things get hard know that God moves mountains. I knew he would do something in our lives I just didn’t want to wait and wanted to fix it myself and that got me nowhere. Have faith and trust God. He works it all together for his good. I hope this gives someone hope not to give up. Things can be restored. Thank you Crystal for your testimony that gave me hope….

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274. I can relate with Crystal’s story on so many levels. My husband and I are both born again and we got married in our early 20’s. Ever since we got married, we have always fought about the interference of his family in our marriage. He did all he could to try get the family to understand that we need space to grow our own little family but they never respected that decision. The bible says therefore a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife and the two shall be one. His family never fully released him to me and I also feel he never fully left too. On the 1st of May 2019, I discovered a very disturbing conversation between my husband and my mother in law. He had been asking that she tries to accommodate me but my Mom-in-law told him that she will try but I must know my place and that I can never come in between them. She even advised that my family is spiteful and unappreciative and that he should stay away from them. After expressing to my husband how seeing those messages made me feel. He responded by saying, we have always fought about this one issue and that he doesn’t see a future with someone who doesn’t like his family. He also said we argue a lot and that our relationship had become unfulfilling for him. And just like that, while I was at work he took all his belongings and went to stay with his parents. He never called or texted me. His family also refused to see my family to talk through our differences. His friend advised that I move on as he no longer wants me. 4 weeks after he left he sent me a settlement agreement. I have not signed it yet as it doesn’t have a deadline, I’m taking this time to seek God’s face concerning my issue. He led a group of young people at church and was also a musical director, his own purpose has been put on hold ever since he made his decision. Its now almost 2 months since he left. The sad thing is we are not fighting about our own issues but external factors. I still believe in God’s ability to turn things around. I know that WITH HIM, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE.

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     1. Hugs dear. Praying with you to testify. I have a similar case thats involving his cousin brothers being bad influence in our relationship.It hurts but we look unto the mountains thats where our hope come from

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        1. This testimony not only gave me the faith to keep fighting for my marriage but that God has a plan for it. If this doesn’t encourage someone to keep fighting for their marriage i don’t know what will. God can restore even the brokest situation. Pray for CJ and Heaven

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275. Same here.. My Ex and I broke up 2 years ago, she left with my 3 children. We co parent and do things together but still she wants no part of getting back together. Plus I found out she has a guy friend that might be getting serious. I still love her with all my heart, and pray daily for them to come back home. I still have faith God is going to restore my family even though she’s lost in her ways. Please Father take the sword that the enemy placed in my family, and fill it with ur Holy Spirit. With God anything’s possible in Jesus name Amen.

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276. Thank you Crystal and all of your comments.Iam hurting so much,my husband not only Left me.but fatherd a child just after I miscarried.and things were never the same we argued a lot,he also has a sec and drug addiction.i didn’t know how to forgive him .my pain was so great and still is.i was so angry,that I said so many things .but then I realized how much he meant to me so I tried to let it go my husband won’t even let me meet,the child.i have cried and am still praying that God will restore. Our marriage he has other grown children and family members who interfere didn’t know whathat to pray anymore.if you are strong in the Lord please help me to pray I’m so tired.

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277. Thank you Crystal. I read your testimony with a Fresh wound and tears no one can ever understand.
     I introduced my fiance in a colorful function last year 24.11.2018. This is a man I love. This is the man i did everything I could do for a companion for. He cheated, I forgave.
     I am prayerful but honestly I feel worthless, I don’t even onow if my tears are being seen. Crystal if I could measure the amount of my tears, I swear to God I must have already cried 200 Liters of tears between February 2019 and today 30.06.2019.I loved my husband, and I still do that’s what hurts me most! God!

     After starting our traditional marriage journey, he even suggested dates for our formal wedding as 10.08.2019 which I don’t really know will ever come.
     On the 07.02.2019 I got a miscarriage and lost a 4 week preg. All was well till that day, he never showed up at hospital, I was discharged went back home and 4 days after he came to my apartment and all was well…. Though he arrived in the night about 9pm and left after a day (We always lived 4 hours apart because of work) and were planning to start living fully together after our wedding.

     Hardly a week, I called him, only to tell me, the relationship cannot work. Does anyone know what this mean? You’ve lost a pregnancy and even before you heal, you’ve lost your marriage…. God in heaven, save me!!!
     I have begged and begged, I’ve prayed and asked God… I didn’t have a good childhood background and I shared my story with him when we had just met…. These are the things he is apparently using against me!!! Crystal… I am hurting… I’ve been accused, I’ve been abused I’ve reached a point in life where I just can be seated and my mind is a billion miles away. My mom and dad weren’t married they separated when I was 6. Today all this is my fault….! My family is the worst according to him…. I have asked myself all sorts of questions if my baby had stayed…. Would he have stayed? I wish I had power to choose who gave birth to me but just like any other person I was born in my family… Why all this came up now… I also don’t know!!! God…I don’t want to have a broken marriage… I just neeeeeeeed you.

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     1. Hi Doreen.

        Never be desperate for a man’s (human’s) attention. You are not to be blamed for the family you came from and God has wonderful plans for you. Listen now and do this: If your husband is fed up with you and wants to leave, let him leave. But remember that you’ll have to be the spiritual leader in your union and put your trust and dependence in God alone. Let your fight not be physical but spiritual; treat him fairly, respect him, do not insult him when he insults you, forgive him, and now work on yourself by seeking the joy, peace, self control, and contentment that comes from relying on The Spirit of God. The Father who loves you will restore you in one way or another through the wisdom of His Spirit. And while I’m finishing – congratulation on your baby! Someday you’ll meet her when you go to be with The Lord, because we Christians never lose even when it appears we’ve lost.

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278. Very powerful story, I read it over and over and hit the floor on my knees. Am going through the same thing. I got 2 books The Love Dare and The Resolution for Men. And she was happy to see me read these. Please keep us in your prayers. David &Kelly

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279. I’m truly thankful for Crystal sharing her testimony. I have been married for 15 years and my husband has left the martial home. He has hardened his heart towards me. We both have have done hurtful things in our marriage towards each other but he blames me for the dismantling of our family. When he left the covenant was removed from our family and the children began to exhibit behaviors that are heart wrenching. I’m praying for God to restore my family holistically. I’m praying that God restores my marriage. I’m praying that God softens my husband heart and change his heart and mind.

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280. I have people tell me that my marriage is far to gone for God to restore. But am just like Crystal here. My wife told me she just didn’t love me anymore. I have read books on how to honor her as Gods child. We are both saved and we’re going to church.She got caught up with the wrong crowd. Am crying out to God to touch her heart and make that call for me to come back home.

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     1. I stand on behalf of David and his wife, in the courtroom of heaven. I present this case to you, Most High Honor, and I stand on their behalf to repent for all of their sins, I repent for things that were said about them from others, I repent for what they’ve said about one another, and I ask that any legal grounds the enemy has on their bloodlines, from Adam to David, and from Adam to David’s wife, to be annulled and washed clean by the blood of Jesus! Thank you Your Honor Most High God for your jurisdiction today! It is done! The enemy has no legal grounds on their lives any longer.

        I ask to take their case into the throneroom of grace and mercy where you remove the veils, scales, and idols off of the eyes of their understanding. Renew their hearts and minds, remove their hearts of stone and give them hearts of flesh. Do whatever is necessary to bring about the conditions for the restoration of their marriage and renewal in their daughtership and sonship in you Father God! Send all the help from your workers, from your angelic canopy, and from your Holy Spirit to surround them, guide them, minister to them, feed them your Word, and bless them. Let your glory shine through in their lives! In Jesus’s name, amen!

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        1. Thank you for this testimony and this prayer. I will “let go and let God” start working in my marriage. Often we forget that the enemy is after the blessing in our families, we forget our fight is not with blood and flesh but with spiritual warfares. This testimony has uplifted my spirit and raised hope within me. My marriage too will be a testimony. God bless our marriages!

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     2. Hello my name is Marlene and I to am fighting to bring my husband back home. My husband left me sept 4th 2018. He says he’s found someone else and doesn’t love me anymore I have an abundance of faith and I will not give up. Next Tuesday he’s coming over to discuss if we can agree on a settlement he still says no way I’m not coming home I have been married to him for 25 years but together for 30. I still believe we are meant to finish this journey of life together I love the lord but he has his doubts so what I’m asking god for is a lot to bring him home and to open his heart up to the lord. Please please if anyone can pray for me I would ever be so grateful. I love him I miss him and I need him home. I’m so sad I just want my husband back. O marriage comes without problems but a marriage is made to last forever. Thank you to all of you and from the bottom of my heart I feel for each and every one of you. God is amazing God is forgiven and most of all God loves us more than we realize..

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281. My husband and I separated in March 2017 because I forced it upon him. I asked him to move out repeatedly, and 2 years later, he finally did. He’s been out of the house since April 2019. God has really worked on my heart since then. Now I’m the one who wants to work it out, but he has moved on. He doesn’t want to try to work things out. He refuses to even go to counseling. He said it’s over. He has a girlfriend now too. They’ve been together since November 2018. They are very much in love. I still think God can heal our hearts and our marriage. Please pray for restoration.

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282. Hi Crystal, Thank you for sharing your story. I found it to be very inspirational…I had been standing for my marriage for Since my husband of 30 years left us 10 months ago. He walked out on us his family for another woman in Oct 2018. I saw him in December for our sons bday and He asked I stay with him saying he was alone the other woman left. I did so it stayed that way a long while but always ending because his phone would go off and he’d pick a argument with me and walk out. Since his departure I found out there was a vehicle accident in our vehicle in 2018 which the driver claimed to be me. My husband wasn’t with her and she didn’t have her license so the our vehicle was impounded and my husband had to take it out. I had to go clear my name at the police department being I don’t drive. Things started coming up little by little and the whole time he’s denying everything. Still I pray the enemy let my husband go because this is not him. The latest things is called to the car insurance company to ask about this woman who claimed to be me in July 2018. They didn’t see any claim filed that year and they themselves threw my husband under the bus stating he had insurance covering a driver he said was his son with a email I didn’t
     recognize. Come to find out the woman is someone he’d been dating and her son whom my son said was his..This whole time since December my husband was claiming to be alone lonely missing his kids and I. The entire time staying with me off and on but he said I wasn’t ready to receive his returning home because I still didn’t feel I could trust him. All a while with he’s this woman and come to find out there 5 more since he’s been gone. In which I’ve spoken to two of them. My praying for my husband and marriage restoration is weakening. I said goodbye to my husband Friday being every time he’s come to stay he’d walk out the door over and over again hurting not only me and breaking my heart but his kids as well…We love him with all our hearts I especially and I know this is not him anymore. I don’t know what transpired for him to become we no longer know. All I know Is I want the enemy to let go of my husband. I want his heart of stone to be replaced with a heart of flesh, remembering our life together of 30. God didn’t put us together and keep us together for my husband to just walk away, I don’t think. Bad part is I have no family just my boys and I. I have no,prayer warriors to pray with me. No cabling no parents I’m a one person Army praying every night for thorn bushes to embrace my husband and make him feel some sort of conviction for what he’s choosing to do against his family..I’ve run out of options any advice or prayers anyone. I want my husband back and my family put back together….

