You were created by God to live in community. You were meant to exercise independence while needing the interdependence of others to be the best version of yourself. But, what do you do when you feel invisible? When it seems like those you rub shoulders with couldn’t care less if you existed at all? And when you feel more hurt by people than helped?
You may, at least temporarily, wish to be shipwrecked alone on a deserted island to avoid the pain. That way, you’ll at least be able to live out the rest of your earthly existence without any more rejection. Few who’ve felt the hurt of no one seemingly caring could blame you. Because being rejected stings to the soul.
It’s also possible you feel starved for affection and alone in the world. And since a big part of unraveling your unique gifts involves the insight and encouragement of others, much of your greater life purpose could be eluding you, making you feel unproductive and discouraged.
Have you ever caught yourself saying any of the following phrases either out loud or internally?
“No one cares.”
“Nobody likes me.”
“No one loves me.”
“I have no one to talk to.”
“I have no one.”
“I am nobody.”
“No one wants me.”
“No one wants to be my friend.”
“Nobody listens to me.”
“No one talks to me.”
“Why do I always feel lonely?”
“No one would care if I died.”
“I feel like no one understands me.”
“No one needs me.”
“No one calls me.”
“I feel so alone and depressed.”
“Nobody talks to me.”
These aren’t made-up phrases. Hundreds and thousands of people type these words and questions into Google each month in the US alone. Perhaps you’re one of them. Asking Google these questions isn’t necessarily wrong. But what if we stopped asking what Google thinks for a moment and started asking God what He thinks?
Those phrases are pretty hopeless sounding, aren’t they? Heartbreaking actually. More than anyone else, God hurts for people who hurt that deeply.
People are searching. People are struggling. People need God. All of us do.
What do you do when it feels like no one cares about you? Here are some additional thoughts to help when you feel unloved.
Let Your Rejection Lead You to God
Could there be a greater hurt than believing there’s no point to your existence and that your life is meaningless or worthless? That you’re incapable of being loved? Probably not. That’s pretty low. That’s psychological pain at its greatest.
Even the best people in this world still have sinful hearts. It’s just a matter of time until they let you down. There’s only One who will perfectly answer all of your hurts with Hope. Only God will and only God is able.
We’re all extremely limited and maimed creatures. Even the most healed among us still walks with quite a limp. Take your eyes off of people. Even their best efforts to meet your need for love and belonging will come up way short.
That isn’t to say human relationships are pointless or a waste of time. They’re still highly valuable. It’s just that, until you find God, your deepest need for love will be left unfulfilled. And even once you know God in this life, you’ll still struggle to have the right perspective until Heaven.
As God’s children, we live in a sinful world and that makes it tough to accurately assess our worth or the worth of others. No one believes you hold more value than God does though. And his opinion is the only one of consequence. Let your loneliness drive you to God because He deeply cares about you.
Jesus Felt Exactly Like You Do While on Earth and Can Empathize
The feelings of rejection and loneliness are bound to come at some point. It’s pretty much guaranteed. As Christ-followers, we’re commanded to walk as Jesus did and sometimes that means traveling a lonely road. There will inevitably be times when we’ll be misunderstood and hated. Even Jesus couldn’t escape that.
Jesus understands that loneliness better than all of us because He dealt intensely with that pain but remained sinless. He struggled and poured his heart out to his Father during the pain. He let it draw Him closer to his Father instead of further away. By God’s strength, we can do the same thing.
For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. (Hebrews 4:15)
Jesus was also called a man of sorrows. He knew what it was like to be hated and it hurt his heart because, although He remained sinless, He was still human. Rejection still pained Him badly and wore Him down. Jesus didn’t want to be misunderstood, but it was necessary for our benefit. He felt every sting of hatred and lies spoken about Him.
He is despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him;
He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.Surely He has borne our griefs
And carried our sorrows;
Yet we esteemed Him stricken,
Smitten by God, and afflicted.
But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes we are healed.”(Isaiah 53:3-5)
Jesus also felt the intense pain of rejection from the Jewish people He came to minister to. At the crucifixion, He experienced the unbearable agony of separation from the Father too.
And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?” that is, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me? (Matthew 27:46)
Regardless of how you may feel at the moment, you are of incalculable value to God. Human love is but a drop of water compared to the deep river of God’s love. He risked everything and gave up all to save you from your sin. Through the sacrifice of Jesus, all of your sins can be forgiven and washed clean.
That way, you can enjoy the love of God in this life and experience it like never before in the life to come. Yes, it hurts to feel abandoned. Yes, it feels terrible when we feel all alone in this world.
Just don’t forget that Jesus felt the same thing and that He understands. Whatever you do, don’t do what us wounded human beings are so prone to and run from God because of your loneliness, hurt and rejection.
Instead, run to God because of your pain. He’s the only One who can heal such deep wounds. And each of us has them whether we acknowledge it or not. Eventually, He will perfectly heal his children’s’ hurts resulting from rejection. We’ll forever live in God’s perfect acceptance. By faith, we eagerly wait for that day!
In the meantime, admit the rejection you feel from people to God. Other people may ostracize you and try to make you feel “uniquely damaged” if you share such vulnerable hurts.
One thing’s for sure, though. God knows exactly how that rejection feels. You don’t have to portray a fake image of success to Him like the current-day culture may pressure you to do. After all, God the Son didn’t even have a place to lay his head while on earth. He would’ve been a complete failure materially and socially speaking.
No formal education. No house or land. No wife or kids. Often scorned by those He sacrificed everything to help and ultimately rejected to the point of death. From a worldly point of view, He possessed nothing that mattered. In reality, He possessed everything. He had the favor of his Father in Heaven and perfectly carried out his earthly mission.
Most people spend their entire lives at war with God. But what happiness awaits those who find a restored relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Death will be nothing but the doorway real life! Like Jesus, your suffering and rejection by people won’t last. You will taste the eternal favor of God. A favor so beautiful and compelling that you’ll wonder why you ever worried about the often cheap and petty opinions of people.
So, when you struggle with rejection, remember that Jesus experienced the same thing. He was victorious over sin when we couldn’t be. That way, our struggles will one day be completely gone in Heaven if we turn over our allegiance to Him.
Evaluate Your Self-Defeating Thoughts
If you feel like no one cares about you, it can be frightening or embarrassing to admit that to someone. That would take serious vulnerability. And you may worry someone will think you’re “crazy” or weak or that they may tell others about your struggle. The truth is we all go through times like this. And the mental anguish of these moments can be overwhelming and suffocating.
Many times, you don’t simply feel this unloved only because of others’ interactions with you. We can often be even more critical of ourselves in our inner thoughts than other people are with us. And there’s no way to get away from that without some drastic heart changes. After all, we can distance ourselves from unusually mean people. That doesn’t work so well when we become one of our greatest enemies though.
There’s more to it than that, however. We also have an enemy named Satan who works overtime to make us believe we’re unlovable. He constantly slips lies into our internal dialogue. And if we don’t confront those lies with God’s truth while depending on his power, those mistruths become more frequent, powerful and difficult to resist.
In time, they can be accepted as “truth.” Satan attacks us in this way because he knows that once we become this defeated, we’ll be all the more unlikely to seek forgiveness from God or embrace healthy relationships with others. Unless things change, we’ll live out the rest of our lives in utter defeat and run the danger of never making peace with God before entering eternity.
For this reason, carefully evaluate every thought that comes into your mind, especially the self-defeating ones. Give those thoughts and feelings to God and let Him teach you the truth. Don’t stop until you make “every thought obedient to Christ.”