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     1. Elizabeth,
        Your story broke my heart. I honor and respect all that you are doing to restore your marriage. I can’t criticize that because I also believe that with God, all things are possible. And I know that He can convict hearts and I stand with you in prayer and plead the blood of Jesus over this entire situation.

        My heart also hurts for you in a similar way, but not exact. The issues in my marriage deal with cycles or repetitiveness–getting back together, but issues never get resolved the right way and then down the road, the negative cycle repeats–because it wasn’t resolved correctly when first reconciled. So the cycle showed a lack of commitment and lack of unity, so negative things happened again. This is not your story but what I am trying to communicate is you have value–you are very valuable to God. And God doesn’t want the second best or the third-best for you, He wants the very best. And although I understand your desire, and the desire to keep the bonds of marriage, God can definitely work in our lives, but it takes two people 100% willing to change together to move forward to repair past damage and allow true repentance and forgiveness to take place. God is not a puppeteer and cannot force your husband; he has to be able to see all of this himself and make the choice. As humans, we can either follow our conscience and do what’s right so God can move in our lives, but we also have the freedom to ignore Him, which then there are the repercussions from the decisions we make. You can’t control him, you can only do what you are doing and pray pray pray. But in these prayers, I hope you know that you deserve the very best and don’t deserve someone who has not completely turned away from sin, because if they come back prematurely and are not new creatures in Christ, then the chances could be that they can fall into the pattern again, and then your life will be part of a pattern, of a man you cannot trust. I’m not trying to be negative, so I ask right now in the name of Jesus for God to work a miracle in your life, that your life will be transformed to be the best you can be for you and your children, regardless of what happens.

        I pray for peace for you as you go through this journey.

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     2. Elizabeth,
        Staying marriage for 30 years is remarkable. Take my advice: Put God first, not your husband; respect him (your husband) and treat him fairly. Make allowances for his faults and forgive him. If he wants to leave, let him leave. He’ll return to you down the line because nothing good will end up good for him, and he’ll realize and be greatly sorry for the bad decisions he’s made.

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283. We have been together for 18 years and a half, this is the 3rd separation
     , he left me last year and came back this year in March and now he decided to separate again, first it was because we can’t have kids and now because he doesn’t love me and he doesn’t trust me, he thinks I’m always looking at guys and makes up stories of how he caught me looking, in the past he has cheated on me so many times, has a daughter with he’s ex and I still forgave him. I have pray so much and ask God to please make him stop thinking like that, I have never cheated on him or done anything bad, I’ve been a good wife and God is a witness but my husband does not believe in me, he said for me to be a women and admit what I have done. I ask for everyone’s prayers again pleaseeeeeeee, I do not know what else to do, I feel like I’m loosing this battle after so many years, I have been trying to safe my marriage since the beginning and it is always something, the enemy is trying to brake what God put together. I pray every day, I cry every day, I ask God for a sign, I ask for strength. Thank you for your prayers and any advice that anyone can give me will be ready appreciated. God bless

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     1. wow…I just saw this. I too am broken hearted that my wife is asking for a divorce. We love each other, but she says that there is “too much water under the bridge.”

        I know that with God there is no such thing as too much water…He can fix anything.

        I shall continue reading these posts and praying for each and every one of you.

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284. I am also excited to share my story here soon in God’s perfect time. I am presently facing struggles in my marriage. My husband left me and my daughter for 2months already he told me he wants to be single again without a wife to interfere on his decision. I am thinking that he has an affair with whom I don’t know but I don’t have a proof since he refused to tell me. He sometimes sent message to me asking about my daughter. I am really challenge and inspires with Crystal’s story I always read this now and then because it will remind me that God can restore marriage because nothing is impossible with God.
     Always Praying for God’s right time to restore my marriage.

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285. I was married at 18 to my wife, she left me shortly before I turned 20, and it has now been over a year since she left. She is now dating another man, and she won’t even speak to me. We go to the same church’s and she speaks to everyone but me. The pain is crippling, especially because I want to be a Pastor and I cannot do that If i have been divorced and remarried. I need a miracle, i need God to bring her back, but I’m afraid she won’t respond to God’s efforts. I’m still only 20, I can’t imagine staying single my whole life. I have massive dreams and visions of a big wonderful Godly family, going all out serving the Lord. Please pray for me. My name is Josh. My wife who left is Angelica. This is my one shot at everything, the odds are against me, I’m a massive underdog, but I know anything is possible with God.

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     1. My Brother. Josh

        I feel your pain believe me you are not alone. I got married at 19 years and my wife Nirmalla was 16 years old the best things that ever happen to me.
        I am in a similar situation with my loving wife Nirmala after 30 wonderful years. We had our ups and down but it has been 3 months as this glorious women is my high school sweetheart Nirmalla. I put her through a fare share of pain but never cheated on her except by adultery in the heart of lust.
        We have 3 wonderful children and i love my wife like no other women on earth as we were made for each other i know. I know God will touch her heart to forgive me as there are witchcraft involve with our marriage as well, after much of excruciating pain i don’t gave up and don’t intent to God is in control as we keep going before God broken dsily by prayer and fasting. I can see progress already of soften of heart as satan plan are been crushed by the power of Jesus our Lord and Saviour.

        For you my brother.
        What i am trying to say my brother is put your heart in the hands of Jesus and believe me he would not let you down.is after much of excruciating pain i am sure you are going through i would encourage to get some elders involved and deliverance pastor and believe me you would see God Amazing power.
        Remember you are agreeing with God as he is strongly against marriage so please my brother don’t gave up i will keep you in my Prayer and get my elders as well and watch God restore your marriage like new if he hasn’t done so already /
        One things i can say is never have a drop of doubt in your mind as God is in control also NEVER be afraid as the enemy works on that however it would only delay it as God is in charge,
        I prayer a hedge of protection around your marriage and cover it with the Precious blood of Jesus. I bind and cast out every evil works of the enemy to die now in Jesus Name against your marriage with Angelica and Josh and i sent my word right now that the holy spirit will soften her heart and return to you as brand new through the renewing and falling in love with you all over again and cleansing through the precious blood of Jesus . Amen. All will be well in Jesus name. Please just agree with my prayer as it makes a huge difference according to scripture.

        God is in control my brother .
        Barry

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     2. Josh

        You need to let her go. If it bothers you then it’s time you find a new church home. God can heal you and even find you another wife. Trust me. She doesn’t seem to be God worthy if she is in the church talking to everyone except you and you both are adults. You seem to not be upset and obviously she must be. I would find me another church home and heal me. Later on, ask God for a new wife and carry out your dream. You don’t need her to carry out your dream. I’m sure you are a spectacular guy and there is another woman out here waiting to seek you. She may even make you happy than Angelica ever did. I will pray for you and please keep your head up to God. But seek healing for yourself and pray for the wife that God needs you to have.

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        1. I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, but your advice is very unbiblical. The Bible is clear that it is a sin to get remarried unless the other spouse dies, and the qualifications of a bishop is that you are the husband of one wife, not two wives. Again, I appreciate you taking the time to respond, but I’d encourage you to use the Bible as your final authority. It would certainly be easier for me to move on and find someone else to heal the wound, but that would not be right.

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286. It’s encouraging to read Crystal’s testimony and I am sure very soon it will be mine. My husband left me on 18July, 2019 after an argument. Things hadn’t been going well for sometime and I knew of the affairs he was having but didn’t mind them much till they started affecting my home. He was so defensive and angry with me that he had to leave around 1am. I pleaded with him and apologized but he couldn’t listen. Ever since I have tried to get him back through my family for he insisted on not telling his family. He always says he hasn’t left me but he needs time alone. Meanwhile I have fasted and prayed for my marriage and at least now he responds to my messages when he wants to, he “blue ticks” me on whatsapp. I called him today to say I miss him and he just did he is around and cut me off. I have tried to go to his place wit people to intervene and he kwa ya says he has to find someone to talk to us before we get back together but he isn’t doing anything towards that. I haven’t given up on us and the situation has made me grow spiritually and I am trusting God to restore my marriage and it will be restored like the way God restored everything for Job in the Bible

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287. Recently after insiting on my husband about if he is having an affair, he admitted. He even stated that she is much younger, he is much happier with her, more compatible in all areas of life. That was a shock for me. When family tried to reach out he was brutal. He asked me not to contact him ans to start proceeding with divorce and seperation because he is in love with her. I pleaded, cried, prayed, others are praying but his heart is hardened. I dont want to give up but how can I know that this marriage is over because he is refusing and in so much love with the other woman? Please.pray..i love him so much

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     1. Don’t give up on your marriage! It may look impossible but with God all things are possible! Pray daily like Crystal did in the article above. Use her testimony to inspire you to fight for your marriage through prayer! Ask God for wisdom and courage. May the Lord bless you

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     2. In my opinion, since he wants a divorce. I say give it to him. But in this mist of this divorce ask God to send you someone not like him. Instead of cheating. Just be adult and say that this is over. Wasting each other time when someone may be out there thinking you are their soulmate. You will never know holding on to someone who seems to not care about your feelings. If you love him so much then ask God to heal you and let him be happy with whoever. God will send you someone that is for you. Obviously, he isn’t for you. I would ask God for healing and if he decides to come back. You as the wife that he has disappointed should lay down some boundaries that is if you love him and willing to forgive his behavior. Lord knows your heart and knows what you need and God will be on time. I will pray for you and I hope this is helpful.

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288. My wife and I have been together just over 2 years. Married for a little less than that.

     As of two days ago she said she wanted to move out and has been gone since. The marriage has been hard she has had 1 affair already a DUI and I’m quite sure she is seeing someone else.

     I was not a perfect husband as I had walked away from the Lord after a long series of heartbreaks and destroyed dreams. Dreams I had trusted to God. Marriage has a way of bringing you back to the Lord.

     We both hurt each other and my own harsh words and my issues I know hurt her greatly. I was absolutely ready to leave the marriage but through an old bible study teacher the Lord has led me to pray Hosea 2 over her and I have asked many other to pray as well.

     I am on my knees daily, hourly if possible praying for reconciliation and restoration of this marriage. That is the place the Lord has bought me too. I do not know what will happen or what the Lord’s timing is but I know it is his will to restore our marriage.

     Lord, I thank you for the testimony of those on here. I pray and agree with all of the ones on here asking for you to restore marriages. Lord marriage is a convent before you and I ask you honor the covenant those and myself made here before you.