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, (2 Corinthians 10:4-5)
The more we do that, the harder it’ll be for Satan to crowd our inner consciousness with these destructive lies. Don’t believe everything others tell you and don’t believe everything you tell yourself. Evaluate your thoughts through the truth of the Bible and what Christ says about you. What Christ says about you and me through his shed blood is far better than anything we could’ve thought up anyway.
You Need a Better Strategy Than Gritting Your Teeth and Trying Harder
Some of our pull-yourself-up-by-the-bootstraps cultures would tell you to “just get over it” when you feel abandoned by others. To stop wallowing in self-pity and ignore such thoughts. While that may work for a while, there’s one fundamental problem with that strategy—You don’t get to the root of the struggle.
Rather, ask, “Why do you feel this way? Why do you feel so low?” And most importantly, “What is the truth?” If your self-defeating thoughts of no one caring were true, then most under those circumstances would wonder why you should even bother going on with life.
But, from scripture, we know these hopeless thoughts are the height of lies. Satan wants you to feel unloved and worthless. He knows if you go that route, you’ll attempt to drown out your sorrows with all types of sin that will only make a mess of your life.
Sure, in the short term, you may feel a little better by self-medicating your pain with sin or lesser pursuits instead of going to God about your hurts. However, in the long run, you’ll feel much worse when you listen to that hopeless internal script.
Feeling worse will only increase your temptation to numb your pain in ways that aren’t healthy or right. And, as you can see, that path becomes a perpetual downward spiral. The more you indulge the sinful nature, the more it demands of you and the harder it is to break free. What first felt like something you were master of turns out to be your master.
That’s the enemy’s ultimate goal for you. He wants to make you unfruitful. He wants to destroy your life and, ultimately, to doom your eternal soul. He’s referred to as the “god of this age.”
…whose minds the god of this age has blinded, who do not believe, lest the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine on them. (2 Corinthians 4:4)
Notice the lower-case “g” in that verse when referring to, “the god of this age”? What that means is, as powerful as he is, Satan and his demonic followers are still limited, created beings. God has the final say in how things turn out. And, God decides your value, not the enemy.
For that reason, give your hopeless thoughts to God and evaluate them through the scriptures. And don’t fall for the ploy of Satan telling you that you’re unlovable.
Reach Out to Someone in Need First
Sometimes the best way out of a tough spot when you feel uncared for is to help someone else out of their tough spot. Yes, it seems counterintuitive. It seems like it would drain all of your life energy, only making your situation worse. But deep in our genetic makeup is not only the need to receive good things but also to give them.
This shouldn’t be too surprising since we’re made in God’s image and we reflect our Maker when we help others. We were made to do good works.
For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. (Ephesians 2:10)
Completely Unique and in His Image
When you feel like no one cares about you, embrace who you are as a person instead of attempting to be someone you’re not. This doesn’t mean you choose sin and explain it away as, “That’s just the way I am.” Rather, it involves a lifetime of self-discovery.
And inside of you are discoveries that rival the greatest discoveries of the earth. You can begin the hard work of finding out why God uniquely created you the way He did. You likely will never know all the answers. We’re dealing with an infinitely knowledgeable God, after all. But, even scratching the surface of why you were created the way you were can be lifechanging,
That self-discovery process will ultimately bloom to its fullest in Heaven—free of all the setbacks and discouragements that are present because of sin. This life with all its pressures and trappings has a way of squeezing the meaning out of us, making us feel useless, unloved, and pointless. Experiencing those feelings isn’t the work of God but the work of Satan. God longs to bring more meaning into our lives, not less.
Eternity with God is where we’ll understand why we were created better than ever before. I imagine the adventure of self-discovery will go on for eternity. You’ll constantly learn more about how you were meant to uniquely reflect God’s glory. All of that to say, don’t buy into the thought that you’re common and worthless. God has made you like no one else and He delights in your uniqueness of person and mission.