     Destroy the plans of satan and his demons. Restore hearts and minds towards you. Lord if any marriage on here was not built on you restore it too a place built on YOU! Lord I plead your blood over all of us on this page. Jesus please restore my marriage. Please hedge up the path my wife and the path of others husbands and wives who are fleeing and straying.

     JESUS give us the love YOU have for our spouses may it flow from us, from strangers and from everywhere our spouses walk. Restore every marriage that is being placed in your hands. Do your work the way only you can do in the supernatural and the natural. Give us all hope and help us cling to you Jesus and your word when doubts and lies come in from the enemy.

     Amen.

     Love you all!

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289. Hello, my name is Michael. Recently I found out my wife of almost 10 yrs had an affair during a previous separation. Needless to say my world has been crushed. We met in 7th grade, and I have loved her my entire life. Our lives took different paths but 27 yrs later we were reunited and married. My life without her seems incomplete and the pain is indescribable. She is currently not living at home, and it seems daily she becomes more and more distant and cold. It’s as though something has a hold of her heart and mind. I pray relentlessly, and much like Crystal, I refuse to give up. It is difficult to stay focused, and the doubt keeps clouding my mind. I pray for all of you who are in this situation, and I ask for your prayers as well. Though I have not seen my prayers answered yet, I have faith that God will soon show me.

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     1. Hang in there Michael, I left my husband at one point in our marriage. I was as cold as ice and as distant far as possible. However, he was the pray warrior and God answered his prayers. I came back and we are stronger and in a much better place now. Do not give up on your wife, hang in there and God will come true. He always does.

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     2. Michael I can totally relate to trying to stay focused and not letting doubt slip in. It is hard, but I have to keep telling myself that my GOD is bigger than all of this and he can fix anything and he will in his perfect timing. I will pray for you Michael and your wife and that GOD will soften your wife’s heart and bring her back home to you. Don’t give up Michael. Keep seeking and praying to the Lord.

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290. Hey, my name is Ashley. Thank you so much Crystal for sharing your story. My husband just left me a week ago. We have been married 1 1/2 years. Before we got married we dated for about 6 years with several break ups in between, because the first sign of any argument or trouble, he would leave. I never left him, he would always leave me and of course-go run home to his mama. We are in our late 30’s. He has a child and I have 2 and it has been hard trying to blend our family.The last time we split before marriage was for about 10 months, I was slowly getting over our split, then he reached out to me again and was hoping we could try again. I told him our relationship would never work, unless GOD was in the center of it. I invited him to this new church I had been going to for over a year and that was the day He gave his life to Christ. I really believed it was real, I had never seen him that way. The Holy Spirit was moving that day. He had been to church with me in the past, but this was different. That was on June 25, 2017. He asked me to marry him Oct 16, 2017 and we were married June 9, 2018. Life was good, my husband was a saved Christian man. A couple months into our marriage, we found out some devastating news about his son that no father wants to hear. Every since that blow, our marriage has never been the same. Months after finding out that, he slowly started slipping away from God and we would argue alot. He blamed me for falling off the wagon with God. I know I have not been setting a good example as a Christian wife and have been beating myself up over it. I love him so much. The time we were broken up for 10 months, I stopped praying for God to put us together, only to save his soul…. And when he came back and I witnessed God save him, I felt like everything was lining up and that was what God wanted for us. Now he is gone. I take full responsibility for my part, he said he would never leave me again and that now that we had GOD we could get through anything. And he has turned his back on GOD. I feel like I am rambling, and Im so sorry. I just need some peace with this. I do not want to be another statistic. This is both of ours 1st marriage. I wanted it to be forever. I know GOD hates divorce and I want so hard to keep fighting for my marriage but he refuses to talk to me and he made sure he came and got all his stuff when I wasnt home so he didnt have to see me. I am so heartbroken. I work, and am in nursing school and have 2 kids of my own and its just been so hard to keep it together and stay focused. Please pray for me. I will be praying for all you guys too….

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291. Hi,

     Thank you so much for this testimony! It has been an ongoing fight for my marriage. My husband of 3 years left in September and told me he didnt love me anymore and that we weren’t compatible. He told me to get on with my life and that he wanted a divorce. He left me in 2018 for 5 months speaking the same lines of the enemy. My husband also suffers from mental illness he has been diagnosed with depression and ADHD. He told me he is choosing self happiness. But in my heart I know he cant be truly happy. He beleives on Christ but his relationship with the Lord is not what it once was.Im terrified, because she seems so cold. My Father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer which spread to his brain. He has not reached out to me once. For months he has beenisolaying himself. I know this is not my husband. We also had a miscarriage in March…this year has been a trying year. I’m am praying and seeking God every day. My heart has been broken.but I will forgive. I know we’ve had our issues but I have forgiven and he seems to still hold on to things. I’m am standing for my marriage and will continueto have faith in God. HE can do the impossible. Please prayers for my Husband to be released from this bondage and for his relationship be restored with God. Please also pray for reconciliation in my marriage. His name is Pierre. Thank you Father God for this opportunity to grow closer to You and for spiritual growth. In Jesus same AMEN.

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     1. I will be praying for you Ari and your husband Pierre. I know this is so devastating as it is for me too. Satan is wanting to destroy what GOD has put together and that is our families but we must stand our ground and fight the enemy and know that our GOD is walking through this fire with us. GOD does not want our marriages to be over, he hates divorce. We just got to keep the faith that GOD is working on our husbands even when we dont see it. We have to just believe that he is working everything out!

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292. It’s HIS fault that she left me! I won’t pray to Him asking to restore what He allowed to be destroyed against MY will!! And I won’t pray to Him at all until He gives me an answer in why did He allow this to happen! He has always DENIED everything to me my whole life and this was the icing on the cake and I am beyond fed up with this.

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     1. No Louis it is not His fault, we are all given free will and your wife chose to leave. He will not bless her for walking away from her marriage. I know you don’t understand what is happening. I don’t understand why my marriage is broken either, but I have faith and hope that GOD has a plan. Please don’t be angry at HIM, he loves you dearly and when you hurt he is hurting too. I will be praying for you Louis, with GOD all things are possible!! I know and believe that in my heart. He has a plan for you, please don’t give up and give in to Satan’s lies.

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     2. Anger. Bitterness. Frustration. Anxiety. Impatience. Back to anger and rage. Put all of these together, disaster! You won’t be able to see the blessings that this event has brought to you. Awareness of your own demise.

        Im in the same boat. I feel God’s presence during my battle of saving my marriage. Stay and be strong minded the devil loves the weak minded.
        Still struggling

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        1. Hi marero,
           My name is Francesca ,
           My anger, bitterness and anxiety brought dizaster. My husband after 13 years of marriage , left the house and filed for divorce last March/2019.
           We never talk about divorce and he just was telling me always , how much he is happy with me. We met each other by chance. The last 4 years,I was loosing my patient so easy and find something stupid , argue with him.
           He told me , he moved on . All happend suddenly . He likes to drink every day , and his family did not like me , because I fight back with them.
           My husband was and is a lot under influence of them and couple friends.
           All together pushed my husband to make the divorce decision.
           I lost my faith in God and myself. I tried to talk , to him , he does not want talk or see me. Before that , we have never been far from each other more than few days. Now we have not seen each other for 10 month.
           I have 2 good ministers pray with me and my sister every night for my marriage restoration and healing .
           My marriage is dead . My sister tells me, lazarene was dead too and Jesus brought him back to life.
           I tell her my marriage stink and smell bad. She tells me, Lazarrene smelled so bad after being dead for few days. I tell her , I do not see any hope, she tells me, Martha and her sister were hopeless for their brother and Jesus brought him back to life.
           Please pray for all people around this planet having marital problem , dear lord restore their marriage , you are the only can do it .

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293. My husband of six years left me at the end of Oct. 2019. We are a blended family. He left me to care for his elderly mother and to keep his dad’s promise to do so. His dad passed in Feb. 2019. He said that he “lost” himself when his dad died. He wasn’t ready for Dad to die. My husband doesn’t know who he is anymore. So much so that he can no longer be a husband. Many responsibilities fall on him to handle in being a son and grandpa. He just wants my friendship, not a wife. In fact, he turned to excessive alcohol abuse when he was with me after his dad’s death.

     Now, he doesn’t have any feelings for me and he needs to find himself.

     He turned away from God three years ago.
     I am a strong believer. Now, unfortunately, I feel so spiritually weak.

     I am comforted to read that I am not alone!

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     1. It is not your fault first off. In this situation, he is hurt and probably not ready to be a caregiver to his mother and keep his father’s wish. But as a wife, you should turn to God and be prayerful. You can go to help him with mom. She is your mother in law and try to have the sympathy for the situation and to just be there for him. Don’t get in his way. Just pray as ask God to lead him back to you and to give you the strength to handle this situation. Remember God put nothing on anyone that they can’t handle. You are not alone and I’m here to tell you. Marriage takes dedication and work. Believe me, I understand. I just got married in July 2019. But it seems like forever. We have been together for 3 years but known each other for 8 years and been married for almost 6 months. I pray daily and ask God for him to always stand with me and heal my spirit. Only because my husband stays going in and out of the hospital. I just stay prayerful because I know God can do everything. God endures all. God bless you and I will pray for you.

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294. My Name is Natasha and on 18/08/2019 I decided to leave my husband. I was fed up with the financial issues we had and I just felt (at the time) that this was the right thing to do. I was working on a farm very far away from home, so he was home with the children most of the time. I asked him for a separation and that I did not love him enough to stay in the marriage anymore.
     Within 2 days of walking out, I receive numerous hate messages from his family and friends that I thought were mine too. They all wrote me off and even my son called me told me what a horrible person I am.
     Before I knew it, I had lost everything and everyone I held dear to me. During the months of working on the farm, I met another person and we immediately clicked. He understood my pain I was going through. My contract ended at the end of October 2019 and because I couldnt go back home, I moved in with this guy and tried to move on with my life.
     I couldnt. I missed my husband so much and my children and my life, so I would start making up excuses to go visit him. I would stay for up to a week, even longer, but he never stayed with me. He always made sure he was away. I spent as much time as I could with my children. I was confused and completely heart broken that I lost my husband due to an impulsive decision I made.
     Finally on the 1st of January 2020 I made the difficult decision of moving back in with my parents. I have no home, no car, no job and my children are very far away from me. I tried reconnecting with my husband again, but he has moved on and has started seeing someone else. All his family and friends have pushed him into divorcing me and moving on with him life.
     I feel like God is a little kid who is playing a sick joke on my life! I know I have made mistakes and I tried to correct them, but by that time everything had spiraled so out of control, and so many people got involved in our marriage. I just didnt know how to fix it.
     Im not a perfect wife by any means, and he was not a perfect husband either. We both had our flaws. but I feel like everyone decided to only look at my flaws and not his.
     I feel completely broken and so alone. My faith in God has been broken! My faith in family and friends who supposedly loved me, has been ruined.
     Please tell me if I should rather just do what everyone is telling me and get a divorce rather. Let my husband go and move on?
     Any advise would be GREATLY appreciated!
     Thank you.