Remember that People Don’t Assign Value to You, God Does
Sin has flipped our priorities inside out and upside down. We’re experts at fixating on the things that matter least. Too often, we pursue material things that can be lost in an instant. At the same time, we often don’t value people as we should.
Sometimes, we even go out of our way to devalue others. Maybe we do it because we’re having a bad day or because it’s a misdirected way to feel better about ourselves. It’s also possible that we devalue others because they have a different color of skin, are of a different culture or because they don’t have as much money as we do. Still another possibility is we devalue others in response to them devaluing us.
Regardless of why you may feel devalued, the value (or lack thereof) that people assign to you often is far from accurate. It’s the skewed idea of worth others perceive. But because of sin and our limited understanding as created beings, we don’t get the final say on how valuable people are—God does. He made us. It only stands to reason that He should have the final say, don’t you think?
Ironically, our value because of sin was less than nothing. We rebelled against God and hated Him. We wanted nothing of his ways because darkness and evil were more alluring and attractive once we turned from his goodness and righteousness.
And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. (John 3:19)
But God loved us too much to leave us like we were. All we had earned was eternal judgment and separation from God. But then the unthinkable happened. God sent his one and only perfect Son into the world for our benefit.
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)
Jesus lived a completely sinless life and died on a cross at the hands of sinful people like ourselves. His death secured eternal life for all who would ask forgiveness from God and follow Him. Humanly speaking, we had no redeeming value or a value that was even far less than nothing. But God, in his unfathomable goodness and kindness chose to think and act differently on our behalf. Since He’s God, He gets to call the shots. And we can all be eternally grateful that He had the final say on our worth instead of us.
Let’s say you have a diamond ring for sale. Everyone in the room says it’s worth very little and they aren’t willing to pay you more than $50 for it. But, just then, a very wealthy man walks into the room and offers you $10,000 for it.
That changes the perspective of the ring’s value quite a bit, wouldn’t you say? Would you even care about all the other peoples’ opinions of the value of the ring at that point? No, you wouldn’t because you’d know the truth. Well, that’s exactly what God did for us through Jesus Christ. He assigned priceless value to each of us. We were all too valuable to Him to be lost to the error of our ways. When you’re feeling down, remember that people don’t assign value to you. God does.
Feelings Aren’t Always Trustworthy
If you’re feeling like no one cares for you, remember that feelings come and go. They aren’t always the most reliable indicators of how our life’s going at the moment. Things, from God’s perspective, may not be going well for us at all but we may feel like they are. Think of the parable Jesus told about the guy who became super-rich and built big barns to hold all of his crops so he could take life easy and forget about God or the needs of others.
It’s equally possible that our life could be going well from God’s perspective, but we’re having a hard time seeing it. Think about Elijah after his successful showdown with the false prophets of Baal on Mount Carmel. He felt very depressed and alone. He didn’t feel like he had the strength to go on but God encouraged him and reminded him he wasn’t alone.
Sometimes the truth is that people are way more supportive and appreciative of us than we realize. It could just be that you struggle to see this reality. It could also be that those around you struggle to show you how much they care even though they want to. Emotions can be tricky at times. Ultimately, hold onto what God says instead of how you feel, especially during those low times.
God is Especially Close to Those Who Feel Rejected
A great place to wrap up this article is that God can often do much more with someone who’s struggling than someone who thinks they have it all together. For that reason, try not to fret about how low you’re feeling at the moment (as tough as that is). If you feel like no one cares, ironically, you may be just where God wants you to be. He may be about to show you how much He cares.
We don’t fool God when we attempt to act smug and like we need nothing or no one. God sees right through our charade into the troubling reality of our sin-ruined souls. He knows that, apart from salvation through Jesus, our condition is far worse than we realize.
At least, when we’re broken-hearted, we’re closer to understanding our great need for God. No such thing can happen so long as we arrogantly hold onto the myth of our self-importance or self-adulation. We must first be honest and realize we have issues—quite a lot of them, in fact.
That’s why the Bible says God is close to the brokenhearted. It’s also why Jesus said He came for the spiritually sick. The truth is all of us are spiritually sick. But Jesus can’t help us until we finally realize we’re sick and that we can’t heal ourselves without Him.
These thoughts could not have come from mare motal mind, it has been spiritually inspired by God through a totally yielded heart. It touched virtually all aspect of my past and present life and I know it must have done the same for your numerous readers. I know that someone somewhere reading this now have reasons to live, knowing that if no one care, that Jesus cares about him or her. May I have your permission to share this on my Facebook for others like me to be blessed. Thanks and God blessed you.
Thank you so very much for your wonderful and touching teaching. At the moment, I feel completely lost and confused. I don’t know why. I am 86 years old and tend to forget day to day events. Can you please give me some advice to have confidence in myself and remember everything? How should I conduct myself in dealing with people, my responsibilities and to be alert all the time rather be in a “brain fog”? it looks like God has sent you to help me.
Thank you for your time and advice.
Kind regards,
Philomena
Dear Philomena, please read the following verses from the Bible, Proverbs 3, 5-6, 2 Corinthians 4, 16-18,and John 14, 26-27. They have helped me and I am sure they will help you. God bless you.
Thank you this helped me so much.
Thank you for this article. I suffer from depression and sometimes I feel that I am all alone in the world. I am so blessed to have a loving husband and a wonderful church family who remind me of my self worth and, how much that I’m loved and cared for. But, when I feel down I remember to go to the only one who can understand any hurt or unkindness that I might be feeling because my Jesus suffered so much more. And, he forgives ,loves and turns my depression into joy. My Father God is Amazing
This article just reminds me that i am on track and the narrow road with god. however, i do pray for those who are taking the wider road that GOD will revive them just like he did with Apostle Paul, it is us who puts the seed and Apollos water but GOD is the builder and will always be…. I pray that i will never become unfaithful, that i get stronger and stronger in the Lord. and i thank him so much for always answering my prayers because he gives me an enlightenment, as I say Awe Abba Father that is so wonderful and I love you so dearly. amen and god bless. Today I try to bless rather than curse especially when i am hurting because this is when temptation arise…. sometimes its easy and sometimes its harder in any case god will always build me up because he has unconditional love. i am so please god put believers in my life when i am trying to minister his word to those who do not believe.
Wonderful, uplifting article. My problem, and that of many, is that the older we get, the more invisible to the rest of the world we seem to become. Out in public many younger people tend to look right through us as though we are not there, as though we have no value and nothing of value to offer. When they do see us their attitude is often impatient and dismissive. It is both hurtful and humiliating, but what we have to remember, and thank you for reminding us, is that we must keep our eyes on God. He loves us, and He has a plan and a purpose for all of us, young and old. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
Very Powerful, it seems the Writers just know the possible challenges people are passing through, if Jesus our savior has passed through this, who are we to escape but in Christ is hope for a future…….Iam blessed, may this platform continue to thrieve better..thanks
I so needed this. I have been struggling this past year with feelings of abandonment, betrayal, disappointment, rejection, unanswered prayers, and the the like… both with God, family, friends, the Church – which has resulted in me questioning God and my faith. This article touched on all the emotions I have been experiencing. Reading it was like having God talking to me helping me to know that I am not alone, God is with me and there is purpose in all of this. Thank you so much for allowing the Holy Spirit to speak though you to encourage me and others.
God often works in mysterious ways. He may not change our situation in life. But He has, in my life, given me tangible evidence that He is watching, cares and understands. He is watching and has it under control. He will act if and when He chooses. Maybe not how we expect. It may be an unlikely event or word from someone when we need it. I once had a stranger complement me on my outfit. God knew what I needed right then. That complement brought me to tears. He knew I needed that right then, when I would have never guessed it. Another time when I was in despair a friend I rarely see stopped by and said let me detail your car. We went to do that and the act of someone showing he cared brought me out if my despair. I think God was behind it.