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     1. My Wife filed for divorce on August 2oth 2019, with no reason why. Her Mom, Sisters and her best friend that lost her husband to a heart attack had been telling my wife to divorce me. My wife has done everything possible to ruin my life. I have never abuse her in any way. I am a loving man that has loved his wife trough everything. My wife drinks when under pressure and or when it is offer. I decided to fight the fight. I have sent her letters and she tells me it’s over and to move on. It really hurts.. I cry allot and continue to pray. Do not quit fighting. fight, fight ,fight. God hears your prayers. God will change things i promised. just don’t give up. I’m not. I know God is changing them. Stand firm and pray hard. Don’t allow the devil take what belongs to you. he is flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone, let no man separate what God has join together.

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295. I was married over 10 years. Been divorced for a year now. He is living with the woman who helped destroy our marriage. He tells me that he still thinks about coming home and trying again but afraid the same problems would arise. We have kids together and i still love him with everything in me. I want to make things work and I believe deep down he does too. I don’t know any strong prayer warriors to help me pray over this and to bring my husband home. But I don’t want to give up either. We get along so well and I know we could come back together so much stronger.

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     1. Hi Felisha, i’m in a similar situation as yours. Would you like us to support each other and to pray together against this Satanic force.

        Matthew 18:19
        “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.

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        1. Hi Felisha and Yunice, my name is Jennifer. And my husband (Scott) and I have been divorced for 3.5 years almost but have stayed in contact too. We both still love and care for each other. But he left me for another woman, whom he is not married to but they do have a child and also work together, so he states it is very hard to leave because of his daughter, and he doesnt want to not be able to have a relationship with her or break her heart. I earnestly sought God immediately after our seperation and feel strongly that I have had several experiences and encounters with God that promised me to restore my marriage. I have been believing for that since he left. But sometimes doubt does set in for me as well and I have to keep going to God. Recently, we decided that we would cut off all contact and if it was Gods will, he would bring us back together. I would like to stand in agreement and prayer with yall and have yall stand in agreement with me.

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296. She initiated it so was quite a shock to me. Its a very long story but its one of those marriages that maybe should not have been in the first place. We have had to handle crisis after crisis as in family deaths and i was all she had to cling to. We got married very quickly. Now were here in usa waiting for our asylum answer and no crisis to handle and she decided that we are very, very different people and dont have much in common or shared passions. She had this idea in her mind about what i can become when we married and she married that idea, not me. She grew up in a corporate climb the ladder family, which is fine. I didnt. I am an entrepeneur. But a corporate person sees entrepeneurs as lazy wanna get rich quick ambitionless people. So she was constantly pushing me to move up move up as that her idea of drive and ambition. And she knows and has realized that that idea is something no one can attain. But it hurts, very much. But she is also one that if she makes up her mind its done. And it takes two to tango. I also made a lotta mistakes. I am a very romantic guy but because of previous relationships i got hurt in that area and she unfortunately paid the price. Do i believe God can save it, yes. Do i think she would want to try again, no. And it needs to be from both sides. And the asylum is super important. We applied 3 years ago, had the interview in june last year. But until that comes thru and is positive, we have to stay married otherwise will be revoked. And i stand no chance whatsoever of getting asylum on my own. And i dont have the money to do it anyway. It took everything we had and everything my folks had to come over. We cant let that just go to waste. But we still stay in the same house, work at the same place and same shift. So its hard. We do love one another and she wants us to be friends. Maybe thats for the better. Yesterday was our 10 year anniversary…should i give up? Please pray as i am at a loss as to what to do.

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297. Hi my Ana
     Going through something similar. My husband left 2017. Before my husband left we we’ve going through so much issues alot of conflict between him and I . The first few weeks I was so lost, thought maybe it was for the best and just get a divorce to end everything. As the weeks went by, my heart got heavy, as I turn to God for help and for healing and to tell him what’s been going on in my marriage God showed me something else.
     He showed me that before I come to Him I needed to Pull the log out of my eyes before I wanted to pull the speck out of my husband eyes. From 2017 to 2018 I spent that time working on myself rebuilding my relationship with God and asking Him before He renews my marriage please start with me, by humbling my heart down to be more fruitful as a God fearing women and wife.
     2019 to now God has led me to other women that has been going through something similar to share with them what God has in store for us.
     God comes through situations that we face to show us something different, that through the storms we are not to give up hope we are to trust because His love is stronger then what we are going through.
     I pray for husband everyday and pray for the blood of Jesus over him. I am at peace over what’s going between my husband and I , because I know God’s gotta a plan for our marriage and IN HIS TIME HE WILL lead my husband back home as a God fearing man.
     But as I wait I ask God to use me to touch other souls by leading them to Him. God will make a way to all of us on here that is facing a season right now in our marriages.
     Keep your eyes focus on God’s love, and never stop praying for your spouse even though it’s painful, look up and just tell God, He Hears You, He sees you.
     Much love to yous all xx.

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     1. It’s been 5 months since my husband has turned away from me. We have had extreme problems for the last 4 years. 2 of those were him in a secret affair. I drank to hide the pain an then lashed out at him. I would hold the affair up to him over and over. Finally he was Done. I live in a camper and work close. He lives in our home 2 hours away. I have a job I love with great spiritual support. He says there is always hope. He says he loves me but not in love with me. He says he just wants to be alone. This is KILLING me. I have prayed all the time. I have quit drinking by the grace of God. We have been married for 31 years. When he did come clean about the affair 2 years ago, he wanted to fix everything himself and go to church. That was short lived. He promised counseling but then blew it off. I have since been in counseling. I feel the Lord has told me He would restore the marriage, it just seems to be taking so long that maybe I am wrong. I am so sad and distraught.

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        1. I am actually going through something similar. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He left July 2019 to work away from home. He has been gone ever since. In November 2019 just a week before Thanksgiving he calls me on the phone and says he wants a divorce. I did everything you weren’t supposed to do. I begged, cried, pleaded for him to come home and fix it. He wouldn’t. I went to drinking as well because I wanted to be numb. I said a lot of things that I instantly regretted. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs. We have been in contact with each other and he says he still wants to be friends. Which is very hard for me. He actually came home with divorce papers I’m his hands and wanted me to sign them. I just felt in my heart I wasn’t supposed to sign so I didn’t. That night was the worst night we have ever had because I was drinking a lot. He got sooo frustrated with me that he drove off and left. I was sooo ashamed of myself. The next morning I of course felt like crap and I immediately threw out every ounce of alcohol that was in my house. I promised myself that I would never drink again. I ended up calling my husband the next day and sincerely apologized for everything. I was not proud of myself. He accepted my apology and we have been working on our friendship ever since. I have been fighting for my husband for months asking him if he would talk to a pastor with me or a counselor and he always said no. Last week I prayed all day and I was ready to surrender my marriage and I was going to sign the papers because I have given up. I called my husband and told him that and I believe God told me to ask him one more time. I asked him if he would speak to a pastor with me and he actually said YES!!!! I couldn’t believe. He said don’t get your hopes up but I will open up my heart and clear my mind when the pastor is talking. I have been praying that prayer for months that my husband would open his mind and heart. I am expecting the worst but I am hoping for the best. I have complete faith that God will restore my marriage. God actually spoke to me through someone else. We were praying and holding hands and I remember my hands were shaking and I felt a warm presence. I couldn’t explain it. After we were done praying the lady I was holding hands with came up to me and said I don’t ever come up to people but I really felt God talking to me. He told me to tell you that He hears your cries at midnight when you can’t sleep, he knows that there is a darkness in your husband that God is working on. He knows you aren’t the most patient person but He asks you to trust him and be patient because He will restore your marriage when the time is right. I was balling my eyes out the entire time. She gave me a hug and then disappeared. I couldn’t believe it. I remember that night I left church feeling peace and I got the best sleep that night. All we can do is just surrender our marriage to God which I know is extremely hard to do. I sometimes wander if God is listening to me but He really is. We just need to focus on our relationship with God and ourselves.

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298. My husband of almost 30 years began an affair with an old girlfriend from his high school years. Mere weeks into the affair, he left me. We had a wonderful marriage .. I had no clue there was any problems, and while he says he was unhappy, I don’t think he was – until the day he betrayed his own principles and values and slept with another woman. He began demonstrating behaviours he most despised… that is when he became unhappy. He is now full of shame and remorse, he is in tears, and showing obvious physical and mental sign of stress and distress. I believe in his heart of hearts, he wants to come home, to reclaim his integrity, his marriage and the life we had. But he cannot get past his pride and his shame, and she is like an addiction he cannot walk away from.

     I believe she is evil – truly, that she has succumbed to dark and evil forces, and is now casting her net to draw others in. This is not just me feeling rejected and bitter. She seduced him .. he did not initiate the affair – I know this to be a fact. He willingly began and continued it, there is no doubt of his active participation. But there is something abnormal about the entire thing … being with her is clearly destroying him, physically, mentally and emotionally. He told me many times that he prays every day that he just die in his sleep, he tried to leave but just cannot seem to escape. It is not normal .. I believe the forces of evil are at work.

     While I do believe in God, his kindness and mercy, his power over all … I do not belong to a faith community and have no where else to turn for help.

     Please … help me pray that she lose her power over him and that my husband be released from these evil forces. Help me pray he find himself again and return to living life accord the principles and values he holds so dear,band perhaps one day finding his way back to our marriage.

     I beg of you …. please help me pray for my husband.

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     1. Helping you pray for your husband that God would open He is ours and your marriage be restored. I pray a hedge of protection be around your marriage. I understand your pain as I am facing the same thing. God bless you.

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299. 3 years ago my husband told me he was not happy. That the life we were living , 12 years of marriage, 15 years together and 3 kids..was not for him. I was devastated. And I still am. I found out he was having an emotional affair with his coworkers mother. He was the last person me or anyone would have thought would leave. He was my best friend. He was my life. I pray everyday for his heart and mind to change , and to come home. I pray for this other women to leave his heart and mind. She doesn’t deserve him. I try to keep my faith that he will return. Some days are better then others. He is a good man. We had a good life. A nice family. I prayed what path I should follow and believe filing for a divorce was the right choice. I give it all to God and believe he knows what is best for us. Divorce is a sad thing for the entire family, but I still have faith and sometimes that’s all we can believe in. God loves us. And I will still believe he will come home. Don’t give up and continue to pray and have the faith. I have grown so much and have given up being angry. I have developed a deeper love for him. Stay strong !