Thank you for the wonderful encouragement article. I believe, all the discouragements as listed and many others, are the feelings we as children of God can master, as demonstrated by Christ Jesus. If we can’t then relay them to God because is able to, or these discouragements will master our beings.
True Believer: If we truly believe that God is with us then where is the feeling of loneliness comes from? Where is the feeling of being neglected, no cares, etc. come from? I believe these depressing feelings come from Satan, who is trying to take over the place of the Lord in our hearts. All those negative thinking or feelings are Satan’s weapon to win us from the great love of the Lord who is living in and with us. At no time since our creation, we were or are alone because God is our Father and we are His children. Importantly, since the coming of Jesus Christ our Righteousness to die to save our sins, God The Holy Spirit lives in and with us. Yet sometimes, if not most, we neglect the presence of our Lord in us, especially when we are tempted so dearly by Satan.
Testing Our Righteousness: I believe that God our Father allows us to go through some of these discouragements to test whether we truly follow, trust and believe the message of Jesus Christ and to test whether we still rely and depend on our understanding and knowledge rather than God the Father who created us. Yes, let these discouragements get you closer to our Lord and Saviour. If you can’t handle them, only God will, and only God is able.
God bless you all.
Awesome Article. I feel as though this was definitely for me because lately I’ve been feeling everything above as stated in the article, rejection, etc. Please continue to keep me in your prayers. I pray that the Lord will cleanse my mind and remove all thoughts of worthless and hopelessness.
“we all go through times like this….” I know you mean well in your article but I need to add something here.
i’ve been rejected all of my life. every church school, every Bible study, every ministry, every church. and one immediate conclusion may be that I have some antisocial behavior that is to blame. and yet I am highly successful in my career. I have found non-believers to be incredibly loving. but every experience in my 40+ years in a Bible study or a ministry or a church — has always led to being lied to, abandoned, excluded, and discarded. I have spent a decade trying to find a scrap of evidence that God loves me. and yet in dozens of relationships that I needed for spiritual nourishment, every one over my 40+ years has ended in severe rejection or humiliation and exclusion. always Christians.
I don’t have a problem with a God who allows pain and suffering. that is impartial to us all. Believe in Jesus had his 12 friends and family. I don’t have one of those to support my Christian belief. where is God’s love in my life? pain and suffering will occur, but if there is absolutely never any love then where is God in my life?
Quote all the verses about how much God loves us. they are words until someone makes them a reality. and your God has never shown me that reality.
you mean very well in your article. it was well written. but it could not be further from my reality.
I truly believe God cares but I’m all alone in the world and have multiple health issues and I’m in a very precarious situation in life with 0 successes and a terrible self esteem problem. I can’t feel God’s presence no matter how much I pray and depend on Him for answers. All I can say is your not alone.
I didn’t even pray. God did not just fix my problem .But for some reason he intervened in His way. He spoke to me through messages from others. The little tidbit of a thought that got me by that week. Then the next week a message from someone else. A word of knowledge that could only pertain to me. It was comforting to know God was watching and sending me messages to help me get through. He noticed. He cared He knew. Maybe that was more significant than Him actually changing my situation. I have also had an unlikely person come into my life to help when I could go no further.