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300. Thank you so much for sharing. I am irking on my relationship with. My husband and I have separated a few times. He is dating someone new. Keeps telling me that it’s over and that we will never be a couple again. We are still married and I will not give up on my marriage. I love god and I love my husband with everything I have. Bless you and thank you again for sharing you gave me a little more strength to fight for my marriage that God can do all things if you look to him and give it to him!! Amen

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301. Just keep praying….be happy and present in each moment that God has you in this season. Continue to ask God to heal hurts and closr up any spiritual holes in your life that continue to hold you back in prayer. Ask Hod to bring it to light and heal you. Faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains….imagine that each time we cry out to God he sends a batallion of angelic hosts to fight on your behalf. Ask….believe…and receive my friends. We are children of the Most High God and we all over came the evil one 2000 years ago through Jesus Christ on the Cross. To God be the Glory. AMEN.

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302. My wife left me feb27and I’m in dire need of more prayer warriors. We have had lots of arguing for a while now, and I realize now how much I put other things in front of her. We have a blended family and her son’s dad is not in the picture, he called me dad. I didn’t give him the love or tell him like I should. I fought with the devil and drinking for a few days, but I have since been seeking God to restore this marriage, and give him the handle of this situation. I don’t know if it was before or immediately after, but she has her very first bf that she is back talking to from 19 years ago. She is telling me to leave her alone and that we will never get back together. I know divorce it happens all the time but I can’t accept that this is how it will end. I’m trusting God to restore our marriage and I have prayed nonstop for days now. She still is saying the same thing. God has opened my eyes to how much I should have been better for her, more intimate and caring and kind. I’m not giving up because I love her that much. God loves us more than we can comprehend. . I want God to lead us. Also I should mention her family will promote whatever she says, and be negative towards her saving her marriage even though they are Christian people. Sometimes other Christian people have got to just tell you you are making a mistake. She changed phones so I don’t have her number but she still has me on Facebook. We have years of relationship and pictures on there from our kids and us and family. I would believe if she was really done and wanted this divorce she says she wants she would have blocked me from her life on there. I know the name of the one now that she is messing with. I know I’m all over the place but God has got to have a say in this from what I’ve read on here. I know people still have free will to make decisions but I’m not giving up. I’m already set on not signing any divorce papers if it gets there, which may be soon. I need help to restore our oneness that we vowed to God and each other. Thanks for any prayers and advice

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303. My husband had an affair one month after our marriage. We are both 63, I was divorced 11 years before remarrying as you can imagine I am broken, angry and confused. I have lost my zest for life My anger has become out of control, he says he is sorry but doesn’t really show empathy, remorse and rarely shows comfort . I feel like i am on a roller coaster. One day he says he wants the marriage to work and the next day he wants a divorce. He says he is sorry, but I need to get over it. Please pray for me and us. I am lost, don’t want to leave the house. Cry every day, can’t eat and if I do it is not healthy. He says he doesn’t need professional help and if that is not enough he is an admitted kleptomaniac. He would steal anything small he could. He says he is not stealing now and I want to believe him. I feel like I made a huge mistake but I do love him however, I am not sure he truly loves me. He says he does but I am not feeling it. I am in great need of prayer, peace, love and just a kind voice and heart. We are both educated and have wonderful families but I feel ashamed and have not confided in many family members I pray for God to take me I just don’t want to live Thank you die your time

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304. Oh my goodness. I keep reading this every day when I need hope. My situation looks like it’s over. Everyone else wants me to move on. But I have this peace in my heart when I pray for him, and I am going to continue to bombard heaven on my fiancé’s behalf. Y’all pray with me. Is there a way to get in contact with the lady who wrote this??

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305. Dear God,

     I pray you will work on my wife’s heart that has been hardened over the years. We’ve been married for almost 9 years and the divorce has never been closer than it is today. God, help my wife see the true meaning of the institution of marriage, let her not fall for the trials of the Devil, as I know she’s has fallen for it before and may not posses the strength to fight it off right now. In time I pray you can make her open her heart again for me as her husband, I know it’s your will that we honor the sacredness of marriage and I feel that you won’t let us progress on our own, Lord you know I’ve tried to forget about her, I even tried dating other women and I can’t seem to break through. My wife has voiced her feelings for me over time, I know she has confessed she also has difficulties moving on and nothing seems to fill the void. I know we have faced some serious hardship over the course of our marriage, due to my neglect and due to her infidelity, but I ask you Lord to please heal our matrimony. I can fight as hard as I can, and trust me I do, but we need your involvement to fix our union, Lord please pray for my wife to find her way back to the companionship we once had and the deep love we used to share. I know you know how much I love her, I’m proud of her being my wife despite all the mistakes she has made. God please forgive her for her sins for I know she does not know what she’s doing at this moment. I will gladly put our marriage in your hands, I know you are the only one who can fix it and make it blossom again, Amen.

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306. Oh Lord!
     Your story is so similar with mine. I found out that my husband has a mistress. He meet her online and started a real relationship. He is with her 1 year and 3 months. I’m so in shock. Now he left our home and don’t want talk with me. I just cry and pray. I feel so depressed and hopeless.
     I pray that I will have a happy end just like you. I’m really brokenhearted!

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     1. My husband has a mistress as well… it will be a year in May theat he left our home… We list everything. I have been rebuilding my life alone… I have to keep going, I have 2 little girls that depend on me. So many people have been involved in our marriage…. I stopped consulting God a out it. I’m unsure of the future for our marriage but I can only pray that God shows me the right thing to do.

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     2. May God heal and restore your marriage. May he bring your husband back from his adultery and rebellion. May he bring love and forgiveness to you both. Stay strong and keep fighting.

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307. Hello All,
     I would like to share how God restored me, my husband, and my marriage back to him and back to each other. My husband left in 2017 but I started noticing his behavior in 2015. I went to God screaming & hollering, telling God to fix this mess. What I realized God had to fix me first. I found this book by Erin Thiele, How God Can & Will Restore Your Marriage. I learned that my house & marriage was built upon sinking sand & not the word of God. I learned that I had left my first love Jesus, I learned that I was argumentative towards my husband & others, I learned that I was rebellious towards Him not totally submissive. Traveling leaving my husband unattended. Spending money out of control shopping & sneaking things in the my Home. There were more that God had to do in me. Well I had to learn that my relationship with God was more important than Him restoring my marriage. I had to change my prayers from fix him Lord to fix me. Come into my heart. I had to dye to self and change the way I saw my husband. My perspective had to change. I had to depend on God for everything. Isaiah 54:5 I learn that He was my Heavenly Husband & He supplied all my needs. So I finally got to the point after countless hours with the Father praying, God you don’t have bring him back just save him. But if you do, make me a new wife and make him a new husband. I kept asking God to just save Him and that is when I let go. After me letting Go God restored my marriage. When my husband came back home he cried & asked for forgiveness numerous of times. God’s Grace is what kept me thru this trial. Just know that it only takes you & God to save your marriage. You must obey whatever He tells you & believe His word no matter what. Take you eyes off your spouse and place them on God. You must stop sharing about his affair and find you a one or two other persons that will believe with you and pray with you trusting God. There was a lot that I had to learn. God can do the impossible but it’s up to you!!! Love you all and go to Encouraging Women website. You will see many testimonies.

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     1. .I just started this journey, and pray that God gives me the ability to be strong. I love my husband, but he told me some nights ago that he just does not believe we will change, and that it has just become too much for him. We have never had a perfect relationship, but loved each other. I can be explosive , and I admit can bring the things from the past. He has express that he does not like that. He has been a stand up guy, but does not know how to communicate well, am always complaining about that. We have been together for almost 20 years-14 married with 2 kids. I love him, I pick him and us every single time, and thought he would always do the same, but I was wrong. I want our union to be whole again, but recognize I need to do work and he has to want to do some work also. I don’t know if I have much faith right now, and fear to ask God to bring us together because I am scared the prayer would be in vein. I feel stuck , but i know leaving it to God is the only way to get at some peace and clarity for me and my kids. Not having a clear outlook makes me think a third person is involved, and that is what he is tired of, me not trusting his loyalty to our marriage. God please help me with my heavy heart. I pray for the blood of Jesus over my husband and out family

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     2. I just bought that book. It is awesome. God has been revealing me to me and i have prayed for forgiveness and now I am praying for my husband’s salvation.

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308. My wife left October 17th 2018. She was involved with another man, she just gave birth to a son, who is not mine. I’ve asked the Lord to harden my heart toward her, but He has not, She left because I got filled with the Holy Spirit after being a Christian for 20 years, and she couldn’t understand my new experiences in Christ. I’ve been encouraged by everyone to just “move on”, but…. I yield to the Lord, He has to tell me to move on if that is his will, and as I said, He has refused to tell me that despite me asking.

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     1. Hello David,
        Continue to yield to God. I admire your relationship with Christ. I believe that your marriage is restored now in Jesus’ name. I have spoken it into existence. Continue to be strong in Christ.

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     2. Lord, soften the heart of this man’s wife. Remind her of the love she once felt for him and restore their unity. Let her turn back from her rebellion and let there be healing and forgiveness that glorifies you. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

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     3. Hi Dave
        Iam in the similar situation as yours. My husband options are divorce and moving on with his life. We are living together for our two kids purpose and its very difficult. Living together under one roof for kids sake in painful without no love and affection.Though he took many revenges and involve in online dating hes not forgiving me and not accepting me back. For almost one year that will be on ( 04/ June/2020), i have repented and have decided to live for god alone. Iam battling, struggling with pain and tears fighting to save this marriage. Laying everything on his hands.Thank you

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309. Hi everyone.

     I used to read Crystal’s testimony over and over again to comfort myself. If God did it for her, he can do the same for.me.

     Guess what, in 3 months my marriage was restored.

     At first, it looked impossible to have him back. And I found out he was with another woman, the baby mama.

     But still, God brought him back to me. My marriage was restored, he moved back in with me.

     Praise the Lord.

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     1. Praise God. I am currently in this boat and am so encouraged to see God’s restoration in others. Please pray for me. I just lost mine to another woman, I was forced to move to the other side of the country but my heart is still with him. The more I pray and seek for God’s help, the bolder I feel. I’m determined to hold on to my faith in God and who He is, and that he’ll restore us.
        God bless you

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     2. Praise God. This has really blessed my soul. God gave me the phrase “suddenly turn ” while in my prayer closet. Your testimony just increased my faith and let me know that I am not crazy for believing God for the suddenly return of my husband. May God continue to bless you and your marriage.

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310. I pray for everyone on this thread hurting yet hopefully in the Lord and through Crystal’s testimony. I pray for restoration of your marriages – transformation in your hearts and that of your spouse – and that the hand of the enemy is bond and removed from all of your affairs. Lord, please silence the voices of defeat that we all feel when going through marital tragedies. Please comfort us when we cry out to you. Please send us other believers to hold us up when our spirits are downcast. Father, you are a good God and you hate divorce. You are a good God and want all of your children to have a relationship with you deeper than anything. If any of us have idolized our spouse over you Lord, please forgive us. As much as we love them, nothing is eternal but You Lord. As we set our minds on eternal things, and seek first your kingdom, I pray that all other good things, including the restoration and rebuilding our our marriages, are added onto us. I don’t know everyone’s name or your spouses names, but God, you do. Please, in the name of Jesus, call each wayward spouse back to you Lord. Bring each wondering child of yours back home to their families. Let them be a good steward of the blessings in their home that you have already given them. Strengthen their minds so that they take every thought captive and bind it to the word of God. Let them flee from temptation and keep their feet off of the path that leads to destruction. Lord, bless the spouses on here that are praying for the restoration of their marriage. I pray that we do not lose heart, and that we see your favor and goodness in our lives. Lord, please be merciful to us and our spouses. In Jesus mighty name I pray. Amen.

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     1. Praise God for this prayer, I thank God that I read your prayer because I needed this so much. Today makes 7 months that my husband moved out and is currently living with another woman, today is the woman’s birthday and I’m really not feeling very hopeful, although I do believe God can restore my marriage. I’ve heard “7” represents completion and I am asking God that today will be the end of the relationship my husband has with the other woman. I pray that he calls and wants to come home. I pray and pray but lately I’ve started to think that maybe God doesn’t plan to restore my marriage and that maybe I should move on. In the name of Jesus I plead the blood of Jesus over my husband, the other woman and marriage, if it is His will that my marriage is restored.

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311. May 28, My marriage has been very cold, am in the middle of prayer and fasting, My husband is seeing someone, he wants nothing to do with me but we are living together and he is planning to leave, starting in June, May God of fire consume that affair, l also promise to share my testimony to encourage others , May God restore my marriage, May he soften my husband’s heart, Is there anything too hard for God, I also want God to change me, Am praying God to block the plans of my husband of leaving his family, May God open up his eyes , We have 2 boys who needs a father, I pray hedge of thorns around my husband, l plead the blood of Jesus on him, May God change me too,vto have a receptive heart, l believe this is my marriage and l pray God to restore it in the name of Jesus, I also pray the same to my fellow friends who are going through the same, God will restore your marriages… And this too shall pass.

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312. I am currently going through the same. My husband moved in with an enstranged woman and left me with our two kids. May our good God restore my marriage in Jesus name. May he be sorrounded by the Holy Spirit and come back to us.

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313. Hello everyone, I came to this website after feeling down and discouraged. I am now divorced after being married for less than 2 years. A few years ago after less than a year of marriage my husband and I had a small silly argument that exploded into something more serious. I had grown tired of his constant criticisms and when I questioned why he spoke to me so disrespectfully all the time it set him off. After that argument over text he admitted that had I been in his presence he would have slapped me. I couldn’t believe it. We tried to get past that argument but he insisted that he had every right to smack me because of the argument. Anyways long story short we separated and he refused counseling and would not go to a marriage retreat with me. Eventually he said that we were not compatible and pushed for a divorce. The whole time I was praying and fasting for months asking God to intervene and restore my marriage. We finally divorced October 2019. He lives several states away and has completely cut me out of his life. There is no one to stand with me as even my pastor doesn’t think returning to an abusive and controlling partner is a good idea. I know that God could intervene and convict him if He wanted to but now it’s been several months of no contact and I have been praying constantly and am standing alone for marriage restoration. I keep asking God for some relief as I’m growing tired of asking and seeing nothing happen. I am sorry for the long post. I just needed to vent to someone.

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     1. Maryam – please stop praying for his return. God has given you a way out of this terrible relationship. Start a new prayer – Pray for your own peace of mind. Pray for your own restoration. Pray for your own life journey to be blessed with Gods grace and favour. I came across a piece of scripture that talked about God granting a request because his people kept on – he granted their prayer and it destroyed them. I do believe this has happened to me. I have prayed for my husband for thirty years and restoration of a failing marriage. My parents are now gone to the lord. My children are adults and damaged from the years of unhappiness they witnessed. If only I had recognised it was time to finish a bad relationship when it was the right time – that is two years into the marriage. You are blessed – believe it and rejoice. x

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314. I just read Crystals article and I feel the same thing right now with the rejection from my husband and all. We both have said hateful and angry words to each other but I still deeply love him. He is now with another iwoman n just less than 2 months of separation. We have 2 kids and they are still young I surrender to God my marriage and i put all my trust that God will restore it. Lord and may who are in the same situation as mine I ask for your forgiveness and may your most precious blood cover us all and our spouses to restore our marriage. Amen.

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315. I was really encouraged by the testimony of Crystal. I got married in june 8 ,2015 and a few days is my birthay june 12. I was the happiest person and the greatest gift I received on my birthdays is my husband.Then a week before our wedding aniv. My hysband texted and said we may just be friends and I can go on with my life and he will not be coming back. I called him then I told him to say it to me and hear it in my two ears that he doesn’t love me anymore. But he said that he was so confused. Then he said he will call me back. But he doesn’t. I found out that he has another woman but he can’t admit it to me. Today is my birthday. This is the saddest moment of my life. I am still hoping that my husband will come home. I know that there is nothong impossible to God. Even it seems difficult I know God can do miracles. Please help me to pray for my husband.

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     1. Liberty

        May the eternal God, ELOHIM God Almighty step into your boat by the BLOOD OF JESUS and heal and restore your home in Jesus name AMEN.We cancel every relationship interfering with your home and marriage in Jesus name AMEN

        Holy Ghost baptise our marriages with your blood and restore our marriages PERMANENTLY in Jesus name AMEN

        We CANCEL, break and destroy all anti-marriage programmes by the mighty blood of Jesus in Jesus name AMEN

        Heal our hearts, restore love, eradicate hate, anger, resentment, bitterness, poverty, lack, promiscuity, envy, jealousy, animosity in Jesus name AMEN. Father knit our lives together, strengthen the foundation of our homes, flood our marriages with love, unity, kindness, respect, submission, health and wholeness in Jesus name AMEN

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316. I was strolling through the internet after reading an article that God doesn’t save all marriages. I became discouraged and found Crystal’s testimony. I thank you God for restoring this marriage for I believe, you are a God that has the power to change hearts. My husband wants out after 7 years of marriage and constant discord with in laws and friends. He would rather be single and not be accountable to a wife, than to stand to his mother, friends and family. He goes about as a single man and they encourage it. What’s heart breaking is, when he’s tired of the streets and at home, I have the man I love and married. But he makes his family and friends feel as if nothing is going on and he is filing for divorce. He has not completed the leaving and cleaving phase of marriage. My mother in law attack me after trying to set boundaries and now there is a restraining order on her. I know this is hard for my husband, but in 2018 I told my husband I was ready to amend the restraining order so we can have her over and he said NO. Due to her mental state she’s not ready. I want peace and my marriage, I feel abandon at times and I’ve become angry. We now live separated in the same house, God please touch my husband’s heart.

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317. I guess I can understand but to be honest, the years have really destroyed my ability to want to love anyone other than my children.
     I’ve been married twice and three boyfriends in between.
     I cannot say there’s any feeling left inside to give.
     I will not paint men with a broad brush.
     It is difficult though for me to care.
     I’ve seen good and sweet men go after mean and shallow women. Women who are money hungry or just a good time but a person like myself who used to give openly, they just hurt.
     In the end I am happy for the ones who find love. It’s not for everyone, I just wish I’d given up 20 years ago instead of holding on to false hope

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318. This story gives me hope, after 22 years of marriage my husband walked out and went to live with another woman, he said he was never in love with me. I am praying but my faith keeps wavering, I really need my husband to come back home

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     1. Tracey I am in the same boat. After 19 years /17 years of marriage my husband has been having an affair with a woman & going behind my back telling family he was trying to move on but I wont let him go. I am heart broken & feel like I want to move on but yet Love him. this testimony has me to gain back my focus on God & leave it in Gods hands. We all need to pray for one another .

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319. I am also waiting on God to restore my broken marriage. I believe God is good and that he loves us no matter what and most importantly He is faithful. Please please come along side of me and pray for me and my husband and our marriage to be restored. Pray for restoration, reconciliation, and healing. I need all the prayer I can get.

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320. My husband of almost 14 years left the house on June 28 2020. He had been having an emotional affair since the end of May with someone who has 4 kids. He has been gone since then and just last week I found out he is staying at her house now. It is so devastating. He comes up here sometimes and every time we are around each other we act like we did when we was together. He doesn’t want a divorce because he is still confused. I have been praying to God to heal our marriage and to help him see that we deserve another chance. God is telling me to not give up on our marriage. Sometimes it gets hard but I know God can restore our marriage..

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321. Thanks God let me find this website. read all the messages and they give me hope!
     My situation was my husband and i had a couple of weeks cold times, until we tried to talk but ended up in a big verbal fight. The next day he told me officially separated, 5 days later i found i was locked outside of the house when i got home after work. we both went to lawyers, things are out of control. It’s been 2 months by now, we didn’t have a single communication! His heart is hard and made his mind wanted to end up this 5.5 years marriage. I just can’t understand people give up a marriage so easy!
     I am learning from bible every day, i pray to Jesus every morning and night. I know as human we can’t turn things around now, only Jesus He can. I pray God forgive the mistakes i made, take the evil away from my body and my spirit . Pray God soften my husband’s heart, give him wisdom into his brain. Pray God open a bridge for communication between my husband and me. I Pray Jesus do something for my messy marriage. Amen!

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322. My Husband and I had starting having problems in March. We kept splitting up and getting back together because he wasn’t sure about making it work. Well I found out he had gotten close to someone else in June. He said he didn’t mean for it to happen and I believe him. He ended up leaving June 28th and I just found out Aug 20 that he has been staying with her some.I am so heartbroken and was just about to give up but something told to hang on and I know it was God. I know God can bring him home. There have been no talks of divorce because he is still not sure about us.Please say a prayer for me for strength and patience.

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     1. Dear Whitney,

        I feel your pain and please understand you are not alone. Pray, pray and pray some more. I pray God gives you peace, patience and acceptance of anything that comes your way, in Jesus name AMEN!

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     2. I’m praying for you. I hope God has broken through for you both. ❤️

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     3. I am going through basically the same thing, it’s a long story and would take days to explain. Nothing is bigger than God, and nothing, no spiritual force canvstsnd against Him. I plead the blood of Christ Jesus over your marriage, around your husband and I believe that the angels of God souround him, keeping the spirit that influences him and this other person. I pray that God Ministers to both, your husband and the other person, that he works in His perfect way to turn them both around and away from each other. I believe God is at work and he will not delay, his timing is perfect. I pray also for you and your battle, any feelings of despair, depression, or anxiety are attacks on you by a spirit of influence; do not take hold of them, believe God has this, speak it out loud to yourself every time something trys to get you to doubt! Don’t lose Faith, and more importantly, don’t let your desire to have your husband back mean more to you than making God #1. Show God’s kind of unconditional love for others, even if you don’t feel like it; this is God’s most important commandment that we love others as ourselves. God’s got this, don’t lose sight of him, and when you’re husband returns, keep going to God everyday, involve Him in everything you do.