To A, the comment at the top; I am compelled to reply to you, and hope that you may receive comfort from God through my testimony and turn to Him for the answers you seek. I thought I knew God all my life, it wasn’t until He revealed Jesus to me, that my eyes were opened to the truth of God’s love for us. It was at my lowest point when I came to know Jesus. I had few friends and none that I felt I could trust, except a pastor friend who said the one thing that was my breakthrough to finally know God’s love, and that was when said he was in awe of God’s fierce pursuit of me. I didn’t think God even wanted me, let alone that He would pursue me. Two weeks later, I’d opened the Bible that same pastor friend had given me 16 years earlier, that I had stowed away in a box in my basement. It was covered in mildew and dirt and smelled musty, but I felt like it would help me somehow. I had no idea God was about to reveal the truth in Christ to me and change my life forever. It was in reading the gospel of Matthew that God opened the eyes of my heart to see Jesus and his love. I gave him my life that day and have been walking with him ever since. It’s been 3 years and while it can be a lonely walk, I have never been as fulfilled and complete as I am since I started walking with Jesus. Your words and doubts remind me of me when God was pursuing me, when no one else wanted me and it seemed everyone had left, God was there through it all. We all have a God-shaped hole in our heart that only Jesus can fill, and when he does, we can endure all the difficult things, even loneliness.
Seek him with all your heart, you will find him.
In my struggles Christian’s turned away. My help came from a foul mouthed “unsaved” friend who had a heart. Thanks to my “heathen” friend I got the help I needed AND saved lots of money by coming to my senses and not giving that church any more money.
@A, I’m deeply sorry that God’s own people have not shown you the true love of Christ. I wish I could have seen your comment a lot earlier. I hope that God has shown you and I want you to know that God is just as disappointed in his own people as you are. We are all equal in his eyes, equally sinful. If it helps, I was on the same boat as you & the one who introduced me to God’s love is my non-believing husband. I believe more in a loving God after meeting him. God will work in different ways. God starts working from the inside, out. He may be trying to change the way you view life, others & of course, Him. Have you been willing? That may be why we take longer in our journey to know who God is. Allow him to be in your life. There are many believers like myself that would love to spread the love of God to you. It does break my heart when many people go through this not because God allows it but people are just keeping God to themselves instead of being a vessel of His & extending mercy, love, forgiveness, grace to the others because our beautiful, loving, forgiving with unconditional Father gives to us without hesitation. We love you♥️
I am trying to trust God for answers solutions to all my problems. I pray constantly and study but am still paralyzed with loneliness and feeling all alone in the world. I’m extremely discouraged and disappointed in my life. I have no one and no where to turn. I don’t know how to dig myself out of this hole. I hate my life and am truly wondering if God cares about me because he’s been silent for so long. I appreciate your article and I have said those things over and over. I don’t know what to do. I keep begging God to let me hear his voice and show me what to do. I am praising him in the hallway but he still won’t open a door for me. I’m sinking deeper and deeper into the hole and becoming more and more paralyzed. So sad. So depressed and so lonely. As I try to become closer to God I still feel defeated and hopeless
I hear your voice and God does too. Someone is praying for you now. Hang in there. It’s a hard world
I just turned 70 and have been devalued my whole life – by my parents, my siblings, the kids I went to school with, my husband, my children and now my grand-children. Nobody truly loves me. My body was deformed since birth and I am often the subject of gossip and not worth anybody’s time – yet I am a warm and caring person. I am actually told I am kind – yet when I speak the truth about how their words and actions hurt me, people get angry and treat me as the enemy. As I get older I am becoming less capable – yet no one cares. I cry out to the Lord to help me, and tell Him how I am feeling, knowing He went through so much for me, yet I still feel empty and sad because of a life full of rejection. Please pray for me.
I care. I can hear the pain that you speak . God loves you. Even in my darkest hours I know he is there. Every bad experience, I have made it through and learned from them . Your body may not be like everyone, but you have a loving spirit, which makes you beautiful. If you need someone just go talk too, respond to this comment and I will send you my email. God bless.
Pam. I know how you feel. I’m 66 and alone my whole adult life. I have no answers. I do things no woman ever does because I have no help. Reboard my deck myself and when I tell people of my struggles they offer no help and have little interest in even listening to me. I text them of my great accomplishment I did myself and they have little to say. I force them to look at it by sending a pic and I get an obligatory “that looks nice”.