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        1. Yes.All thingsbare possible with God. I have now felt very much encouraged that God will also restore mine. Thank you. God bless you.

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323. By the way since my wife left on June 25 I got on the scale this morning and I have lost 95lbs. Just from walking a mile in the morning in a mile at night drinking water following a dairy free keto diet and intermittent fasting. I have not cheated once because all I could think about is I want my family back and I want to take care of them. I’ve also set up my resume for some jobs and there’s one in particular that I’m praying for because it would be perfect for my family. I don’t want the riches of this world I just want God‘s kingdom I want to serve him and go to church on Sunday and be a part of the local body, work a good 9-to-5 job and come home to my beautiful wife and daughter and meet their every need until my last breath. And finally take them on some weekend getaways in a family vacation we’ve never been on a family vacation the entire time we’ve been married.And finally take them on some weekend getaways in a family vacation we’ve never been on a family vacation the entire time we’ve been married. The first half we just didn’t have money and we’re struggling in the second half my physical problems got in the way. Please pray for us.

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324. My husband left 3 weeks ago. We have been married for 7 years and have had many problems the whole time. I honestly don’t blame him for leaving because I know how much I have hurt him and not made him feel loved. I gained a lot of weight after our first year of marriage and was always depressed and anxious always taking everything out on him and focusing on all the things he was doing wrong. My faith is very shaky I always pray but I don’t believe I’ve taken the time to make God my priority. I’ve thought of just letting go of my husband and letting him find happiness elsewhere I don’t want to be selfish because I want him back because I want to show him I can be better that I’m willing to work on myself but when I feel like giving up I believe God puts things in my path to tell me it’s not time to give up that I can save my marriage that I need to be strong. Today he put Crystals story in my path and all the comments on here that he can change it all if we have faith. I ask you guys to pray for my marriage I don’t want to give up I want to save it and work hard the rest of my life to make sure I never make him feel alone again.

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325. My husband and I got into a huge fight a week ago. He left and hasn’t been back, only to get his stuff. He’s moved out, living with his brother, drinking every night. I also think he has something going on with his ex, but he refuses to tell me.
     I’m not good at praying, I don’t have much faith. I justwant my husband back, we have been married for 4 years, I miss him so much.
     I don’t want to beg and plead but I want him home. This house isn’t a home without him.
     How do I go about praying? I don’t pray much, and I don’t want God to be mad because I’m praying because I want something. I just need help. 🙁

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     1. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding but in all thy ways aacknowledge Him and he shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3 verses 5 and 6,please take this to your heart

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326. Hello all, my husband just asked for divorce a few days ago. Obviously i was sad and assumed this was God finally saying that its over and move on with my life. I figured God wont restore this marriage since He doesn’t restore everyones marriage. I honestly accepted it. I assumed i would either be alone until I die or marry another man and have kids with that new guy. I really thought that was going to happen.
     Guess what?
     The day i got sent the “d” papers, i did a 24hr fast. Half way through the fast which was while i was asleep. In the dream, i was at a place all alone and thought i was meant to be there but had to leave then went to a place with cute,eligible guys with kids and thought i was meant to be there! I got kicked out and was told to return home to my husband. But before i went home, i had to leave my baggage.
     As soon as that dream ended, i woke up and felt Gods presence with me telling me that everything was gonna be okay and i need to return my heart to my husband no matter what the situation looked like.
     Ever since then, i felt an amazing sense of peace and reassurance that my husband would return, i just had to wait on God and His timing
     I KNOW I WILL COME BACK HERE WITH A TESTIMONY ON GOOD NEWS!!!!

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327. thank you so much for this encouraging message. my situation is almost similar to yours and i was giving up on him but now am claiming my marriage in Jesus name. i will not allow the enemy to bring down my marriage..amen

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328. Not sure if this is weird but I felt the Lord speak to me to post this. My marriage has not been restored as of yet. However, He told me to speak as if it will be restored VERY SOON. Because He told it will be restored. My brothers and sisters, please believe that no matter how bad it looks if God says He will do it, Hes going to do it!! So Father, even though it hasn’t happened yet thank You for restoration of my marriage!! I love You and thank You!! Praise Your name only. Only You could have done this.

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329. I am on a journey of restitution on my marriage. We got married in 2008 but by 2011 he left me for no reason. He claimed he couldn’t have me come over to stay with him because he stays abroad. He called off the marriage because I insisted to join him. I was so heartbroken and sick. I was not in Christ then so angrily after 3 years of waiting I married somebody else. While in the second marriage I encountered Christ and the burden of adultery in a second marriage almost drove me mad. Finally I have left the second marriage for two years now and I am praying to God to touch the heart of my husband to have me back. He has been with other women but not married to any of them. Pls I need my marriage back. Pray withe please.

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330. I read crystal testimony and i trusted God to also restore my marriage just like he did for crystal. My marriage was over, My husband left me and he was not receiving my calls or calling me for 3 months (July,AUG and Sept, Oct 2020). on 21/10/2020 i came to this website and i found this prayer point ” Blood of Jesus, wipe away all handwriting of hatred and rejection from my life in the name of Jesus.” i said this prayer several times..wow God is really faithful. on 23/10/2020 my Husband called me and we talked. God is really restoring my marriage. am praying now that my husband come back home very soon , atleast now we are talking to each other over the phone which is a good sign.
     May God answer prayers of everyone here. Amen

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331. I left my husband for the 3rd time a month ago.. between him saying he dont love me and craving for attention from him, I left again.. this time its different, I have been so emotionally sick, crying and not eating. There is no biblical reason for divorce and I do not want a divorce.. Im not sure if he wants to get back together but I would do anything to be given another chance and this time it just feels different.. i know in my heart and also promised God that I will never ever leave again.. i want to be a testimony and I know this is what will make our marriage stronger and we will never separate again. I have been praying, having church members pray & I have been reading the bible more

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332. I am praying and believing GOD to restore my marriage of over 16 years I am the one who cheated and put my loving wife and kids in this situation but more than anything I want my family back we are currently separated I’m praying God can heal the broken parts and restore our marriage, to clean my heart and help be the husband and father my family needs

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333. My wife and i have been together for 15 years. We got married in 2007. We have two beautiful kids together., ages 11, and 8 . Over this past summer, we had some verbal arguments. She demanded that I leave. So I did. She now wants a divorce. I have been praying everyday and trying to win her back. She is the love of my life. I pray that the Lord softens her heart. I need prayers for God to restore our marriage. Thank you.

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     1. I will pray in agreement with you. I pray that the Lord will heal you first and that your wife will see the change in you and that will soften her heart. Because she will see Jesus in you. Trust in their with all your heart. Tell him everything you want to see change in your marriage and be he will do it.

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334. I could have written this myself. My situation is so similar, only my husband told me he was leaving me 3 weeks after our infant son was born (we also have a 2 year old) and immediately before he was scheduled to go on a year long deployment to the desert. He continues to have this hardened heart. He is so cold on the rare occasions that he allows me to speak to him. Yet when I tell him how cold he is, he just says that he doesn’t think he’s being mean at all. He just told me earlier tonight that it was “time to move on.” I am believing for a miracle. Believing that God will open his eyes and soften his heart. Believing that God will flood him with memories of the love we had and of the family that he is walking away from. I am claiming my marriage in the name of Jesus. It is the only thing that will bring him back because there is nothing on this earth that will change his mind, he is very set in his decision to leave our family. I know God is bigger than this situation. Bigger than my husband’s stubborn mind. Bigger than the chick on the internet he’s been talking to. Bigger than the hardened heart he has beating in his chest. And bigger than the physical distance that is between us. I am believing for this miracle in the name of Jesus. I speak life to my marriage and our family. Before reading this, I kept praying a hedge of thorns around him and I saw it in this testimony and just wept. It was more confirmation from God that I am on the right track. I’ve gotten these confirmations throughout, but it’s still so hard to keep the faith when I see no change in my husband. It’s been about 7 weeks since he first told me that he wanted to leave. He hasn’t been home since, he’s been on military orders. So we’ve never even gotten the chance to talk face to face about it. I am researching and reading and seeking Godly counsel. I won’t stop until my husband’s heart is back with me. We made a vow to God and I know God intends for us to keep that. My husband is a believer, but I’m afraid he’s pulled away from God in this time because he is angry with God about having to go back to the desert. I pray that there would be some Godly influence there. Some person that will help provide some spiritual counsel and another view than the one he currently has. I am believing that God will bring my husband home from the desert safely and home to us. If anyone happens to read this, please agree with me in prayer. I am faithful, but not is so hard to keep the faith when I see no change in him each time we speak. I just need prayer. Thank you.

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     1. I’m in agreement with you. My situation is similar. I will pray with you. Pray for me that the lord will deliver my wife and soften her heart also

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     2. I am in agreement with you ABB in Jesus name. Nothing shall be impossible with God. Our God is faithful. He said He will never leave kno forsake us. He is working on your case. Do not give up praying. Keep on….hold on to our hope of Glory Jesus. Your situation will turnaround in Jesus name.
        If God saved my marriage 3years back…..He will surely save yours in Jesus name

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     3. I am agreeing with you Abb. Your husband will return to you with a heart full of love. Love for God and love for you. He will choose you again, honour you, love you and spend the rest of your marriage loving and being with you. He will heal from the pain and anger he feels inside and I agree also that he will be promoted and never be sent to the desert again. I plead the Blood of Jesus over and around him.
        Be encouraged, it is well. God hears. He will make a way.
        Irene

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335. My wife left me on October 9, 2020 we have three kids and one on the way and I know God is true to his word! So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth is shall not return unto me void but it shall accomplish that which I please and it shall prosper in the thing where to I send it. Isaiah 55:11
     I have gone after God in such a way that he has given me peace to know God is on the throne. Please lift my marriage and family up in prayers as I will pray for others as God would want me to. Remember God is for you not against you. Your marriage is his will enter prayers humble but be bold as he would want our reasonable known

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336. Hello My wife left me 3 weeks ago. But I could tell her heart was not in the marriage for some time. She expressed how unhappy she was. My wife has been depressed most of the 8 bgg years of our marriage and I really tired to make her happy at the expense of my happiness. I believe she left because and had nothing left in me to give her after all the years of supporting her depression. She tells me she needs to find herself. She also blames me for so many things. Almost like she wanted me to be perfect. I never cheated or hit her. I have shouted in a fussing match, but most of the time she was yelling at me over misunderstandings. My kids did not like her yelling and they complained to me about it. My wife did not have a good up bringing and it shows in how she has treated the family. I did not take the matters to God soon enough to stop the enemy. My kids are depressed now because they are separated from me. My wife says she loves me but not in love with me anymore. She just seems so confused. It is very hard with the up and down. She also self medicate with weed for her depression.

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     1. Good morning,
        How did your situation work out buddy. Im going through pretty much the exact same thing right now. My wife is up and down and alsmost like manic or bipolar. Saying everything is a sign that we should divorce and crazy talk. Ive never seen her act like this in 16 years of being together and 11 of marriage

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337. Hello On November 7, 2020 my husband left me. And just like Crystal, I was shocked that he decided to leave after a simple disagreement. He was being very cold hearted and distant. Told me he didn’t know if he was in love with me and felt trapped. He wanted out. I love my husband and of course wanted him back. But it will be times where I’ll say forget it, he doesn’t love you and want you. You should just move on. But that’s not of God. The Devil does not want you to fight for your marriage. I see that now. People we are under attack by satan. He hates marriage. God told me he would restore my marriage. I just have to believe and not doubt. So pray for me and I will pray for you guys. Thank you and God Bless

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338. Its been three months since my husband asked for a divorce. We still live together but not in the same room. He completed the divorce papers but has not submitted them yet. He told me that he does not love me anymore and he does not see a future for us together. He wants us to go our separate ways as friends for the sake of our children. I ask for you to stand in agreement with me to save my marriage. I have been praying and believe that God is in charge.

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339. good evening I have been so encouraged by all the comments and crystal testimony blessed me. my husband left on Dec.6, 2020 a simple argument but my mouth said some harsh words that really hurt him and he moved out took both cars turned the car he bought me voluntarily to bank on Dec.7, 2020. l had to miss days from work. He want receive no calls no text nothing from me I have never been in so much pain . i been crying out to God Believing for his return i think its been 22 days I really dont know if another woman is involve I love him I want him home But God has not answered me nor showed me no sign of him returning home I have forgiven myself and also forgiven him. I only been married 2 years I’m older than Him. I want a second chance on this marriage with my husband . I cant understand if he said he loved me how can you fall out of love so quickly. I;m praying fasting seeking and God has not shown me anything and i want him home. I cry daily. I’m in pain how can he not be in pain and be so cold and hateful to me. he said he loved me.

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     1. Hi, my husband left October 25,2020 and it’s now Jan 31, 2021 and he’s still not back he also said he didn’t love me anymore and that he wasn’t coming back! My heart is broken into pieces and I’ve been praying a lot but I didn’t leave it all to God I tried fixing it myself but it doesn’t work that way… you need to surrender to God and leave it all to him he will restore out marriage you just need to let God work and wait on his perfect timing… and most importantly keep the Faith!!

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     2. What you said I could have written myself… it’s so so so so hard. I’m trying to keep my faith, but I definitely have moments when I fail at that. I’m just praying constantly and believing God is working even when I can’t see it.

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340. I want to thank God I found this site in October 2020. On August 25th 2020 I returned home from a doctor’s appointment to an empty home. My husband left without any warnings or signs. I thought maybe he just was out because he left everything including his medications nothing was out of order. I attempted to call him, and realized he blocked me from any and every way I can contact him. I panicked and began to call his family they all gave the same response they haven’t spoken to him. I tried all I can do ON MY OWN to locate my husband. Thank you Robert because once I found this article I prayed the Hedge of Thorns everyday I asked God to soften his heart.I continued to try everything ON MY OWN . In January I let go and gave it all to God. I felt peace and was finally able to sleep through out the night.I continued to pray, but now I asked God to show me my mistakes and work on me ..show me the parts I unwilling played that made him leave. I made a vow to God I will give a testimony if he restores my marriage. March 18, 2021 at 10:40 am my husband finally called me after almost of 7 months of silence he actually moved to another state the day he left. He cried said he loves me ,and wants to come home we hung up five minutes later he called and said he wants a divorce. We only been married 19 months when he left. I’m not giving up because he finally called and wanted to talk about coming home. Remember absolutely nothing is impossible for God. I’m praying God continues to soften his heart and work on both of us. Please don’t give in to the devil and give up even when you don’t see any changes God is working on your spouse and you as well.

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341. I am in awe
     This story is my story. It seem as if I was talking about my own marriage. I am still fighting for my marriage and my husband who is completely lost . He has told me that he couldn’t love me the way I should and ought to be loved. He has distance himself from me. We used to laugh and joke around. We went out on dates. We went on family trips with our only son. Hebhas committed adultery and has no intentions on stopping. We live in the same house and I feel like the stranger. Yet I’m here. He does not want help. I pray daily over my marriage and ask God to reveal to him what will happen if he continues to go down this path. I have had voices say there is nothing you can do
     He does not want you
     Why stay if he doesn’t love you. I still pray and often times i want to give up. I’m still here fighting. Please help me to be stronger. I need some encouragement. I am so thankful for thisn testimony. I pray that I too will be able to say how God brought my husband home in his right mind.

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342. I’d just like to say, this is incredible and I’m using this testimony tomorrow in our Church service.

     Glory to God. Incredible is an understatement, I have no words.

     God bless Crystal and your marriage!

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343. God who joins people together He restores them back again, He is God of second chance, He is love,, I’m also praying that God Almighty who gave me love to love my husband Douglas, will give my husband Douglas love to love me again like he did before and reconcile us again and give us a happy family,, in Jesus Christ Mighty name I pray and give Him thanks and praises, Amen Amen Amen

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344. This is exactly what I needed today! I was feeling super low about my separation this morning and stumbled onto this on my lunch. It completely lifted my spirits! My situation is a little different but similar too. There has been no infidelity or abuse. My wife has always battled depression and anxiety. When her dad died, this last may, she has fallen into a hole and can’t get out. Her anger has gotten worse and with fits of rage. Our marriage is what she has decided to place blame on. We’ve been married for 18 years, mostly happy, so I thought. We have our blow outs and arguments, but we always figured it out. Now we have some really hateful and spiteful fights, for sure. About a month ago my wife told me she needs her space to find herself. She has no idea how to love herself, no sense of purpose, and wants to find her happiness. She blamed a large portion of her self esteem issues on how I have treated her over the years. She is right to some extent, she’s only focusing on the bad, not the day to day love I show her. But this sent me into a self reflection mode. I didn’t like what I saw. I realized how far I have backslidin from God over ther last 20 years. I am ashamed of that, and that I never let him into our marriage! I found that I have neglected her emotionally, affectionately, never told her she looked pretty, and had not been all that interested sexually. Now I know I’m not the only one to blame for everything, but I played my part. She wants to separate. She signed a lease on an apartment 2 weeks ago, she moves out in a month. I’m devastated. Inhave cried like crystal did, for 4 weeks solid. Through all this, I have come back to God, I lean very heavily on him, but I still have my doubts, everyday! I pray through them and it helps. She is pulling further away from me everyday. It kills me. I love her so much! She is my love, my heart, my soulmate, my partner in life. I truly believe that, because I cannot imagine life with anyone else. So I am praying for the same miracle you received! Your story has given me new things to pray over my wife, I hadn’t even thought of. Thank you! This truly inspired me to keep on fighting, no matter how bleak it looks right now. I’m positive God led me to this page today!!!

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345. Dear crystal

     I don’t even know if this is still an active thread. God brought me here for a reason. My story has so many things in common with all here. My husband of 16 years left me on the eve of our 16th wedding anniversary. We have 7 children who were blindsided as badly as I was. 136 days of reeling and praying for a reconciliation. I started praying the way you suggested 48 hours ago and today he told me he’s moving in with woman he left us for. Just another thing for God to Handle. I found Roberts prayer for Hedge of Thorns and I am bringing out the big guns now. Thank you so much for your testimony. It moved me to put on the armour of God and pull my Boo back from the Pit as well. God Bless you!

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346. Glory to God! This is where I am at now, my husband is cold and telling me that it’s never going to work out! But God, He is my lawyer and I am doing exactly what Crystal did! I am just waiting for my husband to come back, because Satan is already defeated, but it’s our faith that moves mountains! Pray for my husband Nick.

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347. I am going through exactly same marriage problem like Crystal. I’m fighting with God’s help. I trust God will bring my husband back. It’s 2years now since he left me and 4 kids for another female. Everyday I seek God to fight this battle.

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348. I am just reading this post as I an gathering every resource I can find to help me restore my marriage.
     Thank you for the testimony and the encouragement. I truly need it as my heart is shattered over my husband leaving and being with another woman.
     I pray I find a way to have God move on my behalf.

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349. I am going through the same thing as crystal right now My HUSAND left over a simple argument and is talking to someone from his past told me he was done and he give up , and he’s trying to blame me for our marriage , but I believe God and have faith that he will return !

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350. I came across this tonight as I am going through the exact same thing as Crystal was. Even the words from her husband’s mouth are the same ones that I have just experienced from mine. We’ve only been married 9 months! I don’t think there’s another woman yet but declaring against it. In my case God has shown me that this is multiple personality disorder, so that what is coming against me is not the man I married who was sweet loving affectionate and caring. I have come to learn with his Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde personality that is known as an alter, as in another personality taking over which it has been almost 7 weeks now in control the only thing different is that we’re still in the same house which is extremely hard. He is wanting me to move and for me to sign divorce papers which he has and I have said that I’m not going to because that would be admitting that I want the marriage to end and I don’t I desperately don’t. He says the exact same thing there is no way in the world that I will ever get back with you I don’t love you this marriage was a mistake. He’s a totally different person in front of people then he is behind closed doors so I am just doing the same researching everything I can about this, I’ve given it to God I too have people praying around me and several prophetic words that this is who God intended for me to be with, and that it seems impossible but we will have a Ministry together, and that seems to be the reason why the enemy is attacking so hard because he doesn’t want that to take place. So anyway thank you for this testimony it gives me more hope to just keep hanging on. I have given it to God and I know that he is the god of the impossible. So glad for your miracle, now I just need mine to happen.

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351. It’s unbelievable that this woman’s story is the same thing I’m going through right now, I cry to God day & night to fix my marriage, the devil has been telling me after 4 months to give up & let him go, but I refuse, my husband moved into this woman’s house after cheating on me, he told me 2 weeks ago he was coming back than started back hurting my feelings again, I’ve prayed so much an so hard till I get head pain, but I feel something saying don’t let go & don’t give up

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352. You may not believe that I am exactly in the condition of the crystal and without having read his ways, with the guidance of the Holy Spirit, I have taken exactly the same steps to return my wife and I am taking them every day!
     I still haven’t received an answer from God, but this testimony made me recognize the mental attacks that Satan is attacking me these days and move forward with more strength in the path of prayer and getting my wife back.

     God is good and faithful forever

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