A little princess who had a man do this for her could get a “that looks nice”response. I took on something by myself at the limits of my ability and all I get is a that looks nice followed by them changing the subject? How about a WOW I can’t believe you actually did that! How about “in I’m amazed”. How about “I’ll be right over to help you”. Nobody cares. I’m so depressed and feel unnoticed and unheard no matter what I do. Don’t know what to do. If I climbed Mt Everest they would say nice. Gotta go now and fix dinner. As I get older I fear how I will get along when no one cares. I have no solutions. Accept it for what it is and quit hoping for change. The hope unfulfilled is the worst part.
I understand. Its hard to feel like that. I praise your resiliency.
Thank you for this article. It is lonely and the restrictions don’t help. I have a disability and live in deep poverty. We live in a culture of death that encourages people like me to give up. I am told to do it alone often and struggle to meet my needs. Due to my limitations that isn’t possible and often I go without. Others around me tell me to figure it out but the physical limitations are never considered. I reach out for even psychological encouragement and my calls, texts and emails never returned. I enjoy helping people but am rejected so often. I am looking at materials for self improvement. No matter what I do, in the darkest moments I am alone, including in health issues and I just can’t afford help in that area. Some days it is hard to get enough to survive, and struggle often looking for any work because of constant rejection. All options are exhausted and I break down and am turning to God.
Every thought you listed was every thought I’ve ever thought about myself. Including “I’m too boring for anyone to like. I hate myself. Nobody wants to be around me.” I go to a ministry school where I have been getting to know God in many different ways. And I’ve been learning that if I surrender to Him. Then everything will be okay. This is the smallest class this school year has had. They pray over every application and only 8 were allowed in this year. Me being one of them. My relationship with the Lord has grown so much more intimate. But I often struggle if people actually love me. I feel like I deal with envy a little bit bc I was look and see how someone else always gets sought out but never me. They always know others names but never mine and not bc I don’t tell them. I’m usually the first to put myself out there and introduce myself and the others follow. But when it comes down to it. Nobody would pick me first. I was told just yesterday in these words exactly “you are just you” nothing unique about me. Just me. Nobody comes and prays for me.do I just seem like I don’t struggle? I don’t know. But I just need to learn how to surrender it all to the Lord. Because if it matters to me. It matters to the master. I prayed to know Him in His suffering and if that is what this is then I will do it. I want to know Him more and I want to grow in Him. Nobody knows how deep the ocean is. The same with God. Nobody knows how deep he is. Just like people keep trying to go deeper into the ocean. I want to keep pushing to go deeper in the Lord
I came across this article finding some answers and it gave me comfort knowing That I’m not alone. I was feeling no one liked me no one calls or text me. When I see other people getting so much attention calling one another it started to get to me I’m just a quiet woman always been this way. I just don’t understand it but God will show me. Thank you for the bible verses and the good article.
I have learned to run to God. I have poured my heart and hurt to Him. Things I couldn’t share with best friends. I went to God and expressed everything. What a relief. I’m not all the way there. But I’m learning.
In Jesus name AMEN! I pray that anyone reading this finds safety and belonging in God. He is waiting for us to seek Him and when we find Him, He will be waiting with open arms ready to show us joy and peace. If it wasn’t for Jesus showing me how to build a better relationship with those around me and with God, I’d be just another statistic and that’s what the world wants. Now I wake up feeling thankful for the small mundane things in life, I can already feel God has something big planned for my further. Stay faithful to God, and He will show you why He is known as the Alpha and Omega. Seek and you shall find. Most importantly, have Grace and Love for YOURSELF and others as you build a stronger relationship with God.
I am a fifteen year old girl going through so many changes and it’s causing me to feel alone. I’m losing friends and I’ve been nothing but isolated. My bad days outweigh my good. This has caused me to question God and his purpose for me. “What is even my purpose?”I find myself asking that ten times a day. I don’t know what I’m doing or where I’m going. All I know is God. I pray that is enough.